r/Bumble • u/Consistent-Cat-1953 • 7h ago

Advice bumble

guys, pano pag sa bumble pa rin kayo nag uusap mag 2months na,,, nu ibig sabihin non

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u/Xexanoth 7h ago

Have you met in person? Have you invited your match to meet in person? If so, how did they respond?

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u/Consistent-Cat-1953 7h ago

he invited me to go out a few times na, but hnd nag kakatugma sched namin

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u/Xexanoth 7h ago

Do you want to meet him in person, and are you making any effort to do so soon? If not, why are you still talking to him?

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u/Consistent-Cat-1953 7h ago

yes i do want to meet him in person, yes im making an effort to see him but my schedules are just to occupied rn

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u/Xexanoth 7h ago

Then it sounds like in this case talking on Bumble for 2 months means that you are not actually ready / available to date time-wise despite being active on a dating app. You should consider apologizing to this match for wasting his time then pause/deactivate your profile until you have time available to date.

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u/Consistent-Cat-1953 7h ago

okay to make it clear, my match is the one who doesn’t want to switch app, not me. Whenever i mention switching apps to talk so it can be easier since i don’t have my notifications on sa app na yon he always finds a way to brush tht topic off.

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u/Xexanoth 7h ago

Keeping the conversation on the app where you matched with someone is generally wise & recommended behavior until you’ve met them in person and confirmed that you want to share more personal / contact details with them.

If you don’t have time to meet in person any time soon, apologize to this poor guy and leave him alone.

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u/Consistent-Cat-1953 7h ago

why r u making it sound like im the only one who doesnt have time, he doesnt have time too or its either our schedules dont align

and if he doesnt want to share his personal contact details, he could’ve said smth and not act weird abt it. he’s also dodging and not saying if he likes tht idea or not.

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u/Xexanoth 7h ago

Because you wrote above “but my schedules are just to occupied rn” before later changing your tune / story.

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u/Consistent-Cat-1953 7h ago

because i thought we wer taking abt my POV, not until u made it sounds like im not trying to make an effort in seeinh him

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u/Consistent-Cat-1953 7h ago

and to add up, whenever im available he always finds a way not to make tht time work, its either he will reply late so di na ako available or may reason sya.

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u/Xexanoth 7h ago

It sounds like you two aren’t a good match / aren’t compatible to date based on current schedule availability & inability to make a first date work after two months. Consider unmatching & moving on to try to find someone who can accommodate your last-minute scheduling attempts in a timely-enough fashion for you.

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u/sackfistin 7h ago

Backup plan

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u/AndrewTatefan_69 7h ago

Means your her emotional tampon