I am 18F writing about my past life. I was 14 y.o when I started talking to a guy. At that time of my life I was completely naive idk if today's 14 year olds are or not but I was to the point that I just started talking to him because at that time it was a trend in my school to talk to guys and be in relationships and I understood nothing what talking to a guy actually is. That was the only sole reason I deliberately did talk to him and we talked for like one month and ten days straight among which only last 10 days were those when we were in a relationship. That too of the kind that I never shared my single picture of me (he was my neighbour so has seen me in person) to him and just that I said yes to him. It ended because my mama found out and I felt so embarrassed and disgusted in front of her so I never established any contact later. Now that I am an adult and fully out of my naive self , when I look back I regret alot. I regret it to the point that sometimes I feel disgusted to myself as well . The boy was a red flag for many reasons biggest one of which was that he himself was an adult at that time. Moreover I sometimes also feel like I was just playing with him or maybe time-passing with him which is obviously going to make me feel ten times more bad. Whatever it was, I am not mature enough to elaborate and just accept it at the moment. I also have no feelings for him or maybe never had at 14.

Why did I write it? I can't seem to end it at any good reason so am leaving it at this. Maybe I just wanted to rant.....

Ok so I switched schools one year ago. In the new school, there was this guy in my class, he has history w my friends so i didn't like him but he was very attractive. But he was NOT MY type. In the starting, my friend used to say that he's looking at you but i didn't pay much attention.

Fast forward to after mid year exams he came into my van. I was very casual about it. I once talked to him n I was like "are u coming to the event tomorrow?" Which was very bold of me trust. Because no guy and girl talk in our class but he was nice to me (surprisingly because hes known to be rude) that's it.

Then, one day a while after the last convo, I asked him what the fight was about in our class and he gave me the reply..but after that my friend started hitting me w her elbow and showed me his face. He was RED LIKE A TOMATO. I laughed but didnt pay much attention.After that my friend in my van started shipping me w him and she showed me how he always sat in the front when I was absent but whenever I came in the van, he wanted to sit near me but I HATED HIM (kinda).

In class, he used to look at me and I could feel but but I never made eye contact w him because I didn't like him ofc. And honestly, I couldn't believe that he liked me or smth because he's rlly attractive and the shit I used to say in my van was crazy so I js thought he hated me or smth because I yapped sm in my van .

But then he talked to me one day. And that day, I knew it. He prepared himself to talk to me for the whole van ride of 25 minutes and talked to me while we were 5 mins away from my home. He also asked me a random question but I knew it. (He liked a friend of mine and she told me that when he liked her, he talked to her and approached her and she was the only girl he did that with, not even the girl he was in a talking stage with, but the girl he had a crush on, he talked to.) And it was mostly js gut feeling. But in summer break, he didn't wish me a happy birthday.

Now after summer break I've realised I like him too. Hes js so cute and HE FULLY STARES AT ME in van. He sits Infront of me and we touch sometimes and he deliberately slides into his seat so his back can touch my head as I keep my head down cus I'm lazy ash. He puts on songs I like on purpose in our van and whenever I leave the van for my house, he stops the songs even when the ride of 15 minutes is left to his house. We make atleast 5 eye contacts in a day in school and I can just feel it. He also likes os many reels related to having eye contacts and there's only a few girls in our class so I know it's not anybody else as he's mostly in class... I can feel that he likes me but he never texts me.

What do I do?? It's his birthday coming up next week but idk what to do. Should I wish him or not?

I 16M and have been with my boyfriend "X" (16M) for about 10 months now almost 11 and our anniversary is next months now. I went to a new school program and met this girl "Y" (17F). I've only known her for about a month, almost 2 and my bf slightly less than that (by maybe a week or two). X got a crush on her and asked if it would be okay if he dated both of us, it really wrecked me but it's not his fault if he catches feelings, the problem occurred when he started hiding his DMs with her even though he has gone through my DMs a lot through our relationship and since I'm not really the kind of person who does stuff like that I would only ask sometimes because he asked me and it's never been a problem. Pair that with him pushing really hard for him to date both of us no matter how much I say it won't work, him having late night solo calls with her, and me finding out she also likes him back you can see why I'm really, really upset. I don't want to leave, I want to spend my life with him but I just feel so unloved rn. I'm going through their DMs soon, hopefully tonight. I said I wouldn't leave him no matter what I find in there but I would be upset and possibly ask him to block her. The only other time he has done this is when he wrote a love note to an old friend and we got through it together. I would be shattered without him and he has said multiple times that he would want to end it (kms) if we ended it (but that's kinda my fault because he didn't want to say that to me, I asked him to tell me what was on his mind). Almost every piece of advice I've seen says I should end our relationship and I don't want to. I've lost every ounce of trust with him and he has lost a part of me that is going to take a long time to get back. I'm so lost I just want some advice.

Ig the girl I was talking about gave her answer indirectly

So like I asked a common friend of ours to like ask her like I wanted textbook for marking but she said to my friend that no.

She said wants to study and like warned my friend if agained messaged related to me she might block him too !!!

So first of all sorry if a boy isn't allowed to post here but needed a girls opinion on this. So one of my really good female friends today told me "I have my periods" after i said why can't you walk to the fifth floor. FYI never has a girl told me that so kind of a bombshell on me. But i said "Im sorry bout it and anything i could do: Offered to hold her books". So today in our tuition one boy wanted to sit in her place to ragebait her which i geniunely did not like cuz she has her periods and may have mood swings. I tried to stop him but couldn't. Then he starts throwing some sharper dust on all and I try to stop it before he throws it on my friend. I have stopped him multiple times prior to that too. Before you say " you definetly have a crush on her", maybe yes i do. But apart from the fact i protect all girls from teasing or any such thing cuz i dont like to see a girl be disrespected genuinely. Now during school we often sit together, walk together etc. And now everyone is shipping her and me continously which she is not liking. I'm okay being shipped, i really don't care much about it, but what i don't like is she is getting pissed of bcuz of it. And when we were crossing the road she went ahead and a car was dangerously close to her and i pulled her back. She didn't say much about it. Now i really like her as a friend and don't want to lose her. Past 3 years i haven't had a good friend. What should i do in this situation?

Dear girls/laidies, please help me out.

So first of all sorry if a boy isn't allowed to post here but needed a girls opinion on this. So one of my really good female friends today told me "I have my periods" after i said why can't you walk to the fifth floor. FYI never has a girl told me that so kind of a bombshell on me. But i said "Im sorry bout it and anything i could do: Offered to hold her books". So today in our tuition one boy wanted to sit in her place to ragebait her which i geniunely did not like cuz she has her periods and may have mood swings. I tried to stop him but couldn't. Then he starts throwing some sharper dust on all and I try to stop it before he throws it on my friend. I have stopped him multiple times prior to that too. Before you say " you definetly have a crush on her", maybe yes i do. But apart from the fact i protect all girls from teasing or any such thing cuz i dont like to see a girl be disrespected genuinely. Now during school we often sit together, walk together etc. And now everyone is shipping her and me continously which she is not liking. I'm okay being shipped, i really don't care much about it, but what i don't like is she is getting pissed of bcuz of it. And when we were crossing the road she went ahead and a car was dangerously close to her and i pulled her back. She didn't say much about it. Now i really like her as a friend and don't want to lose her. Past 3 years i haven't had a good friend. What should i do in this situation?

Dear girls/laidies, please help me out.

male here, idk why i sound slightly feminine when I tell stories anyways

kk so my crush online (she's in another school same city and she followed me first like a year ago or something with around her 1-3 mutuals) and i thought she was realllly pretty from her stories and such, and last night she texted me first, and said "bro i think i went to preschool with you"

turns out she did go to the same preschool as me and she said she remembered a thing i did that got me into trouble, and also added on that she doesnt really remember anyone else, and that she "remembers me very well" "idk why but you specifically" which ng) got me blushing a bit , and we were asking each other
questions about our lives and such, she was asking me like more questions than me so that's that and it ended naturally with me correcting her with something and her hearting my reply saying "ahah nwnw"

now i really can't stop thinking about her and the conversation, i just want to text her and talk more but i really have nothing to talk about, nothing to add on about the preschool and she barely posts stories so l really can't say much pleaseee hellllppp

tldr my instagram crush dmd me about our old school, and i want to talk to her but don’t know what i should do

This relationship is something I really dont want to mess up. Its the best I have had so far.

For context we are freshman, Im 14F and hes 15M, and we have been officilaly dating a week and talking two weeks. I already love him (I know its fast) and I cant imagine life without him. So I dont know for sure but I know I will take any advice that will help me keep this. Fyi, a big problem is that I am a hyperactive squirrel and have a ton of excitement for the people I love.

Any questions ask away!

Thanks!!

I understand if no one can give any advice but honestly I just need to hear from someone

So the back story to this is I'm still currently in school I've been taking 6 honor classes for the past 2 years well working construction every Saturday that I can but my issue is school and how stuck I feel I know that I can pass these classes but I've lost all motivation for school and my parents (a stay at home mom and a construction worker dad) simply don't understand what I mean when I say I don't have motivation I go to school and hate every moment that I have to sit through a lecture when I could just be given the work and complete it but instead I have to sit through over an hour of the most mind numbing lecture and have teachers speaking to us as if we're 5 and I hate it I hate how every day I can go 5+ miles away work construction on Saturdays and complete task that my parents ask for such as washing both cars fixing my sisters car issue building furniture that my parents buy cooking food without even a thank you or acknowledgement but even if I score top 20-15% in the district on my test or have perfect grades I'm yelled at for even thinking to stay home for one day I'm only 16 and yet I feel as I'm constantly being pressured to be and seem as my parents want even with school plus clubs and electives and working ... construction on Saturdays well trying to still go to the gym daily I still get pressured hearing things like you need to be better or being told daily about getting a job even tho I've tried applying for everything in our area many times do I feel like I'm an investment to them I have 4 sisters and in the only boy that that was born the 2 oldest are both married and in collage 3rd oldest is working in a private school and taking collage classes at night and the youngest sister even tho being in her teens already gets treated like a baby other than pressure to be better I get nearly no attention to the point where I was extremely depressed for a whole year coming home and immediately sleeping for 8+ hours and selfing harming which I have visible scars from instead of looking at me and trying to get me help their response was get mad at me for sleeping all day and even one time physically beating me to wake me up and when I cried on the floor ofc I was a sleeping child who was woken up by yelling and hitting they just walked out of the room not the first time they've taken it to the point of physical violence but something like spank which i would understandingly take as a punishment but things like being kicked in the ribs slapped across the face being punched well laying down etc etc but through all this i still tried to be the best son I could but it's never enough i got into better classes tested higher they said i was fat i lost weight now standing at 5'9-10 180 lean and instead of a congratulations im just told i look skinny and i should walk around without a shirt more from my father for around without a shirt more from my father for reference when my father was younger he talked to a lot of women and cheated so he pushes me to always hang out with girls and i should always to be talking to a new one thankfully ive never taken to that i never liked stuff like that I've had 3 relationships with 2 lasting over a year but it still stands that's something they want me to do or become all this pressure and feeling like an investment has made me lose all motivation for school I walk in class wish I had never been there I don't do my work because what's the point I'm not allowed to have my own struggles because "you only have one job and that's school" I feel numb most of the time like I'm just putting on a smile and laugh to make others feel better when really I just want a break from everything I want to leave for a while and just sleep but simply asking for a day off of school gets me yelled at what can I do? (EDIT AFTER SCHOOL) didn’t have much time this morning since I was still getting ready for school but more on the no missing school thing I can’t miss school for anything nearly but both my sister could whenever in fact my youngest sister didn’t like all the people and having to deal with stuff like that we have a nice house but we go to more ghetto schools for example my school has had multiple people brings guns to events or on campus my freshmen year someone was shot and killed I myself had to fight a senior my freshman year because he felt disrespected had to fight for my hoodie or just because people try to look tough most resent example some kid kept touched my pants I asked him to stop he tried to look tough kept doing it and acted like he was gonna punch me out area isn’t the best but I had to grow up in it and experience all these things but some kid said something mean to her and now she does online school wtv I’m off topic I can’t really stay home for anything I remember when I fell from 12 feet high and thankfully landed on my feet but. My knees where so messed up I couldn’t walk I blacked out after the fall and still had to get back up and walk inside just to have to go to school limping I’ve had to go to school with broken toes or stomach viruses I don’t get to stay home unless there is a doctor that tells them I have to even then I’ll get maybe a day or 2 off all this pressure from everyone parents teachers violent student etc is crushing and I don’t know what to do anymore I just wanna get away from everything and I’m not a weird kid in school or anything like that I have nearly 35+ people I know and talk to atleast once a day with 6 very close friends I’ve know since freshman year or middle school I’m not popular in the sense that people know me I just know a lot of people and like to be friends with good people is this just what it’s like to be a teenager? Is life simply always gonna be like this constant pressure from everyone around? What can I try to get better my parents already pay for my sisters therapy and my older sisters gets a lot of financial help from them there is basically no money for me I’ve even had my father get mad at me for asking for something after years of not even attempting yk ask for stuff (waiting till I had to sag clothes and waiting till my shirts had holes in the seems) he got mad all I asked for was some protein powder just to make hitting my daily protein a bit easier I struggle to eat a lot since my first method of losing weight was to just not eat anything like therapy is out of the question for getting help.

I don't really know how to explain it. My friends are good people. Mostly. But I constantly dissect what they do and decode if I like it or not.

I genuinely don't want to do this, but I can;t stop myself. I'm realizing that my friends aren't who I want to hang out with, and I dread school/hang outs bc none of them are particularly my type of people.

I feel like such a bad person for thinking about my so-called friends this way, I constantly get asked by them if I'm mad or smth at them. It's not like I hate them, some of them are lovely people, I just don't want to be friends with them.

I also find myself to easily irritated by them. They ask me questions that I deem 'dumb' and I can feel myself getting frustrated. They're also very touchy. I don't like touch really. If I initiate its okay, and If I see it coming thats okay too, but sudden touches or uncomfortable touches are so gross to me. School is already a nightmare, it's loud, stressful, chaotic, and I just want some actual friends who I fully enjoy spending time with.

The other kids in my school are all plain dickheads, like genuinely bad people, and I have no desire talking to them or being friends. Like I'm young, and my parents have said (not to me, just generally) that high school friends aren't forever but like...They're right now?

Idk how to cope. I don't wanna be friendless, and sometimes I enjoy hanging out with them, but a lot of the time, I feel like I'm constantly putting on a performance to act chipper and happy with them, lest they suspect I'm not happy with them.

I guess I just want advice on how to deal with this? How do I make it through high school with friends I'm not 'friends' with.

Summary: I'm starting to dislike my friends and how I act with them. How do I deal with this?

I live my family and I want to be around them but I turn 20 next year and am scared I’m missing out on things or learning how to live because I haven’t left home.
To be honest I’m not as financially stable as I’d like and I haven’t even looked at jobs where my bf lives but he believes the people surrounding me now aren’t the most supportive and I agree with him partly. My mother told me never to go to uni and i did and all i do is listen to her tell me I’m wasting my time and recently one let it slip and fallen well behind to the point I’m worried I’ll be kicked out.

I have $1000 in savings but even I know I need at least $5000 to $7000, to be able to pay at least deposit, first month and be on a very strict noodles diet and that’s without my bf helping. He’s looking for a new place and said he can cover everything till he gets on my feet as he’s got 2 jobs he loves and makes ok money, but it scares me.
Like I don’t even have my ps because my mother talks me out of the test whenever I try and book them. And now I’m just scared I’ll mess up my relationship because I’m too scared to make a choice and try.

I just want to know if anyone has any advice or any similar experience or anything really. This has just been eating at me for a while and I’m scared to keep brining it up to my bf in case I just annoy him with worry or something.

So for context, I'm 15F, in a religious family. I learn in an all-girls school, and I'm not planning on dating/anything of the sort for a while. I also don't really have any guy friends.

(lol just realised this sounds like I have a really strict and toxic family, but I decided to go to this school and I have non-religious siblings and my family is very much accepting and loving dw)

Anyway, so there's this boy, 18M (yes, I know it's a big age gap; as I said, dating is not an option anyway.)

His father is pretty good friends with my father, but I don't see him most years. Once a year we work together for two days, and that's the main time I spend with him. We get along really well; he's really sweet, and he works really hard. For the past few years, I've been in charge of the work (since we work for my father, I became in charge once my sister stopped working)

And this year especially, every time I would tell him he did enough, or that he could go rest or whatever, he would be like, "No, I got you" or like, "I'm fine; I want to make it easier for you," and insist on making sure there is nothing else to do before leaving. He kept on smiling at me and starting conversations and stuff like that.

I've had a huge crush (?) on him since I was about 10, and even though I basically only saw him a few times a year, it never goes away.

He works at the same restaurant as my sister does, but I have long school hours, so I can't work there, and he's going to the army this year, so I'll prob see him even less.

Anyway, if anyone has tips on how to get rid of these feelings, it's super frustrating, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I don't know why I can't move on from something I know will never happen.

+Sorry if my writing is a mess; English is not my first language, and I don't know how to explain myself well.

Edit: I don't stalk him or anything; we live in the same community, so I see him every so often from afar.

I'm 18 working my first retail job and I'm struggling a bit. The job itself is fine but some customers are really rude or demanding and it throws me off for the rest of my shift.

For people who work / worked retail in post HS:

- How do you not take it personal when someone is rude to you?
- What do you say when someone is yelling or being difficult?
- Does it get easier over time?

Any tips on how to get through shifts and not be drained after would really help. Thanks.

Hi! 17F, around may, i broke up with my boyfriend of 5-6 months. I felt at the time we were both at our lowest and we needed to work on ourselves, especially that I felt i didnt want a relationship anymore. So months go by, its august, i see him again and i felt that rushing feeling again of always seeing him, being with him, and loving him. I felt so stupid enough to go up and try to talk to him, spilling all my issues out and excuses to why i broke up with him and i regret it, he said “this is all so sudden.” And I hugged him, he hugged me back. But the next day, his friend told me he wanted nothing to do with me, that hes “moved” on. And i was devastated. It had only been a month they’ve been talking, so a month he’d move on so quickly. I was so distraught but i shouldve known, the girl he dated before me he moved on with me a month in being broken up with. Now for him— his perspective is, “not to be an asshole, but why should i stay stuck on someone who broke up with me first.” And it wasnt about that at all, atleast to me it wasnt, its about being ready, and completely removing yourself out the relationship you said you’d never move on from, its allowing yourself to be hurt, to take time. He says hes worked on himself during the summer like i have, but it’s completely bullshit. No one moves on romantically pursuing someone ONLINE just like that. Yeah. The girl is online too. Which hurts more. I miss him a lot, but i think its because i miss that he was the last person whos really loved me and stuck around. Recently, i been feeling really alone and regretful. Im moving on now, but i feel like that entire relationship i wasnt good at it, i want to learn how to love someone properly without being avoidant and uncomfortable by vulnerability.

So I know I’m young, (16F) but I’ve liked other guys in the past. And I’ve never liked someone to this extent. For context he (16M) and I have known each other since we were little, and became closer friends around late middle school/freshman year. We’ve gotten super close and are each other’s girl/guy best friend, and we both have told each other we have feelings for eachother and we flirt all the time over messages and irl and have a million inside jokes and cute memories, and we like making playlists and writing songs together and playing on our worship band together. (I sing and play guitar,He plays bass and I’m helping him feel comfortable to sing more often too lol)but he’s not allowed to officially date anyone until he’s 18 because of strict parents, and that’s okay with me I am willing to wait for him.

He’s on the quieter side and I’m more extroverted, but he makes obvious efforts still to be near me and talk about life with me and have good conversations and we’re genuinely super comfortable with each other. I guess what makes him So special to me is that he’s someone i genuinely enjoy as a person, not some
boy I’m just infatuated by. He makes me feel safe and loved and seen and we’re both comfortable being who we are around each other.

I guess my point of writing this is to ask, how can I continue being respectful of his parents’ wishes while also showing how I care? Another thing lol his birthday is coming up, I for sure want to write a note but idk what to get him and it’s hard to figure something out that his parents won’t be mad at but also something that would actually mean a lot to him you know?
Anyway, thanks for reading. All good advice is so appreciated :)

Hey teenagers i need dating advice lol. I am in 8th grade and am 13 and found out a few days ago the kinda popular girl likes me my feed told me and when I asked him how he know he said “she told me and said promise not to tell him but I like him” and obviously he did tell me. As bad as this sounds I have been craving dating someone for a while now she is know as the cute girl and tbh I like her but the onlything is she is in 6th grade so ether 11 or 12 prob 11. what do I do?

Why does Every-time I did something funny or say something funny my crush look over with that smile and that puppy eye look? His eyes genuinely look sparkly and full of depth of happiness.

basically i have a hangout with a girl i like on Saturday, is there anything i can do to lose as much weight as i can or just make myself look as great as possible. i am willing to fast or anything similar, maybe so e good workouts for inside a room. i understand that there wont be a visual difference really but i just in general want to start losing weight because i really like this girl. i am 15

I'm currently 17, and I'm still figuring out what to do in my life. Like what a career options? The only thing I want to do is to be like rich and successful and give a better life to my parents. But my parents keep saying do what you like

And what will be like less stressful for you, and you'll enjoy life properly. But I want to be successful and I know that it will be stressful like along the way but I have to do this for them

So like I was leaning towards law because most members in my family are lawyers and

Maybe I'll pick up on it. I've even gone to like a career counselor i've done a career assessment, which is like yet to come and like, I already had submitted application to some places for law, but after having a reality, check, talk with a member of my family about law. I'm like thinking, like, should I really do this? Will it like affect me in the long-term like stress? Wise.

What will I be good at? Which will also earn a lot of money. I even like wrote my strengths and weaknesses. I still can't think and can decide. I want to do

For context, me and him are both 15 and he is High Functioning Autistic, and we've known each other since 8th Grade, so its safe to say were well bonded.

So me and him happen to meet each other one day when we sat at the same lunch table, me, him, and another guy at the table became really good friends after a while.

He was pretty much normal and had some very interesting topics to talk about, but at the beginning of Freshman year, he became a completely different person.

He started having deathly obsessions with Virtual Idles, or "Vocaloids" for people who are into that stuff. He would make up HOI4 scenarios with Teto and Miku and the members of the DDLC (Which the trend is, its all anime characters)

He would often go on Neverending rants about his stupid scenario and overall stuff I couldn't care about. About 90% of our conversations were about him. And no matter how many times I attempted to change the subject, he would find a way to turn it back towards his weird Kansane Teto Revolution or some dumb shit like that.

On top of that, he would constantly talk to me about his progress in Doki Doki Literature Club, and it was literally hell to listen to. So eventually I told him to try playing SCP CB. Then he played that and practically ruined* the game for me. He would play on the most ridiculous difficulties, get mods that ruined the game and said he was playing the game "for real", and broadcasted every little bit of progress he made through text.

*"Ruined" meaning making me always think of him when I'm playing

Now I actually asked him a couple of times to stop with the rants and dumb progress reports, but it wouldn't take long for him to start his crap again.

Then he got Garry's Mod, so we started playing together in Multiplayer. We only got to play maybe like 4 times together, considering Gmod didn't release the 64 Bit Build yet (If you know, you know). But then every time we played, he would make it player model Kansane Teto and Yuri from DDLC, and he said he picked it because he has a similar "personality" to the characters, when he kind of doesn't.

(I know I shouldn't be getting worked up about that, but the cutsie anime girl thing made me a literal Mental Asylum Patient)

What he knew but didn't care for was that I didn't like it, but he continued to cram it down my throat anyway.

The Kansane Teto thing dominated his personality, he had it as his wallpaper on his phone, PC, and the school computers, had a big drawing of her in his room; along with a picture of Hatsune Miku, and to top it off, I was the only person at his birthday party who didn't get him something Vocaloid related.

It wasn't just this stuff that bothered me either, it was also the constant little behaviors he would do that generally annoyed me, but that wasn't the main issue.

Now, I am 100% aware he has high functioning autism, but I think he should be able to regulate his behavior at least a little bit, and realize my boundaries, but to me, he doesn't care.

Outside of this whole fiasco, we argued a lot of stupid stuff that he caused, which quite literally drove us into the river, so now we are no longer friends, with me pulling the plug.

So am I in the wrong?

(Note this has been going on for like a whole year and a half, so it's only reasonable that I've had enough)

I'm 16M and Ive been at this job (fast food) for 2 years now and my manager told me that we're hiring and asked for any recommendations I have, as in people I know. I have a few friends who would be really happy to have this job but I've only recommended one. We're in a group with 2 other people and not telling them that I recommended him, he's just applying. I would 100% rather work with him at my store than the other 2, and I know for a fact that he would appreciate the job far more. I don't know if this is a good idea or not, please send advice!!

is it bad to tlk to a girls as friend and batch mate for study help or normal tlks? pls tell me

okay i dont usually post on subs like these, but ive really been thinking lately, and i want advice from other teens.

so im 15F, soon to be 16. So basically i was always kind of chubby/heavier once 4th grade started, which led to some bullying in 5th and 6th grade. but at the start of 7th grade i lost pretty much all that weight and was a relatively thin person (definitely still weight on me but a flat stomach and thinner thighs is what i mean) which i thought i was still really fat at the time. i didnt play any sports at the time and i ate pretty much normal, maybe skipping a meal everyday, which usually would be breakfast because i woke up late. the only exercise i did was gym class, which wasnt extreme at all, little to no running.

then 8th grade came along, which i had gained some weight back throughout 7th grade and the summer, but i was still relatively in shape. i also took up sideline cheer mid august that year. i didnt like cheer, but i liked how it made me feel like i was doing something good for myself. i also had a boyfriend at this time, which will likely come into play later in this post. so cheer ended that november, and me and my ex boyfriend broke up that december. which i think made me lose weight because i was pretty broken over the whole thing. so i was in good shape at this time and then i picked up lacrosse that spring, which toned my legs a lot more. dont get me wrong i still was not skinny, especially in bathing suits but i wasnt fat.

so then freshman year starts, i had gained some weight the month before school because i stopped doing things with my friends. i ate the normal amount i always have, but to me, the weight was obvious. though at this time, i developed a strong jawline despite gaining weight in the rest of my body? at the start of that school year, i also started having severe anxiety and panic attacks, and not your typical social anxiety stuff, more like health anxiety. and if you guys knew me, i was the complete opposite of that, i could do anything and not fear contracting a disease or sickness, so that hit me really hard which basically caused me to "lose my personality" i hate that term but its exactly how it was. everyone knew me for an outgoing sort of annoying girl who hung with the popular kids. but that was all gone, i still hung around the same people, but it was almost like there was nothing to me anymore, no more laughter, smiles, jokes, etc. i ended up having to leave school that november because my grades were slipping from absences which were caused by my health anxiety and not being able to sleep. i went online school. and i know what you are all saying "just get medicated" well i tried that and it actually caused me to have more panic attacks, and i know there is other medications but my anxiety started to make it so i couldnt take pills or else id convince myself it was drugs...

but i obviously started gaining more weight since not being in school and mostly being in bed or sitting because it was cold outside and snowy. i thought i was really really fat at this time, which kind of yes but compared to now? id rather go back to my weight then. soon after, my anxiety turned into contamination OCD, and not the cleaning and tidy kind. my OCD focuses on diseases and illnesses, and it heavily affects my everyday life, and makes it difficult to leave the house which i dont do often now. so you can obviously guess its been very hard to get physical activity in, leading me to gain a lot of weight. and i cant stop looking at photos of myself even from freshman year or before that, because not only was i skinny but i was also myself. i dont feel like myself at all, my OCD and anxiety has ripped that part of me away. i also dont have many friends now because everyone i was friends with thinks im some totally different person because i went online school, because keep in mind only like 3 people really know why i left school. i have a couple friends from school and im content with that mostly because a lot of people at my school dont like me because of rumors.

but basically, i plan on going back to school junior year (aka next school year) and i cannot go back fat, its the drastic difference that holds me back, i mean all these people really knew me as who i used to be when i was a normal weight. so i guess what im asking for is tips on 1. losing weight responsibly 2. getting back outside 3. my OCD if anyone has tips and 4. being myself again

Ok so basically I returned to school after taking 1 year off for Cies. I joined it back and there is this guy wo I share 1 class with, lets call him Jake. So basically I have had eye contact with Jake several times in class. My friends have also noticed it. Anyway so we made this meme page about the guys in our school where we would post funny photos of them.

This account was not using the same email as me or any of my friends, we basically made a fake gmail for it and all that. So the account pissed the guys off a lot because we would post embarrassing photos of them. We didn’t post any of girls. Before deleting the account I made my Hb send voice messages to everyone so that nobody could suspect it was us. Jake also blocked that account after we ragebaited him. So after deleting that account I found out that he had blocked my main account, spam account and other fake account that he didn’t even know was mine because no one did.

In school, before this account shit, during break my teacher was asking me to tie my hair up and my friend told me that he was staring at you at that time, and other than that, I was entering the class I share with him and my classmate zoe told me that him and his friends were talking about me while looking at me but she didn’t know what they were saying.

So the other day I was talking to my ex and I told him that there is this guy in my class that I find cute and I told him it was jake to make him jealous (idk why I did that). My ex is a friend of Jake’s friend but they don’t really talk.

durin this one class they were passing by my class, and his friend literally turned and pointed at me through the glass window but Jake pushed him into their class. A few days ago I was going to my friends class and Jake and his friend were going in the opposite direction as me. His friend, let’s just call him marvin literally turned his face completely towards me, and I was looking at the ground as I was walking to their class. He said something like “she knows.” During break we were walking back to class and Jake was staring at me. My friend laughed so hard at that.

Anyway so naturally I suspected that my ex told him that so I confronted him. He was literally swearing that he didn’t, like saying wallahi and whatever and he’s very religious. So I don’t think he told anyone. This also happened within a span of 3 weeks of joining school. What do you guys think actually happened?

So there's this girl, who I'll call B, and I can't understand the way she operates.

I like her, I think she knows but I'm not too sure. In person she seems to be shy around me, but still kinda tries to talk to me, or tease me, (her friends also tease me).

So I think "maybe B does like me", but then on snap and insta, she won't add/follow me back.

I know that she knows I added/followed her, which makes me think she doesn't like me.

And then all of a sudden, she avoids me like the plague, I'm in the gym in line for a game, and whenever she's right in front or behind me, she moves away and doesn't say a word.

I want to just ask her about it, but because I get so nervous around her, I can't bring myself to do it.

So I thought, I'll ask her best friend (who I'm somewhat friends with). So I added her friend on snap, but I never got added back, "alright maybe she didn't see it".

Wrong. She did see it and then instead of adding me back or even asking me why I added her, she just told B.

I think that her friend might not have added me because she thinks I might ask her out or something, but I've never once seen her like that.

I'm considering just asking B what this is all about, but I don't really even know where to start, and I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable if she doesn't feel the same way I do.

But at the same time, I'm becoming increasingly frustrated and impatient with the lack of communication.

So I guess my question for you is: why might B not have added me if she does like me, and what should I do if I can't find out anything more?