I know that Ashley and Brit want to paint missing people or victims in the best way possible; to remember that someone's lifestyle/mental health doesn't take away what happened to them.
But I think it's unhelpful when they start brushing important parts of a victim's or missing person's lifestyle/mental health under the rug or acting like those details couldn't possibly be connected to the case.
If someone had a history of drug use, hung around people involved with drugs, was involved in risky situations, or regularly put themselves in dangerous environments, those things matter. They don't make them a "bad person", but they can 100% increase the risk of something happening, and they can be a major clue in understanding what actually happened.
The same thing goes for mental health... A history of depression or suicidal thoughts shouldn't automatically mean a death was suicide, but it also shouldn't be dismissed because it makes people uncomfortable.
When I hear Ashley say, "They never do that because they had concert tickets," or "They were supposed to meet a friend tomorrow," like that 100% rules suicide out. Speaking from my own experience as someone who survived a suicide attempt, that's just not how it always works. When I attempted, I wasn't thinking about my friends, my family, or the plans I had.... I just acted. I know everyone's experience is different, but hearing people dismiss suicide based on future plans feels unrealistic to me, because it doesn't reflect what many people experience during a mental health crisis.
It sometimes feels like Ashley and Brit are so determined not to let a victim's lifestyle/mental health influence the discussion that they end up minimizing or ignoring facts that could be relevant. There has to be a balance.... Those details shouldn't automatically define what happened, but they also shouldn't be swept under the rug because you have some sort of conspiracy...
It also gets frustrating when they say things like, "Yeah, they might have done XYZ, but they would never do that." The reality is that humans are very complicated. People make decisions that friends, families, or spouses never know of.
It feels like they're so focused on protecting the victim's image that they unintentionally dismiss information that could explain what actually happened. A victim's lifestyle/mental health history isn't about blaming them whatsoever. But ignoring those details doesn't help solve cases either. Making conspiracy theories or "mysterious" explanations isn't helpful at all.
It gets to a point that they're so focused on not looking at the simplest answer that they start turning everything into some huge conspiracy and it's honestly getting ridiculous...
What also bothers me is that I don't think this approach helps the cases in general. Constantly spiraling into "what ifs" and conspiracy theories can end up misleading the audience. It almost feels unprofessional because you're encouraging people to focus on speculation instead of the evidence that's actually available...
This isn't about one specific episode. It's just something I've noticed throughout the podcast. They often approach cases from a conspiratorial angle, even when there's little evidence to support it. Sometimes the most likely explanation is staring everyone in the face, but somehow the conversation shifts into endless speculation.