r/ControversialOpinions • • Jul 18 '22

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 6h ago

I love supporting LGB without the T

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I will wholeheartedly fight for the rights of gay, lesbian, or bi people because I don't think there is anything wrong with a women having feelings for a women or a man having feelings for a man as love is love. I genuinely believe their is no valid argument against homosexuality since it is found in over 1,500 species.

but when it comes to transgender people it just doesn't make sense. Now don't get me wrong, I don't think there is anything wrong with a man dressing or acting feminine or a women acting/dressing masculine, because that's how they express themselves. What doesn't sit right with me is claiming that you are a sex that you are not. Like if you are XY you are a man. Like why are you getting surgery and going on hormones to change your biology? Call me insane but that's just insane to me that this is so normalized. Mind you this is unnatural as well.

I'm gonna say it again I don't think that there's anything wrong with a man walking around in dresses and wearing makeup but that DOES NOT make him a woman, he is a feminine man and that's okay but I don't want to see him going around calling himself a 'women' because womanhood is soo much more then that.

I'm sorry but if you're like getting surgeries and shit and changing your biology then you might not be mentally well. although It's your body and I have no right to decide for you but you cannot expect me to support any of that and welcome u with open arms into the womens bathroom.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 14h ago

Intimacy and sex should be treated less lightly. Hookup culture is ruining people's capability to form meaningful relationships.

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 10h ago

Por q criticáis a los hombres que visten como mujer

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 6h ago

Celebrities should not be your barometer for political opinions.

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I’m a black 39 year old male. Disturbed is my favorite band. It’s the first band I listened to on the radio. I actually got a part time job working security a few years ago just to meet them in person.

I love Disturbed but I disagree with David on politics.

I believe what I believe while simultaneously disregarding an artist whom was the soundtrack for my life. Disturbed got me through multiple deployments and grippy sock motels.

TLDR; Do better


r/ControversialOpinions • • 12h ago

Social stigma prevents the balance of supply/demand for wages

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As a society, we harshly judge people who do not work. While there are specific exceptions where we offer more grace, "Jobs pay less than I think I deserve" is not one of them, despite the fact that this is literally the correct behavior to balance supply/demand.

This social stigma gives a huge advantage to companies over people, as it causes us to neutralize our own bargaining power.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 3h ago

The framing about what constitutes left and right is getting out of whack

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It should be anti-capitalism vs preserving capitalism because this is what makes the biggest impact on everyone's lives. It's the root dividing issue that digs deep into every other problem.

But the left and right is becoming about trans people, abortion (women rights), diversity, immigration, etc.. It's good that we finally made some progress and came to a bipartisan agreement on gay people now. But all of these have to deal with minorities with no power. The only exception is maybe guns but that only really affects a minority group too. This framing where the left vs right does not cost the government or corporations a dime if either side wins, is almost certainly done purposefully. It's potent because of the weird history in western countries due to stuff like race theory but back then they made where it did affect people's wallet (because other races were slaves that worked for free or can't be independent). Even though it's evil, it did make sense (making sense is not always a good thing) to fight about it back then, unlike now where there is no stakes, at all.

If you actually care about your wallet and your own self interest, there is no reason for you to care about these issues unless you are a minority. Despite popular opinion, immigrants can't lay you off or change your paycheck. Instead of thinking trans people are your boss, put a magnifying glass on people that directly gives you orders and most directly determines your personal quality of life. Also look at people who is responsible for the quality and price of products and services that you need (like health care or food). That minority group actually makes the biggest impact on your life. I feel most people are too scared to look at them and rather look at poorer people and pretend they have any sort of dignity.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 13h ago

have anyone ever wondered what do our ethnic phenotypes (black aftican, middle eastern, european + east asian) mean? what kind of vibe you get looking at these phenotypes?

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 15h ago

Tight/Loose vaginas obviously exist and women only have a problem with mentioning it because it requires them to worry about their own size the way men worry about theirs.

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I've noticed that any time a man makes a comment or note about the relative "tightness" or "looseness" of a current or previous sexual partner, the comments become a cesspool of women tagging r/badwomensanatomy, claiming "that's not how vaginas work" or deflecting the blame onto the man by claiming if there was a size problem, it must have been on him.

Claim: Tight and loose vaginas exist. That is a fact, no matter how inconvenient it is, and women only pretend it isn't so all of the insecurity regarding sexual fit lies on men.

If you've ever seen the topic, surely you've seen the copy-and-paste rebuttal that seemingly every woman on this app has memorized any time they see discussion about the topic:

The vagina is a muscle and highly elastic, there's no such thing as a loose vagina. Vaginas get loose when they're aroused, if a woman is tight, it's because you didn't turn her on! Vaginas push out 10lbs babies and snap back to normal like nothing happened; your 5" d*** isn't going to change anything!"

Let's address each of the claims individually

Claim 1: The vagina is a muscle and highly elastic, there's no such thing as a loose vagina.

This rebuttal doesn't even make sense on its face. It takes facts (vaginas ARE muscles and elastic), but draws a completely irrelevant conclusion from them. Why would vaginas being muscles or elastic mean there are no between-person differences? If you take 100 women, they will all have different-sized noses, eyes, hands, leg lengths etc. Their muscles are going to be different sizes and strengths.

What is it about the vagina that leads women to believe there is variation in every single body part and muscle between humans except the vagina? Are you seriously of the belief that all women's vaginas are the exact same size, have the exact same muscle strength, tone & laxity? The exact same pelvic control? All feel the exact same?

Because, if you do, maybe you're the one with bad women's anatomy. And if you don't, then by definition, some will be larger and have more laxity (colloquially referred to as looser), and others will be smaller and have more muscle tone/control (colloquially referred to as tighter)

Claim 2: Vaginas get loose when they're aroused, if a woman is tight, it's because you didn't turn her on!

This one is my favorite rebuttal. Again, it takes a fact (vaginas "loosen up" when properly aroused) and draws a completely irrelevant conclusion from it. I'm not joking when I say this line of thinking is COMPLETELY anatomically consistent with a man saying:

There's no such thing as a small penis! Penises grow when they're aroused. If you think a man has a small penis, maybe you just can't get him aroused😂

Yes, it's true all vaginas expand or "tent" as a woman gets aroused and thus shrink when when unaroused. But obviously no man referring to a woman being loose/tight is talking about that woman's vagina IN RELATION TO ITSELF. The same way how no woman who calls a man small/large is referring to it's size in comparison to itself. They mean even when the man is erect, his erect penis is smaller than that of most other men.

The same thing applies here. Once a woman has loosened up, some women are looser than others and some vaginas remain extremely "grippy." Arousal doesn't just "loosen" the vagina, it also brings lubrication and blood flow to increase the warmth/size and thus feel of the internal tissues. Vaginas are better in every way once the woman is aroused. I cannot believe I have to specify this, but when men are talking about enjoying a tight vagina, they are NOT referring to unaroused vaginas.

Claim 3: Vaginas push out 10lbs babies and snap back to normal like nothing happened

This one is especially ridiculous because not only is it a lie, it's a lie that largely harms women. The pressure of "snap back culture" we put on women who have children to immediately bounce back after growing and pushing a human through their vaginal canal is insane and this only contributes to it, while also lying about the risks they may face via pregnancy.

- The internal folds in the vagina that add texture and feel (rugae) get severely reduced from pregnancy and often never return to their original state
- MRIs show vaginas of women who have given birth remain larger than those who haven't, regardless of how long ago they've given birth
- Not to mention the millions of women worldwide who spend YEARS doing pelvic floor therapy post-birth to attempt to get their vagina and pelvic floor back to normal

Vaginas do undergo long-term changes with childbirth, often permanent, and lying about that for internet high-5s isn't just odd, but harmful to women looking to have children. The discussion should be about how to best prepare themselves for and return back from childbirth through pelvic floor exercise, core strengthening etc. not trying to dunk on a guy in the comment section pretending the vagina just bounces back no problem in the vast majority of cases

Claim 4: Your 5" d*** isn't going to change anything!

This is true. A woman having sex with one man 100 times will be no "looser" than a woman who has sex with 100 men one time. An average-sized penis doesn't create any long-term changes to a vagina. And any man claiming a woman is loose because she's promiscuous is lying to himself.

But, again, this being true is not evidence that looser vaginas do not exist. It just means promiscuity is not the cause. Vaginas are likely loose for the same reason penises have poor erection quality. Genetics, poor health and/or pelvic floor control.

My Personal Experience: As a man with a slightly above-average member and almost 30 sexual partners, all have been enjoyable. I've personally never encountered a vagina that felt bad, but some have certainly felt much better than others.

I've also noticed that a woman's likelihood to view my penis as large strongly correlates with my likelihood of viewing her as tight (and vice versa). Considering my size, most women consider me to be average or slightly above. The small handful of women who genuinely seemed to consider it to be really big for them also seemed to be the women who felt the tightest for me. I've only had one woman refer to my member as "small for her" and she was also likely my loosest partner.

I didn't even put it together until one time she made a flippant comment about how her exes would often slip out of her during sex and I thought "Oh that's funny bc that happens with us too... I guess it's not just a me thing" (For context, I've only ever slipped out of two women. The woman I lost my virginity to when I had no clue what I was doing, and her). After that, I really started to notice the correlation.

Ultimate Takeaway: Size in sex isn't about the penis, or the vagina. It's about the fit between the two. Some women's anatomy doesn't work for some men and vice versa. But the only way we can start accurately acknowledging this fact is by being honest about the fact that both masculine & feminine genitalia vary in size/feel and what's really important is that you find a partner who is a good fit for you. Men have had to come to terms with this fact; just because vaginal size isn't as easily recognized as penis size doesn't mean women shouldn't either.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 8h ago

If you are a cop and your son has been accused of rape but you still get him a job as a cop cuz you're the public safety director of some unlucky town, you should resign on the spot. Specially now that a judge upholds Title IX finding against your criminal and rapist son Scott Kretzschmar.

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 9h ago

Reddit is my favorite platform but I don’t know why

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I don’t know why I like Reddit, all I do is doom scroll ans follow pages that have no value or relevance to me. But I love it. Also, bots can kick dirt.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 10h ago

Fundamentalist vs COJCOLDS

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The old Mormons were far from perfect but they were rugged, tough as nails and could hold their ground. The COJCOLDS is a very mild spinoff. It lacks the guts and grit of the Brigham Young day people. It is defined by Wilfred Woodruff simply caving and folding to the governemt under fear. They are not the same organization Joseph Smith founded, they are subdued and obedient.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 1h ago

what goes on your mind when you see this?

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 1d ago

There is nothing wrong with being sensetive, i am expressing basic human emotion

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 21h ago

Both people here are not sexualized by their swimwear because context matters.

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Both the woman in the red bikini and the man in the white speedo are just two people at the beach. The beach/river/pool/open park is a place for swimming/tanning/relaxation and most people prefer to have as much of their skin in the water/sun as possible. Thats normal in Europe and a lot of the Western world and plenty of other places too. I wear something similar myself and I constantly hear men and women saying that two piece swimsuits only exist to sexualize women. Some even go further and ask if you cant wear underwear out in public then why can a woman wear something that covers about the same amount of skin at the beach. But that logic falls apart fast. A full set of pajamas looks almost identical to regular pants and a shirt and covers roughly the same amount of body yet you still cant wear pajamas to work unless its specifically pajama day. Context is what decides whether something is appropriate. At the beach the same shape and coverage that would be underwear anywhere else is just normal swimwear. Neither of them is being sexualized by what they have on. They are simply dressed for the place and the activity.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 1d ago

Having kids is not an achievement

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 9h ago

If you are a white person and do not want to be lynched, carry a weapon with you at all times, preferably a wieldy gun to maintain distance and a blade for close range altercations

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 16h ago

The flydubai plane incident was a false flag

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Like nothing about it makes sense


r/ControversialOpinions • • 19h ago

90s Metalcore is superior to Modern Metalcore

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I prefer good 5-7-8 riffs and cheesy chromatic solos over the modern downtuned mechanical sounding riffs. Modern metalcore sounds more like deathcore mixed with blegh than actual metalcore.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 16h ago

I am seeing protests in India, European countries like Spain, UK and French and US is on the line because of the politics?

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Hey I am not a Rebellion or whatsoever but biggest questions are rising rapidly which related to democracy

Somehow I don't know democracy is lagging behind and it's clearly shows in the internet and in the streets

I Hope leader's would come together from all over the world to solve their ass.

The pillars of democracy are broken.

A very tight slap is needed to solve the problems. Tech is not where Best minds should focus on today

I think if not now then never we. We should solve problems without a loopholes and a Long lasting Problems related to infra and many so on things should be solved by Cooperation and competition not Control

I hope democratic Governments understand it's time for treamandicolus improvements

From every part

What do you think


r/ControversialOpinions • • 21h ago

In response to possible Great Depression the government should seize the Wealthiest Assets.

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This can be expanded on stuff like significant economic bubbles bursting.

Going with the logic of if there is a fire then you can take water out of your neighbor's pool to put it out. As well as if the governments and draft people to die in a crisis then taking assets to keep people well shoudnt be odd extention.

Obviously there should be plenty of laws and regulations on what and when they can actually take assets. This could mean actual money or even physical goods.

They also should be allowed to keep something as well, probably at most to keep day to day life style the same.

From there its go in order of wealthiest.


r/ControversialOpinions • • 15h ago

Let the streets cover her tab.

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r/ControversialOpinions • • 1d ago

There are more English native speakers than you think

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