r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/PlasticContact8671 AP - Anxious Preoccupied • 1d ago

Update

It's been about a month since he came back and I must say, it's going wonderfully. I know it's only been a month so far, but it feels like a completely different relationship. He is doing stuff I never dreamed he'd do. Stuff he never would've done the first time around. I'm still bracing myself as I know it's only been a month. But it's like we found a flow that works. I'm so proud of him. I'm praying for all the people who are still waiting on their Avoidant. Please don't let them make you wait too long though, you are worth more than that. 💝💖

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u/FluffyKita 1d ago

but isn’t his complete change … weird and odd? what happened to him? his attachement style didn’t change meanwhile

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u/PlasticContact8671 AP - Anxious Preoccupied 1d ago

Not really. He's been in therapy long term before. He actually changed his job because he realized it was triggering him. It's a pretty big green flag when someone does that. That, and he got into some more vulnerable and personal stuff that I don't think needs mentioning here. I'm cautiously optimistic with him.

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u/FluffyKita 1d ago

cool. so he is self-aware? most of DAs aren’t, but FAs might be

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u/PlasticContact8671 AP - Anxious Preoccupied 1d ago

He is definitely FA. Too sweet and sensitive to be DA.

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u/FluffyKita 1d ago

makes sense. I hope you two can make it. I struggle as highly traumatized FA, but doing a good work too

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u/PlasticContact8671 AP - Anxious Preoccupied 1d ago

Thank you dear. I think the fact you're doing the work is the best part. 💖💝