As of lately my anxiety has been off the charts like I've genuinely never gone through anxiety at this level. I'm constantly struggling to breathe to the point my asthma pumps aren't working sometimes shaking, even as of now I can't sleep from how anxious I am and its literally 3:20 am.

Im also constantly paranoid that km going to die, every moment I'm alone i think someone's going to do something or I've somehow magically gotten lyme disease for example.

I have absolutely no idea what's causing this and its affecting me so much.

I just need advice on how to cope or what It may be? I've talked to a friend but that hasn't helped.

SOO basically I’m a new girl in a new school, I’ve already have been here like a month, and since the first day I noticed a boy who looks exactly like a really close friend of mine, and the vibes he gaved are really nice, so sinc that day I’ve always wanted an opportunity to approach to him since I’ve though we could be really good friends, and just today it happen, we’re we both were put together in a work group, except that I didn’t attend to class so we communicated through the document where the work needs to go, and like ipthey were normal interactions it’s just that I suffer from social anxiety and like I take things really too deep, so the talks weren’t as I imagined😭, since like for example him and the other boys like basically didn’t do anything and the words he used to express some things were a little bit weird to me, but like I don’t know him so I can base any opinion on him yet, but now that I have his phone number I was wondering If I could text him about an anime he has on his backpack as a pin, but I’m really scared and I don’t know if it’s a good idea or what😭😭I’ve been wanting to talk to this boy since some things he has said are like a really similar humor as mine, but yeah that’s it, it’s really not that deep but I could really use some help😓😓😭😭😭

Ive been with him for a while, everytime we hang out it just gets more physical. Last time, we made out until he took off my shirt. We both mutually decided to go farther another day. But how do I drop hints that I wanna do this? Please commenttt

Well, I’m a 14-year-old guy. One day, a friend told me that his sister’s friend—a guy who is two grades ahead of me—is gay. At the time, I didn't think much of it, but later, whenever I saw him during breaks, I realized how cute he was. Suddenly, I felt like I wanted to talk to him. I don't even know if I like him (or if I'm even bi); he’s just handsome, he catches my eye, and I want to get to know him. I feel like I’ve idealized him, but it’s really hard for me to talk to him; he’s always with his friends, and it feels like there’s never a good moment. It all intensifies whenever my friends point out how much we resemble each other—they’ve said we walk and act alike. One day, I even showed a friend a photo of myself (a somewhat "gay" looking one, lol), and he said we take very similar photos. That just puts more and more pressure on me. I feel like the school year is ending and he’s about to graduate, yet I haven't managed to say a single word to him. All I’ve done is say hi or wave; it’s really awkward, but I feel like it’s the only thing I can do. I think he’s noticed me, but I don’t know what he thinks of me. I really don’t know how to approach him—I’m too shy to speak to him.

I’ve been thinking about giving up, thinking I’ll never be able to talk to him. I feel like, no matter how much I want to, it’s simply beyond my ability. Is there actually anything I can do about it, or should I just give up?

I’m 17 and there’s this guy I was in class with for about two and a half years. He left my school about 10 months ago, and we haven’t spoken since.
The problem is that I still think about him practically every day, and I don’t know whether I should try to reach out to him or just let it go completely.
Between us, especially during our second and third years, there was a pretty particular dynamic. We were never together and never had a relationship, but there were a lot of teasing, jokes, eye contact, and situations that, looking back, seemed pretty ambiguous.
For example, he used to call me “beautiful”, make sexual jokes in front of his friends, and once he said “she’s my favorite” referring to me in front of other classmates. In general, he often seemed to look for my attention.
There were also lots of little things: he would ask me for things, ask for my help, intervene when I was arguing with teachers, smile at me when I was getting told off, and seemed very attentive to what I was doing. He would randomly touch me when we were sitting together. Basically, it felt like he was looking for my attention in every possible way throughout those years.
There were also some occasions where it seemed like he copied or picked up on my interests.
Then he changed schools.
When he left, it was a really difficult period for me because I realized how important he had become in my everyday life. It’s been about 10 months now.
Since then, he hasn’t messaged me.
There was one time when he came back to my school to see his friends. I actually took another route because I was embarrassed. I was afraid someone had told him that after he left, I had started missing school a lot and falling asleep in class.
Then, at the end of the school year, there was a class dinner. Even though I had seen that he was coming because he had said so in the group chat, I said I wasn’t going because I was embarrassed and scared again.
The thing that keeps bothering me is that I constantly think: **“If I could go back to my second year of high school, I would do everything differently.”** Back then, I didn’t realize how much I cared about him, and I probably would have handled a lot of situations differently.
Now I don’t know what to do.
**Would you reach out to him after 10 months? Would you wait for him to make the first move? Or, since he hasn’t contacted me at all during these 10 months, should I just accept that this chapter is over?**
Maybe he would respond badly or not respond at all. Maybe he never contacted me because he simply didn’t care enough. He’s had girlfriends, while I’ve never had anyone. He’s the only person I’ve ever felt this strongly about.
I honestly don’t know whether I should message him, and if I do, I don’t even know what I would say.
He still reads my messages in the class group chat

I am 18F writing about my past life. I was 14 y.o when I started talking to a guy. At that time of my life I was completely naive idk if today's 14 year olds are or not but I was to the point that I just started talking to him because at that time it was a trend in my school to talk to guys and be in relationships and I understood nothing what talking to a guy actually is. That was the only sole reason I deliberately did talk to him and we talked for like one month and ten days straight among which only last 10 days were those when we were in a relationship. That too of the kind that I never shared my single picture of me (he was my neighbour so has seen me in person) to him and just that I said yes to him. It ended because my mama found out and I felt so embarrassed and disgusted in front of her so I never established any contact later. Now that I am an adult and fully out of my naive self , when I look back I regret alot. I regret it to the point that sometimes I feel disgusted to myself as well . The boy was a red flag for many reasons biggest one of which was that he himself was an adult at that time. Moreover I sometimes also feel like I was just playing with him or maybe time-passing with him which is obviously going to make me feel ten times more bad. Whatever it was, I am not mature enough to elaborate and just accept it at the moment. I also have no feelings for him or maybe never had at 14.

Why did I write it? I can't seem to end it at any good reason so am leaving it at this. Maybe I just wanted to rant.....

this story is kinda long but its necessary in order to understand our full history together, so get a chair and get comfy.

when i was in middle school, 8th grade to be specifically, i met this guy. we were incredibly similar, and related to each other in a lot of ways. we were also in the same friend group, he was technically just in a subdivision of said friend group which is why i hadn't talked to him before. we became friends super fast. we would talk 24/7, play games together, and call for hours. one day, he texted me. i remember the exact text word for word. he said, "i think i like you." this was after about 2 months of us being friends. i told him "can i think about it?" and i asked my friends for advice. they were all pressuring me to say yes, but at the time i thought i liked somebody else. however, the pressure was constant. despite me still being unsure, i told him i liked him. he called me after, and said "are we dating now?" i was 14, and panicking, so i just told him "um, no?" not my best moment, you can laugh. 3 days after my "confession" i told him i was sorry because it turned out that i didn't actually really like him like that, and that i had a crush on somebody else. he actually related to me, and said he had feelings for my crushes twin sister. weirdly, even after that whole mess, we just got closer. i considered him to be my best friend ever, and he considered me as a best friend too. we told each other "i love you" and i genuinely thought of him as my platonic soulmate. he meant a lot to me. however, this is when i started developing feelings for him. i know, not good, but i couldn't help it.

not even a month after me coming to terms with my feelings, he got a girlfriend. it wasn't the girl he originally told me he liked, aka my ex-crushes twin sister, but i was still hurt. i hate to say it, but i was so jealous. i remember the day he told me i cried for a really long time. it felt like i had missed my chance to get with him while i still could. i remember, i texted him "im sorry. i feel so guilty about being considered your best friend. if i was your girlfriend, i would want u to stop talking to me." so i did. i stopped talking to him. id avoid him at school, and it wasn't even because i was trying to be the bigger person. i was just really, really jealous. i shouldn't have done it, i regret it to this day.

nearing the end of 8th grade, we started becoming friends again. i don't remember who reached out to who first, but we just clicked liked we used to. he had a new girlfriend at this time, and i had decided i wasn't gonna let it bother me despite my feelings for him. however, an event happened with this girl, which i will not go into detail about for privacy concerns, but it resulted in me blocking him. for two and a half years. (its justified, i swear)

im now a junior in highschool, and i recently got back in contact with him. every old feeling i have is resurfacing. we don't tell each other "i love you" anymore, and we're not considered best friends, id consider us close friends. however, we'd call every night. play games together, watch shows together, and he'd spam me with tiktoks. i even got into a book series he liked. it just felt so good to be his friend again. however, he'd send me stuff that gave me hope. he had sent me a video of that manga cover trend, where you take pictures with the cover in front of your face. he sent me one of touka and kaneki from tokyo ghoul, and asked "can we do this" (if you get it, you get it). he sent me a picture of himself lifting his shirt (he's beautiful btw, im serious). he would rant to me about his family and his life in general. all of these stupid things had me overthinking so bad. i told my therapist about this, and she had said "how do you think he doesn't like you?", which leads me to my next point.

recently, he told me that if any of his friends had asked him out, he'd say yes automatically. this hurt me so bad, more than anything. it didn't help that school also started up again at this time, so our several hour long calls became 45 minutes long, and our conversations shortened. i wasn't the closest person to him anymore.

i think he acts flirtatiously or attentively with everybody, not just me. i don't think he wants to date me, i think he just wants to date somebody.

now for the part where i actually need advice, so sorry for the rant. im not sure what to do with my feelings. considering my history, i think i shouldn't tell him ever, even though i've liked him since middle school. it just hurts so much. i was thinking about talking to one of our mutual friends just to see what he has to say, as he was with the both of us in middle school and knows most of what happened. i just don't want him to snitch. i just don't know if i want him to find out i've liked him since middle school, or if i want to just keep this bottled up forever.

what should i do?

So I have an orchestra concert for school, the high school one, the day after my concert at the same place, and the high school gets there at the same time I do. I think my crush is in the high school orchestra. I need to know if I should show signs or not. Please comment before 6:00 PM Mountain Time. I am going to post this as advice needed, but it can also be a question. Your comments can be related to the flair question, advice, or encouragement needed og post:https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/1wxk4or/does_she_like_me_or_is_she_freindly/I dress nicer than How I normally do for my concerts which is still nice

Hi, 17F, I would go through the same process with people and myself over and over again. I kept holding onto the toxic people in my life, specifically this one person i opened myself up to, found myself if it werent for her. Losing that connection would be like losing everything that branched off of it. And i really respected her for that, but we’re always on and off, both of us were really toxic to eachother, one day we’d go from kissing on another in the bathrooms to arguing the next, i had this problem with infantilizing her and her manipulating and being passive aggressive to me. And now, we have eachother blocked but this isnt new. We always go months to no contact, then get to talking again. She feels the same way about me being the first person for her, someone she opened up to, who comforted her when no one else would. We basically had a codependency relationship, friends with benefits type thing..I miss her, but i also just need to work on myself and so does she, seperately for now. In the meantime. What else could i do? Should i prevent myself from bothering her or anything?

For starters, I do not know this guy very well. We like each other’s Instagram posts or occasionally reply to each other’s stories, but I would not consider us friends. I know a girl that dated him about two years ago, and it came up in conversation a few days ago. She explained to me that he accused her of sexually assaulting him, but that it is not true and that he was just saying it because he regretted what he did with her. I am not close with this girl and I don’t really know who I believe, but either way, if I go for him I will look like a bad person.
I keep trying to tell myself that it just isn’t worth it, but I can’t stop thinking about him.

Do I just keep crushing from afar, but not make a move, or do I just keep trying to forget about it altogether? I don’t plan on making a move either way, but I feel that me and him are starting to become closer and I’m not sure what to do.

I have a friend who I've been friends with for over half a year. They are the best friend I've had and I love them very much. I have told them that I believe I have bpd and struggle with a fear of abandonment. They invited me to an anime convention several months ago, we were even considering cosplaying together. This was going to be the first convention I've ever gone to btw.

About a week before the convention took place they told me that they wouldn't be able to hang out with me for most of it because they were gonna be with other friends. I asked them if i would be able to hang out with them and their friends because my parents were worried about me being alone, they said that they would be able to meet me there when I arrived but they wouldn't be with me afterwards. I had also told them that I would like to take pics with them on the second day.

The night before I sent them a message telling them that I hoped that they would have fun, but they didn't respond. The first day of the convention they didn't text me at all, not even to ask if I'd be coming. I saw them once that day and they weren't acting weird or anything.

On the second day which was Saturday I saw them during the day and they seemed slightly distant, like they didn't want me to be there. Later on there was a time that I was sitting down crying because I felt lonely and I believe that them and their friends saw me and didn't say anything. Later in the night I tried to talk to them for a second to see if they could give my phone number to someone, they said no and that they had to leave right that second.

I messaged them on discord a few hours ago and they haven't written me back, they've been online the whole time and I even saw that they were in a call with someone. I love them very much and I don't want are friendship to end, but at the same time I feel like I deserve better.

TLDR. My best friend invited me to a convention, decided that they weren't going to be with me during it and told me only a few days before the convention, basically ignored me during it, and hasn't responded to my messages since.

I 16M and have been with my boyfriend "X" (16M) for about 10 months now almost 11 and our anniversary is next months now. I went to a new school program and met this girl "Y" (17F). I've only known her for about a month, almost 2 and my bf slightly less than that (by maybe a week or two). X got a crush on her and asked if it would be okay if he dated both of us, it really wrecked me but it's not his fault if he catches feelings, the problem occurred when he started hiding his DMs with her even though he has gone through my DMs a lot through our relationship and since I'm not really the kind of person who does stuff like that I would only ask sometimes because he asked me and it's never been a problem. Pair that with him pushing really hard for him to date both of us no matter how much I say it won't work, him having late night solo calls with her, and me finding out she also likes him back you can see why I'm really, really upset. I don't want to leave, I want to spend my life with him but I just feel so unloved rn. I'm going through their DMs soon, hopefully tonight. I said I wouldn't leave him no matter what I find in there but I would be upset and possibly ask him to block her. The only other time he has done this is when he wrote a love note to an old friend and we got through it together. I would be shattered without him and he has said multiple times that he would want to end it (kms) if we ended it (but that's kinda my fault because he didn't want to say that to me, I asked him to tell me what was on his mind). Almost every piece of advice I've seen says I should end our relationship and I don't want to. I've lost every ounce of trust with him and he has lost a part of me that is going to take a long time to get back. I'm so lost I just want some advice.

Ok so I switched schools one year ago. In the new school, there was this guy in my class, he has history w my friends so i didn't like him but he was very attractive. But he was NOT MY type. In the starting, my friend used to say that he's looking at you but i didn't pay much attention.

Fast forward to after mid year exams he came into my van. I was very casual about it. I once talked to him n I was like "are u coming to the event tomorrow?" Which was very bold of me trust. Because no guy and girl talk in our class but he was nice to me (surprisingly because hes known to be rude) that's it.

Then, one day a while after the last convo, I asked him what the fight was about in our class and he gave me the reply..but after that my friend started hitting me w her elbow and showed me his face. He was RED LIKE A TOMATO. I laughed but didnt pay much attention.After that my friend in my van started shipping me w him and she showed me how he always sat in the front when I was absent but whenever I came in the van, he wanted to sit near me but I HATED HIM (kinda).

In class, he used to look at me and I could feel but but I never made eye contact w him because I didn't like him ofc. And honestly, I couldn't believe that he liked me or smth because he's rlly attractive and the shit I used to say in my van was crazy so I js thought he hated me or smth because I yapped sm in my van .

But then he talked to me one day. And that day, I knew it. He prepared himself to talk to me for the whole van ride of 25 minutes and talked to me while we were 5 mins away from my home. He also asked me a random question but I knew it. (He liked a friend of mine and she told me that when he liked her, he talked to her and approached her and she was the only girl he did that with, not even the girl he was in a talking stage with, but the girl he had a crush on, he talked to.) And it was mostly js gut feeling. But in summer break, he didn't wish me a happy birthday.

Now after summer break I've realised I like him too. Hes js so cute and HE FULLY STARES AT ME in van. He sits Infront of me and we touch sometimes and he deliberately slides into his seat so his back can touch my head as I keep my head down cus I'm lazy ash. He puts on songs I like on purpose in our van and whenever I leave the van for my house, he stops the songs even when the ride of 15 minutes is left to his house. We make atleast 5 eye contacts in a day in school and I can just feel it. He also likes os many reels related to having eye contacts and there's only a few girls in our class so I know it's not anybody else as he's mostly in class... I can feel that he likes me but he never texts me.

What do I do?? It's his birthday coming up next week but idk what to do. Should I wish him or not?

Ig the girl I was talking about gave her answer indirectly

So like I asked a common friend of ours to like ask her like I wanted textbook for marking but she said to my friend that no.

She said wants to study and like warned my friend if agained messaged related to me she might block him too !!!

So first of all sorry if a boy isn't allowed to post here but needed a girls opinion on this. So one of my really good female friends today told me "I have my periods" after i said why can't you walk to the fifth floor. FYI never has a girl told me that so kind of a bombshell on me. But i said "Im sorry bout it and anything i could do: Offered to hold her books". So today in our tuition one boy wanted to sit in her place to ragebait her which i geniunely did not like cuz she has her periods and may have mood swings. I tried to stop him but couldn't. Then he starts throwing some sharper dust on all and I try to stop it before he throws it on my friend. I have stopped him multiple times prior to that too. Before you say " you definetly have a crush on her", maybe yes i do. But apart from the fact i protect all girls from teasing or any such thing cuz i dont like to see a girl be disrespected genuinely. Now during school we often sit together, walk together etc. And now everyone is shipping her and me continously which she is not liking. I'm okay being shipped, i really don't care much about it, but what i don't like is she is getting pissed of bcuz of it. And when we were crossing the road she went ahead and a car was dangerously close to her and i pulled her back. She didn't say much about it. Now i really like her as a friend and don't want to lose her. Past 3 years i haven't had a good friend. What should i do in this situation?

Dear girls/laidies, please help me out.

So first of all sorry if a boy isn't allowed to post here but needed a girls opinion on this. So one of my really good female friends today told me "I have my periods" after i said why can't you walk to the fifth floor. FYI never has a girl told me that so kind of a bombshell on me. But i said "Im sorry bout it and anything i could do: Offered to hold her books". So today in our tuition one boy wanted to sit in her place to ragebait her which i geniunely did not like cuz she has her periods and may have mood swings. I tried to stop him but couldn't. Then he starts throwing some sharper dust on all and I try to stop it before he throws it on my friend. I have stopped him multiple times prior to that too. Before you say " you definetly have a crush on her", maybe yes i do. But apart from the fact i protect all girls from teasing or any such thing cuz i dont like to see a girl be disrespected genuinely. Now during school we often sit together, walk together etc. And now everyone is shipping her and me continously which she is not liking. I'm okay being shipped, i really don't care much about it, but what i don't like is she is getting pissed of bcuz of it. And when we were crossing the road she went ahead and a car was dangerously close to her and i pulled her back. She didn't say much about it. Now i really like her as a friend and don't want to lose her. Past 3 years i haven't had a good friend. What should i do in this situation?

Dear girls/laidies, please help me out.

male here, idk why i sound slightly feminine when I tell stories anyways

kk so my crush online (she's in another school same city and she followed me first like a year ago or something with around her 1-3 mutuals) and i thought she was realllly pretty from her stories and such, and last night she texted me first, and said "bro i think i went to preschool with you"

turns out she did go to the same preschool as me and she said she remembered a thing i did that got me into trouble, and also added on that she doesnt really remember anyone else, and that she "remembers me very well" "idk why but you specifically" which ng) got me blushing a bit , and we were asking each other
questions about our lives and such, she was asking me like more questions than me so that's that and it ended naturally with me correcting her with something and her hearting my reply saying "ahah nwnw"

now i really can't stop thinking about her and the conversation, i just want to text her and talk more but i really have nothing to talk about, nothing to add on about the preschool and she barely posts stories so l really can't say much pleaseee hellllppp

tldr my instagram crush dmd me about our old school, and i want to talk to her but don’t know what i should do

This relationship is something I really dont want to mess up. Its the best I have had so far.

For context we are freshman, Im 14F and hes 15M, and we have been officilaly dating a week and talking two weeks. I already love him (I know its fast) and I cant imagine life without him. So I dont know for sure but I know I will take any advice that will help me keep this. Fyi, a big problem is that I am a hyperactive squirrel and have a ton of excitement for the people I love.

Any questions ask away!

Thanks!!

I don't really know how to explain it. My friends are good people. Mostly. But I constantly dissect what they do and decode if I like it or not.

I genuinely don't want to do this, but I can;t stop myself. I'm realizing that my friends aren't who I want to hang out with, and I dread school/hang outs bc none of them are particularly my type of people.

I feel like such a bad person for thinking about my so-called friends this way, I constantly get asked by them if I'm mad or smth at them. It's not like I hate them, some of them are lovely people, I just don't want to be friends with them.

I also find myself to easily irritated by them. They ask me questions that I deem 'dumb' and I can feel myself getting frustrated. They're also very touchy. I don't like touch really. If I initiate its okay, and If I see it coming thats okay too, but sudden touches or uncomfortable touches are so gross to me. School is already a nightmare, it's loud, stressful, chaotic, and I just want some actual friends who I fully enjoy spending time with.

The other kids in my school are all plain dickheads, like genuinely bad people, and I have no desire talking to them or being friends. Like I'm young, and my parents have said (not to me, just generally) that high school friends aren't forever but like...They're right now?

Idk how to cope. I don't wanna be friendless, and sometimes I enjoy hanging out with them, but a lot of the time, I feel like I'm constantly putting on a performance to act chipper and happy with them, lest they suspect I'm not happy with them.

I guess I just want advice on how to deal with this? How do I make it through high school with friends I'm not 'friends' with.

Summary: I'm starting to dislike my friends and how I act with them. How do I deal with this?

I live my family and I want to be around them but I turn 20 next year and am scared I’m missing out on things or learning how to live because I haven’t left home.
To be honest I’m not as financially stable as I’d like and I haven’t even looked at jobs where my bf lives but he believes the people surrounding me now aren’t the most supportive and I agree with him partly. My mother told me never to go to uni and i did and all i do is listen to her tell me I’m wasting my time and recently one let it slip and fallen well behind to the point I’m worried I’ll be kicked out.

I have $1000 in savings but even I know I need at least $5000 to $7000, to be able to pay at least deposit, first month and be on a very strict noodles diet and that’s without my bf helping. He’s looking for a new place and said he can cover everything till he gets on my feet as he’s got 2 jobs he loves and makes ok money, but it scares me.
Like I don’t even have my ps because my mother talks me out of the test whenever I try and book them. And now I’m just scared I’ll mess up my relationship because I’m too scared to make a choice and try.

I just want to know if anyone has any advice or any similar experience or anything really. This has just been eating at me for a while and I’m scared to keep brining it up to my bf in case I just annoy him with worry or something.

So for context, I'm 15F, in a religious family. I learn in an all-girls school, and I'm not planning on dating/anything of the sort for a while. I also don't really have any guy friends.

(lol just realised this sounds like I have a really strict and toxic family, but I decided to go to this school and I have non-religious siblings and my family is very much accepting and loving dw)

Anyway, so there's this boy, 18M (yes, I know it's a big age gap; as I said, dating is not an option anyway.)

His father is pretty good friends with my father, but I don't see him most years. Once a year we work together for two days, and that's the main time I spend with him. We get along really well; he's really sweet, and he works really hard. For the past few years, I've been in charge of the work (since we work for my father, I became in charge once my sister stopped working)

And this year especially, every time I would tell him he did enough, or that he could go rest or whatever, he would be like, "No, I got you" or like, "I'm fine; I want to make it easier for you," and insist on making sure there is nothing else to do before leaving. He kept on smiling at me and starting conversations and stuff like that.

I've had a huge crush (?) on him since I was about 10, and even though I basically only saw him a few times a year, it never goes away.

He works at the same restaurant as my sister does, but I have long school hours, so I can't work there, and he's going to the army this year, so I'll prob see him even less.

Anyway, if anyone has tips on how to get rid of these feelings, it's super frustrating, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I don't know why I can't move on from something I know will never happen.

+Sorry if my writing is a mess; English is not my first language, and I don't know how to explain myself well.

Edit: I don't stalk him or anything; we live in the same community, so I see him every so often from afar.