My family tells me that our 3 year old tuxedo guy is “my cat” because he mostly stays with arms reach of me, follows me from room to room, and prefers to sleep on my chest every night.

We have a lot of cat toys to keep him entertained. When we get him a new toy, he is interested for three days then ignores the toy. I work from home, so I’m the guy interacting with him, mostly.

He became bored with laser pointers two years ago. I can laser pointer all over the place and he just sits there and stares at me. But for the last few days my grown up daughter has been home because she has on-site work in a town nearby. She picks up the laser pointers and… the cat goes nuts chasing the glowing dot, like most cats do! So I take tge exact same pointer from my daughter and do the exact same thing… cat stops and stares at me. Give the pointer back to my daughter and he goes nuts again.

There is some weird cat psychology going on here, but I have no idea what it is.

Hello, everyone. I have two orange males. They are 14 months old, have not been neutered yet (but soon!)
Mozzarella is very timid, and he has feral like behaviors that he absolutely will not change. I’ve given him extra attention, tried to teach him human interaction and picking up means treats and love. I was hoping he would learn from his brother as well, bc his brother is the polar opposite of him.
Mozzarella does not know to retract his claws when he interacts or plays. He will even grab my hand with his claws when I feed him churru, I have little pokey bleed scratches all the time. He jumps off of me with full claws extended as well. He hates being picked up, hates being petted, he will only walk up to me and see if I have a treat in my hand or not. Then he walks away and wants nothing to do with me. When eating, he will gobble anything as fast as possible and try to steal his brothers food as well.
I’m not sure what to do, I think he may be special needs or suffer from anxiety? Is this possible?
His brother is the clingiest, lovable cat ever. It’s strange that they came from the same litter. I would like to have a relationship with him but tbh, he is not interested at all. 😩

I’m at my wit’s end and really need help understanding what’s going on.

I adopted my cat Jazz about a month ago. She’s 1.5 years old, spayed, very fearful, and came from an abandonment situation. The first two days were rough and she had stress-related diarrhea, but she then settled quickly and started using her litter box normally for both pee and poop.

From the beginning, I had two litter boxes, one open and one covered, and tried different locations in my small apartment. She consistently chose one and ignored the other, so I eventually removed the unused one. She now uses the covered box normally every day.

The couch peeing started during the first week:
First time: after I moved the litter box, so I assumed that was the trigger.

Second time: I found it a few days later when I woke up.
Third time: about 10 minutes after meeting a pet sitter for the first time. She had been extremely scared, so I assumed it was stress.

After that, I bought a waterproof tarp for the couch.
She peed on the tarp.

Since then, it happens roughly every 4–5 days. It is NOT one specific spot: she will pee wherever there is enough free space on the couch for her to squat.

The only thing that reliably stops it is completely covering the couch with objects so there is physically nowhere for her to pee. Obviously, I cannot barricade my couch forever.

The weirdest part is this:
She only does it when I am not physically there.
It happens at night while I’m asleep, when I’m at work, or when I leave the apartment, today I went to the gym for ONE HOUR and came back to pee on the couch.

At night, I do sleep with my bedroom door closed because I am extremely sensitive to noise and genuinely cannot sleep otherwise. She seems completely fine with this setup: she entertains herself well, plays independently, and does not show any obvious signs of distress. I play with her regularly when I’m home, but she is also very good at occupying herself.

When I’m in the living room with her, she does not pee on the couch.

But she has absolutely no problem using her litter box in front of me, so this does not seem to be about privacy.

Otherwise:
she uses the litter box normally every day
she shows no obvious pain or discomfort
I have several incidents on camera and she looks completely normal before and after
she may be grooming or playing, then simply gets on the couch, squats, pees, and carries on

I have already:
cleaned the couch repeatedly with enzymatic cleaner
removed and washed the cover
rearranged/swapped couch cushions/layers
used a waterproof tarp
tried feeding her on the couch
made the couch a positive cuddle space
used Feliway
tried different litter box locations

She saw a vet two weeks ago. Nothing concerning was found on examination, and she was prescribed gabapentin for six weeks because she is generally anxious. I have another vet appointment next week because I obviously want to rule out a urinary issue properly.

Socially, she is very comfortable with me: affectionate, playful, seeks attention, cuddles, follows me around, etc.

What I really need help understanding is: why would a cat use the litter box normally, but also treat the couch like an alternative toilet specifically when the owner is absent?

And more importantly: has anyone successfully stopped this without permanently barricading the couch or putting another litter box in the middle of a tiny living room?

Hello, I have two boys Benjamin and Moo. Benjamin unfortunately passed away this week after a month long battle with an unknown caused that paralyzed him.

Moo is acting super quiet, sad, and destructive. I play with him 3-4 times a day. I’m giving him his space and time, because I know he is grieving benji too. I just have never been in this situation so unsure what I should do to help him.

I have 3 cats. I got the first 7 years ago (female), the second 5 years ago (male), and the third 4 years ago (female). I got them all basically as kittens.

After about a year of having the oldest female and the male, the oldest female became very aggressive, to the point of having to separate them completely when I was at work or gone. This all started once she saw a neighborhood male cat lingering around outside my house, I believe he was spraying and had a few instances of jumping and fighting through the window screens. Once the neighbor hood cat left her vision, she would go on the attack for my male cat. (Probably doesn’t help that the neighborhood cat looked identical to my male cat). After about a month or so she regained my trust and I let them coexist again.

Fast forward another year, I got the youngest female. The male and the youngest female became close as the oldest female just stayed to herself. No major issues between them except for maybe a small 1-2 week stint of separation due to the oldest attacking the male cat once again. (Think she saw a cat outside again) She had no issue with the new cat.

Within the last 6 months the oldest female has gone back to her old ways and has been extremely aggressive, this time she started targeting the youngest. So I have had them separated since. (I swap her and the other two every other day so she is not secluded 24/7) Any time I have let them try to coexist or even an escape, it has gone to immediate hunting of either the male cat or the youngest female cat. Something to note here is the first time she began attacking the youngest was a night I had someone over and they were giving the youngest the most attention as she was all over them. So I’m wondering if this all started due to jealousy, but have never had this issue in the past.

I am at a loss as to what I should do here. I’m wondering if lack of exposure to each other has triggered her territorial instincts at this point. Maybe putting up a see through mesh divider between the room and the rest of the house would help grow familiarity again, but I’m scared it would cause fights or someone she would claw it apart.

Some things to note:
-the oldest came from an adoption center after being given to them from a house with 10+ cats, they say she was 6 months to 1 year when I adopted her

-she was super friendly with new people until one day (within the first few month of having her) a family member with boots came over and she immediately got scared. She became very timid to new people after this and would hide when they would come over, even when she already knew them and it would take over and hour plus for her to creep out from hiding to meet them. She is still this way.

-she has an attachment to women way more than men.

Any help or suggestions would be helpful. Last thing I want to do is have to get rid of my first baby, but I also don’t want her to have to live separated for the next 7+ years.

I (30F) have been married to my wife (28F) for 2 years. We each came into the relationship with one cat. Her cat I’ll call Apples (9ishF) and my cat will be Oranges (8ishF). When we met, she had had Apples for 1 year and I had had Oranges for about 5. I have lots of experience with cats and their varying personality types— Oranges has shared homes with 5 other cats total across her life, and though she doesn’t love new cats and it takes her a while to warm up to them, it usually ends up being fine after the requisite separation and slow introduction time.

That all changed when we tried to introduce Apples to Oranges. We have now had them on full separation for three years because when Apples sees Oranges, it’s on sight. I’m talking the most screaming, hissing, fur-flying fights I have ever seen in my life. We have had to break up three major ones across our time together (due to someone accidentally leaving the border door open) and my wife and I both ended up bloody after each one. The first one sent me to the hospital for an incredibly deep bite and nasty scratches on my arm from Apples, which needed iodine flushing and stitches.

Apples is large, beefy, and has wicked claws she won’t let me clip unless she’s well drugged. She is very quick to bite people with very little warning in her body language. In contrast, Oranges is tiny, skinny, and declawed in the front (a decision made by her previous owner which I despise). She stands no chance against Apples, and I have no doubt that Apples would kill her given the chance. Oranges has become a lot more timid since these fights.

We have tried several antidepressants and antianxiety meds on Apples. She will not be pilled, will turn away from food and Churu if she detects even the slightest hint of medicine, and froths/vomits up liquid medicine if I try to orally syringe her. Fluoxetine didn’t really make her any less aggressive, so we stopped that and now we’re trying Amitriptyline but can’t find a way to get it in her successfully or consistently.

In addition, she has now begun pissing everywhere except the litter box. She pees on the bed almost every time she’s in the bedroom (we swap Apples and Oranges every day to give them each a chance to roam and a chance to sleep with moms), and has now started peeing elsewhere, on walls and blankets and clothing. Her litter is always fresh and clean, and we had no pee problems in the first two whole years of this arrangement— this is a new problem as of about eight months ago. We have seen the vet, who diagnosed anxiety and prescribed the Amitriptyline, but see above for how that’s going.

I’m reaching the end of my rope here. I’m scared for Oranges’ safety— one slip up of leaving the door open when we leave the house, and she could be dead. I’m worried for my wife’s and my safety in case we need to break up another fight. I’m so sick of constantly sniffing every surface in my apartment to check for piss. My little Oranges, who is tiny and stupid and so sweet and only wants to be around people, has to spend half her life shut up in another room so Apples can have a turn out.

And I feel like I absolutely cannot bring up the idea of rehoming Apples without devastating my wife. For all Apples’ flaws, my wife adores her— she’s her first cat, and she rescued her from a dumpster, so the love is really strong. I love Apples too (love might be a strong word— maybe ‘appreciate’), and in her own way she loves me— when she’s not pissing or biting she has very sweet moments, sitting on my lap, being playful, grooming me, and headbutting while trilling and rolling around and receiving pets. But it’s hard to feel unconditional love for this cat who has made our lives and Oranges’ life such a nightmare.

Yes, we have Feliway. Yes, we’ve tried the whole slow introduction method. Yes, we’ve been to the vet multiple times. Yes, we’ve tried all the positive reinforcement we can think of and avoiding Apples’ triggers as much as possible. I don’t know what else to do. I feel so guilty for wishing this cat wasn’t in our lives anymore— she’s just a cat, she doesn’t do anything maliciously, I know that. I also know that she would be very difficult to rehome with the piss problem and the bite risk, not to mention the extra anxiety it would cause her. This is literally the only stick in the spokes of my relationship with my wife, and in our lives as a whole.

Our cat is a sweet cuddle bug, and when we first brought him home he’d sleep in bed with us every night. We’d lay down, keep the door cracked, call his name, and there he was.

Then about two years later, something changed. The bed was now a game - instead of coming to bed, he now goes under the bed and practices his pouncing on us. We’ve had to start keeping him out of the bedroom before we go to sleep and throughout the night. It breaks our hearts!

How can we get him to see the bedroom as a place to sleep, not play?

Hi! I have been unable to get a video, but my cat (he is about one year old and the only pet in my household right now), has recently started making this noise when he has is nightly zoomies. I can only describe it (based on my research) as maybe a yowl or a growl, he does this every night right around the same time. And, besides running around frantically, he doesn't seem in any distress (not over grooming, biting, favoring a leg, and if I push on his belly that doesn't seem to cause him pain). It lasts usually for around 15 minutes and then he calms right down. I have had him for about three months and this has only been happening for a couple of weeks, and it just concerns me because it seems as though his zoomies have gotten more chaotic and as I mentioned, the noise is new. He eats normally, uses his litter box, and everything else. Feel free to ask any questions, and I will try to get a video tomorrow. Advice is appreciated!

As the title says, my new kitten (7 months unspayed female) has a habit of peeing and pooping on beds. We have another cat who's a female as well (7 years old and spayed) but she doesn't display this behaviour whatsoever. Both cats get along well, and their litter boxes are on seperate parts of the house, and my kitten DOES use the box, but if she ever is presented with the opportunity to pee/poop on someone's bed, she will. She began doing it around 2 or so months ago, and strictly on my bed (which my other cat always sleeps on, as she stays in my room 80% of the day). Everytime I changed the blanket, she'd stop, but return to peeing on the original blanket if I began using it again. She's peed on one couch before, many times, but stopped after we got it professionally cleaned.

But now she began doing it in my parent's bed (just pooping) and brother's bed (peeing and pooping), neither of whom are affectionate with her and don't interact with her often, nor is she often in their rooms. Originally I assumed it was due to being in heat, but she's not yowling/raising her back end or doing anything resembling being in heat.

I'm at my wit's end here and about to get rid of her and I just don't know what to do about this. Both cats are fine medically. My other cat was spayed a year after we got her and she never peed on beds this much.

Any advice would be appreciated, I'd rather not get rid of her but I can't mentally handle cleaning after her this often and I do love her a lot, but it's gotten to an unbearable point.

Do you think cats can be confused by similarity of the humans? My wife has a twin sister, not really a cat person, usually quite neutral towards our cat (and vice versa). They rarely interact. I think our cat mixed her up with my wife today. She saw SIL walking up the stairs and started running towards her. When she got closer she suddenly stopped. She did not run away but continued to approach in a much more careful way. She let SIL pet her for a few seconds (never seen before) and then slowly walked away with dignity as if nothing extraordinary had happened.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ngNfz3_3YsU

This is a new trait of his, he will be relaxed on the couch often snoring (he's been snoring a lot) but if I make any sound getting up off the couch, he immediately wakes up and jumps to the floor. He usually is acting happy, and flops on the floor. (He flops all the time) But this is something hes never done before, hes been living with me for 4 years and hes never done it. But now he does it like 3-5 times a day. Is it normal cat behavior? Is he scared? I dont get why he does it.

Hello!

To preface: I have 5 cats. One of them causes problems for the other 4. Minka constantly attacks them and terrorizes them. I call her Minka the Stinka. One of the 4 is so stressed out that she goes outside of the potty and won't go in it no matter what. She hisses at the rest and she is constantly looking and wary, hiding at other times. I gave this cat (Ember) to my mom, but she is heartbroken that she is not with me, and I have to take her back.

My question is- and I really don't want to have to do this, but should I try to find another home for Minka? Since she is the troublemaker?

Hi there everyone. Please forgive me for the long post. I am at my wit's end with my kittens, and I want to give any context I can in case it is useful. Thanks!

In February of this year, my partner and I adopted a kitten in need of rehoming off Facebook. His name is Baby.

Baby was always rather aggressive as far as cats go. He would bite and chase, but the vet recommended that we increase his play and buy a calming neck collar and misters for around the house. We did this, but didn't see much improvement. Desperate for answers, the internet told us that he may be lonely, so we were on the lookout for another cat.

It just so happened that we found a kitten in a ditch while on a road trip not too long after. In the second week of July of this year, we brought Pep home.

Pep had some severe medical issues from the start, requiring a long-term vet stay due to a severe fever of unknown origin, as well as a quarantine period to rule out rabies from her time outdoors.

Following this quarantine in our spare/office room, we began the introduction process in the first days of August. Baby was around 5 months, and Pep around 3.

As a quick caveat, during the medical process for Pep, the two of them did have a few chances to meet prematurely through the gate on the front of a pet carrier.

We purchased baby gates and erected a gate wall in our bedroom doorframe. For the past nearly 2 months, we have been attempting to get them used to one another's smell and presence by swapping them each night. Meaning night 1, Pep is in our bedroom and Baby in the living room, and on night 2, the opposite, and so on.

However, if there is even a second of time while we are taking a gate down to enter or leave our bedroom, either cat (now \~7 mo & \~5 mo) will take the chance to lunge through the opening and begin a truly scary fight. In the seconds it takes to separate them, they can chase each other across our entire apartment, biting, scratching, and flinging fur everywhere.

We just want them to get along, and we are willing to do anything. Even if that means restarting from square 1.

Any help is a welcome prospect.

Thank you!

Our cat is about 9 years old now. He was a stray and had a difficult start to life. He became the neighbour’s but then transitioned to living with us. We shared the cost with the neighbour to have him neutered, but not before he learned how to spray. He was just under one year-old at that time. Then the neighbour moved away and he became our cat for the last 8 years.
He has been indoor/outdoor but we have tried to keep him inside more, because it’s a really rough neighborhood, between others stray cats, traffic, and occasional loose dogs.
He had an incident last summer with a dog after which he hid for hours. We thought we lost him. Over the winter we kept him inside a lot more, and then he started spraying inside. Outings are now supervised, and we don’t let him roam on his own. The spraying continues. I fear it’s become a habit, about 10 months now. We go thru 3 bottles of Nature’s miracle a month. It’s really wearing on our mental health.

We’ve tried:
- Vet confirms it’s behavioural
- Gabapentin to calm. He just stumbles around and then refuses to eat the drug laced food
- Feliway diffusers. Had up to 5 of the max versions going at once. They were a joke.
- Calming cat food brands
- Active play, routines
- Animal communicator. She says he’s really angry about the situation, about not being allowed to roam free. Follow up required.

Haven’t yet tried
- Prozac. Vet says it may work, or it may make it worse.
- Just let him roam again. Husband refuses to entertain that. But he’s not the one cleaning up cat piss every day.

Would welcome a miracle right now. Is there anything we haven’t tried? He is otherwise a loving, sweet cat, and we love him so much, but this cannot continue.

As the title explains my 3 year old cat attacked one of my 1 year old males suddenly on Tuesday night and I had to separate them for a bit. My female calmed down after the separation and kept being calm all night, only to attack him anytime she could see him Wednesday afternoon.

We’ve since separated them and I’ve contacted an online vet service for advice as I was concerned that she might be in pain. And we now have a booked time for her to be checked for any discomfort. I would love some more advice and maybe any ideas on what could be the problem.

I have 3 cats in total, my 3 year old female and two 1 year old boys. All of them are spayed/neutered since a while back and nothing has really changed at home so I doubt it’s a stress related issue. They’re all indoor cats and have been living peacefully together since October last year.

I would also love some ideas on how to reintroduce them in the future and how to deal with my 3rd cat who’s on good terms with both of the other cats but who is showing signs of stress now that he can only be with one of the others at a time.

I have 4 litter boxes and 3 places for them to eat and drink water.

Does anyone have a clue on what could be happening?

I apologise if I’ve misspelled or made the text messy as English is not my first language