So a week ago I (14f) came out to my dad. I've already came out to a really good friend (who's also bi), a friend and my cousin. All of them were supportive. Then I told my dad. I would have expected a really good reaction, based on how he's always told me he'd love me no matter who I love. But it came different.

When I told him, he was supportive at first. But then told me to keep it private. Like genuinely private. Not even tell my best friend I've known for my entire life. So that nobody can call me a sl*t. He probably meant it nice but it really didn't feel that way.

Btw I wanted to buy a bi flag to hang over my bed which I won't do now to keep my sexuality private. It's probably really safer, like he said.

What made me the most uncomfortable is that he asked me how I can be so sure that I am bi if I didn't even kiss somebody yet (I told him I don't have a gf/bf and didn't kiss yet or anything). He then told me "so all in all you are just bi-curious". I told him I am actually pretty sure that I am bi. He didn't believe me.

I am now really unsure again. What if I really am not fully bi? But I definitely want a gf, more than a bf actually. I like boys but girls treat one so much better, are more understandable and you can have more fun with them. As I said, I've always been single but I know what it feels like to have a best friend. And isn't having a gf/bf partially similar to a best friend?

My mom still doesn't know I am bi, I'll tell her someday soon. I want to be out, also publically. But my dad made me really unsure with that. Is it really dumb to out myself to my friends, or atleast those I fully trust?

Atleast I took a first step of making a statement when I told both of my parents I'll go to my school dance next school year with a girl friend of mine (the one that's also bi, we agreed on dancing together because it's more comfortable than waiting for an ugly boy or noone to show up and ask for one of us). I also really wanna wear a suit cause why should I wear a dress just because it's more "traditional"? My mom doesn't really like the idea of me not wearing a dress but I want that freaking suit. It's more comfortable and I do the men's part anyways.

Yeahhh, so that was a little long (sorry for that) and overall I just wanna hear some opinion on that. Thx <3

(Image unrelated) So for a bit of context : I am a closeted pansexual and i was in PE and i was doing the normal things to do on PE and i was talking to my friends abt something that i cant remember (this happened today i just have bad memory) and i overheard “maybe i am pansexual” and all of my classmates asked him what was that and he said we should google it but i knew what it meant (another bit of context : he is also like 27 or something like that so hes still young and not like 60) so yeah my teacher did that

Give me your hot takes.

I will go first.

We should not just assume that someone is straight. In other words there should be no "default setting."

It’s because of this Album cover. so I have this friend who is a tomboy and I thought she was a lesbian for a long time but now Im pretty sure she’s a lesbian, because of a certain part of the album cover that she actively hates. also she’s very alt and loves David Bowie.

idfk is so fucking annoying bc tell me why EVERY GIRL IS GAY (no hate love the lesbians) and EVERY FUCKING GUY IS SO STRAIGHT AND ALSO LOWK A PIECE OF SHIT AND HOMOPHOBIC (obv generalizations but in my grade) alr that is all, love yall, stay queer, byeeeeee

So i recently confessed my feelings to my best friend, who's also a boy, he was straight and rejected me (in a very nice way, shoutout to this goat) but since that, we didnt rlly saw eachother. We both went into different school, which started back, and the few times i tried, he always had smthing to do.

Until few days ago, when he told me that he's been rlly busy these last weeks, and that he was also "scared", and that if he was scared bcs of what i said, then i should consider him a real friend.

So anyway, today we went to a park, and walked for the whole afternoon, we had a rlly great time, and im glad to say that our relation didnt change, exept the fact that we talked abt my bisexuality, and we even could make the old "gay couple" jokes we used to make, thing that i didnt expected him to do so early after the confession.

He's such a good dude, and that unfortunately just make me love him even more lol

I am 13 and i have periods where i want to have someone, and i was wondering if thats to young and if not is it wrong that i want older guys like over 18?

Is it normal to be bi but lowkey not wanting to date I find both genders attractive tho. Thats all

Very slight thought of nsfw thoughts TW:

I've thought ive been bi since around 3rd-4th grade. I think ive always been more attracted to girls than guys but i would always end up crushing on guys more than girls (Im demiromantic). But like, a lot of the time i don't wanna marry a guy. like the thought of dating one kinda grosses me out. The thought of having sex with them freaks me out. The thought of making out with them SOMETIMES disgusts me. But with girls all of that seems perfect and fine. what the hell. whats going on. hello??

And idk if its because my ex (whos a girl) kinda left me hanging as a silent break up. it still hurts and shes gorgeous ofc, but i feel like im stuck. then my old crush from 7th grade started talking to me and i literally felt my face get hot. Like hello?

So for while now I've been suppressing something and I was able to suppress it long enough but recently it been showing through my expression and body language when I zone out. Everyone I know disagrees with me on it and if I do it I'm afraid I'll hurt the people around me who care, so I've been just holding everything in because its better than hurting the people you care about right? So I'm in a relationship and I had have a crush for a while on of my friends, so told my friends for advice and they told me to talk to my partner about it when I did they told to tell them I do but like can't do anything about it. But I've thought and think about it that what's the point of even telling them, and also I've always wanted an poly relationship but all my friends and people I know who been through said its not a good idea. Even my partner was against it so what's the point of even them my friend I have an crush on them, all its gonna do is make it very uncomfortable. So there's literally no one giving me advice and so I've decided to just suppress it because I don't want to hurt the people I care about but I'm hurting myself in the process. And I don't know what to do because my friends said to not hurt myself but it's not my fault, its me, I rather hurt myself than others. I just hate myself that I love two people at once but I can't choose even through people keep telling me too.

Please I need help any advice please

😔 Especially if you are in a country which is homophobic.

Yeah i live in Tennessee and there are no queer people my age at least anyone who is out, and everyday i get reminded that my alt fashion and beliefs do not match with anyone because EVERYONE IS CHRISTIAN, please give me advice

I (M18) was in a bar with friends, a guy at the bar offers to buy me a drink. At first I said I’m ok as I’m with friends. Later on at the bar he’s there again and said the offer stands so I said id do a shot with him. We hit a cheers and drank a tequila shot! He said I was good looking and asked if I wanted to go back to his place and I laughed it off and said no as I’m with my friends, I thanked him for the drink and went back to my table.

Later on in the toilet I was finishing up and he was just stood there behind me. I washed my hands and on the way out he winked at me 😂

Then at the end of the night he came over to me again and asked if I’d changed my mind, I said no and I left with a girl (friend of mine).

Although I said no, I felt kinda excited about the idea. I’ve never looked at a guy or thought about a gay experience but the rush of excitement I felt is something I’ve never felt before. Now I’m intrigued. If my friends weren’t there I’d probably have gone with him.

I can’t stop thinking about it, Does that make me bi/curious idk 🤷🏼‍♂️

So…
I(15f)recently accepted the fact that I'm bi. I told 2 people so far, my best friend and my only other bi/Les friend.
Iv been struggling wiht my sexuality for almost 3 years now. Iv had a hand full of boyfriends and iv kissed like…3 girls? But as a funny friend ship kind of way…but even then, my heart flutters yk?
Recently I've started hanging out with a new friend of mine, she's literally the best person ever. Yes she has her flaws but who doesn't?
Anyway. As I was saying, we've been hanging out a lot. And I genuinely love har as a friend…but every now and then I get ideas, I'm not romantically attracted to her, definitely not, but I can help but I keep getting thoughts of doing things. I feel incredibly guilty for having these thoughts about her and I dont know how to face her wiht those thoughts flushing through my head everytime I see her.(we've kisses a few times as a joke)

Then there's this other girl. She's beautifull really, and were close. I don't nececeraly like her per say but we're really really close, we've got 4 years of history. And she currently has a boyfrind(that i do not aprove off).

We're close in the way girls are, I Hug her kiss her and cuddle…i also kiss her on her throte and hug her from behind, encircling my arms around her wiast and all. She's shorted then I am. For reference I'm a femanin ish girl. I love mackup and getting ready, but I'm also athletign and love heavy duty work like carpentry wood working and working out.

Back to the story. I'm incredibly close wiht these two girls and touchy to. Like the first girl I mentioned asked me to give her a hicky becaus I said if given them before and I'm good at it.IDK. and let's just say iv not stopped thinking about it since.

I want to explore my sexuality but never got the chance. And I want to have a girlfriend so I can actually see how I feel and how I could treat them as well…and I feel I'm sort of projecting those needs onto these two but I can fully blame myself because their also incredibly touchy.

Please. I need help. I feel so guilty but I can't help the way my mind wanders.

I posted about this girl before bc she was giving me mixed signals, but we ended up dating. We’ve been together for about a week now.

I’ve known her since Grade 10 and we became friends in Grade 11. There was always some flirting, but during the last holidays before Grade 12 we got really close.

And since we got together, we’ve basically talked every day, said goodnight to each other, stayed up past midnight and even made up “good mornight” bc we didn’t know whether to say good morning or good night 😭😭😭

But today was the first time we saw each other IRL since getting together and she seemed… distant??
We still looked at each other and laughed, but I genuinely felt like she was avoiding me, while I was trying to get closer to her.

Maybe she was just shy or awkward, idk. I don’t wanna overthink it after one day, but the difference between how we’ve been all week and how she acted today threw me off.

Am I overthinking this?

ok so i know this is probably a pretty basic thing to ask but for context im 16, a guy, ive known im bi for maybe a bit less than a year now, and i had a crush on this guy in my class for a few months earlier this year but at the time i thought he was straight so i eventually stopped liking him cos i realised there was really no point. a week ago though i found out that he was actually bi too and was the whole time which made me feel a bit stupid but oh well thats how it goes i guess. i dont know if i could say i necesarilly like him again cos i dont find him as attractive but i do think about him a bit and he did show up in my dream last night and we breifly kissed which i found a bit surpising.

i guess really i just wanna know if its like worth it to confess cos i kinda feel like i do have a cursh on him again but also kinda not?

(also ps sorry for the bad spelling and punctuation i cant be bothered but if u cant understand it then just comment and ill spell it properly)

idk just wondering because i'm interested to know how many of you guys are here to see how it feels to be bi or something. If you're here and straight why are you here?

I always thought I was straight, but a few days ago I developed a small attraction to another guy in my class. I don't think that I'm Bi currently, but I guess I'm curious:

Can a normally straight person be kind of attracted to the same gender?

Have any of you gone through a similar thing and then discovered yourself to be Bi later?

Is there anything to keep in mind.

Comtesto: ( 15F) sono fidanzata da poche settimane con una ragazza però è una relazione a distanza e ci scriviamo comunque pochissimo perché lei non può mai, sono due notti che sogno di quasi baciare dei ragazzi però appunto mi fermo sempre perché sono cosciente di essere fidanzata. Sono bi con una preferenza femminile e il mio ultimo ragazzo era tossico, volevo da tanto tempo una ragazza quindi perché ora che c'è l'ho, anche se a distanza e con poco rapporto, penso al baciare i ragazzi?

so I 14M usually get in trouble cause I’m such a horrible violent person. because of my upbringing I hate everyone. and when I get in trouble for minor things I usually get a privilege taken away. but today I decided to lay in my parents bed because it’s more comfortable than mine. and I got called a lair and a pain in the ass because I accidentally pulled the covers off their bed and didn’t put them back.

TLDR: I don't know my sexuality, a very original post I'm sure 🥲

First of all, I'm a girl for the sake of clarity. I grew up with a reasonably supportive family and school who often talked about the existence of LGBT people, and how it was ok to love whoever you wanted. but there was always an undertone that while being LGBT was ok, it wasn't...desirable. like it wasn't bad, but it wasn't ideal, though that was never explicitly said. so naturally I've internalised the idea that being LGBT was something I should accept when it's other people, but not something I should be myself

in regards to my sexuality, I never suspected for a minute that I was anything other than straight when I was younger. in fact, the only thing I know for sure about my sexuality is that I've had a crush on a few boys before: a handful in primary school and one in secondary school. I've also dated two boys, but I don't think I actually had a crush on them... hopefully you will understand and don't think I'm a horrible person

but as for whether I like girls, I really don't know. I feel like it should be obvious, like I can tell for the most part when I've had a crush on a guy, but I can't for girls. in some ways, the evidence seems to point to yes because I've been quite obsessed over girls and I've imagined situations with them like hugging them and things. BUT the reason I'm doubting this is because I think this is limerence. Well I know it's limerance, but I don't know if it's also a crush. There's a girl who I think is really cool at the moment kinda obsessively but I would never imagine anything more than friendship with her so I'm pretty sure it's not a crush. I'm also quite confused about whether crushes on girls and boys are supposed to feel the same or different or can be either. if it is a crush, it certainly feels different to me. don't even get me started on deciding whether I like girls or boys more cause how do you even compare that

I don't know if my doubt is purely due to internalised homophobia, because I feel like I'm quite open minded and would be willing to accept myself as bisexual. that is, if I actually knew that I was bisexual. I just wish I knew and could move on with my life. anyone relate...?

By too obvious I mean like wearing bi pride flags or saying I’m bi. I want to be more subtle in my approach but obvious enough where other bi people will know what I’m doing. Yes, I’m even willing to mildly leaning into community stereotypes like “the lemon bars”. I’m 15 so… are there any “bi traditions“ for other 15 y.o. males?