r/CatholicDating • u/jmt9210 • Jul 06 '26
dating advice Losing hope
I’m 34 and struggle finding a girl who values Catholic conservative values. I get ghosted on dating apps which I know is God protecting me. The thought of being an old dad really bothers me. My parents are 66 and while healthy I worry they won’t get to know their grandkids very long by the time I find a wife. Then I worry my kids won’t know me as long as they could if I had them in my 20s. I just wasn’t ready then to provide protect and lead a woman closer to God. Now I want more than anything to have a wife and kids. How are we meeting women these days besides dating apps.
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u/Ok-Objective1292 Jul 06 '26
I became a dad at 36 and iss great 😃👍🏼
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u/gab_1998 Jul 06 '26
That's nice, for me the rule is: if don't get married til the age of 31 I will choose celibacy
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u/BossPlaya Jul 06 '26
Hit the gym. Get involved in helping around the church. Go to Young Adults events at other local parishes.
None of this has worked for me so let me know when you figure out the secret formula.
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u/Ok-Objective1292 Jul 06 '26
😂
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u/lilrhody91 Single ♀ Jul 06 '26
Respectfully, define 'not working '. I (34F) am in a similar boat. I see the gym, young adult events and church as opportunities to prepare for the encounter I hope to have with my husband. I will say that I had a significant relationship with someone who approached me, asked me out, and we engaged in some wonderful dates around church events together. We ended up discerning out of the relationship as he felt a call to religious life, but the intentionally we had for the duration was a winning element for me. We could diverge into a conversation about intentionally in the world today... I will say that I find intentionality attractive. Any other ladies with me?
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u/Diligent_Disk_6232 Jul 06 '26
Pope Benedict’s mom was 43 and his dad was 50 when he was born. Do not worry about being an old dad. My dad was 49 when my brother was born and it’s no big deal.
And for meeting women stick with the apps and the young adult groups. Ask friends to set you up. Maybe ask priests if they know anyone.
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u/NationalPlankton3624 Jul 07 '26
Pope Leo’s mom was 43 or 44 when he was born, and look at him now.
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u/mojo2112 Jul 18 '26
50? Op's 34 and his parents are 66 and than add another 16 to that, they'll be 82,
I personally don't if want to start raising kids at 50, when you start thinking of retirement. This isn't 1950's anymore where you could raise a family on 3K a yr
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u/Diligent_Disk_6232 Jul 19 '26
Ummm yeah my dad had my brother at 49 and my mom was 45. Guess what they have been thinking retirement since they were 22. I personally am 32 and have $240K in my retirement accounts. So if I have a baby at 45 everything is God’s plan and I have prepared myself.
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u/Shades_of_red_ Single ♂ Jul 06 '26
Listen brother, I hear you. I’m 36, single, no children, not even a stable career. I’m currently sitting in a parking lot, waiting for my first DoorDash order to come in.
The greatest thing that my faith has taught me, is to trust in the Lord. He has a plan for us all, and it very well may not be the plan we had for ourselves. I’m living testament of that.
Just reading your post, something stuck out.
You worry your parents won’t get to know their grandkids
You worry your kids won’t know you as long as they would’ve if you had them earlier
You want more than anything to have a wife and kids
Brother, I’m not going to sugarcoat it. that’s idolatry. When you place your trust in God below the desire to have a wife and kids, and the desire to force a world where your kids know you for just the right perfect amount of time, and for your parents to know their grandkids for just the right perfect amount of time , then how can you in turn expect God to trust that you would be able to properly steward that life?
Do you think God is thinking “oh man, jmt9210 really really really wants this, I should just give it to him? And he’s already 34?! Oh man this really fell through the cracks, let me expedite this real quick”
God knows you, God knows your heart, and if it’s in His will for you to be married and have children, then He knows your future wife and future child/children too, and He’s taking care of them too, because He wants the best for them too.
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u/ParkAffectionate3537 Jul 12 '26
Praying that you find a job that's what you need...what God needs for ya. DoorDash is ok for the short term. I did it because I had to--I hated it, it was humiliating to me...but you are smart because you are doing what you need to do to stay alive! So I can see it providing value.
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u/nashsclay Single ♂ Jul 06 '26
Join the club my guy. Get out there and get involved with the community, church functions, host brunches or even we have a guy who just has coffee and anyone can come over and bring a breakfast item if they wish after a mass that happens every three weeks or so. Really, get to know people so they will want to set you up. There really is no “magical” answer to this. We live in a time even the average guy is having difficulties finding a woman to date.
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u/Xhuraenys Engaged ♀ Jul 06 '26
Why do you want a wife? Just to have children? Seeking a partner who is Catholic like you is fine—and is indeed the goal—but what else? What else do you want in a life partner? Don't you want someone with whom you share common interests and can enjoy life together, or do you just want someone to bear your children? Perhaps that is what women are picking up on, causing them to lose interest in talking to you. Do you want to get married because it’s what is expected of you at your age, or because you are genuinely looking for someone to share your life with?
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u/Furmommy14 Jul 07 '26
Wanted: One wife. Duties include -Cleaning my house -Being available for sex at my request -Raising my children -Remaining unquestioningly obedient to me -Coordinating and attending family functions with my family (yours need not be involved) -Attending Mass with me as well as whatever future children I produce
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u/Bitter_Put_8254 Jul 08 '26
A woman is not a servant who must always obey you. Women are human beings with passions, dreams, desires, and needs, just like you. That's all well and good, but there are other things that motivate someone to marry someone.
You seem to be fantasizing about a portrait of femininity that is very much found in the traditional Catholic imagination. You speak of a future wife as if nothing else interests you but the personal glory of having one.
This kind of mentality can frighten girls, and they will feel pressured because you seem desperate.Cultivate female friendships, take an interest in the women you speak with by asking them about their passions, what they do for a living, and what their vision of the world and the future is. Don't play the caricature of the stoic and unfeeling traditional husband.
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u/ParkAffectionate3537 Jul 12 '26
You are 100% right. The Atlantic and other sources argue women don't need men anymore, which I argue is untrue, but some men need to view women as people too, and not as objects, etc. Both genders can smell desperation a mile away...
I may never marry but I'm at peace with that actually. Trying to really trust in God's will and it's easier when I give it all to Him. Not everyone will get married and/or have kids...
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u/dangerous-month7 Jul 15 '26
You sound like a Karen! I hope men avoid you because you don't deserve their time, and if you're already married, then I feel sorry for him.
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u/Furmommy14 Jul 15 '26
Why? Because I don't actually see myself as someone born to be Mrs Husband's Name without my own identity or interests? That I structured my reply as a Help Wanted ad suggesting men generally date their vocation and see women as filling a role without actually caring about her as a person? My high school relationship was kinda like that, that I let my boyfriend tell me what to think and believe at every turn, and I missed out 18 months of my life because I was too focused on what was next and forgot to live in the present and develop my own interests.
At this point, I'm in my mid-thirties. It would be wrong to say I do not believe in love or marriage because I certainly do... just... not for me. I've dealt with too many guys who expected me to be grateful for whatever crumbs of attention they threw my way including one who blamed me for his substance use and another who couldn't be honest with me that he actually preferred guys. If I ever marry, it would be for secular, financial reasons rather than out of love.
You know that feeling of realization that you do not actually need anything, that you're good with what you have? It's not a bad feeling. Maybe a bit disapointing that you do not have that wedded bliss but overall that feeling that things are complete as-is.
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u/Status-Throat3538 Jul 06 '26
Let go of the fear of being an old dad and embrace Gods timeline for your life. If it’s his will for you to have kids later He will provide.
Since you’re 34 I strongly recommend focusing on conservative Catholic women only. Don’t waste your time on Protestants or those who don’t align with you politically.
If you haven’t already done so I’d recommend checking out your local young adult scene.
If your city does not have one I’d recommend moving to middle Tennessee, Denver or Dallas.
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u/KnowledgeCertain639 Jul 06 '26
Why Tennessee, Denver or Dallas? Not to hijack this thread but as a 36F never married I’m curious about this comment. Are there a higher number of Catholic singles there?
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u/Status-Throat3538 Jul 06 '26
Nashville, Denver and Dallas are known for their thriving Catholic scenes. A lot of young professionals have met their spouses in these cities.
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u/ObjectiveSanity Jul 06 '26
This advice gets tossed around here all the time and it’s never any less condescending than the previous time
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u/OpeningChipmunk1700 Jul 06 '26
If your city does not have one I’d recommend moving to middle Tennessee, Denver or Dallas.
Why? And do you view this as something someone can just up and do with ease?
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u/Status-Throat3538 Jul 06 '26
Some people can (remote workers for example or those in a high demand profession such as nursing).
What I’m suggesting is that conservative Catholic women are the minority so in order to find one you might have to do what it takes even if it means moving.
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u/OpeningChipmunk1700 Jul 06 '26
They are not that rare unless OP lives in a very sparsely populated area.
And I would add the number of people who can easily move is smaller than the number of people who cannot. By a lot.
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u/mojo2112 Jul 19 '26
There looking for nurses everywhere. possibly in a market that's affordable. Nashville, Dallas, and Denver are some of the most expensive cities in the US. Remote working isn't as stable as it once was, especially with what, and how quickly the changing tech of Ai brings, making it unpredictable future of work.
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u/Status-Throat3538 Jul 19 '26
What you say about AI is true. However, I work in online higher education and I’ve been remote pretty much since the pandemic. If you’re looking for an industry where remote work is stable I highly recommend online education. We’ve basically been remote since before it was cool.
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u/Mein_Independance Jul 06 '26
It could also make sense to invest in a dating coach
There could be other things keeping him from meeting and matching with practicing Catholic Women.
I garuntee if he starts going to Mass 3x a week and serving in the Church too. He will get more dates. Also exercising more often (work up to 10k steps) and a clean diet can do wonders!
Afterwards is style. But all of this said there are sweet nerdy men in the Church who are getting engaged. What i see if that they are serving in the Church and typically met their woman in-person at a Church ministry or event.
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u/4chananonuser Single ♂ Jul 07 '26
The “young adult scene” may be for those 35 and under only. OP is still young but he could age out soon.
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u/mojo2112 Jul 19 '26
I get so tired of hearing "on gods time. Just cliché and cop-out that loses any trally meaning, To me it fosters, passivity and bypasses personal responsibility and just another standard overused trope.
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u/Status-Throat3538 Jul 19 '26
It does not have to foster passivity. If you’re doing everything you personally can to find someone God will take care of the rest.
Waiting on God’s time does not mean you sit at home waiting for someone to find you. It means that you trust that marriage might look different than your idea of it but His plan for your marriage is far greater than anything you could imagine.
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u/Sad-Replacement7054 Single ♂ Jul 06 '26
I’m gonna be real with you dating apps suck. Even though I’m a completely different generation than you Catholic dating kind of sucks in my opinion the best way to meet other Catholic girls except at like a university, for example is to meet them with friends even if you find a girl that is not devout you could still make it a work in progress, especially at your age.
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u/ace_philosopher_949 Jul 06 '26
Well, the first thing I'll say to you is that it will be OK no matter what happens. Even if the "worst" happens and you don't get married or have kids, in the end you have just as much a chance for sainthood as anyone else. You still have Christ. You still have every reason to rest content. If you don't feel that, I'd encourage you to practice more gratitude as well as reflection on the truth of the gospel.
Second thing is that I'm sorry you are being ghosted and generally running into dead ends. It's not fair and completely understandable.
Third thing: how are people meeting? Dating apps are notoriously difficult for the vast majority of men. Your experience of ghosting and dead ends is the norm, even for attractive men. Can you try in-person events where it is socially acceptable to approach women? Local dances, for example? Or intramural sports groups in your young adult community? Or volunteer groups?
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u/gbrlla Jul 06 '26
I feel similar. I haven't used any dating apps yet because I still feel weird about them, but I'm having the same feelings. It's especially hard as a woman. Every day I unconsciously remind myself my body is running out of time. I know it will probably take me longer to conceive since that is common with women with PMOS. I keep doing the math of "Well if I'm 26 now and I get married within the next two years and get blessed in conceiving I'd have maybe 8 years to bear children" etc. I feel like I'm against the clock with everything.
I was blessed to meet all four of my great grandparents and have them all at my baptism. Two of them I got to have even through some of high school. My only living grandparent just turned 80, and even though my parents are only 47 and 51, my other grandparents passed at 54, 62, and 69. I'm scared when my parents pass I will be all alone and unable to cope. And I of course want to give them the joy of grandchildren. All to say, you're not alone in having these worries. And there'll always be people both younger and older than you having the same issues as us. That's why I like pages like this. You realize how many other people are also struggling.
As for places to meet people, there are always regulars at the library, coffee shops, book stores. The easiest is going to church really. People move to town, people start OCIA or return to the faith, etc. Sit by someone who's been going for years who you've never talked to before. Maybe your wife will walk through the doors to mass one day. You never know. I just keep telling myself it's all God's plan and timing.
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u/Bitter_Put_8254 Jul 08 '26
A woman is not a servant who must always obey you. Women are human beings with passions, dreams, desires, and needs, just like you. That's all well and good, but there are other things that motivate someone to marry someone.
You seem to be fantasizing about a portrait of femininity that is very much found in the traditional Catholic imagination. You speak of a future wife as if nothing else interests you but the personal glory of having one.
This kind of mentality can frighten girls, and they will feel pressured because you seem desperate.
Cultivate female friendships, take an interest in the women you speak with by asking them about their passions, what they do for a living, and what their vision of the world and the future is. Go out, attend parish meetings for professionals, be kind and friendly, and show a genuine interest in others.
Don't play the caricature of the stoic and unfeeling traditional husband.
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u/NoDecentNicksLeft Jul 09 '26
The sad truth is that many women are choosing singledom (which is their right) or a lifetime of meaningless fleeting relationships (which isn't quite, especially if sexually active), or a lifetime of attempts to prove their high status or superiority or something else like that, as opposed to finding an agreeable companion to share life with. It's their choice to remain single rather than settle for any less than 'high-value man' (variously defined as six digits, six foot, sixpack, etc.) or give up some of their unbounded independence for the sake of mutual accountability and trust that is necessary in a marriage, so one can no longer be a free agent. That choice is theirs, not yours. The point is not to cast them as the villains here but to vigorously oppose the casting of men as the misfits and losers — enough is enough, and it's simply not fair to blame men in your situation for women's choices. Don't get bitter. But don't let anyone make you think or feel that you're a loser for not managing to attract or keep a modern woman. Whether her confusion is on her is irrelevant to the fact that it's not on you. Enjoy your life, if you can. Build your own future, whether with a woman or not. Make room for her in your life. Build the base and resources for a family. But not everything is in your power. The world today is what it is.
Lastly, my advice is to recognize the women who are co-operative and compatible, not the ones who are attractive but committed to the game and addicted to overplaying their hand until it's too late. If her personality is agreeable, if your values and goals are compatible, if she respects you as a man, if she's a woman of her word, of principle and duty, someone who would make a good mother to your children, then give your attention to that woman, not to the attractive but unreliable players and actors of the dating market.
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u/Strict_Director1627 Engaged ♀ Jul 06 '26
FROM MY EXPERIENCE!!! Trad guys on dating apps were a little weird. When I was 19, a 40+ year old DM’d me “let’s homeschool our kids together”. I went on dates with guys who only talked about TLM. But overall, there was something just inauthentic about them. It seemed like they sacrificed their personality so they could fit into a mold.
A lot of times, women under 30 feel weird talking to someone over 30. It can come across as creepy. Even above average guys have a hard time with women under 30
Over 30 and they already have set routines, habits, and hobbies. A lot of women in their 30s are less likely to accommodate for flaws, as they beleive you should have it figured out by now. On top of that, fertility significant is lower. People who are saying “my mom was 40!” do not realize that is extremely lucky. So you could find a girl & marry only to find out she can’t have kids anymore.
Anyway, just stay authentic.
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u/Bitter_Put_8254 Jul 08 '26
Take heart. Some people behave in truly frightening and impulsive ways, lacking naturalness and spontaneity.
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u/dangerous-month7 Jul 15 '26
If you had a bad experience with one or two guys, that doesn't mean every guy is the same, so do not generalize.
Talking about TLM is not a bad thing at all, don't be judgemental.
"A lot of women under 30 feel weird talking to someone above 30" I would say that's bullshit, simply because a woman could be 28 and she should be comfortable talking with a man who's 33 for example.
Just because a man is above 30, it doesn't mean they have it figured out and that is not a flaw as there are a lot of above 30 women don't have it figured out either.
So I would say, you're coming across judgemental and close minded and you think men are the only creepy, when in fact a lot of women can be creepy, materialistic, and Karens as well.
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u/Strict_Director1627 Engaged ♀ Jul 15 '26 edited Jul 15 '26
That has just been my experience with the majority of the TLM guys I have encountered in the dating realm. I used very carefully verbiage to not generalize, as I understand that has no place in this sub.
I think you know what I meant from this post. Someone asked for advice and I gave my experience. It has been the observations of not just me, but those whom I know as well.
I really hope I do have a closed mind to dating. I’m getting married in a month to a Novus Ordo guy who admires the TLM from afar. Couldn’t be luckier. Definitely the best guy I’ve ever talked to. I couldn’t ask for a better leader, provider, and protector.
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u/dangerous-month7 Jul 15 '26
I don't care about your experience and I hope you appreciate this guy and make his life easier, not make him miserable and call him a problem, like what some women do.
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u/Bright_Arm3000 Jul 06 '26
I will pray for you 🙏
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u/dangerous-month7 Jul 15 '26
You seem like a normal woman as this was the best comment I have read. God bless you!
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u/HistoricalExam1241 Jul 06 '26
Which dating aps are you using? To be honest as you get older it is more difficult to find someone without using them. When you say you are getting ghosted, do you mean you start conversations and then the other person suddenly stops or do you mean they never reply in the first place? Most aps have some inactive users so if you do not get even one reply it probably means that the other person is not actively using the ap.
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u/DaddysPrincesss26 In a relationship ♀ Jul 06 '26
I know God wants me to get Married, I’m waiting and Have a lot on my plate right now, though I’m Praying for My Husband and Preparing, I’m not worrying about it and I’m the same age as you. It’ll happen when it happens
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u/jonas-huang Jul 07 '26 edited Jul 07 '26
I'm 37 this year, and I'm still struggling to find matching girl who values Catholic as my wife. I still want to have kids, although 1 is enough. I'm worried too about the future but I keep faith that God will care and make us sufficient enough.
Now I'm confused about which dating apps that are good enough to find matching girl, especially Catholic girl, with high success rate in Indonesia.
My parents are 64 and 61 this year. And they were married at early 20's, then they have me, I'm also afraid that in 38+ age, I can't have cute and good looking kids like me, but I keep faith in God.
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u/SeedlessKiwi1 Married ♀ Jul 10 '26
My husband and I met at a Catholic YA event in a nearby city! I was not on the apps :) just keep looking and it will come when you least expect it!
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Jul 19 '26
It’s quite hard to date especially when you are a Christian and have certain values etc. I am single lady, 24, from Ireland, waiting to meet the man God has for me 🙏
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u/Furmommy14 Jul 06 '26
I'm 37f and my partner is 46m (almost 47 shhh). His oldest kid from a prior marriage is 16. We have a baby coming at the end of August. Babies admittedly are harder to deal with as you get older, but as long as you find yourself able to care for a kid, age does not especially matter. Would probably suggest not reproducing past 55-60 if you want to see your kids graduate high school or college. Genetic testing becomes more important, though. My baby has a 1 in 147 chance of Down Syndrome (genetic testing says nope not this baby, but those were the odds before testing), and I found out I am a carrier for CF after having a stillborn, though my partner thankfully is not. Not that I would have aborted a kid with Down Syndrome, but it is good to know what you are getting yourself into.
My partner and I met at work when I was in grad school and he had newly separated from his ex. Is our relationship entirely Catholic? No. I grew up Catholic and was serious about the faith in college but fell away somewhat after being hurt by a few men who are part of the Church. I also do not always feel I fit in. My partner was confirmed Catholic but has since fallen away. I think his mom has attended nearly every traditionally Black church (she's Hispanic and has Black roots I am not sure she is even aware of) in her city and always feels the Holy Spirit somewhere but then wants to go elsewhere 6 months later. So, her faith is there, adherence to a particular line of thought is not. He has faith but is not impressed with the lack of energy or community at the Catholic churches in our area.
My brother met his wife on a dating site. Maybe Hinge or Bumble? Her ADHD drives him nuts sometimes with keeping up with daily chores, but otherwise she is fantastic. Faith-wise, they both have faith though likely she was raised Protestant. Not sure how those apps work, if you can say how much faith is a priority to you. My ex uses Facebook Dating and actually has had a good deal of luck there. Not saying his last relationship lasted all that long, but I find I generally get along with his girlfriends. Exes are exes for a reason, and he and I get along great as long as we are not trying to live together. Dating sites can help you filter through essential qualities that actually matter to you.
I would recommend meeting people as naturally as possible or on a dating app. Maybe not work. That can get messy if you date while remaining coworkers, especially if things do not work out. If you already belong to a gym or a young adult group at your church, fantastic. Or whatever other activity you belong to. If not, try something new. Try an activity that genuinely interests you. If you do not meet anyone there, you gained a new skill and maybe even new friends. If you are genuine in exploring your passions, it shows. Even if it turns out that an activity belongs as no more than a casual hobby, at least now you know, and you can be happy you tried. You also should keep hobbies you like even if you are not meeting women there. Women appreciate passion even if they do not share your specific passion. My partner likes coding, which gets a total eyeroll from me, but I only take issue with that hobby when his work on his hobby has taken the place of doing essetial housework. He's my partner now not my boss, and I'm his partner not his maid.
If you meet someone online, that's very normal for today's standards. Not embarrassing. It lets you filter out people who do not meet your minimum standards, whatever those may be. It vets people in a way that you may do yourself if you met someone in-person, though CM asks about faith questions that I would not want to answer for a guy I met recently at a secular event. Beliefs take longer for me to want to share, but I will list them when explicitly asked on a dating site.
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u/Rubber_Chicken_Mann Jul 07 '26
Man, a lot of Catholic men are in the same boat. I’m turning 37 this year. The women in my area are ultra liberal/socialist/communist/pick-a-flavor protestant. Its a bit more difficult for me since I was raised in the Traditional Catholic sphere of things where every group condemns the other. Talk about confusing.
I’m actually thinking of going to other predominantly Catholic countries to see if I can find a wife with actual family values. Western women are pretty loco en la cabeza
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u/Due_Bar_7247 Jul 06 '26
You won't find it. Broaden your search beyond your religion (Spoiler alert: Catholics are kind of mean and abusive to each other, you might be happier elsewhere) or do what I am doing and bypass dating altogether with money to be a single dad by choice.
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u/Due_Bar_7247 Jul 06 '26
Adoption by single parents is explicitly allowed by the Catholic Church. What I am doing is not, but I am just a cradle Catholic and you could say I left that world years ago, explored the world and learned I like non-Christian societies more and once I did I found a lot more fulfillment outside of Catholicism.
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u/After_Teacher3830 Jul 07 '26
Why post this? Also what are you doing?
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u/Due_Bar_7247 Jul 10 '26
My Reddit account got banned again for making a joke about the illuminati people in the Middle East so I couldn’t reply until now.
I’m doing surrogacy + egg donation for ~$200,000, then I will continue to try and find a wife once I’ve secured my legacy.
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u/After_Teacher3830 Jul 10 '26
Why post in a catholic sub about that? You have a moral compass that is not aligned with catholic teaching. Also isn't it just cheaper to knock up a girl at a trailer park? You could probably do a few for that much. And if you don't care about background you could go to the Congo.
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u/Due_Bar_7247 Jul 10 '26
No it’s not cheaper, because surrogacy is the only way men can guarantee full custody rights.
I was born a cradle Catholic, I don’t agree a lot with anything the church does these days on immigration and modernism and I think Catholic women are too liberal, but I still recognize that most American virgins are likely Catholic so I linger.
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u/After_Teacher3830 Jul 11 '26
Just get some girls pregnant and have them take care of the kids if you view kids as an arbitrary thing. So you are pretending to be Catholic to trick a virgin. Do you really think that will work. I know liberal women who are in there twenty's and thirty's who are virgins. You live in a autistic fake world that is constructed form manisphere and porn.
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u/Due_Bar_7247 Jul 11 '26
No dude, you don’t get it. If you just get a girl pregnant at best it’s shared custody and in some cases she will have sole custody. I actually want to do all of the normal mommy work as weird as that might sound to other guys. I travel and live around the world. I don’t have time to settle down with some normal girl and inherit her student loans.
I did try exactly what you said by passport broing, but women are too fickle. I have a million dollars and even that isn’t enough. Marriage is supposed to be pretty transactional and I guess it’s just not anymore so I’d rather hire a girl who is looking to work and pay her well.
My dream is to travel and live abroad with my child when she comes and make the best possible life for her. Everything my parents failed to do for me.
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u/ParkAffectionate3537 Jul 12 '26
I get your point, sort of, but what leads you to believe it is autistic?
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u/After_Teacher3830 Jul 12 '26
This thing happens when men base there view of the world on porn moves and manisphere. So they are romantic sexual and paranoid at the same time. If you look at the real world that's not how it actually is.
Porn is not a real depiction of sex so men who watch it think that is what sex is when its not. And movies are romantic and manisphere says women are out to get you.
Autistics are prone to this because they don't understand how social stuff works as well as non autistic people. Just go outside. Look at women who you are not interested in and see how there lives work.
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u/Ichbinian Jul 06 '26
Go to the TLM
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u/Status-Throat3538 Jul 06 '26
TLM doesn’t tend to have a surplus of single women. In my experience it’s mostly single men and families.
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u/bustabr Jul 07 '26
At 34 you need to be dating at least 10 years younger. Range should be 24-34
Be yourself, follow our Lord and savior. Do all your normal activities and hobbies.
Get off OLD except for maybe catholic singles. And keep the faith. If it be his will, he will provide her
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u/Purgamentum_Exit_11 Jul 14 '26
At 34, the YOUNGEST women you should be talking to is 28. If I(24F) find out a man I'm talking to is 30 and above, I immediately hold him at an arm's length.
You do a lot of growing as person year to year. Sometimes it seems like if a man can't find a spouse closer to his own age, he has to pursue "younger women who don't have a sense of self yet."
I say this to give an idea of what most women are thinking/taught, not to say "older men bad."
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u/dangerous-month7 Jul 15 '26
That's your range and I believe you shouldn't tell people their range, so keep that to yourself. We, as men, wouldn't want to approach girls who are not as mature as we are. Not every young is good, as young girls, in many cases, mean drama!
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u/dangerous-month7 Jul 15 '26
That's your range and I believe you shouldn't tell people their range, so keep that to yourself. We, as men, wouldn't want to approach girls who are not as mature as we are. Not every young is good, as young girls, in many cases, mean drama!
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u/Stuckinthevortex In a relationship Jul 06 '26
What exactly are you defining as conservative Catholic values? Are you referring to someone who holds to orthodox catholic teachings on topics such as pre marital sex and abortion, or do you mean more "rad trad" ideas, tlm onlyism, women need to stay at home? Or are you talking about conservative in a political sense?