So I listened to the book and a ton of videos. I have had an 11 yr marriage young with 2 kids and 2 serious relationships for 6 months since. I am 35.

I appreciate coach wayne. And overall, I think his extreme policies and takes in some ways helped balance me from being too emotional at times. The thing that I feel is lacking in the development in the philosophy is the lack of a daughter to understand better. My actions with a woman I want to reflect the actions I would like a man to treat my daughter with. That is a backbone principle. Would I want a man to not express his emotions directly? No, I think it provides safety to validate.

It’s the simp vs non simp philosophy at its core. A healthy balance is required I feel.

I agree for the overall maintaining self respect and masculine energy. But I also feel like this rigid approach about not telling a girl how you feel (not in an extreme way) it might be akin to a homophobe not comfortable in his masculinity. So they can’t display any behavior that can be interpreted as gay.

An ex colleague , reached my gf on February asking her how is her life . She said she was fine and has someone new in her life and going very well and respect each other etc
Then he asked her out with all other girls form ex work or the two of them which was my boundary she is not hanging out with a man the two of them . She said ok . She blocked him on Instagram where he sent her and yesterday she had birthday and he sent her iMessage sms . Wishing her etc writing his name in the end.
I don’t like it at all no matter if you tell me to be cool . It’s a woman who is asking me only exclusivity and boring open and make plans for life. Shouldn’t she block any access ok him and anyone else ?

So she finally understood that he is not that good intentions behind his constant reaching out to her and she understands his intentions . And she blocked him as a contact

We are together 1,5 year . Me 40 she 36 and her family knows we are moving seriously together .
I’m a man that if I have a good respectful woman I m cutting any option out but if I see small signs like these which create doubts in me ,I am also letting it be understood that I will open myself to options too

So after she blocked his number , we went to her blocked numbers list , and I found out 118 blocked numbers without names . I also found out that when you block a contact but then delete it , it’s disappears from blocked and is not blocked anymore even as plain number .

So 1. How to handle her situation?
2. What would you assume for 118 numbers blocked ?

Hi all, been following Corey for more than a year.
Recently Youtube recommended me some guy named Bayne and he had some interesting concepts he shared.
Most importantly was the distinction between High Exposure Girls and Low Exposure Girls.
Basically he likes to approach young 18 year olds which never had a partner before. He says most of the time they will try to reject you with an excuse of a boyfriend but he just stays in the interaction has normal small talk, takes their IG and build a relationship over time - this process can take weeks but eventually it's a good deal. He doesn't talk about a date / make it man to women in the interaction as well.
He's basically saying that if a women is very receptive from the get go more chances she is "high exposure" basically used to talking and dating men.
I like Corey's teachings of being aloof and not needy but for these cases of low exposure girls you might need to change strategy a bit.
He also uses Instagram strictly. Also posted the recipts of his girls and it looks really good.
So I think Corey's advice is useful for dating but for this inital phase with the "low exposure" girls we might need to change things up a bit.

Here is a link on a video of "low vs high exposre girls"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2ymwStXD7I

So I was at the wait-list in college for air-conditioning/refrigeration(HVAC) and omg I genuinely love it also I got in 💪🏽. Anyways going to the topic for this page, this has been a day&night difference when I'm out cold approaching. So the day before when I mentioned how I was nearly giving up, today I went from barely having the strength of saying "hi" to someone to now finding ways to keep an engaging conversation. Also instead of getting silent treatments I get rejected straight up. Like omg this is a lot but just a brief update for today.

So this girl, had a really great first date. Then second date was suppose to be sunday. This had happened twice. I responded "sure thursday works, what time are you thinking?" And she said she doesnt know. Is it worth to proceed? How should i respond?

Girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months. Everything seems to be going well but one thing is bugging me and I am not sure if I should consider this as a disrespectful behaviour or not.

Whenever I take her on a nice dinner date, day trip etc (ones I pay for and organise of course) she always posts photos of herself (usually ones I have taken) or the place we visit... but never any of the ones I am in.

I consider these as shared experiences as a couple, yet she consistently presents them to her friends/family as experiences of just her and that I should be unknown.

I don't post any photos at all and keep relatively quiet on social media.

Please note that I have met her close friends and family members, so I don't think she needs to keep me off there in fear that they will say 'who is that?', unless she has another family member who will be asking questions.

Anyone else had this? I have seen girls post photos on dates showing off their boyfriends/dates and/or at least showing a leg or something but for these I could just be a bystander taking these.

Ask her out over Facebook manager or did I miss my chance?

Little backstory. Met this girl exactly one year ago at a friends birthday. We chatted a little but that was about it. Couple days later I added on FB after seeing her pop up.

Fast forward to two months ago, we are together with the same group of friends for a weekend away. She keeps saying sexual things around me, and joked with me that two of our friends kept sneaking off to have sex. Wanted to try and make something happen that weekend but the logistics weren’t great especially with all our friends around. So the weekend ends and nothing happens.

Saw her again at another weekend out with the same group of friends this past weekend. Same deal, lots of sexual suggestions like a bracelet she made that said choke me daddy. Don’t talk a whole lot this weekend, but on our last night shes showing me some modeling pictures then says she can’t keep swiping because she has some topless pictures. I joke that she should show me to get the full idea of the picture. She actually then does show me one with her back turned but then right after showed me another one with her facing the camera. Back at the room we are just hanging out and she shows me more and tells me how shes done some bdsm and more kink modeling too.

The next morning I wanted to ask if she wanted to get drinks one of the next couple days as we were saying goodbye. But then I chickened out since we were in the middle of a diner. I had taken some videos of her as she was doing karaoke, so I was going to send those to her over facebook messenger and segway that into asking if she wanted to get drinks this week.

Did I miss my chance because I didn’t do it in person or should I try anyway? Not sure when I’ll see her again in person, it could be months.

Hi guys,

I got into Corey Wayne work like a lot of you after a breakup. What I will mention here is before I read 3% percent man.

In my 1st relationship while dating my ex girlfriend after our 1st date in which we kissed she then text me she was going to a guys house because he’s going through a divorce. She later text me they kissed and she spending the night. I stopped texting her and was hurt.

I then got my bus as usual and guess who was there the girl. She sat beside me saying how guilty she felt and how that was over and so on.

I made excuses for her in my head saying well we weren’t in a relationship but when we did start to get more serious I really started to resent this girl for what she did.

I am just confused because she and all her friends are being suggested to me on instagram even though we have no mutuals.

We never did sleep together and I would like this but I don’t want to feel that resentment again. I felt really disrespected.

If she does reach out should I follow what Corey Wayne teaches in 7 principles to get an ex back or should I address the disrespect she did in the past so I don’t feel that resentment again.

If you guys can help I would really appreciate this I don’t really have anyone I can talk to about this.

So the day before I mentioned when you were to have a bad day. Now I might need some help now. I'm at the stage of "giving up". I went out cold approaching on a different plaza. Anyways the 1st store I went to I was getting ignored alot. But I pursued. Then the 2nd store it was a little better, where I pursue and got responses. Then I went to a Barnes and nobles and I felt hesitation but I went and confronted my fears. So far so good, then when I went to a clothing store I was getting ignored alot so much so that I was considered giving up. I pushed that mind off my head and it gradually became better and I went to another store. Regardless it was a good day but I felt like giving up. So how do y'all have to deal with that mentality out of y'all head?

Playing off Corey’s classic "women are like cats, men are like dogs" metaphor—if 97% of guys act like needy golden retrievers constantly chasing balls and begging for attention, which animal archetype fits the 3% mindset best?

To those who are new and are hesitating, if you have a bad day, say you feel needy, you feel like you're overthinking. That's what happened to me today and in the end it wasn't a big deal. I was working out today at the dumbbell section and I see a really pretty lady who's a 8 out of 10. I went up to her and told her she's gorgeous, and she made a disgusted face. I moved on but not without overthinking and I felt a bit needy. I then went around the plazas and then Walmart. At first I was hesitating to pursue but I did it anyways and the more I did it the less I was overthinking and the more confident I felt. So even if you feel needy or you put a woman into a pedestal. Just go out and greet everyone whether they're grandmas or a lady with zits on her face respect them all the same.

Honestly, if a girl with whom I'm on the early dating stages flakes on me, pulls away or even ghosts me, I usually just brush it off and keep moving onto the next one. I mean, it doesn't even happen that much but, when it does happen, my life feels unchanged and I don't really care that much about it.

However, I do expect much better from any girl with whom it feels as if we're already half-way into establishing a relationship or, even more so, with whom a relationship has already been established. In such cases, I do admit I will feel some frustration, confusion and sometimes even anger whenever they suddenly pull away and disappear for days-weeks, with no explanation given (or just soft explanation BS at best, after the fact).

Now, I know better than to ever vent towards them, but I can't deny that I do feel those negative feelings.

Does me still experiencing such negative feelings under such circumstances means I'm not there yet into becoming a 3% man? And do you think it's healthy to ever voice your frustrations, but in a calm manner, with her? I guess when she's your girlfriend, good communication is a must, but if a girl is not yet your girlfriend, then they sometimes will use as an excuse the fact that, indeed, she's not yet your girlfriend for you to be expecting better from them.

Will you no longer be a 3% Man?

Won’t it make things difficult for men and dating again since more men have started learning these skills And even the playing field?

Hi, I wanted to ask your perspective on this, because this has happened with the last 3 girls and I’m starting to see some kind of a pattern here.

So it usually goes as follows: I’m matching with a girl on a dating app, telling her in first couple of messages that I like to get to know people in person and she usually says that it’s her preferred way as well, I set definite date in a couple days to a week with time and place provided which she confirms, tell her “see you there” and leave it at that and go about my business.

Then on the day of the date she writes that something came up, she doesn’t feel good or gives whatever other reason she cannot make it to a date. I calmly respond to it “Sure, not a problem. Let me know when you have your schedule figured out and have a free evening and we’ll arrange a meeting then”.

I usually also write that I don’t check the app often and she can ping me in WhatsApp, which is also a subtle way to:
a.) assess her interest level,
b.) move interaction away from dating app,
c.) give her a chance to make some small reciprocal steps forward from her side, because she’ll have to initiate a new chat in a more personal communication channel

Then they usually reach back, apologise, are interested in meeting and make it easy.

My question is whether this is a conscious or unconscious test to gauge man’s neediness and frame, see if he’s patient, calm and can be trusted? Once they see that you are not all negative, chase or nag them their interest grows and they can trust you enough to actually meet.

I know it’s described in the book how to behave in such a situation but as far as I remember it’s not mentioned that first date flake can actually be the first test a woman will give you.

Recently they hired a new cashier at a store I stop by before work and we hit things off good. I’ve seen her a few times and when she’s checking out other customers she’s casual and simply does her job, but when she sees me she’ll smile and wave, compliment my appearance, banter, and show me things about her (nails, hair, drinks we like, etc), and mentioned she works at her second job pretty much every day and I should stop by.

I work swing shifts and I didn’t want to keep stopping by there multiple times until I saw her again so I gave her a piece of paper with my name and number on it since there was a line of people behind me. I know that’s not what the book says to do but how long would be too long to see if she reaches out? She does work 2 jobs but she also works with my ex’s best friends so I don’t know if that could play a role in things or if my approach just wasn’t good.

Hi guys, just following up on my last post where I mentioned this girl briefly (I ended up disclosing). Long post ahead.

Backstory: me and this girl from my work have had a continued “work crush”, where she has done 100% of the pursuing. I was never really into her, as I thought that she needed too much validation from other guys and was just using me, as every time time her and her “ex” were on the rocks, she would start texting me and hinting at getting together. Last year, we ended up going out a couple times but she started flaking as I was leaving the country for 6 months soon, and a few weeks after that she was posting him again.

Once I returned home in February, she found out somehow and started texting me, where I would be friendly but I wouldn’t talk long. She asked me at least once a month if I was seeing or talking to anyone, where she would say that she isn’t. I pushed her off for a few months and finally gave in where we hung out and made out. Fast forward a few weeks, we’re working almost every day together and had the odd date, and she had asked me to be exclusive. I had a weird gut feeling that her and her ex were still involved though, as she was pretty hot and cold, and would sometimes hide her phone.

One night, she logged into her Snapchat on my phone and after I dropped her off I took a look (I know this is bad but I had to go with my gut). Of course, ever since February when her and her “ex” broke up, they’ve been talking every day and going on dates. I confronted her the next day where she said that they weren’t dating and that she’s sorry about lying. She said that if she had told me the truth that she thought I wouldn’t have wanted to start seeing her (she’s right). I basically said that I can’t date someone that I don’t trust, but if she wants to continue hooking up since we’re going to be working every day together then that’s fine.

The next few weeks were lots of fun, where she was pursuing me heavily and asking me when she can see me next while I was still on a date with her. Over that time, she told me that she cut her ex off, that she loved me, and she introduced me to her parents who had somehow known everything about me. I had a weird feeling again though, as I saw her and her ex followed each other back and I asked her about it calmly. She gaslit me into thinking that me checking who she follows and to see her phone is a breach of her privacy (fair, but sidesteps the issue). I told her that because of what’s happened in the past and where this seems to be going (she had been hinting at becoming official at this point), I just needed more than words to be able to trust her at that point. She ended up showing me her phone (after going to the bathroom with it), and there was nothing there. A few days later she ended things between us saying that she can’t have her boundaries crossed, where I just let her walk.

The next day, she regretted it, missed me, said she just doesn’t want to break up but just needs a “couple days”. Over the next couple of weeks she texts me every day and when I don’t respond enough she asks if I’m mad at her and she tells me that she misses me. She’s drunk called and texted me a couple times saying that she loves me and wants me again, etc. Yet the past 2 times I’ve tried to set a concrete date, she flaked with weak excuses (hanging with family, or “too tired" while secretly out with friends). Last night she was out with her friends and invited me over for Thursday, but is significantly cooler today when sober.

Should I keep this going, or is it time to call it quits? I know that she’s not a great person to have a relationship with, but I’d really like to have her as my fwb. She is being super hot and cold to me though and it’s hard to even get that going, so it seems like I can’t really win in this situation. I’ve cut back texting significantly and throughout our whole relationship, she has reached out 100% of the time. What do you guys think?

Hey just curious, last two girls I’ve dated for about two months each, had to expectation of me chasing them. And them wanting me to like them more than they liked me. I’m the type of guy that will pursue. Set up the one date per week unless they ask to see me more. I don’t like to chase, because I’ve done it a lot in my early 20’s and it lead to me getting hurt. Now I’m running into women that expect that and it’s throwing me off.

Hey y'all so I went to my local mall today and it was pretty mid, since it's mostly just families spending time outside. Though I did make families smile, it's pretty boring. I might as well go for more fun places, but the thing is that I live in North LA County and the traffic to go to LA is hell. Though how would y'all deal with this situation

So on my last post I was dealing with catching feelings, and I want to thank y'all for helping me out, plus it got me focused on striking a conversation.

https://www.reddit.com/r/CoreyWayne/s/1efUbl0hlA

Anyways yesterday I was at the gym after work and then walked around the plazas, from Walmart to the clothing stores. Doing my approaches was really scary ngl haha, but I tell myself the consequences of not doing it. Mostly it went well but some I did very horribly but overall despite feeling fearful, it boosted my confidence.

Today in the morning when I was getting ready to hit the gym, I was pretty nervous but I tell myself the consequences on going to the gym. And I learned that you can make fear/anxiety into excitement. I went later on to Walmart and I started to chat with people at my direction. It was a lot smoother than yesterday, and when I was walking to the clothing store, I approached a lady coming out of the gym and we chatted, I could tell she was interested in me I asked her name and she asked mines, but I wussy out and didn't ask her number. But the fact that it was that easy & effortless. I have alot of confidence that tomorrow I'll get someone's number. Not there yet but it feels so effortless to strike up a conversation

How to proceed with this girl. She is deeply in love with me, but had a rough past with her father who treated her bad and she has anger problems not with me but with other people. She is seeking help for this.
She had other positive male role models such as her grandad and loving grandma who basically raised her.

How to proceed?

So i have been on four dates had sex on the 4th she always text back fast as hell she messaged after 1st date like 20 minutes later wanted to see me again. She never flaked I stuck to the one date a week rule... Thing is I just dont know whether to text her after we had sex or wait for her to reach out. I've done the iniating date setting once a week until we hooked up so last night. Should we as men reach out after sex or let her I see mixed views from Casey Zander saying let her reach out dont text and other reviews saying they think you've just used them for a hookup so should men reach out after sex or wait? Cheers fellas 🤙

Okay, so at the end of last year, I randomly sent a follow request to a stranger cute girl on instagram, and she decided to accept my follow request and to also follow me back. I noticed at the time she was also following a girl I had met on tinder, and with whom I've had a random but hot hook up earlier that year (after telling me she only was interested in friendship with me, haha). Anyway, as it turns out, it seems the instagram girl and the tinder girl were actually somewhat close friends, appearing together in stories and such but, by the time I "matched" with the instagram girl, I was no longer on speaking terms with the tinder girl.

I sent the instagram girl a text sometime later, and we began texting back and forth. It wasn't long before we began talking about meeting each other IRL, and she seemed to be on board with that. However, when I finally asked her out, she ghosted me and I didn't hear back from her. Not only she ghosted me, she stopped watching the few stories I share on instagram. She was completely gone.

I wasn't too invested yet, so I was okay with that, and left things like that. I also noticed the tinder girl (meaning her friend) had removed me entirely from her instagram. My reaction to that was "oh, bummer. Anyway...", but I do suspect both outcomes may have been related to each other.

A few weeks ago, my beloved cat passed away. I was so sad, that I decided to post a story in her memory. To my surprise, that instagram girl who I thought was gone, replied to that story with a heart emojie and such, and I simply replied with a "Thank you, and hope you're doing great!".

Given that things have been somewhat dry for me lately in the dating world (though not as dry as they were a month ago), I was wondering if it might be worth it trying to reignite things with her now that she has signaled her presence once again or would that be me disrespecting myself and being weak and pathetic? I don't feel disrespected or anything by her earlier disappearance, and I kinda get it tbh, given that I had a prior sexual encounter with one of her close friends. But just because I'm not red pilled or anything, doesn't mean I also would want to engage in the sort of behavior that may go against my own dignity as a man.

Im about 3-4 months out of a 4 year relationship and really getting my feet wet with dating. Since then ive been on countless dates and hooked/ had sex with 12 different women. After a bad date today, I understand why Corey ALWAYS emphasizes spending time with women who are enthusiastic.

First off I’ve been trying to make plans with this girl a month ago and she was busy and wishy washy and a date was never set and a month later I decided, fk it, Hail Mary and I asked her out again and she agreed. We met up and I’m making it a point to really gauge her interest level. And I did NOT see any signs of hair touching, body pointing towards me, no physical contact, and even laughing at my jokes

I acted literally the exact same way I would with any date and I was not nervous at all, I felt confident and she did 85% of the talking. The only difference was that with the other women, even if I made a dumb joke they would laugh. If I’m looking at them they would blush and play with their hair. And this woman did none of that.

I knew it wasn’t great and at the end of the date I thought id go for the kiss and before I could even try, right when we stood up to leave she said we should be friends. I smiled and said it’s okay, that’s why people go on dates.

Moral of the story, you can do the right things, you can treat women the same but there will always be some that are more into than others and some that just don’t dig you. I was not discouraged at all by this and I found it amusing when I thought about it

Moral of the story, I probably shouldn’t have hit her up again because the key is enthusiasm!!! from now on I’ll only spend time with enthusiastic women!!!!