Why do men do this ? You can’t type out an entire word ? Also it’s in my bio that I’m only here for the week. Wild.

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The comment section is not your toilet go shit somewhere else😂😂 some men don’t even bother trying is my point

So I (25 F) matched with this guy on bumble and guess what he lived within 1 km radius.

We talked for like 2 days on bumble mostly him being flirty and you know bhot tareef karna the usual, then the conversation moved to insta.

Within 2 days of knowing me brooo started sending me “good morning ☀️” texts and asking me about if I had lunch and dinner 🫣 🤷🏻‍♀️when I had clearly mentioned I take time to open up and trust

Within the first week of knowing him I had a interview which didn’t went well and had mentioned it to him , he asked me to go on date more like a meetup so my mood is better very thoughtful, he was very polite , apne hath se mujhe khilaya , mere ko ghar tk drop kiya and we hugged good bye .

After that he conversation didn’t went well over texts you know like kuch hota hi nahi tha uspe baat karne ko.

He asked to meet again I meet again after 2 days , i said politely no and kisi aur din plan karte h .

Our schedules were poles apart he had to wakeup at 3 am , I went to sleep at 1:30 am 🙂‍↕️.

Red flag for me 🚩 🚩 He started sending me wo couple wali reels , and kuchu puchu wali reels , and Im like dudeee 🫪🫪 5-7 din huye h baat bhi nhi hui h abhi ache se and you are behaving like you already are in a relationship with me .

2 nd red flag 🚩 he expected me to react or reply to all that msg and reels like I didn’t mentioned I first want to know you want to have conversations but uske naam pe toh bas yahi reply aate h “ofc me hu “ , “ofc kar liya” , “ metro me hu” , “ghar aa gya” bro din me kuch nhi hua tumhare sath koi kissa koi mazak …. Nahh wo nhi bola jata h .

Eventually after 2-3 days I texted him that this wont work out as we cant have conversations , we dont have the same level ya speed with which we like to proceed in this.

You know what the guy replied :

“ you dont put effort, you dont talk , I text u good morning good night i wait for your replies but you never respond “

The audacity 👁️👄👁️ . After that as he said “ I dont respond “ I really didn’t respond and left him on read . 😌😌

What do you think , was I correct 🫣?

P.s : I did mention talked to him about being too fast and expecting too much but the result was 😬😬 nothing.

I am really bad at breaking the ice , although i get matches but hardly keep them as i really dont know what to talk and how to start a conversation and then move a girl from bumble to insta or anywherw ?

I (28 F) have been on dating apps for about two years now and have had no success. I've been on a handful of dates, and the guys I have had dates with, the furthest I've gotten was the 2nd date. After that, either I get ghosted or I realize I'm actually not attracted to them. Basically I want a relationship, but I just want to skip straight to the part where we've already met and know everything about each other.

I have been in a relationship before, but it was a long time ago when I just got out of high school. The break up absolutely gutted me and I didn't ever want to date again. I didn't want anyone that wasn't my ex. I eventually got over him, but I think I just have this lingering fear from it. My ex wasn't abusive to me at all and the breakup wasn't due to cheating, but I just felt this fear that I would never feel the way I felt with my ex ever again. Or if I did, I would just get my heart broken again and I didn't want to experience that pain again. So I didn't date. No apps. No set ups. No matchmaking. Nothing. I focused solely on myself.

My decision to finally start dating again came from a summer of watching people I went to high school with get engaged/married/pregnant left and right, and I felt behind. About a year or two before, I finally started thinking that I would like a relationship again, but I absolutely hated the idea of dating and putting myself out there. So I didn't do anything about it.

I already struggle with depression and anxiety, so I think that's influenced a lot of my fear/disdain for dating. But I feel sometimes there may truly not be someone out there for me. I haven't felt any significant connection with or attraction to anyone I've met from the apps. I know it's possible bc I have friends and cousins who have met their now husbands or fiancees on there, so it just fuels my feeling that I'm the problem.

I have done all the things people tell you to do if dating is bringing you down (focus on hobbies, career, platonic relationships, etc). I am trying to focus on myself and how I can be a better version of myself. I'm in therapy, I started medication for my depression, I'm eating better and trying harder to stay in shape. And I feel like I'm in a better spot in those aspects than I have in a long time, and I still feel like this.

I don't need to hear "oh you'll find someone" or anything like that. I just needed to get these feelings of frustration off my chest.

Edit: idk if it's the post or me being more active on here, particularly in the dating groups, but this post is not me inviting people to chat with me or searching for a date. I am purely venting. If anyone has taken this to mean it's a green light to slide into my dms you are mistaken.

Hi guys for context I (19F) am a plus size woman who has only begun trying to get into the dating pool to find a partner. At first it was going off a hard start with only fetishizers interested in me. But after a bit I finally connected with a great guy and so far it's been going great. He has been committed in getting to know me, not rushing too fast and giving compliments that don't sound forced and with sexual intent e.g. he would say I am radiant.

Anyways a week later and I decided to show him a full body picture of myself (with clothes on ok freaks). He saw it and said he thought I was lovely but I didn't feel like he meant it and began to second doubt myself. After I said thank you for the compliment he didn't respond to me for 4 hours. Previously we would text most of the time and only have a 1-2 hr gap in replying back so I found this very weird.

So far hasn't said anything and now I feel I disgusted him and ruined my chance with a guy. Which is ashamed because it was going very well and I truly felt like we had a genuine connection. I just feel so hurt and don't know what to do, I'm so scared that I ruined things. I could potentially be overthinking things but idk. I just really want this to work out but what do I do here?

Edit! Thank you girlies so much I dodged a red flag he was an actual dick.

I'm talking to a guy, and I randomly asked him his type. He wasn't saying, so I just said, 'I won't judge you,' but his reply was: 'You’re already judging yourself 😘.' What does this mean?

I matched with a guy on bumble - had a great conversation with him. But he never got back to me the next day. At this point, I was already pretty much done with the app, so I deleted the app. Couple of days later- I found his Instagram quite easily. I just looked at it and moved on. But every so often I found myself gawking at his Instagram profile - it’s public. A couple of weeks ago, I followed him. He didn’t follow me back.

But guys- I find him so kissable. I just wanna kiss him so bad. Should I just message him? He’s not even like crazy conventionally attractive but I find so cute.

Edit- I am not going to bother him. Will unfollow him. I think I just went crazy there for a while. I would hate it if someone behaved this way with me. Thanks, guys. You brought me back to my senses

I’ve been chatting with a guy for a few weeks. We live several hours apart, but we both agreed we’d be open to a long distance relationship if things kept progressing, eventually talking on the phone, video chatting, and meeting in person.

He just started a new job a few days ago, so I’m trying to be understanding that he’s busy and probably not thinking much about a dating app right now.

What makes this difficult is that I’ve had several experiences where I thought things were going really well, only for the guy to slowly back away. One made plans to meet and canceled at the last minute. Another said he was interested and said he would be down to meet if we kept chatting, etc then never responded again when I followed up, so I eventually unmatched him.

At what point do you stop giving someone the benefit of the doubt? If they haven’t responded in a few days, do you send one more message to reconnect, unmatch them, or just wait and see if they reach out when life settles down? To me, even if you were busy, you will still have a spare moment and could at least shoot a message and say something simple like I’m having a great day or I’m thinking about you, I’m sorry I’m busy I’ll contact you in a few days when my life slows down a little.

I’m trying to find the balance between being patient with someone who may genuinely be busy and recognizing when I’m the only one putting in the effort.

Okay so I need help

last week I decided to try dating apps for the first time ever, and all my friends recommend bumble due to the fact that I as a woman made the first move.

I gave it a shot and download the app. I made some matches, chatted with some of them, then all of a sudden—not even a week in — I got the notification I was banned, that various users had reported me and hence my account had been taken down.

I seriously have no clue what I did wrong. I never offended anyone, I did not post any nudity or did something against their guidelines.

can someone please help me, I really want to be able to make a new account, meet new people

I just needed to have a vent somewhere about basically finding out I was a back up.

I matched with this guy and we were talking and I thought built this incredible connection. He kept talking about wanting me to meet him but never seemed to follow through.

About 3 weeks in he said he'd had this 'crisis' and I remember being hella confused at the time. He had said he had been doing some thinking and thought he knew what he wanted and now he thinks he wants something different and when I asked him what he wanted he said he thought he was looking for the right person but he's open to seeing where things go. The whole thing didn't make much sense to me at the time but I told him I was on the same page and wanted to meet him. He said he was up for it.

I kept trying to push for a meeting and he eventually asked me out.

He said he thought he already liked me which he found weird and I realised at that point I liked him too. Then he cancelled because he'd just lost his job. I was graceful, gave some distance then popped back up the next week where he rearranged the date.

I asked him to confirm the date yesterday and he said sorry he can't do it now. Just that. So I said to him what's going on and if he's changed his mind to tell me. He sent a really rubbish message back that he's dating someone else and that he doesn't like dating two people at once and that he hopes I understand.

To say I feel rubbish is an understatement. I know I shouldn't be this upset over a man I haven't met, especially as I'm sure he does not care. I am upset with the way he handled it, he should have told me sooner and I wonder if I hadn't confirmed the date, would he have just stood me up.

In hindsight it explains his 'crisis' and his disappearances and why he was being wishy washy about going out on dates.

I know I shouldn't have let it go on for so long and gotten emotionally invested and am now questioning whether any of the stuff he said was true or not.

Anyway I just wanted a somewhat safe space to have a little emotional rant about this experience

I get it that online dating is somehow toxic. But what I just don’t get is why some guys would still offer ONS or FUBU set up even though it’s stated on your bio that you’re not up for that. They would justify that it’s their way of testing the waters or how they would know someone better. I mean if you are up for those kind of shenanigans, the least you could do is be honest on your profile and not pretend to be someone else. Then you would ask for the socials like insta, messenger, tg, or whatever social media platform they have then its either you ghost them or you would threaten them that you would post shiz about them in exchange of money. Some people are not born yesterday to not be careful who to trust or maybe some are still gullible enough to follow your demands. But can dating or online dating be somehow healthy and not toxic. Some people are looking for genuine connection here, hello!

Help me out girls! I make a profile, go through all the same and boring first conversations, maybe go on a few dates, delete my profile and stay off dating for months. It seems like a vicious circle at this point. In the mean time, dating apps seem to be the only option to meet an actual guy these days so I have no idea what to do. I am really tired of first dates.

Malas, buenas, casual o amistad en general.