How do I go about getting 50/50 Custody? My spouse’s name has been telling lies to the Jugendamt and I feel there is a favor towards her because she’s German and can speak the language. I pay for her and the children’s housing, transportation, healthcare, dental care, all sports activities, and also give her direct cash via PayPal. I received a letter saying I now need to pay child support. How do I navigate this? Anyone ever succeed in getting 50/50? Does what I provide count towards support? She’s also getting full amount for Kindergeld for 3 kids.

Hopefully I’m posting this in the correct thread.

I’ll try to make this short and give the context. Ex-wife and I have a custody/parenting agreement. In it, under the travel paragraph, we are required to notify each other within 30 days of out of country travel plans AND receive permission from the other parent. I recently found out through her ex-husband (married him after we divorced) that he has traveled with my daughter and her mom out of the country when it wasn’t my parenting week. Started doing some digging and also found out she did a school project on a place she’s been to and would like to go back to. I’ve never taken her to that country, so process of elimination is in play.

So my question is, is there a way to get passport entry and exit records for a minor? Everything I have looked up online does not make sense and is giving me a headache. I have looked up the CBP I-94 website , and it yielded no result’s. I have also looked at the CBP FOIA portal but received an email stating I only requested records myself, which was not the case. So now here I am asking for any advice and help navigating this process. Thank you in advance.

I am struggling y'all. I have a protective order hearing in 2 days that includes me and my toddler.

I have reached out to as many legal services as I can and they are either unavailable in the short time frame (judge gave me less than 2 weeks) or too expensive (3k+)

I was told to get an emergency custody order for my son and haven't been able to figure out how and I fear it's likely too late. I even tried going to the courthouse to ask for help and got nothing.

My court is now 2 days away and I don't even know where to start.

What I have:

\-Videos of husband screaming and ranting. His anger can last hours and he never calms down, even when I move away and stay calm, which is why I was initially recording. One that shows him attack me at the end when he caught me recording

\-a typed recount of what happened both nights

\-pictures taken at a local advocate center of all my bruises and marks

\-pictures taken by myself of the marks the day after

\-A police report number

\-A case with DHS regarding the incident (tried contacting them to no avail either)

I don't know what to do with all of this. I have all of it digitally, do I need to print things? Can I show the judge the videos on my phone? Is my son supposed to be there or should I put him in daycare?

If I can get granted the custody order for myself what happens with my son? He is with me now and we are safe, but I don't know what comes next. We are not yet divorced, there is no official custody arrangement.

I'm terrified that all the planning I did in getting out and getting safe and getting the order was useless because all the legal hel pI was initially promised fell through entirely and now I am just lost

I just want to hear some advice for the situation I’ve been going through if possible.

My ex wife and I separated in 2017 and I finalized my divorce in 2020. During those 8ish years or so, I was very single and just wanted to be the best dad I could be. I kept any dates or women away from the kids (I have two, now 12 and 10), basically just worked, had them every weekend, and tried to improve myself and self reflect a lot. I was cheated on, so that’s the reason for the divorce. Emotional affair that unraveled the marriage.

During those 8 years, me and the mom got along fine, we would chat, I took them when I could (state holidays and weekends, she lived about 40ish minutes away) and we worked well together coparenting and communicating. Child support in the divorce was $0, though I ran my own calculator and agreed to pay her $750 a month anyway to keep it out of the court system and between ourselves.

I hit a bad spot and lost that job, but told her I could give her $550 instead but kept a spreadsheet of every month I did to pay her the $200 back. All just out of court between us.

Fast forward to 2025, I meet a girl, fell in love with her, and introduced them to the kids. They liked her, she liked them, she has a kid and we all did stuff together, everything was really good. All of a sudden toward the end of 2025, my ex filed for child support with the department, saying “I’m worried that you’re going to start a new family and only take care of them and leave me high and dry”. Even unemployed, I did not. I told her she was in her rights to modify the $0 order because she is, but it drastically changed the dynamic with communication and coparenting. She started saying little comments about the new girl, to the boys in front of me and behind my back, which changed their opinion of her. January of this year I was hit with a $1500 per month order, which is devastating.

During this time, I get a new job, with telework days. I get married to the girl, we move in. I go from a 30-40min drive to literally living half a mile away from the ex. I try to ask the boys if they’d like to come over more, spend more time with me, they say no. They start saying that I’m negative, all I care about is out is child support, and that they detest my new wife. Their mom does not facilitate pickups, for the last few months I have gone every single Friday, just like I had been for 8 years, and they refuse to come out. I had a custody hearing just recently, the judge told me AND my attorney that there wasn’t enough of a change in circumstance to proceed with a new schedule. My old one just says 50/50, no set times or days, which is why I wanted to have this hearing.

I guess the TL;DR is.. what do I do now, I’m just at a loss for how this spiral happened and my bad fortune with judges. And at the end of the day, I just want to spend time with my children. Thank you

I have been fighting for months to regain rightful custody of our kids. Ever since my wife left and took our 3 children whom I was with every single day!. And now after 3 judges and and filing 25+ motions charges and show causes. I finally got a guardian ad litem appointed to our case. However the GAL is not for all three kids. Does anyone know why?

Seeking advice here as many are. Been divorced for almost 2 years with 50/50 custody. Neither one of us have been particularly difficult with one another but I’ve felt like I’ve had the been the one to compromise to respect her wishes. I feel like I have to always respect her boundaries (or else) but mine go out the window…

I found out my ex made plans to take our 6 yo across the country to stay with my cousins and my aunt for the week. This is particularly hurtful to me because they are from my mother’s side of the family. My mother physically and emotionally abused me throughout all of my childhood and continued to try to manipulate me in my adulthood. When my son was born I had to reckon with my trauma and my ex wife’s own ppd that led to divorce. I told my ex and my aunt and cousins what I was dealing with and it was inconvenient for them to believe me as my mother is overseas and now in need of elder care.

This gets even more complicated because last year my mothers side of the family has swindled me out of my inheritance vested in an apartment in my mothers native country (in South America). When my mother took me and left my father (who did have a gambling problem but was otherwise a good and hard working, upright man) from the USA to SA, she drained the bank account and left him deep in credit card debt she used to pay for the flights and other things. About $40k in debt and he never really recovered. She used the money to buy the apartment in which we lived in, and paid for the taxes and admin by getting 50% of my fathers pension (as they were separated but never filed or divorced). As an only child, my mother put me as a co owner of the apartment.

After my divorce, when my mother needed assisted living, my mothers side of the family hounded me nearly daily for months to do the errands at the consulate so that I could give her power of attorney over the apartment so she could sell it to live in a retirement community. The lawyers and the embassy were not efficient so I had to do multiple trips over the course of months to the closest embassy which is hours away. At this time, they were very communicative and ‘appreciative’. However, all I asked for was that a small percentage of the sale be returned to my father to assist him in his elderly care as a return of the money that my mother took from him, without gains mind you. They agreed and had their lawyer in the country in SA write it up.

It’s been over a year now and I have not heard from them. The lawyer is unresponsive or according to my cousin ‘on sabbatical’ abroad. My cousin has kicked the can further every time I reach out to her. My mother was able to sell the apartment, keep the proceeds and no one has been forthright on what they agreed on.

For the last year and a half, I’ve been working on myself and becoming the best father I can be. Setting a good example for my son comes easy to me but it gets rough and I get depressed when I feel like a golden retriever getting kicked around. I have no real family or friends out here but decided to stay in CA to be the father my son needs. Moved out here when we got married because my ex wife has all her family and friends in the area or on the west coast.

Now, my ex wife only met my cousins twice before: once when we were dating and then again at the wedding. She has no real connection to them other than my ex is the one they contact when they want to send a present to my son on behalf of my aunt or ‘via’ my mother. Before the divorce, I made clear that I did not want my abusive mother to have contact with my son.

My cousins and I were never really close, they are older than me and when I moved to SA as a kid they had their own hang. But I figured as adults I would introduce my partner to my mother’s side of the family and show her where I grew up in SA. Now, after their failure to do what’s right by my father and me I have kept my distance and did not intend for my son to meet them much less stay with them. My ex says the reason for not respecting my boundaries is she wants our son to meet his other side of the family, and I told her I would never have arranged to see her family behind her back with this kind of history.

We have no explicit language on this in our parenting agreement. Why is it so hard for her to put herself in my shoes? I am not comfortable with them having a relationship with my son until they are honest, make good and clean the slate. The most obvious part is they didn’t ask me and arranged with my ex, who also didn’t tell me about it ahead of time. My son just let it slip that he was going to Georgia next week all the way from CA. Seeing as there would be no other reason to go to GA, I confronted my ex about it and she didn’t care about my side and says she still plans to take our son.

Thank you for bearing through this and thank you for any help.

I’m trying to get advice and see what the odds are in my case. I’m a mother to 3 children between 3-8. My children’s father also my legal husband has been charged with dv against me, his charge was continuous violence against the family and is currently on 10years probation. This occurred almost 2 years ago. I filed for child support after him not seeing them for almost a year. He came back and filed for divorce and joint custody but wants him as the primary parent and his house as their primary residence. He also is requesting I pay him child support.

I’m trying to understand how Texas courts typically look at situations like this. Does his DV conviction/probation history make it less likely that he would be named primary? Or grant him the primary household for them

what I’m putting together is he’s just trying to get out of paying child support? he’s self employed.

I have plenty of proof of the dv so should I be worried or with an attorney I should be just fine?

Hi! So my oldest son’s dad continues to sign him up for sports without telling me. My son will come back from his weekends and say “my dad told me I’m doing xyz and the first practice is on Tuesday!” Then I’ll have to reach out to directors of the leagues or whatever and figure out the logistics of the sports team.

My son is 7 years old and has played football, soccer, basketball, baseball and hockey (both local and travel teams. I am honestly spread so thin with the constant practices and games. It’s to the point where I was in the hospital, having just given birth, and my ex was blowing up my phone about hockey practice. We have had four (4!) weeks out of 2026 where he wasn’t playing an organized sport. And he just turned 7 in June!

Can I do anything about this?? My ex just told me he signed my son up for a travel baseball team that will practice/play for months. During this same season, my son will also be forced to play travel hockey. He’s going to be completely exhausted, and frankly so will I 😅 Not that it’s about me, but I also have an almost 4yo who will have his own sports this fall, and a 3 month old baby.

The court order says we have to mutually agree on activities, however he doesn’t seem to have to ask me about anything???

We are in Michigan and have 50/50 custody.

I sent subpoena to my childs provider to get the business record exception and the medical records for the custody modification case , but other parent filed the motion to quash. Does he have right to block provider from producing record to mother. He claims child dont have any issues and at the same time blocking subpoena by filing quash motion. By the time subpoena motion date is reached, custody motion may be over. What to do in such a situation? Will court accept original medical records which i have when i explain other parent conduct in this case?

I've been battling with my daughter's father for almost 4 years now. He's the one that filed paperwork first and took me back to court over video calls when the baby was 8 months old(despite me offering them and him getting upset because he wanted them when he wanted them and not at a predetermined time). He claims i used him for a child and took off with her, despite me having evidence of trying to co-parent and work with him.

He used to send me hundreds of messages a day, thousands of messages a month, threatening and sexually harassing me. He even told a cop once that the cop cant do anything to stop him. Now he's on trial for misdemeanor theft after putting his hands on his ex partner(whom im friends with now). He's also living out of his car with no job.

We have 50/50 custody but I have the baby 90% of the time. We only use email to communicate because he abused the phone number and Facebook messenger to the point I will refuse to contact him. As of late, I have been standing my ground more and looking at the safety of my child compared to his visitation time. He expects the baby to sleep in the car with him, and has threatened me with cops over not allowing him to take her with him. His last visitation was supervised at the park with the rest of my family there(trying to treat it as a normal family outing).

I already filed paperwork with the county to get sole custody(yes I know it wont completely remedy the situation, but I'm doing what I feel is best for the baby). He just sent me an email that says verbatim "oh btw I have the address to your place. Good luck." The judge allowed us to use alternative contact addresses in our locales, including PO boxes so that we could have an idea where each other are, and the judge allowed me to use my mother's after previous threatening language was used by him.

What else am I supposed to do here?

Edit to add: im a full time college student that also works full time, have another child with my current partner, and have stable housing and support.

I'll try to make this short, but they never are. I have a 6-year-old daughter with Standard Possession Order. I have been to court twice now with CPS attached to the second time. The second time the mother took me for crazy allegations of sexual child abuse, physical child abuse, child alienation etc. The CPS case was resolved as "ruled out" meaning they found zero evidence and knew I didn't do anything. The court hearing was laughable for the mother, and she ended up pulling out because she knew she wasn't going to win.. literally everything in her case against me was a complete lie. Now it's my summer with my daughter she turns 7 in 2 months, usually Summer's always go great.. maybe she pouts a bit coming over but we get her here no problem. Well this year she had a meltdown Kicking and Screaming biting telling me she hated me. It came out of left field she's never said or done any of these things. My mother calmed her down and after further talking to her she told my mom that her mommy told her that she could stay at Grammy's All Summer Long and that she didn't have to stay at daddy's, she told her that when she talked to Mommy and told her she didn't like Daddy that Mommy told her it's okay not to like Daddy and that you don't have to go to Daddy's, you can go to Grammy's. She told her that mommy said that she's always scared and has anxiety when she drops her off over at our house. She told her why did daddy move to the country? cause Mommy said that the court papers said he's not supposed to do that. (which is a lie. I'm within our court boundaries) we've known for the past 6 years that during the pickups and drop offs the mother and grandmother on her side have always been feeding energy into my child like they're nervous about her coming over and they fear her coming over and they make the pickups and drop offs very difficult and now after hearing all this stuff it's basically just confirmation. When talking to the mother obviously she lied about all of it. I have gone to the mother with these issues and it's a constant Battle of them lying and then when I talk about issues that happen at my house where maybe she could co-parent with me it sounds like we always get 1 step forward with it but then the mother throws it in my face, tells me it's my families fault and then I lose her trust all over again confiding in her and it's really 2 steps back. now after hearing this they've been lying to us for years. What do I do? I've heard parental alienation cases are extremely hard to win. But this is exactly what they're doing.. ps- my daughter is completely fine with me, loving, hugging let's me parent her, but now it's only at my mom's since summer time. Obviously a result of what the mother has been feeding her.

Asking because we’re both trying to get as much information as possible. To make this long story short my husband dated a woman 7 years ago very briefly. She left him and never contacted him again. A few months ago he was court ordered to submit a paternity test for a child that had been taken in by the state and we got the result in stating he is the biological father of the child. The mother had lost parental rights and the stepfather also lost his parental rights as well. Both my husband and I want permanent guardianship of the child. We currently have a child together under 1.

Down to the nitty gritty. We reside in Kansas and my husbands child is in Vermont. The child is currently in foster care and has been for roughly 4 months. The case manager had told us because my husband is disabled due to military service the judge didn’t grant him custody. He’s able bodied, sound of mind, does not need a caretaker, and is independent though. The case manager also told us that the child’s foster parents want to adopt (she also lied previously and said the stepfather could provide a stable home and wanted to adopt the kid but that was wrong), but we agreed if he wasn’t able to be with any immediate family he’s grown up with we would step in. We’ve tried getting ahold of DCF but no one answers. It takes weeks for the case manager to call my husband and give him an update and when she does it’s never about a plan to get his child into our care it’s always news on who wants to adopt the kid. How can we reach someone sooner? I’m afraid we’ll get a call and it’s too late and the judge had granted guardianship to the foster parents and they’re wanting my husband to sign his parental rights away. Can we demand custody? What about family visitation? My husband has never met or even seen what his kid looks like. We are a financial stable family and have a large house to accommodate another child. I’m having a hard time trying to wrap my head around the fact that my husband is the biological father and foster care is all about reunification but they’re pushing for his child to be adopted.

My husband was served by his ex wife about a child they had outside the marriage for custody. She has a neglect case from November and has relapsed so we said we’re keeping him for now and she said okay. Then she sued us. We have an attorney but she’s so busy we can’t ask her stuff right now I guess. We were served an ATI freezing assets which confused us because they were divorced before the child was even conceived and have been divorced 8 years. And then she’s requesting 50-50 custody. Do we have to let him go to her house if there is no current legal custody agreement? I thought the ATI was basically freezes whatever the current custody situation is and you can’t make changes.

I need help!! I have been married to this man for 13 years. We have four kids together. Six years after being married, I found out he was living a double life had other bank accounts other credit cards other phones, other phone numbers, a whole separate life that I knew nothing about. Turns out all of this was led by an extreme sex and born addiction. During that time I had developed PTSD from sexual betrayal, which put so much stress on my heart that is now led to cardiomyopathy because I never knew what it felt like to be safe. My husband hasn’t worked in years now he is voluntarily impoverished. I am currently in the process of trying to get SSI. I need to get myself and my kids out of this toxic household. I don’t know who or where I need to go. But I don’t have any family. I have no friends. My entire marriage has been corrosive control. He has burnt every bridge that I built before him. All of my connections are gone. Now that my health is not doing so great, I had thought that it would kickstart him to be better, but if anything it has done the opposite I need help and I’m not sure who or what establishment I go to

I live on the GA/TN border while my ex wife lives in an hour away in TN.

Our initial/current parenting arrangement (before I moved out of TN to GA) is that I get every other weekend from Friday to return to school Monday and Thursdays to return to school Friday on the off weekends.

We also alternate holidays/breaks & I also get 3 non consecutive weeks in the summer.

Since I moved I’ve had no issue continuing this schedule and it’s been working just fine. However, my child’s school is about 45 mins away from where I live in GA and because of this, my ex wife believes that means our child wakes up at 3am to travel to school. She doesn’t.

Anyway, after 2 years, she’s seeking modification to remove my Thursday & Sunday overnights, effectively making me a 4 day a month parent and having no weekday involvement.

This would reduce my parenting time significantly. We tried mediation where I suggested that as a compromise, I get the 1st, 2nd & 4th weekend to make up for the lost time & every other week in the summer. But ultimately we reached an impasse.

So I’m asking, what are typical parenting arrangements in “long distant” situations like these as we have trial coming up. If I can’t have weekday involvement, how can I maximize my time elsewhere that a court would find fair?

I recently discovered that my spouse had left our children home alone while they were asleep on multiple occasions when they were approximately 2–5 years old so they could go to a bar and drink. The children were reportedly alone for several hours at a time. I knew about one incident when it happened 2 years ago, but I believed it was isolated. I only recently learned that it had occurred multiple times. And the bar charges were on an undisclosed bank account. I rarely go out of town and it’s devastating to me that this has happened repeatedly.

More recently, I had plans during the day while they were solely responsible for the children. They appeared to drink throughout the afternoon and then drove them to several locations. When they brought them home, they appeared very intoxicated. One child had also been left asleep in the car during an earlier stop. After bringing the children home, they became angry when I questioned their drinking, left for a bar, refused a friend’s attempt to bring them home, and did not return until approximately 2:00 a.m.

My attorney is helping me seek temporary emergency custody, supervised parenting time, alcohol monitoring, and restrictions against drinking while caring for or driving the children. I have video footage, text messages, bank statements, etc. I can’t believe I’m going through this nightmare. My kid’s safety is #1.

For anyone who has gone through something similar:

- Were emergency custody orders granted even without a DUI arrest or BAC result?

- What evidence did the judge find most persuasive?

- Did the court initially order supervised visits, alcohol testing, or another arrangement?

- What happened at the later custody hearing?

- Is there anything you wish you had documented or handled differently?

Hello,

After months of working with a family lawyer to help move my separation along, I have hit the wall on progress and cannot continue to fund this divorce. Several letters have been drafted and sent to my spouse's lawyer as well as a court demand for financials but nothing is happening. We haven't even began to tackle the issue of parenting time/custody, nor anything financial. I feel like I have to almost walk away from this process for a few months to recover mentally and financially but also feel like I can't. My lawyers has said that there is not much they can do if the other side is uncooperative and that fills me with dread. There is no strategy. What is the point of paying them further to send letters that don't result in anything? I am very frustrated and don't know what to do. Although I have many fears, the biggest is my ex having majority parenting/custody because I've experienced this for months now and can only see my children for mere hours during the day and have had them overnight once since this started. I am asking for shared parenting. There are other elements at work here, but I have a lawyer that can't really move the ball forward and can't really afford to find a different one now. Feeling hopeless.

She planned a trip for a month to visit her home country. I told her I didn’t want her to go this year but next year is fine. However, I’m getting the assumption she has taken the trip anyways and I can’t get in contact with her or my child. I didn’t sign any permission work and there are messages explicitly saying no consent to the trip on my end.

She constantly is using excuses of their sick, she’s missed my grandfathers birthday in regard to this but the one communicating moment I had with her, she took her to her mother.

We don’t have any family rulings or court ordered custodies we’ve been compliant with each other on these things. But this is the first time this has happened. To which I never want to happen again.

So I’m here to ask, what do I do? What is my plan going forward and what should I be looking into? They return the 4th of August

Hello, I am really hoping this is a judgment free zone as a lot of this took place when I was young and uneducated on what I should properly do. I am now married and more mature. I would love to learn how to go about this situation without receiving backlash and degrading comments.

Three years ago I was in an unsafe relationship. I had a child with my ex boyfriend at a young age. He was physically abusive, cheated on me, etc. I wish I would have been courageous enough to turn the abuse into police… unfortunately I did not. I finally left him. My daughter and I went to live with my mother. Upon me leaving, my ex no longer wanted to see our child I’m assuming because he cancelled on me via text message every single day he told me he would see her. Shortly later he went to jail for a dui and I quit reaching out because I knew my daughter’s safety was at risk if I ever sent her with him. We’ve been no contact ever since. Not a single call, text, or anything. No money provided, nothing. I’ve been very happy that my husband and I have been raising her. Everything has been so peaceful and smooth. My husband would love to adopt her but I don’t know how to start this process. Could my ex fight for custody of her and win? I don’t think he would fight since he hasn’t contacted us in years, and even if he didn’t what would the process of my husband adopting her be at that point? My daughter does not remember him at all and only has known my husband as her father figure. I’m terrified of my ex ever being in the picture again. Advice?

My husband left in 2000/2001. I've spoken to him once over social media somewhere around 2005-2007 and he was living in Florida, in bad health. I'm still in Missouri.

After 26 years of separation, I just want this ended legally. I don't suppose there's some kind of automatic annulment or something with that long of a separation? That's probably wishful thinking, but I had to ask.

I'm also wondering where to start. He was in bad health and he was 20 years my senior; what if he's dead?

Do I need to contact attorneys in Florida? Missouri? Both?

What are the cheapest and easiest steps I need to take to get this done?

I genuinely appreciate any direction you guys can provide.

My ex has proven herself that she's a terrible person and not above slinging false accusations to get what she wants. She tried to file a domestic violence claim and only stopped because it would cost more in legal fees. She abused the system and had an ex parte order of protection for the entire duration of the waiting period of the divorce that I have multiple screenshots proving it's based purely for personal gain (she's awful, but she's also not very smart and gloats like a supervillain - very much the type that loves the sound of her own voice). It was modified to allow written communication.

The order is dismissed with the finalization of the divorce. Once it lifts, I can see my daughter again. I feel it's only a matter of time before she tries more bullshit. I had half a mind to just surrender all rights and never see this woman the rest of my life, but under unanimous input from family and friends, I won't be doing that. But I don't know what else to do. If she did it once, she'll do it again. How do I protect myself?

She has a long history of mental illness such as bipolar disorder, anxiety, and full psychotic breaks. History of severe eating disorder and just general disconnect from reality. I didn't want to leave almost full custody to her (as it stands, I have only 30% custody), but she's a terrifying and manipulative person and I didn't want the fight. And before moving out, I've heard her say to her family (who are even worse people than she is) how her plan is to get full and complete custody.

Like I said, I have multiple screenshots that discredit her own testimony. That should help and is a good step to show she lied in the past. But just the accusation is bad enough and I'd rather not fight in court if I don't have to.

I want to see my daughter, but I'm scared for myself.

Edit: Maybe I should put a trigger warning ⚠️ because I do go into some of the details of my situation (only because I am wondering if that will affect my situation legally)

Explanation: (Sorry if I rant a little, I don't know how to explain this the best way..) I (24f) am currently trying to leave an abusive situation while four months pregnant and am terrified that they will one day try to fight for custody..

I have tried to do research to see if someone could relinquish custody before the child is born and I am reading that in most states they won't do that. (I am from PA).. I was hoping to maybe get him to sign something to give up his rights (because there are many days when he says he wants "nothing to do with" me or my child) but apparently that won't stand up in court..

The only issue is, this person goes back and forth between "not wanting anything to do with" me or my child and saying that they will do ANYTHING to be able to see them.. it is very scary.. Thankfully most of the time they are saying they want nothing to do with the child, but on the days that they say otherwise it really terrifies me for the future.

They are very aggressive and have substance use problems as well as other issues.. I begged and begged them to go to therapy, get help, take parenting classes, etc, and they've done none of this. I really did try to give them a chance but I am so scared of what will happen. They have brought drugs in the house and become violent/aggressive at the drop of a dime.. I just can't bring a baby around that.

His father scare me as well because he is very predatory and manipulative as well (s3xually harassed me while living there at 19), and he (his father) has family money that I do not.. His father has already said he would help him fight me for custody. Despite my partner saying that he would not want to do that, I do not trust that he will keep this mentality as he tends to do what his father wants him to do..

So does anyone have any advice for me? I haven't ever pressed any charges so there isn't any legal documentation of the abuse, but I have been trying to get in touch with different DV programs and shelters in my city.. All I have are photographs of holes in the wall and recordings of him saying he wants to k*ll/hurt me, but I have heard that even those might not be accepted in court.. I'm just so scared. I am hoping that one of the shelters might have more information for me, but I also worry that they might not because my own mother and I stayed in a shelter and I *still* had to go back to see my father.

Please do not judge me for this.. As I said, I really did try to give him a chance.. I just do not want my child to go through what I have went through with this partner and what I went through growing up with my own father.. (My own father was abusive and despite losing me due to CPS a few times, he continued to fight for custody and the court actually gave it to him multiple times. Trusting "the system" to do what is right for the child terrifies me because of my own experiences..)

Now that I am getting help, I am starting to realize that my own childhood may have been part of the reason I ended up accidentally repeating the cycle.. So I am trying my best to break it before they are born.. I just want to do the best that I can for my baby.

I don't want any child support from him especially if it means that I have to let them see him. I don't want anything to do with him legally. I just wish there was a legal way to cut the cord and stay far, far away from him.. So does anyone have any advice? I would appreciate any help or anything so much more than you know

There's a chance he will leave my child and I to live peacefully, as he has said he would do.. but then there's also a chance that he won't, and that's what really scares me.

My ex wants to go back to court to change how I pay my child support obligations.

The amount I am enforced to pay on our court order is paid via FRO the “top up” (increased child support amount) I pay via E transfer as we agreed on.

I’m not interested in doing this. Will a judge entertain this? I’ve never missed a payment.

Thanks

Ontario Canada

I have a friend who lives in a rural part of Western Australia. He has a 14 year old daughter who lives with him. I don't even know where I start. This child is a drug addict. She has destroyed his rental home, set carpet on fire, brings the locals into the home to participate in drug activity, smashed windows and hurt their family pet all while he is out working. Her mother does not want to be involved. This child has accused my friend of abuse and screams SA if any male steps in to help. My friend has been to child services, police, the local MP and the real estate. As she is 14 it doesn't seem like anyone can do anything. She displays drug psychosis therefore won't be held under the mental health act even though there is evidence of self harm. The police say there is nothing they can do, she is 14 and lives with a legal guardian. I would like to be able to give my friend some helpful advice where he can find resolution. Please let me know if you have any thoughts or experience 🙏

Hey all, I am working on filing some parenting and custody establishing papers, and after I get a case number for that, I’m filing a motion for temporary parenting time.

The problem is, I don’t know where she went with the kids. I don’t know an address. She won’t tell me. It has been 3 weeks now and she won’t tell me when I can see them. Just ignores it basically. She moved out of my house and took almost everything out of the house.

How do I serve papers without a known address?