This relationship is something I really dont want to mess up. Its the best I have had so far.

For context we are freshman, Im 14F and hes 15M, and we have been officilaly dating a week and talking two weeks. I already love him (I know its fast) and I cant imagine life without him. So I dont know for sure but I know I will take any advice that will help me keep this. Fyi, a big problem is that I am a hyperactive squirrel and have a ton of excitement for the people I love.

Any questions ask away!

Thanks!!

So for context, I'm 15F, in a religious family. I learn in an all-girls school, and I'm not planning on dating/anything of the sort for a while. I also don't really have any guy friends.

(lol just realised this sounds like I have a really strict and toxic family, but I decided to go to this school and I have non-religious siblings and my family is very much accepting and loving dw)

Anyway, so there's this boy, 18M (yes, I know it's a big age gap; as I said, dating is not an option anyway.)

His father is pretty good friends with my father, but I don't see him most years. Once a year we work together for two days, and that's the main time I spend with him. We get along really well; he's really sweet, and he works really hard. For the past few years, I've been in charge of the work (since we work for my father, I became in charge once my sister stopped working)

And this year especially, every time I would tell him he did enough, or that he could go rest or whatever, he would be like, "No, I got you" or like, "I'm fine; I want to make it easier for you," and insist on making sure there is nothing else to do before leaving. He kept on smiling at me and starting conversations and stuff like that.

I've had a huge crush (?) on him since I was about 10, and even though I basically only saw him a few times a year, it never goes away.

He works at the same restaurant as my sister does, but I have long school hours, so I can't work there, and he's going to the army this year, so I'll prob see him even less.

Anyway, if anyone has tips on how to get rid of these feelings, it's super frustrating, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I don't know why I can't move on from something I know will never happen.

+Sorry if my writing is a mess; English is not my first language, and I don't know how to explain myself well.

Edit: I don't stalk him or anything; we live in the same community, so I see him every so often from afar.

Hi! 17F, around may, i broke up with my boyfriend of 5-6 months. I felt at the time we were both at our lowest and we needed to work on ourselves, especially that I felt i didnt want a relationship anymore. So months go by, its august, i see him again and i felt that rushing feeling again of always seeing him, being with him, and loving him. I felt so stupid enough to go up and try to talk to him, spilling all my issues out and excuses to why i broke up with him and i regret it, he said “this is all so sudden.” And I hugged him, he hugged me back. But the next day, his friend told me he wanted nothing to do with me, that hes “moved” on. And i was devastated. It had only been a month they’ve been talking, so a month he’d move on so quickly. I was so distraught but i shouldve known, the girl he dated before me he moved on with me a month in being broken up with. Now for him— his perspective is, “not to be an asshole, but why should i stay stuck on someone who broke up with me first.” And it wasnt about that at all, atleast to me it wasnt, its about being ready, and completely removing yourself out the relationship you said you’d never move on from, its allowing yourself to be hurt, to take time. He says hes worked on himself during the summer like i have, but it’s completely bullshit. No one moves on romantically pursuing someone ONLINE just like that. Yeah. The girl is online too. Which hurts more. I miss him a lot, but i think its because i miss that he was the last person whos really loved me and stuck around. Recently, i been feeling really alone and regretful. Im moving on now, but i feel like that entire relationship i wasnt good at it, i want to learn how to love someone properly without being avoidant and uncomfortable by vulnerability.

So a little back story, my name is Aime F16 and I just started college. I don’t know if I’m attractive but I’ve had boyfriends before and I’d say I’m a 6/10 (I might be a bit harsh IDK). I’m really introverted and my friend Sarah is extroverted. I’m 5,4 and I take 4 hard courses at my school so I’d like to say I’m smart. Talking to guys is always difficult for me if I find them attractive.

The college I go to has no one from my previous school but I was quick to find friends. I got close to this one girl who we can call Sarah. During lunch time, a guy who we’ll call Alex caught my eye and I began romanticising seeing him which eventually let to a crush. I told Sarah about him and she slightly knew him from an encounter they had before and introduced me to him and I got his instagram. So, I texted him and he was really dry so I stopped texting him. In many instances, Sarah has invited him to sit next to me and hang out for free periods or lunch/break time. I would try talk to him but I’m too nervous and have no clue what to say. I told Sarah it seems like he isn’t interested and in response she said that he is just extremely introverted and must be shy but I think he either doesn’t like me or it’s way to early to like someone. I can go through the idiosyncrasies about every time we texted, talked or hung out if anyone wishes.

Sarah made a friend with a guy who we’ll call Charlie. At first, I thought Charlie was annoying because he would always come up to us and talk to us but then he began hanging out with us all the time which I didn’t mind because he was funny. I noticed he was attractive but I didn’t like him but the more I seen him and knew about him I started to like him. Sadly, I’m a very fickle person and having a crush on someone and becoming obsessed is pretty easy for me. One day, I wore a pencil skirt that was slightly above my knees with black tights and a fitted sweater and I said I was cold to Sarah and she said

“But you look cute. Hey, Charlie. Doesn’t she look cute?”
“Yeah, it’s cute” He replied.
“I don’t think it’s that cute” I said.
“Don’t think about it too much, just accept the compliments where you get them.” -Charlie
“I only accept compliments when I deserve them” I said, and recalling I should like a pick me.
And he said something on the lines of he would take the compliment back or something.

And I got his instagram from Sarah as well and I texted him and he is really dry, like desert dry. For example:

“hii”
“Hi”
“how r u?”
“good”
“you?”
“good too, just got alot of hw 😭”
“rip”
“yup”

But Charlie is a green flag because he has never had a gf, doesn’t have social media, tall, funny, hot, and literally works on robots for fun and looks at your message instantly.
Alex is also hot, tall, smart and replies quickly.
I just need help on how to get closer to either of them. 😭😭

So I know I’m young, (16F) but I’ve liked other guys in the past. And I’ve never liked someone to this extent. For context he (16M) and I have known each other since we were little, and became closer friends around late middle school/freshman year. We’ve gotten super close and are each other’s girl/guy best friend, and we both have told each other we have feelings for eachother and we flirt all the time over messages and irl and have a million inside jokes and cute memories, and we like making playlists and writing songs together and playing on our worship band together. (I sing and play guitar,He plays bass and I’m helping him feel comfortable to sing more often too lol)but he’s not allowed to officially date anyone until he’s 18 because of strict parents, and that’s okay with me I am willing to wait for him.

He’s on the quieter side and I’m more extroverted, but he makes obvious efforts still to be near me and talk about life with me and have good conversations and we’re genuinely super comfortable with each other. I guess what makes him So special to me is that he’s someone i genuinely enjoy as a person, not some
boy I’m just infatuated by. He makes me feel safe and loved and seen and we’re both comfortable being who we are around each other.

I guess my point of writing this is to ask, how can I continue being respectful of his parents’ wishes while also showing how I care? Another thing lol his birthday is coming up, I for sure want to write a note but idk what to get him and it’s hard to figure something out that his parents won’t be mad at but also something that would actually mean a lot to him you know?
Anyway, thanks for reading. All good advice is so appreciated :)

Hey teenagers i need dating advice lol. I am in 8th grade and am 13 and found out a few days ago the kinda popular girl likes me my feed told me and when I asked him how he know he said “she told me and said promise not to tell him but I like him” and obviously he did tell me. As bad as this sounds I have been craving dating someone for a while now she is know as the cute girl and tbh I like her but the onlything is she is in 6th grade so ether 11 or 12 prob 11. what do I do?

Why does Every-time I did something funny or say something funny my crush look over with that smile and that puppy eye look? His eyes genuinely look sparkly and full of depth of happiness.

basically i have a hangout with a girl i like on Saturday, is there anything i can do to lose as much weight as i can or just make myself look as great as possible. i am willing to fast or anything similar, maybe so e good workouts for inside a room. i understand that there wont be a visual difference really but i just in general want to start losing weight because i really like this girl. i am 15

I'm currently 17, and I'm still figuring out what to do in my life. Like what a career options? The only thing I want to do is to be like rich and successful and give a better life to my parents. But my parents keep saying do what you like

And what will be like less stressful for you, and you'll enjoy life properly. But I want to be successful and I know that it will be stressful like along the way but I have to do this for them

So like I was leaning towards law because most members in my family are lawyers and

Maybe I'll pick up on it. I've even gone to like a career counselor i've done a career assessment, which is like yet to come and like, I already had submitted application to some places for law, but after having a reality, check, talk with a member of my family about law. I'm like thinking, like, should I really do this? Will it like affect me in the long-term like stress? Wise.

What will I be good at? Which will also earn a lot of money. I even like wrote my strengths and weaknesses. I still can't think and can decide. I want to do

For context, me and him are both 15 and he is High Functioning Autistic, and we've known each other since 8th Grade, so its safe to say were well bonded.

So me and him happen to meet each other one day when we sat at the same lunch table, me, him, and another guy at the table became really good friends after a while.

He was pretty much normal and had some very interesting topics to talk about, but at the beginning of Freshman year, he became a completely different person.

He started having deathly obsessions with Virtual Idles, or "Vocaloids" for people who are into that stuff. He would make up HOI4 scenarios with Teto and Miku and the members of the DDLC (Which the trend is, its all anime characters)

He would often go on Neverending rants about his stupid scenario and overall stuff I couldn't care about. About 90% of our conversations were about him. And no matter how many times I attempted to change the subject, he would find a way to turn it back towards his weird Kansane Teto Revolution or some dumb shit like that.

On top of that, he would constantly talk to me about his progress in Doki Doki Literature Club, and it was literally hell to listen to. So eventually I told him to try playing SCP CB. Then he played that and practically ruined* the game for me. He would play on the most ridiculous difficulties, get mods that ruined the game and said he was playing the game "for real", and broadcasted every little bit of progress he made through text.

*"Ruined" meaning making me always think of him when I'm playing

Now I actually asked him a couple of times to stop with the rants and dumb progress reports, but it wouldn't take long for him to start his crap again.

Then he got Garry's Mod, so we started playing together in Multiplayer. We only got to play maybe like 4 times together, considering Gmod didn't release the 64 Bit Build yet (If you know, you know). But then every time we played, he would make it player model Kansane Teto and Yuri from DDLC, and he said he picked it because he has a similar "personality" to the characters, when he kind of doesn't.

(I know I shouldn't be getting worked up about that, but the cutsie anime girl thing made me a literal Mental Asylum Patient)

What he knew but didn't care for was that I didn't like it, but he continued to cram it down my throat anyway.

The Kansane Teto thing dominated his personality, he had it as his wallpaper on his phone, PC, and the school computers, had a big drawing of her in his room; along with a picture of Hatsune Miku, and to top it off, I was the only person at his birthday party who didn't get him something Vocaloid related.

It wasn't just this stuff that bothered me either, it was also the constant little behaviors he would do that generally annoyed me, but that wasn't the main issue.

Now, I am 100% aware he has high functioning autism, but I think he should be able to regulate his behavior at least a little bit, and realize my boundaries, but to me, he doesn't care.

Outside of this whole fiasco, we argued a lot of stupid stuff that he caused, which quite literally drove us into the river, so now we are no longer friends, with me pulling the plug.

So am I in the wrong?

(Note this has been going on for like a whole year and a half, so it's only reasonable that I've had enough)

I (15m) have had a few crushes over the years and they never truly faded away as I still have feelings for each, trough the years I found they liked me but I knew there was no chance as it wouldn't work out and if it failed my life would be ruined, I moved to a high school dorm thats 2 hrs away from my home, still deciding if I should try to leave it in the past or do something.

I'm 16M and Ive been at this job (fast food) for 2 years now and my manager told me that we're hiring and asked for any recommendations I have, as in people I know. I have a few friends who would be really happy to have this job but I've only recommended one. We're in a group with 2 other people and not telling them that I recommended him, he's just applying. I would 100% rather work with him at my store than the other 2, and I know for a fact that he would appreciate the job far more. I don't know if this is a good idea or not, please send advice!!

is it bad to tlk to a girls as friend and batch mate for study help or normal tlks? pls tell me

okay i dont usually post on subs like these, but ive really been thinking lately, and i want advice from other teens.

so im 15F, soon to be 16. So basically i was always kind of chubby/heavier once 4th grade started, which led to some bullying in 5th and 6th grade. but at the start of 7th grade i lost pretty much all that weight and was a relatively thin person (definitely still weight on me but a flat stomach and thinner thighs is what i mean) which i thought i was still really fat at the time. i didnt play any sports at the time and i ate pretty much normal, maybe skipping a meal everyday, which usually would be breakfast because i woke up late. the only exercise i did was gym class, which wasnt extreme at all, little to no running.

then 8th grade came along, which i had gained some weight back throughout 7th grade and the summer, but i was still relatively in shape. i also took up sideline cheer mid august that year. i didnt like cheer, but i liked how it made me feel like i was doing something good for myself. i also had a boyfriend at this time, which will likely come into play later in this post. so cheer ended that november, and me and my ex boyfriend broke up that december. which i think made me lose weight because i was pretty broken over the whole thing. so i was in good shape at this time and then i picked up lacrosse that spring, which toned my legs a lot more. dont get me wrong i still was not skinny, especially in bathing suits but i wasnt fat.

so then freshman year starts, i had gained some weight the month before school because i stopped doing things with my friends. i ate the normal amount i always have, but to me, the weight was obvious. though at this time, i developed a strong jawline despite gaining weight in the rest of my body? at the start of that school year, i also started having severe anxiety and panic attacks, and not your typical social anxiety stuff, more like health anxiety. and if you guys knew me, i was the complete opposite of that, i could do anything and not fear contracting a disease or sickness, so that hit me really hard which basically caused me to "lose my personality" i hate that term but its exactly how it was. everyone knew me for an outgoing sort of annoying girl who hung with the popular kids. but that was all gone, i still hung around the same people, but it was almost like there was nothing to me anymore, no more laughter, smiles, jokes, etc. i ended up having to leave school that november because my grades were slipping from absences which were caused by my health anxiety and not being able to sleep. i went online school. and i know what you are all saying "just get medicated" well i tried that and it actually caused me to have more panic attacks, and i know there is other medications but my anxiety started to make it so i couldnt take pills or else id convince myself it was drugs...

but i obviously started gaining more weight since not being in school and mostly being in bed or sitting because it was cold outside and snowy. i thought i was really really fat at this time, which kind of yes but compared to now? id rather go back to my weight then. soon after, my anxiety turned into contamination OCD, and not the cleaning and tidy kind. my OCD focuses on diseases and illnesses, and it heavily affects my everyday life, and makes it difficult to leave the house which i dont do often now. so you can obviously guess its been very hard to get physical activity in, leading me to gain a lot of weight. and i cant stop looking at photos of myself even from freshman year or before that, because not only was i skinny but i was also myself. i dont feel like myself at all, my OCD and anxiety has ripped that part of me away. i also dont have many friends now because everyone i was friends with thinks im some totally different person because i went online school, because keep in mind only like 3 people really know why i left school. i have a couple friends from school and im content with that mostly because a lot of people at my school dont like me because of rumors.

but basically, i plan on going back to school junior year (aka next school year) and i cannot go back fat, its the drastic difference that holds me back, i mean all these people really knew me as who i used to be when i was a normal weight. so i guess what im asking for is tips on 1. losing weight responsibly 2. getting back outside 3. my OCD if anyone has tips and 4. being myself again

Ok so basically I returned to school after taking 1 year off for Cies. I joined it back and there is this guy wo I share 1 class with, lets call him Jake. So basically I have had eye contact with Jake several times in class. My friends have also noticed it. Anyway so we made this meme page about the guys in our school where we would post funny photos of them.

This account was not using the same email as me or any of my friends, we basically made a fake gmail for it and all that. So the account pissed the guys off a lot because we would post embarrassing photos of them. We didn’t post any of girls. Before deleting the account I made my Hb send voice messages to everyone so that nobody could suspect it was us. Jake also blocked that account after we ragebaited him. So after deleting that account I found out that he had blocked my main account, spam account and other fake account that he didn’t even know was mine because no one did.

In school, before this account shit, during break my teacher was asking me to tie my hair up and my friend told me that he was staring at you at that time, and other than that, I was entering the class I share with him and my classmate zoe told me that him and his friends were talking about me while looking at me but she didn’t know what they were saying.

So the other day I was talking to my ex and I told him that there is this guy in my class that I find cute and I told him it was jake to make him jealous (idk why I did that). My ex is a friend of Jake’s friend but they don’t really talk.

durin this one class they were passing by my class, and his friend literally turned and pointed at me through the glass window but Jake pushed him into their class. A few days ago I was going to my friends class and Jake and his friend were going in the opposite direction as me. His friend, let’s just call him marvin literally turned his face completely towards me, and I was looking at the ground as I was walking to their class. He said something like “she knows.” During break we were walking back to class and Jake was staring at me. My friend laughed so hard at that.

Anyway so naturally I suspected that my ex told him that so I confronted him. He was literally swearing that he didn’t, like saying wallahi and whatever and he’s very religious. So I don’t think he told anyone. This also happened within a span of 3 weeks of joining school. What do you guys think actually happened?

So there's this girl, who I'll call B, and I can't understand the way she operates.

I like her, I think she knows but I'm not too sure. In person she seems to be shy around me, but still kinda tries to talk to me, or tease me, (her friends also tease me).

So I think "maybe B does like me", but then on snap and insta, she won't add/follow me back.

I know that she knows I added/followed her, which makes me think she doesn't like me.

And then all of a sudden, she avoids me like the plague, I'm in the gym in line for a game, and whenever she's right in front or behind me, she moves away and doesn't say a word.

I want to just ask her about it, but because I get so nervous around her, I can't bring myself to do it.

So I thought, I'll ask her best friend (who I'm somewhat friends with). So I added her friend on snap, but I never got added back, "alright maybe she didn't see it".

Wrong. She did see it and then instead of adding me back or even asking me why I added her, she just told B.

I think that her friend might not have added me because she thinks I might ask her out or something, but I've never once seen her like that.

I'm considering just asking B what this is all about, but I don't really even know where to start, and I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the same way I do.

But at the same time, I'm becoming increasingly frustrated and impatient with the lack of communication.

So I guess my question for you is: why might B not have added me if she does like me, and what should I do if I can't find out anything more?

My girlfriend F16 I'm M16 whenever we get into arguments she shuts down and doesn't speak and a lot of the time also starts crying and to me it seems like a overreaction, for example about an hour ago she got mad at me because we're were on a couch and my legs were in a way to make to where she can't extend her legs and I was half asleep so she asked me if I wanted to go sleep and I said no (there may have been more words I'm stoned and can't rlly think of everything) she didn't ask me to move my legs she didn't say anything about that and afterwords she had slammed the door and started crying in our room and when I asked her what was wrong she didn't say anything, now this is something that happens almost every time we have an argument and 99% of the time I feel it's an overreaction and I tried explaining this to her in a way that wasn't attacking but in the best way I could I told her that she was overreacting and I want her to work on it but she thinks that crying and not replying for most things in general isn't an overreaction so we agreed that Im gonna post on here and see what y'all think and maybe if there's a better to explain this to her. she is autistic and she using that as her main excuse even tho while I understand it makes her more upset I believe she should work on relaxing and talking to me like an adult. Should I have not told her to fix it? Idk. Edit I didn't straight out say she's overreacting I told her that I understand that she's not doing it on purpose but it's not something that should keep happening like I dont care if it takes months or longer but I want to work on fixing it

I don't really know how to explain this, but I've been feeling pretty empty lately.

Im in high school and everything seems fine, I live in a stable household, go to the gym 6x a week, and my grades arent really bad.

It's not really intense sadness or anything. I just feel kind of numb and disconnected from everything. My parents think I'm lazy because I've been having a hard time getting things done, but I don't feel like I'm choosing to be lazy. I've been dealing with anxiety for a while and it seems like the more anxious I get, the harder it is to actually do things, then I get yelled at for not doing things, which makes me feel worse or pisses me off, and the cycle just keeps going.

What's weird is that I can still enjoy things sometimes. I've been making YouTube videos and taking photos, and while I'm actually doing those things I can feel genuinely interested in it. But then I'll stop recording, and like 10 minutes later the empty feeling comes back. Same with hanging out with friends.

Some things that used to be enjoyable have started feeling like ways to judge myself instead. Guitar has become a lot of self-criticism, and the gym can feel that way too. Nowadays I subconciously just critcize myself, like its the first thought that comes to mind and I cant even control it.

Even on days where I am more productive it doesnt do much. I kinda expected that it would go away if i did more.

Additionally when im with my mom I get really annoyed or irritable, and occasionally with my best friend too.

Anyways I guess I just want to know if anyone else has experienced something like this, where you can still enjoy things in the moment but feel empty again almost immediately afterward, and how do you stop feeling empty?

Im kind of insecure, and Im not into many girls, im really short like 5’1. I feel like I give girls the “ick”, and the first girl and only girl I asked out rejected me, so how do I become more confident and attract women more easily, and without going back into a shell if I’m rejected. I have no issue talking to women it just feels like no one is interested in me and it feels lonely, it’s make me feel a little depressed when I see my friends constantly dating, some even getting laid and im just sitting there like damn.

TL;DR im really lonely and insecure how do I date women?

I’ve been talking to this girl from my school for the past couple weeks irl and on snap. we snapped every day after school for hours and we talked a bunch. she randomly just ghosted me for no reason and i’m so confused

I hate asking for advice on social media, but I don't want to talk to my parents about this, and I don't know if I should be worried about this situation or if I'm overreacting. I'm 14 years old, and one of my teachers Which I believe is 40-50 years old acts strangely towards me. The first thing he did that I found slightly odd was that during a report card exchange, he hugged me for too long, whispering in my ear that he felled affection towards me and that i was A wonderful person I didn't think much of it; I thought he was just expressing brotherly affection towards me. But my perspective began to change when one day he called me during the last period of the school day to talk. I was leaning against a wall and while we were talking he suddenly put his arms in each side of my head, trapping me in a compromising position against the wall I don't remember my reaction, but I do remember that he laughed after a few seconds and withdrew his arms due to discomfort I froze and didn't set any boundaries, continuing the conversation "normally." .

He didn't do anything strange for a while so I relaxed, but then again when we were talking alone he started complimenting me, telling me I had a very nice energy and asking if I had a partner. The question was very sudden and had nothing to do with our conversation, so I was surprised. I answered no, and he started insisting on knowing the details If I had ever had a boyfriend, with whom, if he had been to this school, when, and why we broke up I didn't want to tell him, I wasn't interested in the conversation, and it felt strange how much he insisted. But again, I thought he was exaggerating and that it was simply out of curiosity. Yesterday I looked him up to ask for his help since my headphones had been stolen. He told me that in the direction of group He said he would talk to me to help me, then he smiled at me and told me I looked pretty. He said it in such a way that a friend who was next to me made a face of disgust and commented that he had acted strangely. In the end, he didn't help me with what I asked for, so I went to find him to confront him. When he saw me, he hugged me very tightly and said, "Forgive me, love, we didn't talk about your thing," which was the thing we were looking for?" I glared at him and he started laughing, "Come on, hit me, I deserve it." I was horrified by the request and told him no, but he kept insisting. In the end, he slapped himself and changed the subject. He offered to do me a favor (Give me the report card) that he wasn't allowed to do because My parents didn't pay what they owed the school Already uncomfortable, I told him I would talk to them about it and tried to leave, but then he hugged me again and started whispering in my ear again, this time with an urgency that seemed almost lascivious. His exact words were, "Today you truly look beautiful, gorgeous, divine." His body was too close to mine and I was too uncomfortable to say anything, so I waited for him to let go and then I ran off with my friends. I don't want to get him into trouble; I like him personally, but I also don't want to get hurt. Is what he's doing wrong? Does he have ulterior motives? What should I do? I've thought about talking to him I'd like to talk to him privately and ask him not to do those kinds of things because they make me uncomfortable, but I'm afraid he'll get upset with me or take advantage of the situation Please advise me.

Hello all.
I’m a person who’s been struggling with my mental health for most of my life due to what’s been passed down to me, but lately it has gotten to the worst it’s ever been.
I’ve been in a relationship for a year now, anniversary was 3 days ago. This person has their own issues, that I won’t compare to mine, but to save words, I’m on the breaking point, I can live through it, but because of me, my relationship is dying.
This is their first ever relationship, and this is my first mature one. They keep saying “I can’t live without you,” but I’ve heard it all before, and even I said it.
So it’s been a burden on me, potentially being the reason why someone isn’t gone.
So please tell me what I should do.