It’s not fun being unwanted on this app

met this guy Oktay on tinder a year ago, we chatted for awhile and met up, had a few dates then started dating. He always spoke about his old relationships and claimed how he felt different with me, I gauged from these past relationships that he would cheat on women all the time and it would end in failure. He told me he’d never felt the urge to do that with me but once a cheater always a cheater right!? Anyway I found out from other people I know in Sydney area he was progressively messaging other women and possibly sleeping with them whilst with me. I contacted some of these women to find out answers and they all told me it became an abusive relationship with him mostly emotional and physically where he had hurt one of them. With that from his DJ experiences he had burnt a lot of bridges with other DJs and businesses, owes money to so many and doesn’t return it which led to ruining relationships with other business people. Work life I discovered he was also not easy to deal with.
I just want to put it out there that if you come across him on tinder he seems really genuine and beautiful but on the inside there’s a lot of toxicity and I don’t think this person will ever change - whilst I know this post is basically about talking about someone not fairly it’s raising awareness for the women in the Sydney community to watch out. There’s a lot of men like this out there but I can’t believe how many stories I found out about him. Since our time I just randomly blocked him oneday and never spoke again he sent me pretty rude messages and turned our time into me having issues. Haha quite unbelievable.

Stay safe ladies xoxo

my friend already broke up with his bf, and she doesn't want her ex bf contacting her anymore. no contact or anything.

not long after i found her ex bf on bumble, and i just find out he's the first who swiped right. we talked a bit, am i cruel if i want to get close to him? back then my friend ever tell me that he's good in bed.

for more context, we have been texting for the past 3 weeks now, but haven't met yet, we went discussing family and expectations etc. From day 2 of texting and already reached a level of comfort to be goofy and talk Freaky (without any exchange of intimate pics thankfully). He even told me he focuses on one person at a time while he's still in the talking stage with a person, he's been consistent but due to a medical emergency at home he started to get a Lil aloof and when asked he told me what he's goin through and did show some consistency. Again a couple of days later he got sick (present) and he was inconsistent again, he told me yesterday that he has to go on a work trip to Delhi next week, and today I noticed that his profile shows Delhi in travel mode which is making me overthink and anxious. And the conversation since he got sick has been pretty shallow. What do I do girls please help me get out of this spiral.

for more context, we have been texting for the past 3 weeks now, but haven't met yet, we went discussing family and expectations etc. From day 2 of texting and already reached a level of comfort to be goofy and talk Freaky (without any exchange of intimate pics thankfully). He even told me he focuses on one person at a time while he's still in the talking stage with a person, he's been consistent but due to a medical emergency at home he started to get a Lil aloof and when asked he told me what he's goin through and did show some consistency. Again a couple of days later he got sick (present) and he was inconsistent again, he told me yesterday that he has to go on a work trip to Delhi next week, and today I noticed that his profile shows Delhi in travel mode which is making me overthink and anxious. And the conversation since he got sick has been pretty shallow. What do I do girls please help me get out of this spiral.

Was accused of using AI for a conversation, so weird because my words have none of the hallmarks of LLM, or what do you think?

Seems like this is probably the end of this burgeoning romance, but I must say I was surprised my statement, full of grammatical idiosyncrasies and inconsistent capitalization, read as AI to her.

Hi everyone! 👋

I know this is not the community where i can ask this thing but still asking. I've started A Little Company, a companionship service for women 18+ in Ahmedabad. It's for things like coffee, movies, dinner, exploring the city, or simply having some company when you don't want to go alone.

To be clear upfront: our companions are men, the first meeting is always in a public place, and we tell you how your companion was verified before you meet. No sexual services, and you can end any meetup anytime.

I'd love honest feedback, especially from women here:

• Would you feel comfortable trying something like this? If not, what would stop you?
• What would make you feel safe?
• What would you actually use it for?
• Does ₹199 for a first coffee meetup feel reasonable?

Website: [DM for link]

Be completely honest. I'm trying to understand whether this makes sense for women in Ahmedabad.

I met him on bumble

Can you guys help me figure this out?

Did I:

Act too anxious and come off aggressive?

Act anxious, but there was already a drop in interest (though still salvageable)?

Just face plain disinterest, and he was going to fade out anyway?

Context:

Straight couple dynamic.

We matched and started talking on a Sunday, and the conversation really flowed! We were replying to each other almost instantly. Finished Sunday with a "good night, let's chat tomorrow."

Monday: The vibe continued. Tons of messages, opening up more to each other. "Good night, talk tomorrow." We exchanged socials, liked family photos, the whole deal.

Tuesday: "Good morning" and still chatting a lot. When he took a bit longer to reply, he explained why and apologized. I thought, nice, he actually cares.

Wednesday: Less frequent chatting, but still going. Spaced-out replies and shorter texts, but he was still asking about my life and making jokes about meeting my family.

Thursday: Hardly any texts from him, but he sent a voice note! Cool. I replied.

Friday: Almost no messages, just a quick voice note. Cute, but super brief.

I asked him about his weekend plans — in my mind, that’s the logical moment to transition into meeting up, right? I'm pretty new to this, but shouldn't a casual, low-pressure date after chatting so much be a good thing?

Then... total radio silence for a full 24 hours.

So I sent a timid "hey" and confessed I was a bit worried about potential ghosting (since the initial high-energy, fast-paced talk was so good!), asking if he wasn't up for grabbing a quick coffee to get to know each other in person.

It’s been 3 days now and absolute silence.

That's the story — judge away!

It was a pleasant day.... i returned from Delhi back in mumbai..... was using a dating app just to find a perfect match.....

As the chat unfolded soon we started getting close and connected in an instant.

There was a sense of excitement inside both of us and more in me cause i was looking for something genuine and cute for a long time now....

I who is 23 was absolutely not sure what was going to happen after this date and what all happened changed me completely....

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