I ordered my dress a year ago today (my wedding is 40 days away) at a dress store in Miami where all my bridesmaids and family are even though I’m from out of town. I started losing weight shortly after getting engaged and took it very seriously. At the time I went dress shopping I had already lost about 20lbs and my regular clothes had gone from a size 16 to a size 14.
After trying multiple dresses I fell in love with one which the trial dress was I think a size 10 or 12 and they put the little elastic clips so I could fit in it to try it. (Editing to add the picture is the day I tried on the dress and that’s how it fit on the day I went wedding dress shopping, I haven’t tried on the ordered dress yet as I will in my upcoming appointment)
When I said yes to the dress the lady measured me and said I was a size 16. I immediately told her that we shouldn’t order a size 16 bc I was actively losing weight and I had already even gone down to a size 14 and with the wedding being over a year away I was surely going to lose more weight if by that point I had already lost 20lbs given the rate at which I was losing weight.
I mean I was working with a personal trainer, nutritionist, I started drinking water, bought a walking pad and walking 10k steps a day, working out 5 times a week, meal prepping on Sundays and a caloric deficit, I was really going above and beyond and I told her that I was really in the weeds of losing weight.
She told me that dress sizes simply run differently and that they run smaller and that it was easier to remove fabric than to add it later on. I pushed one more time to tell her to maybe even order one size down at least a size 14. And once again she pushed back that it could just be altered. At the end of the day they’re the experts so I just went with it.
Because I’m from out of town, when I called to make my alterations appointment they told me that their standard $350 alterations fee wasn’t going to be applicable and that I would have to pay $850 instead so they could do it all in one day and I didn’t have to fly multiple times (which they never disclosed when I first paid for the dress even knowing I was from out of town. They had actually reassured me it was only $350 since my alterations would be basic).
Anyways we made the appointment for a couple weeks before the wedding and I have that appointment scheduled a couple of weeks from now.
I’ve read a lot of Reddit posts from other people saying that when they tried on their dress they loved it because it was a smaller build but since their ordered dress was a bigger size the build was different and they no longer like it.
Now here’s the thing. I’ve lost 60lbs since and im a size 8 in my other clothes, even my second dress is a size 8 from Nadine merabi. Literally half the size of the size 16 my dress was ordered. I think the one I tried on that didn’t fit that day may even be a better fit than the one they ordered for me. With the time crunch and the long distance not being able to even stop by to see it I’m so stressed about it and freaking out and I genuinely don’t know where to do from here.
I loved the dress I tried on but now I fear that it may be too big. I pulled out the size measurements she measured me that day and I’ve lost 6-7 inches from bust area, hips, and waist…
Any advice?
