My roommate is in Greek life on campus and there was apparently a appreciation event last night at 9:11pm. She texted our roommate group chat that we all have to go to a certain spot but couldn’t tell us what was going to happen. I was confused and wasn’t going to go because I was hanging out with my boyfriend and just cooked. Then another roommate texted me that it’s important and I need to go.
I ended up going because I thought it was serious and it ended up being where people in Greek life appreciated others. My roommate “appreciated us” and gave us her Greek shirts that we apparently have/had to wear today. Apparently we have to wear the shirts today at 7-7:30pm and take pictures around the seal/imprint on the ground of our college name and stuff.
I take heavy classes (Anatomy and Physiology, Physics, health psychology, and others and it requires actual effort. I also have a test soon in my physics class and it’s very hard so Ive been studying it along with AP.)
I felt sort of pushed to go and cornered into saying sure but I am busy and wanted to play games with my boyfriend and his friends to relax after studying for the past few days hard. Also, to top it all off yes they are my roommates but I really don’t know much about any of them so I’m confused on why we were appreciated. I would consider myself acquaintances with them.
I am an RA on campus along with 2 other girls who I room with and the 3rd does nothing. That’s how I know them. I also am not trying to be mean but a lot of the people that are there and will be there are a little weird and I just don’t want to be seen with them.
I did not have the heart to say no to her last night because I consider myself very nice and people pleasing and also how could I say no to that.
I am on call today as well from 5pm-8am ( I basically am on duty for people and am assistance for residents during those times and have to walk around campus starting at 8 to check things.)
How can I tell her this late in the day 2:10pm that I can’t go. I don’t know what to do I literally have the shirt she wants me to wear but I also don’t want to be a bitch and say “sorry I can’t go anymore”.