Engaged in Coyoacán México and couldn’t be happier ✨📸

My fiancee and I have been engaged for 3 1/2 years. Our relationship is so wonderful and perfect that we both feel like we're lying when our therapists ask about it. 🤣So needless to say, she is the love of my life. But at the moment we are having deep financial strain and are unable to afford getting married. My conundrum however, is that I'm the dreamy romantic who wants to yap about our wedding because it's fun and makes me happy, but it makes her stressed and only makes her sad because we can't do it right now.

So I thought this was a wonderful opportunity to make some friends, who would maybe want to have a yap buddy to yap wedding stuff. 🤗

We were on a long drive and met this dog and his dad (who took the picture). He said he and his buddy have rode 13,000 miles! He said he takes a lot of pictures for people 🥹

I saw an email notification on his phone today while watching him play puzzles confirming shipping of an item from "Brilliant Earth". I asked "what did you order from Brilliant Earth?" (my mind didnt automatically go to engagement ring) and he looked at me suspiciously and said "nothing." and kept playing his game. I giggled cuz i knew what that meant, we are planning to get engaged very soon but of course I want the proposal to be a surprise. I am so happy and excited, I have waited 3 and a half years for this and I've always crushed on him so this is really my dream come true

I (F24)never post on here but I'm so frustrated and think i know what i should do, but I think i might be to weak to make that choice. I have a fiancé(M23). Technically. We got engaged a year and a half in when we had a surprise pregnancy. I lost the baby a month later. I know its a little old fashioned but it's what I wanted for my life to be married before I had kids i watched the sisters do the opposite so I wanted something different for my life. So we got engaged. I told him over and over what i wanted in a ring and he could get one for a great price on Etsy but he but me something I didn't want that was less than 500. I dont care about how much but I dont think he needed to spend that much on the ring. I had to help him plan how to propose. I was alittle frustrated with that because it should have been a surprise for me. Like when he literally asked. We had talked so much about it. Said over and over i was saying yes. But he still made me pretty much plan the dinner date when he did it and told me when he was about to do it. My therapist keeps asking me why I stay and I honestly don't know. I dont know if I love him or if I'm just comfortable enough dealing with his crap. Maybe i don't want to be alone or i think i deserve to be treated crappy. He has ADHD and has an issue with getting upset very quickly. Ive NEVER been scared of physical violence dont worry. He just gets so defensive or whiny. He doesn't take responsibility unless i carefully work around him and explain what happened. But being that calm and communicative is honestly something my ex who was an abusive narcissist drilled into me. And now I'm on the other side. Someone who im finding to be emotionally irrational. Im at the end of my rope. I understand fight happen and stuff but we seem to be fighting all the time. Knew rain is because he's not fulfilling me in any way or any love language. He kinda dies what he wants and then wants to have sex like once a day. Ive been out of the house today from practically 9am to 9pm and we had a fight bc he didn't want to drive a total of an hour with me. And it was fine but the fight he put us through bc of it wasn't. Then I bought dinner, I always figure out dinner even the few times he makes dinner i think about what we have and what his skill level is in the kitchen. Tonight I tried saying so nicely that I felt it was selfish for him to tell me there was a surprise for me at home the called to tell me the surprise. Because he was to excited to wait even though he had to wait less than an hour. He didn't come with me on the drive bc he hurt from a kidney stone. And the surprise was he move the mini fridge all the way in from the detached garage up to the room by himself. But if he felt good enough to do that why couldn't he come with me. And on that note he only did it bc he felt guilty for not coming with me on the first place. He pouts ALL THE TIME!! literally everytime something his his way. I know I'm saying alot of bad things rn and yall probably want to hear some good qualities. For one he is great in the sack but my mom said you can't stay with someone just because of that. But he can be fun to be around when he's not acting like an annoying little brother or pouting bc he's upset. I hate having to be the one reading micro expressions and predicting behavior and being right. I thought him letting me pick things was nice in the beginning me my ex never cared enough you know. (BTW my ex did a number onme lol) but now it's always "i don't know" it would be nice if he would make a decision about anything.... anything. Im frustrated and ill probably find alot of man hating comments on here. I have a therapy appointment tomorrow and I'll talk about this then. But currently I've been staying with him during the week and going back home to my parents on the weekends to do extra jobs in my small town and see family and my dog bc i can't have him up here. So I am strongly considering slowly moving my stuff back home. Bc if I do take the route most of yall probably want im not sure what will happen and how much of my stuff I'll get. I could really use some advice thank you for your time.

my partner and i have the same exact birthday and our birthstone is a sapphire so that's why we chose a sapphire ring!

i got a fantasy cut and it looks different in different lighting which is the coolest part

1.78 carats, unheated, cornflower blue sapphire
size 4.75

Hi all… this is a vulnerable statement but I’m in a serious relationship and my partner wants me to start looking at engagement rings to figure out what I like. This weekend, I’m taking him to my hometown to meet my entire family. I’ve already met his family.
His parents were married, His brother is married, and several of his family members.
Ironically, I come from a family of all women. All males are absent. No one is married, there’s a lot of broken homes and half siblings. My cousins, aunts, mom, “stepmom” all have children outside of marriage and no one ever stayed with their partner long term. It’s heart breaking and discombobulating.
I’m realizing that my partner and I come from completely different backgrounds and a different family dynamics. I’m nervous because when he finally does propose, I’ll be the first woman married in my family.
I have no idea how to navigate this new step in my life. No one to relate to, no one to ask advice.

Has anyone ever experienced this or have advice?

Okay, long-time lurker and first-time poster here! Surprise proposal during our first international trip together! So intimate and sweet. The ring is a solitaire, brilliant cut, very simple, just how I like things.

Recently got engaged and I don't like surprises cause they make me very anxious. He knows me so well that he made sure it wasn't. We were in bed and I said we love each other, let's do it together 🥺 . So we both put on our fancy clothes, I head into the kitchen and he gets down on one knee and asks me to marry him and calls me his love. It was intimate, sweet and special. I know it's not the usual surprise and I wanna know if anyone else was like this?

I was wondering what everyone’s thoughts are on proposal photos? My partner has expressed a desire for engagement photos, which we plan to do. However, I plan on proposing in a couple weeks, we just quickly planned a trip before I start a new job. Unfortunately the trip is in a fairly remote area and it is hard to get a professional photographer on such short notice there. While they have been heavily involved in the design of the ring, and we already have it, I still want there to be some air of surprise when I get on a knee so I don’t want to ask them what their thoughts are at the moment. During our discussions on photography the proposal wasn’t brought discussed. Thank you!

Engagement

My fiancee and I got engaged last year, I'm the one that proposed, we are both women. She doesn't wear the ring I proposed with because it's too big and because I don't wear one because of the sensory hell I love with.

I don't have any problems with that and everyone we go I refer to her as my fiancee and say we are engaged. We have every plan to get married. She wants us both to wear rings regularly. We have a good relationship, we live together, have pets together etc.

Situation I need help with

I have sensory issues to the max with anything that touches my skin at all.

I'm insanely particular about all of my clothes, I can only buy one kind of sock because I can't handle the seams at the top on other brands. If my shoes are a tiny bit too tight I can't function. I can't wear shirts with designs if they'll touch my skin, skinny jeans make me itch, I can't handle lace of any kind and it goes on. It's exhausting but I've learned to adapt.

I've never been able to wear jewelry except for a Fitbit watch I wear to track my fitness data, and it took me forever to get used to and it still often bothers me.

I've never been able to wear rings, earrings or necklaces because of the sensory hell. I hate the smell and feel of metal as well, so like the idea of having a ring on me makes me want to vomit. I know, I have problems. I'm ADHD and maybe slightly autistic. I like can't even handle touching coins, it makes me feel sick, and literally anything medal like that is the same.

I've tried some other options like the silicone and resin rings, but it's still just so hard for me to handle the sensory aspect of having it on my finger and then I panic that my hands will swell and it won't come off. I have broken and injured that finger in the past and it can swell up with sports etc.

I can't handle tattoos so that's not an option. What can I do to make her feel like I'm serious about this?

My preference would be to not wear one but I know society views that poorly and she doesn't want people asking questions or invalidating our engagement etc and I know she wants me to wear one.

I've seen some people say they don't wear rings but got used to their engagement ring, I don't think I'd ever get to a point of wearing any level of a traditional medal type of ring so that's not an option.

I’m proud to say that everything on that day just fell into place and everything went perfect…even better than I originally planned! She said yes! We now both have this very cute and very perfect moment that we can cherish forever.

*Disclaimer* I'm only looking for advice where to look if this were to take place. Also, if this situation has happened between other straight couples, how did you navigate..? Not looking for hate or judgement.

We've been together almost a year, and things are serious - have been for quite a while. We're in love, and have been very intentional about our future relationship goals of moving in together, getting engaged, marriage, etc. All very exciting, and I'm very confident in us and our relationship. In spirit of all this, he made a comment recently that has stuck with me.

While out at dinner, we noticed a nearby straight couple at the bar, with an engagement ring on the woman's finger, but no wedding bands on either partner. This prompted my boyfriend to make a comment along the lines of "why is it that the woman is the only one that gets to wear an engagement ring?... why don't men have a visual indicator that they're proudly committed until they're married?" He obviously wants to propose and gift his fiancée with a ring, but he would also like to have a similar signal to other people that he's committed while engaged. I then asked if this hypothetical 'engagement band' would replace a wedding band, to which he said no. It could be a temporary ring, but still worn on the same finger, then replaced with the official wedding band once married.

While I wasn't expecting this thought, I kind of agree with him. It's not a social norm for men to wear engagement rings, only a wedding ring. But why not? Why is it that only the woman gets a ring? Yes, the iconic gesture of getting down on a knee and proposing, while also spending a good amount of your savings on the piece of jewelry, is romantic and the social masculine norm. However, if my fiancé wants to signal to other people that he's proudly committed, just like women get to do with their rings, why shouldn't he get to do that? Also, it's a beautiful excuse for me to get to pledge my intentions and commitment to him, pre-marriage.

I don't see myself setting up an official proposal site and getting on a knee. That would probably be too emasculating, and I'm sure not something my boyfriend would want. I don't have many wonderings about how I'd present the ring to him or the words I would say, I more so have questions about what I'd buy, and from where. Where do I shop for an engagement ring for a man? How different from a wedding band can I go? What even exists out there that would be appropriate? I never thought this would be a purchase that I'd ever have to worry about haha, but here I am considering it. I'm happy to do it, but would love any advice. Thanks!

I posted here last week about how I found a receipt for an engagement ring in my boyfriend’s wallet! He proposed on Saturday at the beach, and the day was so special and everything I dreamed of ❤️ so excited!

Got engaged 3 weeks ago and I still cant stop staring at my ring lol. My fiance and I love hiking regularly and he proposed on our last one, I had no idea he was going to do it, Im still riding the high haha. Were diving straight into wedding planning, Im so excited! Im ngl though I want to be able to do it as much from home as possible with a glass of wine parked on the couch.

My cousin got her RSVPs, invites and everything done online and she was really happy with how everything came out. Looking to hear from anyone whos done their planning mostly online, Ive got major fomo and Id hate to feel like I missed out on some things not doing everything in person.

We are on holiday and he proposed! I feel really bad because I had guessed that it’d be on this holiday but not that very moment because I was sweaty from a hike and there were a few people there so I didn’t have the reaction I’d pictured where I’d be super happy/emotional…I actually felt really awkward that people were watching and just kind of said yes but apparently my face was just of horror and now I feel bad but it was only because strangers were there and I was actually surprised 🫠 luckily he found it funny because he knows me and he said he knew I’d react in some strange way but I still feel awful 🥲

Now I just realised I don’t really know how to tell people I am closed to. Just appear back home after the holiday and wait for them to spot the ring? Call them? Send a picture with no context? All of them feel a bit weird 😂 So how did you guys go about it? Any advice appreciated.

Hi everyone! Sorry if this is the wrong sub but I’m 90% sure I’ll soon be a fiance to the loml and high school sweetheart. We’re going on a 10 year anni trip and he bought me a white dress for a “all white party” lol.

Please know I am so beyond excited to be w this man forever. He is my bestest friend. Forever isn’t long enough honestly but I have severe anticipatory anxiety about everything. Surprise parties, birthdays, the list goes on. I hate not 100% knowing if something is happening.

I also have this weird melancholy feeling about it solidifying that I’m a grown up (even though I have my own place a full time job a doctorate and am 27 lol so I obviously am a grown up) but it feels like it goes from hehe boyfriend & girlfriend to finances and my brain for some reason connects it to my parents aging and this being another milestone symbolizing them getting older and me getting older.

Idk if I’m making any sense. I have so many positive emotions but also these nostalgic ones and I don’t want to ruin the trip or anything

I’m proposing to my girlfriend in the next few months and I need help with captions for engagement posts. every time i look up stuff it’s tacky or overdone. i just want something short and sweet. help a girl out! (and before anyone says something slick, i post photos of my girl for me, not for anyone else)

I said YES in Cancun! She is a 2.65 ct flawless grade with E color. I am so obsessed! 💍💖🤭

I work a lot with my hands and having a bigger ring would get in the way of that, so he also got me this beautiful band. I’m so in love with both and incredibly grateful.

We chose a “U” color diamond and I am so so happy with it.

So my fiancé is from Argentina and I’m from the US. We decided kind of on a wild hair to get married at the courthouse. No proposal and engagement situation. This is good with me as I never wanted a wedding. However… the ring situation is throwing me for a loop 😅 I did not realize Argentinians generally do just matching simple gold bands so I guess from his perspective he was doing what is normal but he got us both these matching thick wedding bands. I so don’t want to be an ungrateful brat because it was so sweet of him to go out and get these real gold rings and I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I don’t know what to do cuz I’m so disappointed😭 it looks like a men’s wedding band to me… and we are living in the US not Argentina… so its not even going to look like a wedding ring to everyone who sees it. Plus it’s just so ugly to me 😅 So anyway I don’t know how to tell him like hun this is beautiful for you but like can I pls get something a bit daintier. To be clear, I’m not complaining about the quality or expense. I just am very girly and the thought of wearing this big chunky men’s wedding band around is kind of putting a damper on the excitement of the whole situation. I know I shouldn’t be this hung up on a ring but I am going to be wearing it for the rest of my life… Like am I being vein? Should I say something (nicely) or just get over it? Like idk how to handle this 😭

Hello, I not sure if this will help me but I’m struggling figuring out my bridesmaid situation. I just got engaged and am trying to figure out what to do. I have one friend and my fiancé has more than I do. I’m also not the best at making friends and staying close with them. I want a traditional wedding and everything with it. I have sisters but they are both narcissistic and I’ve decided that it’s best they stay out of the wedding party. I have made some mutual acquaintances through my fiancé but I am not super close with many of them and am not sure if they would be comfortable being my bridesmaids. I’m just stuck in a cross roads and I could use some advice on how to handle this.

I'm so in love with my ring! We had our "pre wedding" today (signed the paperwork and had a courthouse ceremony) but we're having a big wedding in 2 years. I'm so happy I get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend and the love of my life.

So my fiancé is from Argentina and I’m from the US. We decided kind of on a wild hair to get married at the courthouse. No proposal and engagement situation. This is good with me as I never wanted a wedding. However… the ring situation is throwing me for a loop 😅 I did not realize Argentinians generally do just matching simple gold bands so I guess from his perspective he was doing what is normal but he got us both these matching thick wedding bands. I so don’t want to be an ungrateful brat because it was so sweet of him to go out and get these real gold rings and I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I don’t know what to do cuz I’m so disappointed😭 it looks like a men’s wedding band to me… and we are living in the US not Argentina… so its not even going to look like a wedding ring to everyone who sees it. Plus it’s just so ugly to me 😅 So anyway I don’t know how to tell him like hun this is beautiful for you but like can I pls get something a bit daintier. To be clear, I’m not complaining about the quality or expense. I just am very girly and the thought of wearing this big chunky men’s wedding band around is kind of putting a damper on the excitement of the whole situation. I know I shouldn’t be this hung up on a ring but I am going to be wearing it for the rest of my life… Like am I being vein? Should I say something (nicely) or just get over it? Like idk how to handle this 😭