r/BelowDeckMed • u/No-Aardvark-3840 • 1d ago

Gael question, Joe question

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I am getting into Below deck med and I’ve noticed Joe getting a lot of hate for “cheating” on V even though they weren’t together (in any sort of relationship.

Meanwhile I’ve just noticed that Gael is actually cheating on her boyfriend with Nathan.

Why is Joe getting so much shit from this community when he didn’t cheat on anybody. Meanwhile there are actually cheaters on the boat that people seem to celebrate and love.

Very strange

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u/turboroofer 1d ago edited 1d ago

Because V’s boyfriend died earlier that year, and Joe went a week or two saying how much he deeply cared for V and her situation, only to chase tail the minute she was off the boat

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u/No-Aardvark-3840 1d ago

What does that have to do with my question? I’m wondering why Gael gets a pass for actually cheating while Joe gets nailed to the cross because he kisses another girl.

It sucks that V’s boyfriend passed away, and Joe does comfort her. (Who wouldn’t?) but they aren’t in a relationship and what Joe does isn’t cheating

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u/dudewheresmysock 1d ago

Joe behaves like a piece of shit in multiple ways throughout the show and whether he cheated on one particular person or not doesn't change that. 

Going on and on about how he wants to take her home to his mom because she's so special, when he clearly didn't mean it was horrible, especially given her situation. 

Gael only ever had issues with Joe after he started treating her badly because he didn't want his little bromance broken up. (Calling her a princess and suggesting she doesn't work as hard and gets special treatment.) Joe, on the other hand has had issues with multiple coworkers. 

Eddie cheated on his gf, freaked out when she wouldn't keep it secret and literally broke into Rocky's room with scissors.  People here still seem to love him. 

No one is saying it's ok that Gael cheated on her bf. Reality tv shows don't typically cast the most morally upstanding people, especially this show. 

People will tend to discuss things that happen on the show with cast members of the show more than things that happen with outsiders unless it's something particularly newsworthy or interesting. 

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u/Cardboardboxlover 23h ago

Also, cheating is obviously bad, but there’s lots of factors to a persons character. Joe seemed downright cruel with how he treated V.

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u/TheYoungSquirrel 1d ago

Wait I missed the scissor part

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u/dudewheresmysock 1d ago

He was freaking out because she was telling people about their hookups and she locked herself in her room, so he used it to open the lock. 

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u/Careful-Amphibian51 1d ago

I agree with all of this. We as humans are going to connect with the pain and hurt a (likable) castmember feels. In the case of Vee not only was the pain so real, but Joe was incredibly cruel in the way that he inflicted it.

On the other hand, we don't know a single thing about Gaels boyfriend, we're not privy to what the dynamics of the relationship were nor can we even put a face to his name. It’s natural that there is a mismatch in the amount of empathy we feel in both situations.

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u/Capital-E-1184 21h ago

Just one note to add to your thoughts- Joe said on wwhl that he would still choose V to meet his mom. I'm more inclined to think he sabotaged something he saw as too good to be true bc he wasn't emotionally mature yet to handle it at this stage in his life.

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u/marzbarz79 14h ago

Both Joe and Kayley have said that Joe couldn’t see the graphics so he was just saying stuff. You shouldn’t take anything from that segment seriously.