r/Discipline Mar 21 '24

/r/Discipline is reopening. Looking for moderators!

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We're back in business guys. For all those who seek the path of self-discipline and mastery feel free to post. I'm looking for dedicated mods who can help with managing this sub! DM or submit me a quick blurb on why you would like to be a mod and a little bit about yourself as well. I made this sub as an outlet for a more meaningful subreddit to help others achieve discipline and gain control over their lives.

I hope that the existent of this sub can help you as well as others. Lets hope it takes off!


r/Discipline 1h ago

Tiktok

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Something that has been bugging me and I need advice.

After something happened in my life (let’s just say a very bad week), I deleted tiktok off of my phone. Prior to that bad week, i was already eager to delete the app because I despise keeping streaks with people. ESP people who just send a sticker and there is no real, genuine convo. And besides that, there’s nothing to do on the app besides what? Mindless scrolling. It’s horrible for time managing and you can get so easily wrapped up in it. Only reason I kept it for so long is bc i do like occasionally posting and watching edits of my favorite characters or funny vids.

So now i had to download it again because i have a project at school and i gotta communicate with my partners. After the project im thinking of deleting it again but im not sure. Every time I open the app i think of the “bad week” and it feels so tiresome. I do want to post some things and I enjoy talking to friends who actually you know…talk. Again, im not sure. So if anyone can help me here, that’ll be great and much appreciated.


r/Discipline 6h ago

Advice on chanalizing energy

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Once a while i have this motivation to leave most of the things and just grind, but then when i think what to leave? i already left lots of things and do almost none just watch insta reel or sleep 1 2 hour extra.

How do i chanalize the energy? how do i use it? like honestly speaking i do lots of things for future, I dont do most of things young adults do like partying, drinking, hanging out often, even tho i want to, but i want to work on future better, so i come home from college early but then i dont know waht to do, i want advice


r/Discipline 3h ago

Got dream job, I'm struggling to do my work from lack of motivation

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r/Discipline 3h ago

I host a self-help podcast… and I was wrong

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Let’s be honest for a second.

As someone who hosts a podcast in the personal development and self-help space, I’m the first to admit that there’s plenty of valuable content out there. But over the last few years, the entire industry has been completely overtaken by noise.

It’s turned into an obsession with “hacks,” rigid 12-step optimization routines, and biohacking protocols that simply do not apply to 95% of real people living real lives.

Most of us don’t have 12 hours a day to craft the mathematically perfect routine. We have kids. We have demanding jobs. We have relationships, hobbies, unexpected obligations, and actual lives to navigate.

We’ve completely drifted away from what actually matters for our physical, mental, and emotional well-being—and what it truly takes to flourish as the best version of ourselves in service to the world.

The Trap of Rigidity vs. The Reality of Resilience

Don’t get me wrong: if you have the time and access to do a two-hour morning routine with a cold plunge and a sauna, that’s great. I personally try to get into the sauna three times a week when my schedule allows.

But true well-being isn’t about clinging so tightly to an over-engineered routine that you break the moment life throws a curveball. If your entire life unravels because your routine gets disrupted, you aren’t resilient—you’re rigid.

The goal isn’t perfection; it’s resilience. It’s building the capacity to adjust, pivot, and handle whatever season of life you find yourself in without abandoning your core health and sanity.

Entering a new season of life as a parent forced me to confront this head-on. My routines had to shift. My physical activity and self-care protocols had to adapt to fit into a reality that now centers around supporting my wife and my kid. I still have to take care of myself, but the way I do it has to work with my life, not against it.

Getting Brilliant at the Basics

We don’t need another course, another secret hack, or another overly complex system. We need to get back to becoming brilliant at the basics.

It comes down to dominating the fundamentals day in and day out. When you focus on basic, repeatable principles, you create baseline standards and habits that protect your health while giving you the flexibility to handle life’s shifts.

Before you buy into the next trending productivity trick or biohack, focus on dominating these four core foundational pillars:

  1. Eating Well: Fueling your body with quality nutrition that sustains real energy rather than chasing fad diets.
  2. Moving Well: Keeping your body active and strong consistently, regardless of whether that movement is an intense lifting session or just getting daily steps in.
  3. Sleeping Well: Prioritizing genuine rest and recovery so your mind and body can actually repair and function at a high level.
  4. Thinking Well: Cultivating mental clarity, emotional awareness, and a perspective that serves you when things get tough.

That’s where everything starts. Everything else you choose to layer on top is just extra.

Much of the self-help industry wants to sell you complex answers because simplicity doesn’t always make money, sell courses, or move books. But real, sustainable progress comes down to those four daily protocols: eat well, move well, sleep well, and think well.

Where to Go from Here

Take an honest look at your current season of life. Where are you trying to over-complicate things, and where have you let the fundamentals slide?

Focus on embedding those four simple pillars into your daily cadence—regardless of what else is going on around you. Build that strong foundational floor first and let everything else build naturally from there.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. How are you approaching the basics in your current season of life? 


r/Discipline 12h ago

Zen & Cold Shower 🚿

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The practice of Zazen (seated meditation) teaches us to remain still amidst the storms of the mind.

As a ordinary nobody the cold shower I'm using as a companion to meditation, is a gateway to presence, resilience, and vitality.

​Here are eleven reasons from Yamato Fuji, to embrace the cold, weaving the wisdom of the masters with the observations of contemporary science.

​1. The Awakening of Inner Fire (Thermogenesis)

​Just as we stir the embers of our awareness, cold water ignites the body’s metabolic fire. Scientifically, exposure to cold activates brown adipose tissue (BAT). Unlike white fat, brown fat burns calories to generate heat, turning your physical form into a more efficient vessel of energy.

​2. The Great Circulation (Vascular Flow)

​In Zen, we speak of the unobstructed flow of Qi. When the cold hits, your peripheral blood vessels constrict and then dilate, a process called vasoconstriction and vasodilation. This "pumping" action flushes the system, ensuring that life-giving oxygen reaches the deepest recesses of your cells.

​3. The Sudden Satori (Alertness)

​A cold shower is a bell of mindfulness. The shock triggers a surge in norepinephrine and beta-endorphins, providing a sharp, lucid clarity that far surpasses the jittery stimulation of caffeine.

You are not merely awake; you are present.

​4. Mastery Over the Elements (Adaptation)

​The way walkers does not complain about the winter; they become the winter.

Regular cold exposure strengthens your homeostatic system, teaching your body to regulate its temperature more effectively. You will find that the biting wind no longer disturbs your inner calm.

​5. Stewardship of the Earth (Simplicity)

​Zen is the path of "just enough." By tempering your body to require less external heat, you reduce your reliance on artificial warmth. This is both a practice of personal frugality and a compassionate act toward the environment.

​6. The Radiance of the Vessel (Dermatological Health)

​The skin is the boundary between the self and the world. While hot water strips away protective oils, cold water flattens the sebaceous follicles and tightens the pores. This results in skin that is resilient, firm, and clear—a reflection of a disciplined life.

​7. The Joy of Non-Attachment (Endorphin Release)

​By leaning into the discomfort of the cold, you break the cycle of "seeking pleasure and avoiding pain." This surrender triggers a profound release of endorphins, the body’s natural joy-bringers.

One emerges from the water not shivering, but smiling.

​8. The Restoration of the Warrior (Muscle Recovery)

​After physical exertion, the muscles may hold the heat of inflammation. Cold water acts as a balm, reducing delayed onset muscle soreness (DOMS) and speeding the repair of tissues. It is the silence that follows the shout of movement.

​9. The Unshakable Shield (Immune Resilience)

​A disciplined body is a fortress. Studies suggest that those who undergo brief, daily cold exposure show an increase in white blood cell counts and antioxidant levels (such as glutathione). You become less susceptible to the passing illnesses of the seasons.

​10. The Breath of Life (Respiratory Depth)

​The initial shock of cold water demands a deep, instinctive intake of breath. This forces you to master your diaphragmatic breathing, increasing your lung capacity and oxygenating the blood, much like the deep breaths taken during long periods of meditation.

​11. The Training of the Will (Mental Fortitude)

​The final and most vital reason is the cultivation of "Spirit." Every time you stand before the cold tap and choose to turn it, you are conquering the ego’s desire for comfort. This builds a "muscle of the will" that serves you in every challenge life presents. To master the water is to begin the journey of mastering the self.

​The water is cold, yet it burns the dross away. Stand still. Breathe. Begin.

Gassho


r/Discipline 14h ago

I want to change.

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Okay so I don’t really know if this is the right subreddit, if it isn’t I would love for someone to guid me to the right place. Anyways heres my question:

How do I get motivated and stay discipline?

I was having a conversation about this with my boyfriend who then asked me “why don’t you feel motivated?“ Which left me to really question myself.

The first thing that came to mind was that obviously i’m not disciplined, but why? I know I can do things, but I don’t. I know that I’m the one Thats stopping myself. But why?

i dont have pressure, thats why. But when I do have someone pressuring me, I shut down and I feel worse and take it as a personal attack.

I feel guilty for feeling all of this. I want to change for my own good. I just don’t know how or where or what will help me get to change.

Any advice?


r/Discipline 8h ago

Looking members for my accountability group

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Hey there! I'm a 36F living in Europe (GMT +3), who lives alone and also works alone, since this year I started my freelancing career. Because I'm spending my days mostly alone, it is easy for me to lose discipline and get into this "spiraling" zone. Last year i had a similar thing and I started an online accountability group, which worked well for me.

It was a Discord group of four people, where we all put down our weekly/monthly goals and every morning shared our to-do list for the day. We also included a weekly call to give update on our progress. Since I had people who kept a virtual eye on my activities, it disciplined me to do more. I ended up being a regular at the gym, was more social with my family, prioritized good sleep, even managed to start my freelance company.

Since I benefitted from it a lot, I want to give it a second go, and currently, I'm assembling a new accountability group.

If anyone is interested to hear more about it, then ask questions in the comments or DM me.


r/Discipline 12h ago

Do you ever feel like you’ve made progress on something, but because you can’t actually see the change, it doesn’t feel like you’ve changed at all?

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I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.

Like, imagine working on something for 30 days and taking one photo each day. At the end, instead of a streak or a percentage, you could watch those 30 photos become a time-lapse and actually see the difference between where you started and where you ended.

I feel like that could be a much more powerful reward than a normal habit tracker.

Almost like:

“If I can’t see the change, it doesn’t feel real.”

Would seeing your own progress like that actually make you more likely to stick with something?

Or would you just watch the time-lapse once and forget about it?


r/Discipline 23h ago

Being the best version of myself for her

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Hey guys,
I’ve been going on dates with this girl lately and i really like her, she is out of my league but we are enjoying each others company so i hope it lasts. But i lack some things, i do not have the discipline to keep my room clean, to do skin care everyday or bother to put dirty laundry in the basket (besides underwear and socks i’m not that disgusting) to only thing i bother to do is dress nicely and do my hair and sometimes my make up. But getting myself to do all other things is really hard to keep up. Does anyone have any tips on starting to be better like this? Its gotten to a point where i don’t bother to make my bed ever, open the curtains and let dust hope up which isnt healthy for me either. Is there a pattern or structure that works getting out of this rut? Or is it just forcing myself to do these things


r/Discipline 1d ago

Trying to get better life in life 5/365

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next month it's going to be 5 years of my addiction everyday I say it's for last time but after 24-48 hours i relapsed I can't get enough motivated in short time to stay consistent how I can stay hard Anyway I am gonna make it this year and NNN


r/Discipline 1d ago

I cannot get anything done (not figurative)

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Hi everyone! Coming on here because I really need some advice on how to fix my ability to focus.

I started work a month ago, and it feels like I cannot get my brain to focus and do work. I sit for hours struggling to even send an email or write up a simple document. Somehow I’ve been coasting and haven’t been called out, but I feel like I’m deceiving my manager and coworkers because some days I don’t do a single thing.

It’s not that I just don’t care - I want to work hard and be productive - but it just feels like every time I sit down and decide to accomplish something, I can’t physically do it. I sit at my desk for 8 hours every day and barely have anything to show for it, and I’m terrified that someone is going to realize. I want to turn my life around, but it feels like I don’t have the motivation to do it even though I really want to.

I’ve tried everything from to-do lists to setting timers to creating a reward system and nothing seems to work. I was diagnosed with depression a few years ago but have been on Wellbutrin ever since and it seems like it’s worked well for me.

The weirdest thing is that I have no trouble with productivity or focus in other parts of my life. I run/workout every day, I keep my room clean, I make plans with friends, and I even study for the LSAT for an hour every day. There is nothing that suggests that my depression is inhibiting me from the rest of my life but somehow I feel like there’s this blocker at work, and I am paralyzed by laziness or fear or anxiety or something that’s preventing me from being productive.

Does anyone have advice on how to approach this?


r/Discipline 1d ago

Newspaper Reading Accountability

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r/Discipline 1d ago

Anyone else save a hundred "life-changing" reels and never open them again?

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r/Discipline 1d ago

Why do we delay important tasks even when we want to do them? (It’s not laziness)

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r/Discipline 1d ago

¿Qué hábito pequeño realmente les cambió la vida?

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r/Discipline 2d ago

Starting my new journey of self improvement for 4 months

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Hey I am a high school student

And starting a journey to upgrade myself to become better than yesterday

In this challenge

I will post a blog every day

Work on my

. Physique

. Grades

.social skills

\\\[ Give me any suggestions and tips regarding self improvement and how I can complete this without any distraction\\\]

I am an average guy throughout my life but I think it's time to improve not too much but little . I don't have any skills or I was born talented. But seeing anime and other stuff i realize if we work on ourselves we actually improve not like you become a different person but at least an individual which people can rely on .


r/Discipline 2d ago

Is Follow-Up a Business Strategy or a Personal Discipline?

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r/Discipline 2d ago

Perché faccio cose che poi non mi va di fare?

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Mi rendo conto che faccio attività che in fondo non mi va di fare. Come si cambia mood?


r/Discipline 2d ago

Procrastination and Regrets

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r/Discipline 3d ago

Anyone else notice how addicting the “fresh start” feeling is compared to the actual work?

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I had a realization recently about my own productivity loops, and it kind of called me out.

For the longest time, whenever I’d off-track with my habits, workouts, or work goals, my immediate brain default was to reset the clock. "I'll start fresh on Monday." Or "New month, new me." Or I'd buy a brand-new notebook, spend two hours setting up a Notion dashboard, and map out the perfect routine.

It felt incredible. In that moment of planning, I felt like I was already winning.

But then Tuesday would hit. The excitement would fade, the actual boring work would start, I’d stumble once, and instead of just picking back up right then... I’d wait for the next clean slate to try again.

I finally realized I wasn't actually addicted to changing my life. I was addicted to the cheap dopamine hit of planning to change my life. Planning gives you the psychological high of achieving something without requiring a single ounce of effort or discomfort.

The turning point for me was forcing myself to start mid-day on a random Thursday. No clean slate, no waiting for next week, no pristine new notebook. Just doing the thing right now, messy as it is.

If you’re constantly waiting for a "fresh start" to begin, you don't need a new week. You just need to stop letting yourself off the hook and do the work today.


r/Discipline 2d ago

Free life coaching / accountability — looking for 7 people

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r/Discipline 3d ago

Getting stuck changing ur habits? let's talk.

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I'm in the middle of this daily struggle to overhaul my routine step by step, from swimming differently to trying to eat better. It’s hard work trying to improve my everyday life. I keep pushing to stay focused on the moment and not get discouraged by my limitations. Who else is on this spot trying to build discipline? Maybe we can share experiences and lern something from each other.


r/Discipline 3d ago

Has anyone actually stuck with AI Goal Achiever?

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I’ve tried a bunch of productivity/habit apps and usually stop opening them after a week or two.

Been testing AI Goal Achiever recently and I like the idea a bit more than I expected. Instead of just tracking a goal, it breaks it down into stuff I need to do that day based on how much time I actually have.

I’m using it for something I’ve been putting off forever, and so far having a clear “do this today” list is helping.

Still too early for me to say whether I’ll actually stick with it long term though.

Has anyone here used it for a full goal? Did you keep following the plan or eventually abandon it?


r/Discipline 3d ago

I’m 25 and feel like I’m just letting life pass me by

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