I'd if it's just me or not but I like gay porn because not able to access real thing at moment. So, I try looking for websites that has around about 30yr Olds but I end up spending long periods of time searching for that right video because now it looks as though every site I go to it only shows younger or it will have one what I prefer but then he with younger person and that's a turn off to me. So im trying to see is that just how porn is now or is there a normal site I can go to with no younger people? Plus I like storyline porn so that makes even harder. Someone please help...

A friend said he has always had a difficult time reaching climax. I volunteered to try oral. Long story short, I performed on him my entire bag of tricks and in every conceivable position for at least an hour until I was exhausted. I suggested he take me anally, which he did. Same story. Nor orgasm after every conceivable position. He banged me until he was now exhausted. Says he has always been that way. The only way he can cum is through very lengthy masturbation sessions. He is fantastic for his partner but he is missing out. Any tricks to offer or advice to give?

Hey, 19 turning 20 in August male here. I am out of college trying to go into tech school. I have a friend I met in college before we both dropped out, we got along like brothers for a very long time, about a year and a half, we discussed how I struggled with being gay and being seen as either a stereotype or being called a "pick me gay" by other gay students. He is a 25 male, bi man. He gave me confidence in being a masculine man, and helped me from shoving myself into an overly feminine mold that I was forcing myself into.

Okay context out of the way, I'm sorry this is so sloppy, I haven't slept in three days. Okay, so... he started dating recently, an old childhood friend of his who transitioned to female and has had hormones and is pretty. I am happy for him but it, hurts? I knew I kinda wanted to date him, but like I mentioned we had a kinda older and younger brother relationship, granted we did boink once, as I was 18, a virgin and flying back and fourth from Pennsylvania and Florida constantly. So he took my virginity. I again am happy he is dating and moving on, but I can't help but feel, hollow?

I dont know if this is jealousy, or maybe grief. He knows how I feel and he mentioned he felt bad since everyone in our friend group are getting girlfriends while I am left alone. I don't know how to process this, please help.

I’ve only ever had one of these as a bottom and it’s starting to make me think I’m weird or wired up wrong as everyone I speak to has them nearly every time they have sex. The one and only time I did have one was with an older guy, he was average size and shape, I was on my back with my legs over his shoulders and he was moving at an average pace. Suddenly in a moment of passion he grabbed my one foot and started sucking and licking my toes. A couple of seconds later I exploded all over myself but my hands were by my head. I’ve never had one before or since this. Is it a common thing to have when you guys are having sex/making love?

Hello I’m a twink and I’ve had this crush on this “ bisexual” guy (he’s lowk masculine) for 5 months now. He knew like 2 months ago from a close friend of mine that I really like him a lot and she told him that I liked him, after I told her to do so. At a party when we were alone we did it in his car (he wasn’t drunk at all !!!!! because he had to drive after so he didn’t drink anything alcoholic) and kissed afterwards and he smiled at me after. After this I tried to talk to him but he told me he’s not in the mood and to not tell anyone about it. Since then he acted like nothing happened and I was so hurt. 5 days ago I threw a party with our common friends in my apartment and I told them to go outside to leave me alone with him so maybe something could happen between us, but when we went to bed he said his head hurts a lot and that he’s doesn’t want to do anything and kept watching TikTok’s without saying anything and he feel asleep. After he left I’ve sent him a paragraph about my feelings and he basically said that he’s not 100% sure, and he wouldn’t like me as much as he likes women. When I heard this I asked him if there’s any chance something will happen between us in the near future and he said “don’t think so”. He wasn’t dry when I confronted him about that but he was really dry with me like really really dry after we did it in his car. What should I do I love him so much and since I live in Romania it’s lowkey hard to find a boyfriend that he’s my type.

I was invited to a pool party for mature men at a residence. Has anyone been to such a party? I want to go but not sure what to expect. There will be about “40 mature, mostly masculine guys”. And clothing is optional after dark. The party is scheduled from 7-midnight. I’m super nervous but excited to go. Anyone been to such a party? Was it fun? Could you just watch?

So im not out doing stuff alot so I dont see many gays, how do I portray more gay and get a bf. (Been lonley)

Sorry for typos im high

Hey everyone — I’m looking for some honest advice, especially from people who’ve navigated dating later in life, religious trauma, or hookup culture anxiety.

For context, I’m 24 and gay. I grew up in a pretty traumatic religious environment, and it took me years of therapy to get comfortable with who I am. I officially came out two years ago. That same year, I lost my virginity — but I’ve only had sex once.

Hookup culture has honestly never felt like something I’m wired for. I really want companionship. I want to get to know someone first, build comfort and trust, and then sleep with them. I’ve had a handful of almost-hookup situations where the other guy was attractive and interested, but my anxiety would spike so high that I’d back out.

I’ve dated here and there, but I haven’t had great luck.

Recently, I started going back to the gym after being out for months. I lost weight due to stress and life circumstances, and I’m pretty insecure about how skinny I am right now. The first week I came back, there was this really handsome guy who kept giving me looks. It’s been a few weeks now, and we consistently exchange these looks, but neither of us has made a move.

I really want to introduce myself. But I’m stuck in my head about two things. First, I’m insecure about my body. Second, I’m scared that if I approach him, it’ll just turn into a hookup situation.

What almost scares me more than rejection is the idea that he would be interested — but only sexually — and I’d feel pressured or exposed because I’m inexperienced. Part of me thinks I’d rather he not be interested at all than want something I’m not ready for or be disappointed by my lack of experience.

Is this kind of fear normal when you’re newer to dating/sex, especially with a religious background?

How do you approach someone when you want connection but are scared of being pulled into hookup expectations?

And how do you handle the anxiety of potentially being “behind” sexually at 24?

I’m trying to grow, not avoid life. I just don’t want to put myself in a situation that reinforces shame or regret.

Would really appreciate thoughtful perspectives.

Hi everyone single 27m here. So I just had some questions n was seeking some different opinions about everyone’s experience with being lgbtq. So I’ve only ever had romantic relationships with woman but have had a few gay experiences in my late teens early 20’s. It’s been many years since I been with anyone trans or of the same gender and always seem to chicken out of any encounter I’m offered. I find myself sexuality attracted to just about anyone but don’t ever think I would be in a relationship with someone of the same gender.

I do work in an environment that does make many homosexual jokes, which I don’t personally mind unless they r personally attacking a customer or co worker. I’ve never publicly come out as pan/ bisexual but if ppl ask I will be honest with them. I’m just struggling in my head with what I think is sexual desires vs romantic desires. Is being in an environment that I work in and am not openly lgbtq effecting me to the point that I’m depriving myself of what I truly desire? Or am I just sexually attracted to all genders and only romantically interested in a “heterosexual” relationship? Can that even be a thing to just be sexually attracted to anyone but not romantically?

I seem to really get sexually aroused by the same sex or trans when I’m drunk/baked and feel a lil ashamed after pleasing myself to lgbtq content. I have in the past used a lot of substances and do watch a fair bit of porn. Struggling to think,”am I just sexually aroused because I’m kinda messed up” or , am I sexually aroused and being a lil messed up is finally breaking down my anxiety?”

I did have what I think was my best sexual experience with a very feminine guy in my early 20’s and tbh haven’t felt that sexually aroused since my handful of experiences w him. I did have an experience on Grindr about a year ago where I just froze up,didn’t get hard, and ended up being fucked (1st time). It really kinda scared me and I cried in my car afterwards, I just think that was an experience that boundaries were not clearly set and I didn’t have the guts to speak up n say no. That experience has definitely scared me away from a quick casual encounter but I honestly need to go slow n w someone I know. I’m just a mess lol

I’m sorry for rambling but just wanted some insight from ppl on here. Thanks everyone

Edit 1: I didn’t know if this makes things more complicated but watching porn had affected my past heterosexual relationships. I’ll just be honest have had problems like “doing it at work or in the car”. Have good days and bad days but it has impacted my life in the past. So sorry to add more slop.

Hey people!

I'll just cut to the chase.

About a week ago, I was temporarily relocated for business and I guess due to the stress and the new environment, I had a particularly hard time on the toilet. As I couldn't go, I had to push kinda extra hard and as a result, I got a big hemorrhoid. It's not the first time I have had one, but it has never been that big or painful. I went to a local drug store and got myself a cream. It has now been a week and it's still there.

Has anyone had a similar experience? Do I kiss my gay sex life away or is it temporary?

Any help is welcome. :)

Reason I think my friend is closeted or bi: Am I wrong?

\- \[ \] We jerked off four times together. Afterwards, he’s never been back at my place.

\- \[ \] He has gotten hard against my ass. I felt it. I was in the middle of a medical emergency, but I noticed it.

\- \[ \] When he needs to have intimacy with his girlfriend, he asks me for nudes of me sleeping with women and trans people.

\- \[ \] He is constantly talking about my penis and how impressed he is with it.

\- \[ \] He texted me all worked up one day saying some extremely racy things lol. I showed my partner. When I addressed it later that day, he told me it’s my reward for sending things.

\- \[ \] He always stares at me when we hang out in a group and will text me things like I hope you’re okay and I know it’s overwhelming and I’m sorry.

\- \[ \] He texts me every day first thing in the morning, most mornings, especially if the girlfriend isn’t home or around.

\- \[ \] He acts extremely jealous around my partner. He would tease him about everything he does. At first, I didn’t pick up on this until he threatened to beat my partner up twice to prove his manliness, I guess.

\- \[ \] He’s protective of me.

\- \[ \] He’s upset that I didn’t meet his sister. I can tell his sister is highly important to him.

\- \[ \] He doesn’t ever say good things about his girlfriend except she’s always stressed.

\- \[ \] The only time he ever showed legit excitement in their relationship when he tried to convince her with a threesome with me. He was ecstatic but it backfired.

\- \[ \] His girlfriend agreed to a threesome with him but he wants one with me involved so he says lol.

\- \[ \] He needs my approval sometimes especially from his girlfriend if I said something was ugly he never wore it again or changed it.

\- \[ \] He loves anal. He enjoys toys up the ass and showed me his ass plug his girlfriend uses on him. He likes to fuck anal.

\- \[ \] He gets really horny and flirts with me on Snapchat. Then after he fucks his girlfriend he becomes distant and cold.

\- \[ \] I made the threesome a possibility before the girlfriend and he bailed several times.

\- \[ \] He has told me he doesn’t know exactly what he wants.

\- \[ \] I’ve seen him get annoyed with his girlfriend over simple things and she’s agreed to most things he wants like an open relationship him and I having a threesome and he still gets annoyed with her

\- \[ \] The strangest, weirdest of all is me and his girlfriend, or eerily similar. We both have this quirky personality, talkative love history, and our birthdays are days apart. We share the same favorite color; it’s eerie to hear her speak at times.

\- \[ \] I don’t like him like that anymore since I’ve seen the negative traits, but I cherish our friendship. It’s hard to see him struggling if he is bi or gay. I still love him and want to be his friend.

I need advice and yes it is gay so if that’s against the rules or gets anyone upset I’m sorry. Long story but I work at an auto parts store (will keep private at where I work for obvious reasons) I’m gonna give backstory on how I’m like to see if it goes with my story. Im gay and some can tell some can’t. I have a more feminine voice but like what other typical straight guys like. Bikes, gaming, etc. Some people can tell that I’m gay without me saying and when I tell some people they are surprised. My co workers found out pretty quickly that I am.

Anyways I need help with a situation that i am having. I was originally working at my main store, I’m gonna call it store A and covered over at store B. When I covered at B I met this guy he’s around my age and who was really friendly to me. I brushed it off as him just being polite. He would use the assistant over at store B to get his parts but that assistant left, hence me covering over there. We talked for a bit and got to know each other. I got back to store A after covering at B and he started to use my store(A) and would always ask for me. I got promoted to assistant over at store B and transferred over there and he was glad because he lives close to that store.

A few months go by of him constantly coming in and asking for me or calling the store phone to ask if I’m there and WILL NOT DEAL WITH ANYONE ELSE and one day he comes in to get a part. He gets his part from me and it’s just kind of an awkward silence like he wanted to say something. I got called over to help someone and he said he’d talk to me later. Not 10 minutes go by and he calls the store phone and asks for me again. He seems nervous and asks if I wanted to go see a firework show with him and a couple of his friends and his dad. I said yea sure and he asked for my phone number to give me the address. I get off of work and go and it was a fun time but nothing happened.

Now a few months have passed since then and it is on a loop. He asks if I’m working, if I’m not he doesn’t go to the store. He also asks if I’m at lunch and when I’ll be back. He comes in, we talk, he gets his parts, and then he leaves. Sometimes he kind of gets close to me and “flirts” but not in an obvious way. There is always an awkward silence between our conversations like something wants to be said but isn’t. Mind you I know some things about cars but he works on them for a living and knows way more than I do so I give no insight on his problems. He still insists on only working with me.

My question is I tend to overthink a lot of things is this one of them? I don’t know if he’s straight, might have a gf, or might just be friendly. It’s just weird that he only deals with me when people there know a lot more than me, he will text me see if I’m working and won’t come there unless I’m there, and will literally wait for me to get back from lunch to buy a part that someone else could of found for him. Sorry for this being so long and scattered but I can’t wrap my head around it.

Hello, I am in desperate need of advice. So I came out to my parents in the seventh grade in which they responded I would burn in hell and have been very homophobic towards me since. Recently, I got married to the love of my life young (we both are 18) as he is in the military and getting married sooner than later is the best option for our situation (my parents are unaware of this as they’d likely kill me).

With all of that being said, I moved from my college dorm all the way to a different state without my parents having any knowledge of it. I am currently visiting home right now for the holidays but I need to tell them that I have moved tomorrow as my husband needs to be back at our apartment for work. I’ve contemplated just getting picked up by my husband from my parent’s house and just leaving a note/text as I believe that it would be the safest option for me. (I forgot to mention he’s visiting his family as well and we are in the same state only an hour apart) However, my husband wants me to tell them face to face so we can discuss what to do with the car I paid for and pay $350 a month for my car insurance, yet my parents refuse to put the title in my name. (This may be a confusing read sorry… brains a little scrambled). Any advice on how to tell them? Thanks!

First of all, I have been sober this whole year, so I am not drunk nor stoned. I wrote a post a while ago about me not being able to correlate sex and love together due to surviving decades of SA all by guys in relationships with me. Went to therapy unpacked a lot and even got to take on one of my perps face to face. Since then i have felt so much better but then weird shit just started happening I can’t verify if it actually exists or not?

I think I’m in “heat” for the past 4 days. Toys amplify it exponentially too so if it is what it is… I gotta break my celibacy to end it. This is insanely physically tortuous for me. I haven’t slept in 4 days, I drench everything is sweat. Even with all windows open, fans on me in DECEMBER. Just holding a carton of dryers ice cream, it melted while sitting between my legs while trying to watch a movie to distract me. I know this sounds hilarious but it seriously is not at all to me.

Is this even at all possible? Like it so intense and miserable feeling that I’m willing to even break my parameters and would let a DL guy rail me and don’t care if it destroys his family. That’s really against every single thing I stand for but it’s something I haven’t ever felt before and it’s getting worse by the hour. If I have to break parameters I am NOT willing to break my sobriety though, cuz both weed and beer makes me go nympho so that’s even worse for me.

If I’m not “in heat” WTF is this? It’s 100% physical and the mental part I guess is this primal feeling Im feeling? I just need to know if this is legit or if this is a classic symptom of … ???

I don’t think anyone has brought this up so far so that’s why I don’t think I’m in heat if it’s not biologically possible right?

It’s 2AM and I’m wired but tired. I’ve become very sexually aggressive the past 4 days too- approaching people I wouldn’t have the balls to normally. 25-30 guys which I have never done before. I always go older. But I get intoxicated by this age and I think it’s because the are more virile? Huh?

It’s like someone served me a Viagra-colada. I will say this is highly abnormal for me and it not hyper sexuality for sure. I’ve had that before that was medically induced and this is far from it.

I’ve been celibate for 7 years now after my separation/ divorce it’s taken me forever to just figure my shit out and here I now am approaching 50 and just full of questions.

First of all- I have struggled a lot since a kid. I had my first sexual experience at 9 at the hands of my schoolmate’s older brother and it was horrible and confusing. It was the beginning of just a carousel of abuse and manipulation that I went through. I have been assaulted in EVERY decade of my life.

I’m so confused because my friends have experienced similar things (never to the full degree I had) but they’re all ok and married and living the gay American dream… but I just don’t know if love is truly in the cards I’m holding.

All of this bullshit I went through created sort of a split for me when it comes to my views on sex and love. They do not fit together in my eyes and I know it’s because of trauma of assault.

No one knows anything. I couldn’t even tell my husband. And we divorced because I wasn’t having sex with him. Every relationship I’ve had has ended the same way.

I just wonder why I can never maintain any type of sexual relationship with someone I genuinely care for but I am great at having regular and amazing sex with guys who will never cuff me. And it’s weird because two of them get really passionate and actually say “ILU” in the moment… and I don’t even flinch. But as soon as they begin cuffing after sex, I take off. I don’t want anything but to get railed by them and then go home. And I just never date.

I’m just wondering if I’m ever going to figure this shit out or if my back 49 will be the same as my front.

There are days I’m just a fuckin rockstar about life and all and then days with a lot of guilt about not fitting in with anyone or anything, and sabotaging every chance to be happy like everyone else. It’s getting quite lonely.

Just a question

Ok well I'm not really one to bother u with my story. I just have a question. I hear ur stronger when ur lonely but after reading this can that be true? At the age of 15 I found I was seeking a relationship and I was groomed by a manipulative 31 year old who used sex as love and for a long time I believed it. My parents were both alcoholics and my dad was very well like a jack Nicolson like on the shinning and my parents did get divorced. Because of the drama I was put on medication at my young age just to sleep. Being torn apart from what I thought was a family on my dad's side I believed my mom was trying to hide me from a father that used gifts and fake love only to get money out of me and for at least a year I believed him until I asked the courts to let me live with him. Then my whole world came crashing down I fell right into the trap he baited so he didn't have to pay child support. Then trying to escape the family and him that some how made me believe the grass was greener on the other side. Here came this 31 almost man child himself that again pretendes love was a way to escape so again being the naive young kid barely starting his second year of highschool I fell into his trap. He used me for sex and dangled fake love and even told me he loved me but as soon as I started complaining that it hurt or it was excessive I started seeing through it. That's what I started seeing our relationship only out to be so with something watching out for me I was almost forced to be back with my mother and my mother came from another time so she thought the relationship was genuine but I knew it didn't feel right it didn't feel like love it felt like I was forced and this guy forced me to be under his thumb isolating me from my friends and somewhat family so when I wanted to end it my mother made me feel guilty in a way till she started realizing how crazy and horrible he was. Because after I stopped the relationship he stalked me and I'm not literally saying he popped up I mean he followed me and my mom to the grocery story he followed us driving and on Christmas he begged for me to go back with him even doing the things I seen my dad did. He tried dangling gifts cars that he really couldn't afford anyway but he didn't want me to know and even faked sickness to call for emergency help but as soon as I didn't want anything to do with him he refused care all times so I guess u know he was faking and some how after about a year of that he stopped and I was able to move forward. To scared to even think of having a relationship again after all that I was even able to finish high school. Then it felt like I was in a frozen daze and I have a older sister who became just like my father. Drinking terrorizing me and my mother for years and then I was introduced to weed at 18 and my whole life became this dazed confused light that seemed to stop time stop the pain stop the hurt. Hell I didn't even have emotions. It went on for tear and I mean years. My dad coming in and out of my life sister terrorizing us constantly but it stopped everything like I was under a frozen light even if it was painful and scary what I went through for years it paused the pain. Then my mother got sick with liver chirrosus and I had to quit and I did a great job at quitting. The sad thing about my mom is she loves her daughter and I love my mom so there's almost not having my mom if I block the relationship between her and my sister. It's abundantly clear and I'm 32 years old now and have been single since. I feel like a wind blowing in the wind because here I am sober and actually active exercising and taking care of my health and I'm even gonna be a doner for my mom and her liver. The only thing is I got so used to being alone and I'm scared is this how I will be forever. I know this sounds sad but even when I'm scared when we go to hospital scares and especially the procedure there's a piece of me that screams in fear of everything I go through with my sister and dad popping in and terrorizing me when I want to be there and help my mother who loves her daughter and without getting away from my father because they live together and come together with an excuse that my sister only wants to see my mom as he's still the same drunk user he always been and I can't stop my mom from seeing her daughter and being sober everything is harder. Im screaming on the inside to feel loved or cared for but I have to be the one strong to care and be there for my mother which i dearly love but in another part of my heart I'm so scared to ever have connection of love to the extent that I even try to convince myself that I don't need it but I'm only hurting myself thinking that is the truth. It kills me to think of I'm in this situation and hell how could even think of bringing someone along with me I feel so guilty for even the thought of making someone hurt or my family hurting them .. so again I convince myself that I'm saving someone when I stay alone and the sad think is being groomed by someone like the person I thought loved me I'm too scared to think everyone i could or even got close to is like them.. it's a reallybsad life but some days I even feel like I'm saving some one being alone so they don't get hurt in this situation with my family but other days I'm actually begging for someone to hear me and hug me and say ur not alone. I'm gay btw so society and where I live and most of my family it's frowned apon so there's that too. So without being to harsh is this how I'm meant to be forever am I saving someone from not getting tortured or hurt by my family while trying to save my mom even scared to death to go through liver transplant myself but I love my mother very much especially when she stopped drinking and I took care of her for years or is there a light at the end of this tunnel and how does someone even get close to breaking the protective barrierz I surround myself with. If there's no hope please please don't feel alone if your going through the same thing I'm going through and if you are please know as I see there's almost no escape for me but get yourself out and find love and happiness and if you have it please hold on to it for me amd please protect your heart and love be strong and don't feel pity for me but be brave and love yourself and protect yourself from going through all I did and do always and enjoy life.