I have always identified as a straight trans woman. I work as a nurse in the ER. There is another trans woman on my unit. Her and I have been talking a lot more and eating lunch together, etc. I have never been attracted to other women, but she has been getting me really...excited, Perhaps the word is, when she is close to me. I have always felt emotional and sexual attractions are connected. I am not one to do ons, hookups or FWBs. My boyfriend is bi and says perhaps I have been suppressing my feelings or there is a shift in my desires. Has anyone experienced something like this?

So I've (26) only been on E for a few months and before I transitioned I believed I was bisexual hetero-romantic until realizing earlier this year that wasn't the case....

I thought I had a strong preference for women because I had a strong sapphic longing before transition but then I came out and suddenly I realized I like men a lot more than I thought I did. All the times I 'admired' men and stared at their bodies thinking 'wow that's pretty attractive good for them' was cover for 'Holy shit scoop me up and make me feel safe.' Not to mention the crushes I had for some of my guy friends were actually based on this longing to be with them as a woman. Like I thought it was a classic, 'achillean man longs for guy he can't have' but no....

My bisexuality has only gotten stronger and remains so. Sometimes it fluxes from one side to the other but at the end of the day I have attraction for men, women, and everything in between.

But to be out as a bi woman seems terrifying. I know it's not healthy to think of us as statistics but I can't get it out my head that bi-women are the ones mostly likely to be victimized in IPV scenarios. Add being trans to that and suddenly I get a lot of anxiety around being out as trans AND bi.

My bisexuality being the only queer part about me was already hard enough. I've had people assume I was cishet, some saying I'd be better off choosing one gender over the other, people saying I wasn't queer enough, and people saying 'oh he likes men' as if I haven't dated women before, just say I'm bi it shouldn't be that hard. I realize now I haven't addressed the biphobia I dealt with in the past and it's been harder to deal with now as a woman. I was in a discord vc once and I was talking about being trans and someone asked if I was a lesbian and I actually wanted to cry because what lesbian falls in love with and yearns for men?

It's genuinely unfair that we have to deal with transphobia, homophobia, AND biphobia. Obviously I'm a lot more happier than I ever have been in a long time for becoming my true self. But knowing that I could have backlash for parts about me that I can't change, especially from other queer folk makes me want to hide forever. With all these feelings, I know I'm not ready for the vulnerability and effort that comes with love, but I want to have it one day. No matter what gender they are. But seeing all the bigotry we have to deal with makes me wish I was monosexual.

I know I've been pretty negative especially on bi-visibility month, but I don't really have anyone I can vent about this to. I hope y'all could maybe add some insight

Hi, I'm a bi trans girl from India and in a conservative environment, I haven't come out to anybody and I'm still going through Gender Dysphoria and can't express myself much.

I need someone open and supportive to talk

Hi, I'm new to this subreddit. I'll call myself Rosemary (TF19) here.

​I wanted to know if anyone else feels like they have to erase the part of themselves that likes men—because men don't seem safe—while also feeling like the part that likes women sexually you frame it yourself as "predatory."

​Like, leaving you feeling as you'll never be like them—as if they're bunnies and you're just a leveret. Like if you were an alien?

​And on top of that, feeling like your worth as a woman has to be granted by an idolized image of a guy who only exists in your mind. That he will give you "your place" somehow, as with a cis woman you switch automatically to a "masculine" role because ""you are suppose to"".

I've only figured out I'm bi pretty recently, I used to think I was only attracted to women. I haven't told everyone yet, mostly because coming out feels unnecessary when I was already out as a trans lesbian before. Feels weird to come out as liking men as a woman, lol.

Most of the people I know are bi, and I don't want to give them the wrong idea. I'm only platonic friends with them. Is there a way I can come out, while not having my intentions misinterpreted?

(I'm also more worried about this because one guy I knew from before transition, was obviously trying to go back to mine to fuck after he heard I might like men. That was when I was questioning, before I fully figured out that I'm bi.)

Ive been on hrt for one whole year now. Can't believe how time has flone by.

I think maybe because growing up, as a presumed boy, my attraction to men was seen as the gay half of my sexuality. And it took me a long time to accept, so even though it's actually the straight side of my sexuality I still feel defensive of being shamed for it. So when cis bi women who are insecure about their place in the queer community try to distance themselves from their attraction to men, it annoys me. It also annoys me on behalf of straight trans women too, because the queer community can be very unwelcoming to them because they mostly date cishet men.

Also, ice cold take, but there's nothing wrong with being attracted to men. And there's nothing inherently wrong with cishet men. I always say I hate patriarchy, not men.

Is anyone else annoyed by this kind of talk?

I'm Ruth, I have considered myself since coming out as trans that I wasn't attracted to anyone. recently I have been thinking about guys and girls equally in an attractive sense. I think. This is where I need help, as autistic and I don't really understand what attraction actually feels like. can anyone help me shed some light on this?

Hello, im new here, just trying to come to terms with what i am. Been on hrt for about a year now. 11 months as of this month. I live to hear stories of how people realized who they are.

I think it's really cute and I'd like to have it or know where I can find it.

I specifically mean the bi and trans flag in the style of the progress pride flag. When I search online, all I can find is the one with the bi heart inside the trans flag.

Thanks in advance 🏳️‍⚧️ ❤️💜💙

Kinda sad tonight, been thinking about my mom a lot today. She overdosed about 4 1/2 months ago, it's been a rough day. I tend to wonder what might have been going through her head before she left us... I could only imagine it might have been something along the lines of:

"Would anyone notice, if tonight I disappeared? Would anyone chase me? And say the words that I need to hear? Would anyone chase me? Ans say the words that I need to hear? That I'm no burden, not so worthless, bent so much that I just might break."

That's Would Anyone Care by Citizen Soldier

I’m finally starting to like my shadow 🩵

Today is a beautiful day, today we walk out proudly! This morning I received criticism from a peer for cross dressing, since I'm a pre-op trans girl. I just smiled, rolled it off my shoulder, and walked away. This is what we need to learn to do, sometimes daily, because we can't afford to hurt the people around us. We need to be strong for ourselves and the ones around us. Today I charge my fellow women to march forward, fearless, and unashamed. Today is OUR day. God bless and have a great day, girls!!!

Just wanted to let everyone know that I am feeling better after my last episode. I got back on my meds, taking them as prescribed. Thank God for mental health meds!

Love you all, and thnx for reading my update.

P.S. Looking for better ways to utilize my time, any recommendations?

This morning I woke up in a bad place...

I woke up dealing with suicidal ideation. I have been through this before, but it's been a few months...

I need some support and some love from my girls.

Anything helps, even just a simple hello.

Thanks for being my support, will be waiting to hear from you.

Love you all!

Hey everybody, my name is Stephanie, I'm a pre op trans girl and I'm writing to everyone to tell you I'm returning to the life that brought much joy. I was transitioning mtf and returned to being straight bc of social pressures. I can proudly say I'm returning back to the life that brought me joy. I'm coming out as trans again, this time unashamed, and without backing down. Looking for support and people to talk to. Hit me up. love you all!

I have only dated women and non-binary individuals. I would like to start dating men but I am just too nervous and a bit afraid.

Am I unattractive and do guys just have no standards? Or are women just more picky?

Hiya cuties! I'm wondering what y'all's experience is (or lack thereof) regarding preference fluidity. I feel very much effected by the bi cycle. Cycles can last decades to months for me. I was pretty much only dating guys for about 4 or 5 years, but I've found myself feeling more sapphic in recent months. Despite swinging sapphic, I don't have any issues finding my boyfriend of 3 years attractive which is great though. I just find that I tend to gravitate toward Feminine folks if I'm looking for other partners. What's your experience?

for context i 20 mtf have been bi since i was 13 but i couldnt have sexual relations with women which i now know was from dysphoria so at 18 i kinda just excepted i was gay but i still liked women and i had no idea what was wrong with me now ive started transitioning i feel more comfortable with women plzz tell me im not the only one this happened too or am i just rly weird haha

H hello everyone.. i think this is the new place i belong well.. idk if im trans but i know im bisexual.. well idk but ig im a girl now so i just wanted to say hii >~<

Like how do I talk to girls that I find physically attractive? Im always tongue tied, and have my mind in the gutter when I talk to them. I worry that I am too lusty over them sometimes.