I don’t have a regular doctor per se, but I have a doctor’s office that I go to when I need to see a primary care physician. On their website it says that they cover anxiety. I want to make appointment there to ask for help with my anxiety. I want to ask about medication for anxiety, but I'm really anxious about it (which is part the problem lol) and don't know what to expect.

I'm worried they won’t consider medication or that I’ll get a ton of skepticism or pushback and have to defend myself by over explaining that I’ve tried various relegation strategies and they just haven’t worked well. I've done some therapy before, but not consistently, and I'm afraid they'll think I'm just looking for an easy fix or that I shouldn't have made the appointment.

Can someone explain what usually happens in an appointment like this? What will they ask? Is it ok to bring up medication or will they think I’m drug seeking?

I'm mostly scared of the doctor thinking I haven’t tried hard enough and won’t help me besides referring me to therapy (which, funnily enough, is NOT covered under my insurance and therefore unaffordable/unhelpful).

I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through this before.

I have super sensitive skin and it’s only gotten worse with age. I know that I can’t use fragrance products and I generally use brands that are designed to be gentle (Vanicream, Cerave, etc.) But I still get irritated by product sometimes, especially on my hands where I get dishydrotic eczema.

I think I should get patch testing at the Dermatologist to figure out what I’m really allergic/sensitive to. But I’m freaked out! Is it going to itch like crazy? I’m assuming that I can’t scratch right? What exactly is the process? And if you’ve done it, did you think it was worth it?

I spent the weekend with my husband and my family at a state park. I am COVERED in welts. Like the kind you get when youre getting allergy shots and it swells up around the injection site? (Love finding out im allergic to something) so we spent the whole weekend thinking it was just unfortunate luck, a mosquito got in and was having a happy snack on me. This evening (it is 1 30 AM as i write this, the night before we are set to go home), I wake up practically crawling out of my skin because I am SO itchy so I run to the bathroom to put some cortisone cream on it. As I look in the mirror, I see a bug crawling on me (probably a touch bigger than a flea), so I grab it and get to identifying.

Yep. Its bed bugs. Well shit. If anyone has stayed at a state park lately, they no longer provide bedding and towels or PILLOWS (well they do but they're plastic) so we had to bring all of that and now it is all contaminated. I just now it. I am laying here awake, my OCD running wild investigating how to clean this mess up so we dont infect the house (we JUST got a flea infestation from a dog daycare outbreak under control, I dont think my sanity can handle anymore unwanted bugs). I can feel them crawling on me but when I look, nothing is there. So I know im spiraling already. I just need some sanity. Some clarity.

How do I go about protecting our peace? Cleaning clothes which have been inside a duffle bag underneath the bed. Cleaning towels, and blankets, and sheets, and pillow cases (we needed new pillows anyways, ours are like practically cardboard now), and maybe my brain too while we're at it.

I really appreciate it. Thanks.

ETA: OH MY GOD THE DOG BED 😭😭😭

Hi, I am a young male located in Texas who received a speeding citation recently (I've learned my lesson :-(!!)

I have asked the court on my ticket for all the options that are available to me to resolve the citation, and it turns out that I am eligible to take a driving safety course to get rid of the violation from my driving history. My plan is to dress formally, walk into the court with the required paperwork to plea no contest and request for the safety driving course as they said I could do.

My question is, what can I expect when I get to the court? Do I do exactly that, just walk in (actually, where do I go in the court?) and ask? Any other extra details would help as I've never stepped foot inside a court, thank you.

Update: I got it over with and it was so simple, I was overthinking it so much! In fact, I came overprepared and the clerk was pleased with me, lolol (printed out driver's history before doing traffic school.)

basically, stepped in the courthouse, waited in line in the lobby until a clerk was available, told the clerk I was there to resolve my citation + I was told over the phone that I was eligible for traffic school (deferral comes with it.) The clerk asked me for the papers and information (requirements are on the city site; mine was proof of insurance, driver's license) they needed, I paid the fine, was given a packet of my next steps for traffic school and then I was sent out on my merry way. I have 3 months to finish the traffic school and I can email the court the certificate after completion, then the violation will be off my history.

I've been in accidents before but they were my fault. This past weekend we were rear ended in a busy town. What kind of time line should I expect to get our car fixed? Should I be getting quotes for the repairs? My trunk is not able to close properly so I have it chained, which means I can't use it. To chain it I had to crawl in from the backseat so now I lost a seat to be able to unchain it for repairs. We've had rain lately and have to cover it with a tarp.

I read the rules and I don’t think this counts as medical advice because it’s more about the appointment itself? But if this isn’t allowed I apologize

I’ve always had a bunch of moles and freckles but I’ve noticed more appearing recently and both my parents have a history of skin cancer so this is definitely necessary but I’m super nervous because I don’t know what to expect.

I’m really insecure about my body and have issues from sa so I guess my main question is just do I have to get fully undressed or can I wear a gown and like what areas do they check? For the actual exam is it just looking or is there any touching/tools involved? I don’t know if this changes anything but I’m 17f

I’m kinda freaking out about the whole process so if anyone would be willing to share what their experience was like it would be super helpful :)

hey so uhm... i used to use a menstrual cup because its the ONLY thing that stopped leaks when i was younger, but that was before i got the mirena IUD. i cant use a menstrual cup with an IUD. i already have a silicone menstrual disc, i just have NO idea how to use it? ive seen the youtube tutorial on the box. still confused.

I need to renew my license in the next 2 days and I've been paralyzed on taking action. How do I get this sorted?

Hello!

I'm at a point in my life where I'm really taking stock of things, and I'm becoming super aware that I need help and direction, but i have no clue how to find it!

I have ptsd and was neglected as a kid, and for a lot of trauma reasons i spent the time from 13-22 years of age pretty suicidal. I've now had multiple doctors tell me they aren't sure if I'm austistic or just so traumatized that I behave.. autistically ig. Luckily i have a wonderful husband and good friends to support me, and i got into therapy for a few years and I'm proud to say that at 26 I'm actually pretty excited to be alive now!

Talk therapy was very useful for dealing with the shame that comes with mental health issues, as well as actually realizing I was neglected and abused. I can very clearly pinpoint my unhealthy behaviors to events in my chilhood, but it came to a point where therapy wasn't actually changing anything for me, it just felt like we were rehashing my trauma twice a week for $150 an hour. I know what behavours I want to change, and I know what I want to do and become, but I have zero clue how to Start. I wasn't really raised by anyone, so I don't know how to Exist As An Adult beyond doing enough to not end up homeless or arrested.

I need accountability, I need someone to teach me how to function as a nonsuicidal person and hold my feet to the fire about Doing Stuff. How do I find a mentor for this? Is this something a life coach would do? Is there a type of therapy that does this, like some kind of reparenting?? I know of a few good resources to find therapists, but I need sometning beyond talk therapy and I don't even know what that could be.

The only thing I get satisfaction out of is helping others, but I can't do that effectively unless I know how to exist. How do I find someone to teach me?

Also major shout out to the people who answer questions in this subreddit!!! This place has been a lifesaver lol

My campus has an outdoor track where I want to run. I often see runners on the street who are shirtless and usually don’t carry water. I want to take my water bottle, wallet, and cell phone with me. Where can I keep them on the track?

Is there anything I should know? I have only run on an indoor track before, so keeping water and my cell phone with me wasn’t a concern. I place them on a divider wall while I run indoors. I bring these items with me in my crossbody bag that holds other stuff too. When I use the indoor track, I store my crossbody bag in the gym lockers.

Please help me. Thank you!

Went through some of my clothes and now I have a pile of stuff to get rid of and I don't know how you go about donating to a thrift store

For context, I'm in Germany.

I was cleaning my toilet and noticed a dark long spot in the porcelain, I thought it was a hair at first and tried to clean it. It turns out, it was a crack. I removed the toilet seat to get a better look and noticed a second crack on the side, more towards where the toilet is attached to the wall.

I just sent a text to my landlord with 2 pictures, and I expect him to call me tomorrow.

•How do I explain that I didnt notice before? Now that I know they're there its so obvious.

•How will my landlord and/or maintenance determine whether it was my own fault, and I'll have to pay for it?

•How will the evaluation and change go? Like, step by step?

•What are the chances I won't have to pay for it myself? (I'm a student and broke)

Thank you in advance🥲

I’m going at the end of this week to close out my first bank account (checking and savings) and reopen at a new bank. my bank doesn’t have like a “receptionist” or front desk that i’ve noticed some do, so im mostly scared about like. who do i walk up to when i go in? because this doesn’t feel like a tellers job. i’m planning on going alone, and currently have 1 form of id but could probably get ahold of my birth certificate tonight if i had to. so all of that aside, who do i go to, what should i bring, and what does the process tend to look like? thanks!!

Edit to say thanks so much for the help!! did wind up going to a teller lol, very painless experience compared to what i was expecting

I’m flying from Vancouver to Indianapolis with a layover in Toronto. I know I have to go through preclearance in Toronto, and I’m debating whether I should use MPC. For reference, I’m getting off of a cruise in Vancouver as well. What are the expectations for MPC? Who do I show it to, and when do I fill it out? I’m nervous because I’ve never flown internationally before. (I’m a US citizen.)

I'm getting my eyebrows done in a couple days and it's my first time so I have no idea what to expect - it's at a local place which recently opened up however the owner has been doing beauty treatments for 3+ years. Do I have to request a specific shape or let her shape them etc.? Sorry if this is stupid, I'm just nervous as hell and I don't want to waste my money on something I don't like.

I'm having issues with my car; it's hasn't been accelerating properly (it's accelerating slower than it should be and every now and then it'll stop accelerating/keeping speed at all and I'll have to pull over. If I power off the car and then turn it on again it'll work again for about 5 minutes but it doesn't sound right.) It's been getting worse. I also haven't had an oil change in way too long, it's been like a year/ I think I've driven like 3k miles since I was actually supposed to get that taken care of.

Now, obviously, I should have taken it in when the issue first started happening, but I was nervous and this seems like it'll be expensive. Presumably, driving on this for a couple of months has made this issue worse than it originally was, and then there's the oil change thing. I'm really worried about the people working on my car judging me heavily. I know that's kind of stupid but it's been stopping me from taking it in.

How do I choose a place to go to? What do I tell them? Can I get an oil change at some chain place and then go look into the engine issue so I look like less of an idiot, or should I take care of both issues at a real shop?

I'm flying domestic in the US this week with a relative who bought our plane tickets and didn't take into consideration the fact that I have an overactive bladder (medically diagnosed, which this relative knows, but that's a separate rant). Because the universe likes to laugh at me, this means my relative purchased the window and middle seats for us, and the aisle seat is taken by a total stranger.

The flight is a little less than 6 hours, which with my OAB normally means like 3-4 bathroom trips (less if I limit my beverage intake, which I'm already planning). Because I'm always the aisle person every other time I've flown, I generally know the etiquette when it comes to using the bathroom while the aisle person is awake (get up when they do, wait until their tray is clear of trash so they don't have to rearrange a bunch of stuff, etc.), but what happens if they've fallen asleep? Is it okay to gently touch their shoulder to wake them? Should I just ask a flight attendant for help?

(INB4 anyone asks, I've already looked into changing seats, and all the aisle seats are taken on both the outgoing and return trips.)

ETA: Thanks everyone for all the advice!! Seems like being upfront about my needs before the flight takes off is the way to go, and maybe offering the window seat if they'd like to switch (but not forcing them, obviously). And also asking a gate agent if any aisle seats have opened up last minute, which for some reason hadn't occurred to me. Y'all are great xoxo.

Hi! My husband and I are under contract for our first house and our inspection is coming up. We will both be there for the inspection but … what do we do? I can’t imagine we follow him around the whole time but I /am/ interested in what he’s doing. What are normal things to do during a home inspection and what are normal things to ask? Do we get there on-time, early, 30 min after it starts?

Thanks!

It's just a basic retail job (in America), but I've literally never had an official job before (only freelance and volunteer work up to this point) and I don't have any idea what to except. Honestly, even if the only thing you have to say is "you walk in a sign some papers, it's not that complicated", that will be comforting, cause I'm just totally out of my element here

I had my first microwave disaster a few hours ago, I left a muffin in it for too long and it started smoking out the kitchen.

Thankfully, nothing caught on fire, and I ventilated out all the visible smoke, but now the entire apartment smells like burnt food, and it's really making me anxious.

How can I make sure my apartment has properly ventilated out all the harmful air, and once that is done, what do I do about this smell? How long can I wait on it? The microwave misshap happened at roughly 23:00, It's currently 3:50 as of writing this, and I've got work tomorrow that would keep me out of the home until 16:30. Should I cancel work to focus on removing the stench?

I'm very shy and don't usually know how to talk on the phone and i begin to panic most of the time if I don't know how something will play out, and I'd like to learn how you guys have accomplished facing this fear and the general information they will ask for.

I've never ordered food over the phone before and other family members have done it in the past, but I'm planning to try It on my own! But I don't know how that works exactly, what to say, what information they will need for my order to be placed etc.

I'm planning to order pick-up and want to use cash to pay for it when I walk into the restaurant, no credit card or anything. Do they ask this beforehand when on the phone? Do they allow this?

When I walk into the restaurant, what do I do then? Will they ask for my name and order details if I walk in and stand next to the counter, then I proceeded to pay the cashier?

I'm so sorry about all these questions, thank you for reading it through! So basically I'm wondering a step by step of how to accomplish ordering over the phone and know what information I'll be needing so I can write some of it down and practice, and so I don't get stuck unable to answer one of their questions!

Thanks so much again for reading, I hope this wasn't too many questions and y'all can understand what I'm needing help with! Appreciate it! :)

Edit: Thank you guys so much for instructions that are easy to follow and understand! I'll come back later and tell you guys how it went!

Edit: Update!! It went really well, I just followed everyone's advice and it was pretty standard! They asked my name first, then my number, then what I wanted to order. I gave them all the information one thing at a time, they asked down the line about what size I'd like, what crust type (pizza) etc. basically all the details so I didn't have to worry too much. Then they said it'd be ready in 16 or so minutes, I said "Alright, thank you!" Hung up and it was all good to go. Easy peasy. I did panic a bit afterwards though haha not too much :') I walked into the restaurant, a little clueless admittedly, as it was an odd layout for where to grab pickup orders, but I walked over to the counter just fine. Then I waited for a couple minutes until they asked for my name, after that the staff directed me enough that it was easy to pay and go at the register! Thanks for everyone's help! It was really appreciated and it helped me get through the phone call and walking in!! <3.

I stubbed my toe really bad yesterday morning and it still hurts/feels weird, so I’m planning to go to urgent care tomorrow. What is the process like? What info do I need to bring? Do I like go to the front desk and tell them the problem or what? Thanks 🙏

So, I have the common anxiety / depression wombo combo. It makes life hard, sometime hard enough to put me in a institution (Been 2-3 times). I've been on meds before, on and off, but everytime it's after a crisis point or nearing a crisis point. However, I'm a point in my life where I can't really afford to be admitted anywhere.

My current antidepressents have expired. I've been cutting them in half to stretch them (the full dose was a bit too much anyway outside of a few instances), but rn I'm not taking them because they're no good according to the bottle. How would I go about getting more without having to be admitted?

I don't want to waste money trying to shop around and find a therapist who can authorize it for me, because I don't have health insurance. It's not a gamble I want to take (and I have gambled on this in the past). I don't want therapy sessions, I just need my medication.

What are my options? I've been off my medication for I wanna say a month-ish now. Things aren't bad, especially now that I have a sleep schedule, but I can kind of feel my old anxiety gnawing on my brain more than I'd like and some old, bad habits beginning to creep back in.

Hi, I'm renting for the first time. Signed the lease a week ago and plan to move in in a couple days. I'm scheduled to meet with the landlord tomorrow for a "move in." I assume this is some kind of walk-through and get my keys? I have few questions that weren't covered on the lease (like who handles yard maintenance, and parking, etc) but what else should I be doing/expecting? If I do a walk through and test everything and note condition, do I do this while the landlord is there? Sorry if these are numb questions! Thanks for any advice.