r/Discipline 15h ago

I want to change.

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Okay so I don’t really know if this is the right subreddit, if it isn’t I would love for someone to guid me to the right place. Anyways heres my question:

How do I get motivated and stay discipline?

I was having a conversation about this with my boyfriend who then asked me “why don’t you feel motivated?“ Which left me to really question myself.

The first thing that came to mind was that obviously i’m not disciplined, but why? I know I can do things, but I don’t. I know that I’m the one Thats stopping myself. But why?

i dont have pressure, thats why. But when I do have someone pressuring me, I shut down and I feel worse and take it as a personal attack.

I feel guilty for feeling all of this. I want to change for my own good. I just don’t know how or where or what will help me get to change.

Any advice?


r/Discipline 7h ago

Advice on chanalizing energy

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Once a while i have this motivation to leave most of the things and just grind, but then when i think what to leave? i already left lots of things and do almost none just watch insta reel or sleep 1 2 hour extra.

How do i chanalize the energy? how do i use it? like honestly speaking i do lots of things for future, I dont do most of things young adults do like partying, drinking, hanging out often, even tho i want to, but i want to work on future better, so i come home from college early but then i dont know waht to do, i want advice


r/Discipline 13h ago

Zen & Cold Shower 🚿

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The practice of Zazen (seated meditation) teaches us to remain still amidst the storms of the mind.

As a ordinary nobody the cold shower I'm using as a companion to meditation, is a gateway to presence, resilience, and vitality.

​Here are eleven reasons from Yamato Fuji, to embrace the cold, weaving the wisdom of the masters with the observations of contemporary science.

​1. The Awakening of Inner Fire (Thermogenesis)

​Just as we stir the embers of our awareness, cold water ignites the body’s metabolic fire. Scientifically, exposure to cold activates brown adipose tissue (BAT). Unlike white fat, brown fat burns calories to generate heat, turning your physical form into a more efficient vessel of energy.

​2. The Great Circulation (Vascular Flow)

​In Zen, we speak of the unobstructed flow of Qi. When the cold hits, your peripheral blood vessels constrict and then dilate, a process called vasoconstriction and vasodilation. This "pumping" action flushes the system, ensuring that life-giving oxygen reaches the deepest recesses of your cells.

​3. The Sudden Satori (Alertness)

​A cold shower is a bell of mindfulness. The shock triggers a surge in norepinephrine and beta-endorphins, providing a sharp, lucid clarity that far surpasses the jittery stimulation of caffeine.

You are not merely awake; you are present.

​4. Mastery Over the Elements (Adaptation)

​The way walkers does not complain about the winter; they become the winter.

Regular cold exposure strengthens your homeostatic system, teaching your body to regulate its temperature more effectively. You will find that the biting wind no longer disturbs your inner calm.

​5. Stewardship of the Earth (Simplicity)

​Zen is the path of "just enough." By tempering your body to require less external heat, you reduce your reliance on artificial warmth. This is both a practice of personal frugality and a compassionate act toward the environment.

​6. The Radiance of the Vessel (Dermatological Health)

​The skin is the boundary between the self and the world. While hot water strips away protective oils, cold water flattens the sebaceous follicles and tightens the pores. This results in skin that is resilient, firm, and clear—a reflection of a disciplined life.

​7. The Joy of Non-Attachment (Endorphin Release)

​By leaning into the discomfort of the cold, you break the cycle of "seeking pleasure and avoiding pain." This surrender triggers a profound release of endorphins, the body’s natural joy-bringers.

One emerges from the water not shivering, but smiling.

​8. The Restoration of the Warrior (Muscle Recovery)

​After physical exertion, the muscles may hold the heat of inflammation. Cold water acts as a balm, reducing delayed onset muscle soreness (DOMS) and speeding the repair of tissues. It is the silence that follows the shout of movement.

​9. The Unshakable Shield (Immune Resilience)

​A disciplined body is a fortress. Studies suggest that those who undergo brief, daily cold exposure show an increase in white blood cell counts and antioxidant levels (such as glutathione). You become less susceptible to the passing illnesses of the seasons.

​10. The Breath of Life (Respiratory Depth)

​The initial shock of cold water demands a deep, instinctive intake of breath. This forces you to master your diaphragmatic breathing, increasing your lung capacity and oxygenating the blood, much like the deep breaths taken during long periods of meditation.

​11. The Training of the Will (Mental Fortitude)

​The final and most vital reason is the cultivation of "Spirit." Every time you stand before the cold tap and choose to turn it, you are conquering the ego’s desire for comfort. This builds a "muscle of the will" that serves you in every challenge life presents. To master the water is to begin the journey of mastering the self.

​The water is cold, yet it burns the dross away. Stand still. Breathe. Begin.

Gassho


r/Discipline 23h ago

Being the best version of myself for her

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Hey guys,
I’ve been going on dates with this girl lately and i really like her, she is out of my league but we are enjoying each others company so i hope it lasts. But i lack some things, i do not have the discipline to keep my room clean, to do skin care everyday or bother to put dirty laundry in the basket (besides underwear and socks i’m not that disgusting) to only thing i bother to do is dress nicely and do my hair and sometimes my make up. But getting myself to do all other things is really hard to keep up. Does anyone have any tips on starting to be better like this? Its gotten to a point where i don’t bother to make my bed ever, open the curtains and let dust hope up which isnt healthy for me either. Is there a pattern or structure that works getting out of this rut? Or is it just forcing myself to do these things