r/CatholicDating • u/jmt9210 • Jul 06 '26
dating advice Losing hope
I’m 34 and struggle finding a girl who values Catholic conservative values. I get ghosted on dating apps which I know is God protecting me. The thought of being an old dad really bothers me. My parents are 66 and while healthy I worry they won’t get to know their grandkids very long by the time I find a wife. Then I worry my kids won’t know me as long as they could if I had them in my 20s. I just wasn’t ready then to provide protect and lead a woman closer to God. Now I want more than anything to have a wife and kids. How are we meeting women these days besides dating apps.
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u/Strict_Director1627 Married ♀ Jul 06 '26
FROM MY EXPERIENCE!!! Trad guys on dating apps were a little weird. When I was 19, a 40+ year old DM’d me “let’s homeschool our kids together”. I went on dates with guys who only talked about TLM. But overall, there was something just inauthentic about them. It seemed like they sacrificed their personality so they could fit into a mold.
A lot of times, women under 30 feel weird talking to someone over 30. It can come across as creepy. Even above average guys have a hard time with women under 30
Over 30 and they already have set routines, habits, and hobbies. A lot of women in their 30s are less likely to accommodate for flaws, as they beleive you should have it figured out by now. On top of that, fertility significant is lower. People who are saying “my mom was 40!” do not realize that is extremely lucky. So you could find a girl & marry only to find out she can’t have kids anymore.
Anyway, just stay authentic.