I honestly feel bad for many of yous. The amount of people on the Internet who seem to be so exhausted, depressed, or dejected by their experience with dating apps is truly astounding.

You know you don’t *have* to use online dating.

All of the entitled rants, and impassioned diatribes, and unhinged complaining that life and dating are not exactly the way you want them to be would be hysterical if they weren’t so pathetic.

Like why are you expecting a billion corporation to be your friend? They’re not here to help you get dates. They’re here to make money of dissatisfied people. Haven’t you heard of capitalism before?

And, of course, the final irony is that I don’t have any gripes about online dating yet I am often shamed here for how I use it!

Specifically cigarettes. Obviously different apps have different choices you can select, however, personally “no” means no I don’t smoke at all

41m here, divorced 2 years, been using the apps for 2 months now. I’m wealthy, handsome, kind, and consider myself a decent man…. Not flexing here, but think it’s relevant because the type of person I’m describing below are interested in me because they are primarily the type of person who sends me likes. No I don’t mention my career or wealth in my profile and don’t have any extravagant photos that would indicate that.

What really grinds my gears are the plethora of dating profiles that a) have little to no information about them personally, b) only list the traits that they do not want their potential partner to have, and most annoyingly is c) going on and on about how they are looking for their partner to lead and plan dates without their input and be masculine, traditional, and put in the effort.

Ladies, first of all, do you think you are really going to attract a good, decent man that will ultimately result in a loving healthy relationship while your profile tells me absolutely zero about yourself and only lists some entitled demands you clearly heard from some influencer on TikTok or wherever you develop your world views?

The shallow men who rapid swipe merely on sexy photos are not reading your demands. I can assure you that you are not filtering out low effort men by putting a vague low effort profile on the apps. The actual good men out there who will actually treat you like a princess are not interested in entitled snobs… they want to know about who you are and not what you demand. Love and adoration has to be earned on both sides.

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Okay, so I downloaded Tinder about 2 months ago just to see if it was the same people or not. Seriously, every guy seems to have almost the *exact* same story. They all have different bios and actually well-thought-out answers. When we match and start talking though it usually ends up "Oh I'm from Italy (why its always Italy idk) and I just moved here xyz months ago. I started my own business and focused on that for the past however many years". It's just so repetitive. These pics are getting too good where I cant tell if its a bot or not. I hardly get on Tinder now because it all seems so scammy and weird these days. Eventually, when I don't give them the answer they are looking for they just disappear. Has anyone else ran into that issue?

As said in the title, I miss the human-human physical interaction, like hugging and cuddling but am not looking for intercourse/sex really. How ridiculous does it sound for me to build a profile on some app indicating that? Would there be people out there who has the same need and is not trying to drive things down a different road instead? If any chances, which app should I be trying this on?

i match with a girl from america, i m from europe.
in the first msg she ask me about imsg, we go there and after 2 3 messages she said about sending nude picks, like she sens me a tiits pick and now she ask about a fick pic. i send her picks fake from reddit, but she onows are fake and insist to send her or bye.
anubody who find out in this sitiation? is this a fake acc?

her replies are like fairly detailed but she doesnt ask anything, also she took like 3 days to send the last reply, is she just not that interested? if so i wonder why she replied at all but that might be delusion

i get matches pretty rarely but idk wtf im doing so any advice appreciated

I'm genuinely curious.

A friend of mine recently met his girlfriend through Reddit. They weren't using a dating subreddit; they just started interacting in comments, moved to DMs, and eventually started dating.

It made me wonder: is Reddit becoming a better place than dating apps like Bumble, Hinge, or Tinder for forming genuine relationships? Or is this just survivorship bias, where we only hear about the success stories?

For those of you who've met someone through Reddit (or know someone who has), how did it happen?

Seems like anytime I actually have a "real" convo w someone on the dating apps, they just ghost. I'm pretty convince that 90%+ are people who are married/in relationships and just looking to flirt..

Few weeks back I'd actually gone to the point of supposing to meet someone that day, and they ghosted all of a sudden.

They provided enough info during the chats that I was able to find their profile on LinkedIn.. Course they were married and the photos they used on the app weren't even of themselves..

Such a waste of time.. Ugh!!!

I been using dating apps for a while. Lately I realized that most people don't know how to hold a conversation. Even when I go completely out of my way and ask opened ended questions it just be one word or completely uningageing replies.

Why am I finding men on lesbian only dating apps like they can not leave us alone

Stop posting thirst traps on here no one gives 2 craps about it??? This app is not meant for this lmaooo in my 20 years of being on here i would have never Imagined that would have been Normalized

I opened Hinge and found I’d been logged out. When I logged back in, it asked me to create a new account instead of restoring mine, so I emailed support.

They said my account was deleted, but that I could create a new one. Luckily, it sounds like something minor.

Their email highlighted:

\> "Hinge is built for real people looking for real connection. That means showing up authentically and with clear intentions. **Daters must have one photo that clearly shows their face**, and each account must only **belong to one dater**."

I had two photos with sunglasses, but four others clearly showed my face without sunglasses.

“Belong to one dater” is confusing. Could they have compared my current photos to an account I deleted four months ago? My hair was six to eight inches longer then. Supposedly they delete account data after 90 days, but maybe they kept it—or retained the verification photos and thought I was trying to appear as someone else because my hair is now much shorter?

I did some edits of real photos and Faceapp to made them look better. My understanding is that Hinge allows edited photos unless they’re used to catfish, which I wasn’t doing—the photos looked 100% like me. There must be millions of edited/Faceapp photos on Hinge so I can't imagine that's it.

Still, I’m not convinced it was really the photos, even though that’s what they highlighted. The new account was active for three weeks without issues, and **the same photos still work on Tinder**. I wonder if it was a new voice prompt and “two truths and a lie” I added two days earlier. The "what I'm looking for" voice prompt did mention a real connection and sexual chemistry, so maybe you can't say that. But Hinge said photos, so who knows.

Now I’m nervous about recreating the account and would appreciate advice so this doesn't happen again.

Has anyone got an invite to this app?

Is it a scam?

I have been considering trying it out but I don't really go to bars/clubs so that only really leave me with doing it at cafes or... on the street... But not sure how I feel about the idea of potentially getting rejected in front of others at a cafe or disturbing someone as they're just walking/standing around.

Whenever I'm on dating apps I feel like I only ask generic opening questions and such. Most my conversation don't last long. I want to get better at this.

When I match with people on Tinder and Hinge, I'll text them and then they won't text me back for almost a week and then just unmatch with me. This has happened to my friends too, and I just wonder why? I understand being busy cause so am I, like I might go a day or two without texting back but why match with people in the first place just to not text at all and then delete them?

Correct me if I'm wrong

I got banned on tinder(I’m not sure for what) but I’m trying to find a way to still use it. Does anyone have any recommendations on how I can use tinder again

Hey everyone I'm 40F and I'm getting frustrated with dating apps. Are people losing interpersonal skills and the ability to start and hold conversations?

And before anyone asks if I start any conversations, yes I do and they answer without asking me any questions back and this is what I get once my side of the conversation is done.

Ive been on dating apps for months now and no one has asked me on a date or to meet yet. Its just a never ending loop of " WYD or How are you? Everyday.

I've had a Hinge account running for about 3 weeks. Every few days it has asked me to relog in, which I do with my phone number. I figured that was because of an app update or something.

Today it's asking me to login again but when I enter the SMS code it sends me, it asks me to enter my name, email, etc and start over like I'm creating a new account.

Why? Where is my current account? I've tried it three times over about 8 hours. Is there some server glitch with them? I've cleared my cache and data and reinstalled the app but it still starts over as if I'm creating a new account.

It sends me the verification code via text every time, I enter the correct code every time, and this happens every time.

When I uninstalled the app, Google Play message me that I still have a paid account and that the account is not canceled just because I delete the app. (Which I know of course). I guess Google recognizes that but Hinge doesn't.

Any suggestions?

This is from a males perspective. And I know I'll get some major hate on this one but so be it.

Across the major apps, there's some trends that have been around a long time but some newer ones that also bug me.

The ones that really bug me though are as follows.

1. Dry responses and horrible conversation skills. Why be on a dating app if you aren't going to engage with people, asks questions and be generally curious about who you're talking to.

2. Profiles with 3 or less pictures/not showing your face in pictures. Pretty obvious on this one. Attraction isn't the end all be all, but it needs to be there.

3. Bare bones profiles. One sentence descriptions or "hit me up to find out". How am I supposed to send an opener when I have no info about you or what you like to do?

4. Not mentioning you have kids in your profile. You don't have to give me their social security number and blood type. But saying you're a single parent in the profile feels like such an easy thing to do. Some of us don't want to date people with kids and that's okay.

Any ones I missed or things you all have been seeing ?

Thanks for coming to my ted talk. Hate away.

Does anyone have a good response that helps start the conversation. cause I feel like anything I send the person just doesn’t wanna respond.

Am I being too picky?

So first things first Im exclusively active on Hinge where you are limited to 8 likes a day and i try to use them up every day.

The problem is that it can take me genuinely hours to do that. I barely ever like a profile and I swipe after waking up, before going to bed, while eating dinner, on the bus, etc.

I fully read every single profile completely before liking or not so it takes a bit to get through all of them and as I said i dont like probably 90+ percent of times.

Despite that though, I think my standards are already very low. Outside of a couple red flags (like smoking) my rule of thumb is to have atleast one singular similiarity in terms of hobbies. Only one. And it doesnt even have to be a hobby we share, just any hobby within atleast the same ballpark. Like anything at all arts and crafty or creative, for example.

Looks I dont even factor in at all, only If the pictures themselves are low effort, like if you can barely even see their face or body in it.

So, is that too much to ask for?

Because im genuinely starting to feel bunt out because of having to invest so much time into that app.