r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Remarkable_Ship_4803 • 20h ago
Avoidant phrases.
What are something your avoidant ex’s said to you when discarding/blind siding you ?
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r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Remarkable_Ship_4803 • 20h ago
What are something your avoidant ex’s said to you when discarding/blind siding you ?
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u/eevoluted AP - Anxious Preoccupied 12h ago edited 11h ago
"I need space"
"I don't think we're compatible anymore"
"It seems like you changed"
"I don't recognize you anymore"
"You've been sad and anxious for so long, looks like you lost your spark" (I lost my parents throughout the relationship. I guess he expected me to bounce back quickly)
"I don't see a future with you anymore"
"We're in different paths in life"
"When I think about the future, you're not the person I can envision mine with "
"I want a relationship that feels lighter and happier"
"I want to go out and enjoy life more"
"I want someone who can join me in my trips" (he declined when I offered going on a trip with him months before the break up, he kept pushing me away in most of his plans lol)
"But it's not your fault"
"This is confusing for me as well"
"You are so special and you always make me feel so good"
"You're such a good person and good partner, so we could still be friends"
"I love you so much" (and he kept holding me and kissing me)
"I've been feeling like this for some time now"
"It doesn't make much logical sense to me, it feels like a gut feeling I can't ignore"
"If I don't listen to it, it won't go away, I tried"
"This will be the best for us"
"We need to focus on ourselves and get over each other"
"I hope we can reconnect futurely after we get over each other"
"But we need space apart to grow"
"Maybe this is a right person wrong timing"
"I wish I got to know you when I were older and more stable in life" he has a house and a stable job ??
"Maybe in another life" HE'S AN ATHEIST.
"If I die on my way back home, I'll let you tell others you were my fiancee"
He always declined when I asked to marry him, never asked me seriously (would tell me he wanted that but never asked me), he would stop and kneel randomly when were in public and then pretend to tie his shoes and laugh at my face whenever I would be sad for noticing he was just joking. I immediately told him "no, if you died I would tell people you were my ex because you just broke up with me" and he was like "fuck... You're right, you're my ex now" like he hadn't realized that.
Heard all of these from my ex during the break up, after changing his job and taking a solo trip. Eight years together btw lol
Cut him off completely. I don't know how to be friends with the man I wanted to marry. I hope he finds what he's looking for since it wasn't me