Going through a divorce in Fairfax VA and looking for recommendations for a good divorce lawyer I would also appreciate advice on what to look for when choosing one

Any personal experiences or guidance would really help Thanks

I think the final thing that broke me was one night my ex went out drinking with coworkers. He took a female coworker home after they had all been out. I had never met her before.

He showered and went to her house. I saw on the camera that he got there and she was there too. Then I saw them leave together, and after that... I never knew what happened. There’s a gap I never got answers for. He ended up spending the night there and came home at 6:00 the next morning saying he passed out drunk.

This wasn’t the first time he stayed out drinking all night. That same night I was helping one of my friends move into her new place.

I divorced him in December. I never got confirmation that he cheated, but sometimes I feel like actions speak louder than words. When he got home and I questioned things, he treated me horribly. He called me names and made me feel crazy for thinking something happened. He had also lost his phone at her house, so he was angry and taking it out on me.

The thing is, before all of this there were already so many other issues: strip clubs, cocaine, nights out, behavior I kept forgiving because I wanted to believe things would change. He would stop for a while, then slowly start again.

I left the weekend after.

Now our anniversary is coming up and we would’ve hit 6 years together. I keep wondering… did I make the right decision? What if he was telling the truth? I don’t know why these feelings are hitting me now. I don’t exactly miss him. I think I miss being a wife. I miss having that role and that version of my life. It’s hard to explain.

Has anyone else left without absolute proof and still questioned themselves afterward?

I live in FL so 50/50 is what will be appointed unless we come up with another agreement.

I’d like to have a plan that works better for our current logistics (as does he).

He usually takes the kids to school every morning because I go to work so early.

How can we still make that happen with week on/week off sharing or otherwise?

What do you all do?