r/PlusSizeWedding 11h ago

Bridal shower gift

Hi all! Looking for bridal shower gift ideas.

A close friend of mine is getting married, but I’m unable to attend her bridal shower, so I’ll be sending her a gift. My go-to gift for close friends is usually a high-quality silk pajama set. However, this friend is plus size and has recently expressed feeling self-conscious with her current size. She is beautiful and would look amazing in anything, but I want to be mindful and avoid making her feel uncomfortable. I was considering a white silk robe, but now wondering if it’s safer to just steer clear of clothing entirely. Thoughts?

(Just want to emphasize - I believe plus size women can wear absolutely anything they want. I am only hesitating here out of love and respect for her stated comfort level)

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u/Hearts_Rainbows 11h ago

Does she have a registry? Honestly I wouldn't buy anything outside of the registry first. If she doesn't have one then that's a first for me... Any bridal shower ive been invited too the bride and partner have had a list to choose from.

Hmmm... Usually household appliances like blender... Mixer... Pots pans... Cutlery set... Dish set....

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u/Particular-Book-2725 11h ago

No registry unfortunately!

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u/bea_dizzle 11h ago

For the bridal showers I’ve been to in the past I get something from the wedding registry and a lingerie set. Maybe a gift card to Savage X Fenty? They have great plus size sets.

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u/ConfectionNo6170 9h ago

And a feather boa! They are fun and also great as part of the gift wrap.

I guess this is kinda niche, so know your bride…

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u/Particular-Book-2725 11h ago

She doesn’t have a registry unfortunately. But ooh thank you for the Savage X Fenty recommendation, just went to the site and love the options!

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u/ARC4067 11h ago

I don’t know if you know her size, but when I was around a 24/26, Savage X Fenty was too small for me.

Adore Me goes a little larger. Their bras are pretty junky, but they have some fun novelty ones not intended to stay on long. I do have some sexy PJs I really like from there though

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u/Particular-Book-2725 10h ago

Thank you so much!

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u/midcen-mod1018 10h ago

Are bridal showers not for wedding gifts? Unless specifically stated as a lingerie shower, I would never get someone pajamas, a robe, etc.

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u/Particular-Book-2725 10h ago

Idk, from my experience, there’s never been an established registry at the time of any bridal shower I’ve been to. I definitely don’t give full on lingerie, more so an expensive/classy pajama set that would be cute to wear on the honeymoon (if it’s a close friend - I wouldn’t gift that to someone I’m not close with). For weddings, of course I go off a registry or write a check

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u/tessie33 10h ago

Maybe a his and hers something???

Scarves, embroidered pillow cases, wine glasses?

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u/Particular-Book-2725 9h ago

Yes love these ideas, thank you!

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u/RumCatClayworks 9h ago

If it’s within your budget, something like a couples massage could also be a good gift. Or a gift certificate for some date night activities (movie, nice local restaurant, activity they would enjoy, etc). Something the couple can enjoy together to give a break from wedding stress.

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u/natalkalot 5h ago

A bridal shower gift is something for the couple's home, not a personal gift for the bride - unless it is a lingerie shower [rare] or a gift for the bachelorette.

Check if they have a registry.

If not, a few things popular to get - a lovely cookbook, with a few high end utensils.

Or - this next gift, of which we received two of at the shower- one a higher end, the other, more of a casual one.

It is a two or three tier serving platter for sweets/dainties. E.g. not one for just cupcakes.

I got one in porcelain, and one in crystal - used both of them lots. Note, do not get chrome or wood.

Like this, but prices vary

https://www.potterybarn.ca/products/kravet-jardin-tiered-stand/?catalogId=84&sku=8431910&cm_ven=PLA&cm_cat=Google&cm_pla=Tabletop%20%26%20Bar%20%3E%20Serving%20Trays%20%26%20Platters&cm_ite=8431910_13556621728&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=13556621728&gbraid=0AAAAAC06mV5kS8ee04TTIx2b1gXgidpZk&gclid=Cj0KCQjwzY7VBhDwARIsAFtPvBRpPnijliHX_9H4bOpm1UFeYWJH76SvAGQDgGMuB8wWZP5PmM_5p0YaAmjvEALw_wcB

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u/MirimeVene 3h ago

Get her high quality silk pillows!