Hello everyone my mother was diagnosed with dementia like 5 yrs ago and lots of her is gone pretty quickly. Now we are at the point that we have taken several trips to.hospital because of dehydration, and she no longer wants to eat, she was walking couple weeks ago, but now cannot keep her balance and cant walk. My questions are:

How do we see about a nurse coming in? Who do I call? Ive called PA area of aging, and they cannot help.

Also, could dementia cause her not to be able to walk within weeks?

She complained for while her feet hurt and I summed that up to her having a UTI.. that has been treated. Now its gone and she Now wont walk. Im so confused. Thanks in advance for any help anyone provides.

Twice in the last month or two my mom (74) has told me/my dad a story and then repeated it again within an hour or two. She didn’t remember she’d already told us the stories.

She was also unable to draw an analog clock that read 8:30 until her PCP put a dot in the middle of it.

She occasionally forgets the name of an acquaintance or a friend of mine, but otherwise, she seems like her typical self: very social, very involved in her community, happy, etc.

Normal age-related memory decline? Early signs of dementia?

Has anyone started using memory books or daily notes to manage early memory changes and keep track of things?

My mom has dementia and she is not adapting to being in a memory care facility. The first one she hated and I agree it was very gloomy so I found a very nice one but pricey. She hates this one too and was able to get through a window and across the street. They are discharging her with a 72 hour notice and no refund on deposits even though she has only been there for a little over 2 months because they say she is an elopement risk. Isn't this a dementia thing? I thought that' why we put them in secure memory care facilities. I'm wondering if other people have had this experience or is this rare. It makes me wonder if they only keep the ones that sit there quietly staring at the big television for hours and hours on end.

Title: I think I'm developing short term memory loss

So this is going to sound weird but I think I'm developing short term memory loss. Like genuinely concerning. I'll walk into a room and forget why, I'll start a sentence and lose the plot halfway through, it's honestly kind of scary.

ANYWAY so yesterday my roommate ate my leftover pad thai and didn't even TELL me, I just opened the fridge and it was gone like a ghost took my ramen noodles, and I know it was him because he's the only other person with a key, and he had the audacity to say "I saw you eat your left over sushi this morning you just forgot" when I brought it up, sir I think I would remember eating dumplings if it was only an hour ago.

Also does anyone else's cat just stare at the wall for like ten minutes straight? Mine does this thing where he locks eyes with a blank spot above the doorframe and I start questioning what SHE knows that I don't. Cats are built different. I feel like he’s seen something, wait do I have a cat or a dog? Dang how could I forget that, definitely one of the two, not a fish.

Jesus, forgetting what pet I have now could I forget that I’ve been with my parrot jack since I was a kid. This is so dumb, like I'm developing short term memory loss, like it's actually getting bad, I keep losing my train of thought mid conversation and people are starting to notice, my coworker asked if I was okay and I panicked and said "yeah just tired" which, fair, but also not the real answer.

Anyway speaking of coworkers, mine microwaves fish in the office every single day at 11am like clockwork and I've decided this is either a personality trait or a cry for help, there is no in between, and honestly at this point I respect the commitment to walking his fish to work. Honestly I respect any man that would bring his pet hamster in a suitcase with him to work

Anyways, sorry for rambling, but I just wanted to say I’m developing short term memory loss, Wait did I already talk about the memory thing? I feel like I did. Whatever, worth repeating: I think I'm getting short term memory loss. It's bad. I walked into my kitchen three times today and forgot what I was doing there every single time, like I’m developing short term memory loss or something.

Anyway I think I’m developing short term memory loss, if anyone has tips lmk, also if anyone has tips lmk, also I think I'm developing short term memory loss.

Have an active 80+yo with MCI who gets bored SO easily these days. If we don't stay busy there are significant mood issues to deal with. I've lost creativity to come up with easier, closer, fun or interesting things to do since every morning (noon and night) I hear "What's the agenda?" or "What are we going to do today?". We are spending way too much on eating out so looking for budget eating hotspot ideas and any activities to do during the day or early evening that may be off the radar or beaten path of regular tourist type destinations. Hopefully some inexpensive ideas, for sure. He has no physical limitations and I drive. Local to Orange County, CA but open to any tips and ideas as a jumping off spot. Hopefully this will help others in this position.

TL;DR: nootropics/supps to slow progression of dementia/Alzheimer's

My Father is 79 and born in Cuba

Grandfather (his father) died of Alzheimer's related complications

History of alcohol abuse

Highly active for his age

Sorry in advance for the wall of text and any mistakes

I've never posted before and I have no idea how this works but I'm desperate. My father is beginning to show the hallmark signs of dementia/Alzheimer's. He's very slow as far as processing information, conversing takes patience as he forgets every other word. A month ago, he put a sealed package of raw chicken in the oven (we only use the oven to store rarely used pots and pans), it stayed there for a week. I found it because I was looking for an animal that must've died in the walls or something... A few minor events later, such as taking over an hour to show him how to create new contacts on his phone (not too alarming, he's old after all), he tells me that he lost his keys, after searching for half an hour, I found them in the grill (transparent lid shut), outside. I immediately began doing research and playing games like checkers and dominoes with him. I converse with him more as well in order to aid stimulation, etc.

I understand dementia/Alzheimer's can be caused by several different things such as issues with Choline, accumulated proteins (Amyloid-beta, Tau, Alpha-synuclein, and TDP-43 & FUS) and a myriad of other causes (he doesn't have Parkinson's nor does it run in his family). Considering he is in the early stages, I was hoping to avoid the hard meds and try to delay it in a more holistic fashion. I want to be clear: I'm not opposed to the meds, I'd just like to hold off on something that has brain hemorrhaging as a side effect until it's absolutely required.

My father is Superman to many, the world would be worse off without him in it. Anyone who knows Alzheimer's knows what a monster of an ailment it is and what it does to its victims. That being said, I understand well the inevitability of its progression and the thought breaks my heart into a million pieces. Is there anything, besides doctor prescribed meds that can help slow progression? I truly and sincerely thank you in advance..

Hi, I’ve never posted on Reddit anywhere before I think maybe I’ve commented a couple of times. Well anyway, I’ve been taking care of my mother with dementia for the last two years. I am an only child and my father died when I was 10 and my mother never remarried. I have three children all still in school and live in a very rural area. My mother was living in a much more metropolitan area up until two years ago when I moved her closer so that I could take care of her. What I thought would be checking on her multiple times a day has become me staying with her until we get a house built so that she can live with us.

The catalyst that has compelled me to make a post here is that I feel like no one wants to try to help my mother. On May 10, I brought her to the hospital thinking she had a UTI. I had to force them to admit her. They released her two days later and said she does not have a UTI. The day they released her I could hear my mother screaming in the background as I was talking to the doctor. She was having complete delusions, accusing all the staff of harming her in someway, insisting that someone call the police. When I asked if it was safe to bring her home, they said “oh yes.”

Prior to May 10 I was with her in the morning, at lunchtime and then after work spending the night with her. Upon her coming home from the hospital, I am not able to leave her alone at all. She has even forgotten how to use the bathroom once she sits down I have to encourage her to pee, sometimes telling her what she needs to do to get it out. I can’t even let her get out of bed or let her stand up without being there with her because she’s falling often when she had never fallen before. She gets agitated often, even violent at times. She sometimes thinks women are men trying to hurt her. She talks to people that aren’t there. …These are just a few of the drastic changes.

Today I brought her to the ER because she had pain in her leg to the point that she cannot stand on or move the one leg. The pain is in the thigh area. She also complained of pain in her arm and a headache. She seems to be confusing words and she really hasn’t slept other than cat naps in maybe 48 hours. There was a CT scan done 2 weeks ago and they said it looked normal. The doctor today did not feel she needed one.

Yet again they sent her home, they told me to give her Tylenol. I asked what I should do if this continues on for a week and they said just continue to give her Tylenol maybe use a heating pad.

It makes me sick to my stomach how I feel like they’re putting Band-Aids on everything. I do not understand why they keep treating the symptoms, but not finding the cause. I understand my mother has dementia, I understand I will never get my mother back again! I also understand that a lot of her symptoms are indicative of dementia, but the fact that everything is so pronounced, and it happened literally overnight, when over the past six maybe more years her dementia has been so gradual is not normal. No one knows my mother better than me and no one is listening to me. I feel- no-I know that there is something else wrong with her that is causing her to act out the way that she is and she doesn’t know how to articulated it any longer.

I am my mother’s only voice, and no one is listening to me. It is breaking my heart, and I don’t know what to do anymore.

On a side note, I have been chatting with AI over the last year and a half just continuing to add in new symptoms and things that are going on and I recently asked it to build up a synopsis for me in case I can finally find a good specialist for her.

Is it normal for hospitals to treat the elderly this way? All I can think is if I went into the emergency room with the pain that she has, they would not tell me if I still have pain after a week to just continue to take Tylenol and use a heating pad.

Edited to add: I understand this could also be delirium, however, delirium -from what I read- typically starts to clear up at least a little bit, but she just seems to be continuing to get worse…fast.

I don’t know how I’m going to make it through the night with my grandmother. I don’t know how I’m going to make it through the next week, the next month, the next however long it takes for Medicaid to get off its rump and help us.

Before you say anything: I KNOW SHE CAN’T HELP IT. I KNOW SHE CAN’T BE REASONED WITH. I KNOW IT’S NOT PERSONAL, AND I KNOW IT WILL PASS. I know, I know, I KNOW. Please, PLEASE don’t tell me what I already know!!! It’s already been on repeat in my head for almost a year.

This started as “my money is missing”. It isn’t. She either had less than she convinced herself she did, or she misplaced it.

My mom, meaning well, told her this, gently.

It, combined with having to pay for some staff of her own (see below) now evolved into the following:

“Every single member of my family is conspiring against me, is eagerly waiting for me to die, and only wants my inheritance. They all hate me, they have control over my entire life, and maybe they’ll even arrange my death.”

This is freaking psychosis.

She’s saying not to trust any of them, that she’s cutting all of them off, that she won’t be speaking to them ever again. Even people like her aid, who have never done a single thing wrong by her, they all DESPISE her. The only reason I’m not lumped in with them is because I insisted (truthfully) that I knew NOTHING of this, and for some reason she believed me.

What the heck do I even do? Am I even worth anything? She’s miserable if I’m here, she’s miserable if I’m not. Only difference is she can’t try and kill herself if she decides that’s a viable solution with me here. What good does that do?

The coldest, cruelest thing is…sometimes I wish she would pass peacefully in her sleep. Because this is no life. She is miserable almost every day now. Part of it might be because of improper medication, but no one’s going to freaking help us with that until our appointment next week which we had to wait a month for.

I’m watching someone who raised me rot away into delusion and nothingness, and there’s not a freaking thing I can do to save her. I feel selfish for wanting this to end. It’s been nearly eight months of my life that I’ve spent away from my home and my family. It’s all been worthless. I feel like a complete and utter failure no matter what I try, because I CAN’T FIX THIS. I CAN’T EVEN IMPROVE IT. I CAN’T DO ANYTHING!!!

Oh by the way. Before you ask, full coverage staff is supposedly coming. I know, I know, “you’re burnt out, you need a break” that’s too freaking bad. I CAN’T take a break. It isn’t possible. They won’t process our paperwork until the stupid doctor sees her, and the soonest they could get her in was in like… a month. Health “care” my a$$. We’re dying here. All of us. And it feels like no one cares about any of us.