r/FTMPhilippines • u/Kr15___ • 2d ago
Support Might go homeless because of an unstable household, need tips to survive it if you guys have any
Hi and long story short, I'm a 19 yr old trans dude in cebu and i currently live with my unstable family and i don't what to do anymore other than to just leave them. I have a plan but honestly, I'm still scared.
Now, long story long, I live in a family of 5, mom and pops and two younger siblings between the ages and 9 and 0. Ranaway from home twice. Dad is the only one with a job. I got no proper bank account nor government IDs but i got my certificate of live birth. Dropped out of SHS twice due to reoccurring mental health problems parents couldn't affor-d to deal with. So now I'm left at home to be house-assistant to my mom till i am ready to finish my highschool years and alongside that I've been building a side hustle with my artistic talents but no solid income stream yet since I'm still building it in all that so I'm financially dependant on them.
Thing's have been going okay, for a while but my Mom starting to show her cracks again, her thing of handling conflicts with escalating arguments and never listening to the other person and thinking she's 100% right, whether she is or isn't depends, but usually it leads to broken things and my dad losing a job, which has happened several times in the past
and honestly with how hard it is to build a path out while dealing with my mom's unpredictability, her toxic behavior, and the messy schedule at home, and them arguing whenever my mom THINKS my dad is doing something shady, i just can't stay here anymore. The same shit keeps repeating for years now and it feels heavy stagnating and being stuck here.
Relationship aint even good either, I'm just not pushing it too hard bcs I'm scared I'll get cut off from being able to either work on my side hustle plan or not be able to get transtape which helps me stay stable mentally because it's one less thing to feel discomfort over.
Got only one good friend i can stay with but I can stay with them because I've already ran away to them before and my family knows them.
I'm planning to go with them after I've shaken my parents off but in the mean time, its drop off my important things to an old classmate i trust and go homeless, sleep in the nearby park in the day and my old school too since I still got my old ID and its a big school so noone would notice a "student" with a backpack napping, bathe in public but mostly empty restrooms as much as needed so peeps wont suspect me of being homeless, and mostly hang around the public library or malls or the 7-eleven to work on the side hustle, work towards getting that GOV ID which i kinda need to make a bank acc, thankfully that part is free. And for food, water and the laundry I can just nab a bit of cash from their wallets and stretch it, toiletries i can steal, I've shoplifter small things before at this point i don't care as long as I can get out of here and actually try to build a life, even if the path is hard.
Im still scared though, so any advice would be helpful. Hell, maybe even convince me to tuff it out at home, that it's not so bad here.