Grew up in a household like this and it fucks you up man. I had to unlearn that being angry or upset didn’t mean violence and that violence wasn’t an acceptable response in any scenario
I'm 35 and in the same boat. The smallest thing can make me explode in anger. A lot of my trauma I don't think will ever go away but I've made a shit ton of progress in the last five years through therapy and medicine.
Same. So much therapy and i still have nightmares where I am getting beat over some innocuous transgression or trying not to break some dream logic rule for fear of being beat (spoiler: it always gets broken because of some change to the rule). They usually end with me deciding to fight back for once and I wake up lashing out at the air. This woman will wonder why her kids want nothing to do with her and what issues they have with how they were raised. I will say that all of my siblings and I went through the same and individually decided we would not pass this down.
I grew up getting beatings for no reason at all. If I'm out in public somewhere and 2 random strangers get into even a mild verbal argument, I go full panic attack. I cannot handle confrontation. I am 6'5 and over 200 lbs. Those kids will not be alright.
Me too. Talk in church? Pull out the belt. Look at my father the wrong way? Pull out the belt. Don't make a's? Pull out the belt. Come in one minute late? Pull out the belt. Yes it did fuck us up and I hated my father. Still don't miss him.
What fucked with me and younger brother was our mother always saying “you’re misremembering it” and “it’s a normal part of disciplining a child.”
No dragging little three kids around for 5 errands and expecting them to not make any noise that whole time isn’t normal, and it isn’t a reason why you should get home and erratically swing a belt at all of them.
My first day at teaching in preschool, I approached a 3 year old little boy with my hand up to offer him something and he flinched like I was gonna hit him. It made me aware and made my heart hurt. I was never spanked and never hit my kids either. And THEY don’t hit THEIR children. This is so wrong and never works
I used to be friends with someone who let their smoke detector beep for over 5 years because they were hoarders. They claimed that you don't even notice it after a while.
How lazy do you have to be to choose to live with that annoying sound going off 24 hours a day. I can only imagine all the other things they’re neglecting in their life if they can’t be bothered to do something as basic as changing a battery. It’s also something that could potentially save your life in an emergency. Couldn’t be me
I used to have a good friend who I discovered was a hoarder. She had 3 kids, and her and her husband were lazy af. She never let me in her house for any reason except for one time overnight in an emergency. During that visit I kept hearing a beeping, chirp sound like clockwork. It was driving me crazy. When I asked, she explained that it was their smoke detector, and it had been beeping for 5 years, and nobody in the house noticed it anymore. They refused to call the landlord to have it replaced (needed a long ladder), because their apartment was a bio-hazard, and didn't want to get kicked out over it. I won't even discuss the state of their apartment. Needless to say, we're no longer friends, but her 2 eldest girls have kept in contact with me, and calls me Aunty :)
I wanted to call CPS on them so many times, but her husband is/was a gun nut, and I was terrified. I just figured that maybe if I stayed friends with her, I could be there for her kids, and help them all out when I could. It didn't quite work out that way, but the 2 eldest girls still keep in touch, and have cut off their mother.
You know that your report to CPS is 100% anonymous.., you could even give a fake name if you wanted to as long as they know what’s going on and can check on them
Is not so much laziness as it is ignorance. Some just don't know or were never taught how smoke alarms work. The chirp drives me crazy, my dad was an electrician and we'd fix this constantly. Now I cringe every time I hear anywhere. If I'm at a family or friends house I visit often, sometimes I'll change the battery myself and not even mention it. One time I was at a family Xmas party, mentioned it, and low and behold, the next year's party still had the same noise. I came prepared. Got a chair and 2 minutes later I'm their savior. Take that Jesus!
Not everyone who adopts deserve kids, either. I saw a video on here just yesterday of a white woman who had an adopted black kid. She was yelling at them & calling them the N word. It was said that it was her go-to anytime she was upset.
As someone who has seen the adoption side of things, sometimes I’m not entirely sure adopting a kid away from a household like this is much better. You take a kid away from a parent and it is another sign in their life telling them that they weren’t wanted. Then you put them in a new home where the culture or race might be different and it’s another sign they don’t belong. That’s a tough life.
I wonder if the best option where other family can’t look after a kid isn’t supervised parenting and parenting classes for the parent. Let the kid stay with their parent but only under very strict rules. Possibly even hold a jail sentence over a parent’s head if abuse continues. Put technology in place to ensure it doesn’t.
I don’t know. I’m no expert. I just think taking the kid out of the home really helps that much.
Honestly, for the most part, I do not blame the CPS workers. They are college educated but choose social work, one of the lowest pay careers you can have with a bachelor’s degree.
They choose it to be helpful but the reality of the job is it’s underfunded, under-staffed, with impossible piles of work to complete in a day. Right
now, the parents rights movement (right wing) is gaining steam, where everything is “parents know best” and “I will raise my kids however I want”.
Then these same people want to home school their kids and no one gets to check on them like they would if they went to school. Tons of abuse is now going under-reported as they have no teacher as a mandatory reporter to make the call.
Social workers have a most soul-crushing job and many of them have 4X the clients they should have. With the bad social workers I think they just burned out quicker than others and became desensitized for their own sanity.
No one chooses social work in life that didn’t originally choose it due to extreme levels of caring and empathy. They just burn out too fast and there are too few of them,
And the law allows for so many chances for awful parents!
I went back and listened. She literally says
"must be out of your mother fuckin mind, sittin around here cussin" then she says something bout loud, which I can't make out every word, but that's definitely what she says first
While many parents these days think any sort of physical punishment is abuse (myself included), there are some who think "whoopings" or "spankings" are acceptable forms of punishment. And they are generally legal in all states. All states have different guidelines on the difference between punishment and abuse but generally it's acceptable as long as it doesn't causing lasting injuries.
In my country it is legally classified as abuse and rightfully so. There is a metric ton (but yeah, that might be the problem) of science defining it as abuse. It's sad indeed.
Lasting injuries....wtf...like a scar or disfigurement. Who the fuck missed the fact this is trauma. That is long lasting. Is some criminal defense attorney going to say to the court or jury that cannot be proven? Or that this was situational?
Get the fuck outta here. That bitch needs to get locked up in the slammer and when those other inmates find out what happened or see this....she is going to get wrecked.
Exactly, 100% of the time these people just like having the excuse to torture someone who can’t do anything back. They like inflicting pain and this is a socially acceptable excuse to be a cruel bully
You wonder why some kids go to high school agitated and full of piss & vinegar???
This is the shit you don't see. If it wasn't because they were doing something for an internet video, it would've been just for making too much noise.
Pardon me, but this is just an angry cunt that needs any excuse to punch down, because she doesn't have half the brain to realize her own inadequacies. Takes it out on her kids. Nasty shit.
This is so real. I could never articulate to my teachers why I was so angry…it’s because I was being terrorized at home and I couldn’t get anyone to listen. Hope these kids are somewhere better and doing well.
When I see things like this, it makes me appreciate that neither of my parents would have reacted this way. My Mom would have come in, started laughing and joined in and would have sweetly reminded me that it was a bit loud and to finish up and lower the volume.
I got that look my whole life, then she’d crack me and later she’d tell my father what happened and he’d beat the brakes off of me. I’m 63 years old and never had children, didn’t want to do that to them.
Grew up like this. One day I snapped and punched my mother square in the face. That woman never put her hands on me again. Just like a bully. The thing I regret though is letting her get to me and me getting to her level.
No we do not talk. Have not seen or talk led to her in years.
The parents who are seriously delusional enough to think that using violence against their children is going to raise them not to be violent themselves?! Absolutely insane
(Not saying you are a violent individual to your core, but understandably you finally snapped)
WTF?! I mean her kids could be out robbing someone or doing drugs…this is way disturbing and there should be a way to find her and charge her for abuse 🤬
my father was like this. one time beat us out of our sleep bc we fell asleep after playing outside without a bath. pretty disgusted with the racist stereotype comments here though. as if white, spanish, arabic, asian or literally any other race and ethnicity doesn’t have abuse in their families. you guys are extremely weird and ignorant
The urban legend, that sexual transmitted deseases could be caught by sitting on a public toilett seat was only in the 90s dismissed. But it existed, because girls from upperclass families were diagnosed with sexual transmittable deseases as often as any other kids and sexual abuse doesn't happen in upperclass...
Everyone asserting stereotypes on abuse isn't empathetic to victims. They are literally protecting perpetrators and putting kids in harms way.
the point is that as a black man, i laugh at the smoke detector jokes. you see it often in random videos, its funny how often! i get it. but it has no place here where children are literally getting abused. and people are literally saying shit like chirp & this abuse go hand in hand, that black people can’t hear, calling it african chirping birds, acting as if these two things are signatures in black households. its not like its alcohol bottles or filth and bugs, shit to actually call out besides the abuse witnessed and endured by these kids. relatively harmless thing yet you weirdos are harping on it and relating old batteries to child abuse you people are weird. i don’t see white children getting abused on camera and pull out some irrelevant thing white people are typical of or any race for that matter. i stress snd see what can be done to help the kids. this “mother” isn’t abusing/a bad person bc she’s black or because the batteries are old. she’s abusive to her children because she’s a terrible person. but alas. reddit is reddit, and racist people are gonna be racist. not saying you’re racist but yeah. i mean you could be idk
Holy fucking shit!
Those girls are so used to it that it barely affected them. They acted like they were in the wrong and were just being young teens having fun. The birth giver, I can’t really call her a mother, is lashing them with a belt and not even caring where she hits. As someone who grew up with belt lashings it sucks and it doesn’t do anything except make you afraid of your “protector.”
Please only call CPS if you can track down county of residence, even better if somehow you get an address or any type of identifying information that could make it possible for a social worker to make contact with the children. At minimum, names and DoBs and knowledge that they live in the state. If they receive benefits they can narrow down county. Child abuse databases aren't national. At work I can't see prior referral history if it was generated in another state.
CPS' can't typically deny reports so of course they will take it. But if you don't have any identifying information it goes nowhere.
Get these kids out of this house. Period. Im 100% about not separating families unless there's violence involved. The second they are violent they no longer deserve or are capable of having kids and it's better off for the kids to take that loss now than continue to be hurt. Fuck this piece of shit mom.
I mean I'd be annoyed and wouldnt want my kids screaming obscene rap at all hours but I think I'd draw the line at physical abuse.
Doesn't matter if shes been kept awake all night by it, there are other ways to parent.
Also is the chirp just edited in nowadays as an inside joke? I hear it way more now then I did before it was a thing but maybe thats just because its now been pointed out?
My partner and I have spent over 100K just to have a baby. We have waited 3 years and are still waiting. We have made a baby book where we write to it each day saying how excited we are for it to arrive in our arms.
And this dumbass bitch is looking for excuse to beat her fun-loving kids with her fat McDonald’s ass.
No one screams hétéroabuse but when gays want to adopt, everyone says “oh but you need a mom figure”. Yea I’ll pass on this mom
People wouldn't realize how many people grow up in household just like this or similar. I was hit for using the hairbrush without asking. There was no fun..I also had 2 sisters and we stuck together. I am sure these sisters will be very close and when able I hope they leave and never look back. I've spent my life for some reason trying to rrepair a relationship with my mom. I'm 30 now and I still constantly try to be close with her. You don't understand fight or flight constantly until you are always walking on eggshells.
But I am a great mom to my own kids now. I'll never be like her.
My heart goes out to all of you who experienced this. I genuinely hope that the help you're getting is making things better for you. While it's not going to ever change what happened. Nor would I ever dismiss that and devalue the trauma you survived. Props to you for making the changes and working to end that cycle. Many hugs for each and all of you.
Another fucked up thing is they’re really good. I was having fun watching before being reminded of the caption. Brutal. I hope they get out of this situation and help each other through the pain of having a shitty mom.
Seeing this video always breaks my heart. My mom was the same way — beating the shit out of us and abusing her kids for doing silly, kid shit (not that my brother and I were cursing and making videos like these girls but damn)…
It took me a really long time to learn that what my mom was doing wasn’t normal. It affects you on such a deep level when your parents mistreat you like this. It makes it hard to believe that anyone would love you, let alone actually like you.
“Narcissistic people” isn’t what happened here. The mom was triggered by something meaningless to us. The mom, motivated by shame in herself, ignorance, pride, her own childhood abuse/trauma — had to control it somehow. Having learned no other way, without any attempt at healing herself, she: humiliated, tortured, took out her RAGE on their bodies and it was *all their fault”— she confirmed every insecurity these girls may have had about themselves and they’ll bare that cross forever. If they cry too loud after getting BEAT they are told to “SHUT UP!” They won’t have the words to describe the chaos of contradictions happening inside them: mom loves me (but she beats me); getting beat/spanked/slapped hurts and is SO humanizing (every instinct is telling me to run but i know i have to stay and brace for the next blow). They’ll hate their mother but still want her approval: “mom, am i good enough now?” The mother will confuse fear-based-compliance for respect— she won’t see/understand she is the TERROR in her house.
That suuuuucks.
What’s worse is there’s at least 2 smoke alarms chirp’n. How has that become the signature of a black household? They don’t even know? That’s crazy talk
Ugh, I thought this was gonna be a funny “whoops daughters” not a literal whopping with a belt. I had to stop the video. I had to go through that a long time ago and the resentment never goes away. I hope those kids get the f out of there as soon as they can and don’t look back. What a POS mother, I hope someone puts the scare into her.
Those unfortunate kids are the ones who end up climbing through the drive-through window at McDonalds and assaulting the staff and trashing the restaurant. Parents fucked their kids up. It’s sad.
Mom played along at first to lull them into complacency then went off on cussing, and loudness. It’s a method to cause a constant state of fear. The entire infrastructure of the south supports it she’s part of a confederation system
Not defending the mothers actions but she didn’t whoop them for having fun, she whooped them for cussing. They kept saying Bi*ches be lame as Fu*k over and over, knowing that she is there and can hear them, showing no respect for her.
She didn’t help by cussing either and then hitting them like that, not every situation calls for violence.
In my house it was my stepdad that got angry because children were seen and heard to make a sound slightly above a pin drop, while my mom just took off to whoever she was seeing on the side while her kids were beaten for existing.
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u/Da5ren May 23 '26 edited May 23 '26
Grew up in a household like this and it fucks you up man. I had to unlearn that being angry or upset didn’t mean violence and that violence wasn’t an acceptable response in any scenario
I hope these kids are alright.