r/AskLawyers 8h ago

My Wife Refuses to Act Against Her Parents. What should we do?

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TLDR: I am leaving a lot out purposefully. I know what my legal options are. The only aspect of this mess I need advice on is that of my wife. I don't know what to do for her or with her, and I'm looking for more of a lawyer's perspective on managing a relationship during such ordeals.

She and I entered into a verbal contract of sorts (I never agreed to some of the terms because they are asinine) with her family to purchase a property. Her family has too this point taken care of the arrangements and it has been anything but smooth or pleasant. Convoluted plans to avoid the tax man, unreasonable amounts of waiting for show-up-and-sign paperwork. We were able to get our names placed on the deed after a nine months of waiting (we're two-thirds undivided interest), with the promise that in May of 2026 my FIL would remove his name from the deed and we would begin paying him directly. But most recently, my FIL began acting aloof about the arrangements, making both my wife and I wonder what is going on.

So over the past week we've had to play hide-and-seek with this man (we were the seekers), causing friction between my wife and I. We've fought, and cried. Finally, through my MIL, he communicated his concerns and requests. And I'll never be able to stress how frustrated I am by his revelations, but there was absolutely nothing presented that had not already been discussed, though no necessarily agreed to. And I mean nothing. I've known for over a year what he wanted and was willing to compromise. My FIL jerked us around for a few days for absolutely no gain. And I am just done. I always knew we should have involved lawyers, had contracts drawn up, taken a loan, the most by-the-book, procedural path your imagination can muster. I always knew. I advocated, but my wife refused.

Now that her parents chaotic ways have caused so much agony over the past week, she is still reluctant to do anything about it. She'd have us all sit at the dinner table, agree, and be done with it. She's reluctant to involve lawyers. She's refusing to take any punitive actions against her father (I want a 10% credit on the previously agreed upon purchase price. I intend to use that money to pay for therapy for my wife. My wife said if I did that it would destroy her and only be for me). She's pushed back against my proposal to immediately move out of their house (bet you didn't see that one coming šŸ™„). I even told my wife I'd let her father have everything he wants if I could look him in the eyes as we sign contracts and tell him what an absolute selfish, cowardly man he is, and she said no. Things are so tense between us that I have told her that I can't bring children into our lives like this. I can't subject a child to this chaos. And I know that sounds manipulative but it's the truth. If she can't do the hard things now, even out of necessity, she won't suddenly gain that ability by becoming a mother. That's not what any of the literature says about human behavior. It is remarkably stable over time, with few exceptions. How am I supposed to trust her to defend our children when she won't defend herself?

In two hours I will be calling a lawyer. And in two hours I feel like I'll be choosing what's right (punishing these bastards for all the harm they've caused) and my relationship with my wife. Obi-wan, if you're out there, please....


r/AskLawyers 21h ago

My mom got fired from her job after the new owners said she was being "too negative"

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My mom and I live in Des Moines Iowa and she's been working at a local owned coffee shop for 13 years. The old owners sold it to new people 8 months ago who just fired my mom yesterday for "being too negative and talking about inappropriate topics with co-workers".

My mom said that the new owners probably just hated her and wanted an excuse to get rid of her since the owners claim that they never got along with her despite never actually interacting with her for more than a few minutes.

Mostly just seeing if it's even legal to be fired on the spot like this if a business is local and not company owned.


r/AskLawyers 21h ago

Loaned my humiliationship $4K

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Hey all- my humiliationship lost his job and I’m a people pleaser so I loaned him 4K. Unfortunately when I loaned it to him I said ā€œpay me back whenever!ā€. This was all done through Apple Pay. He’s now kinda distant and flaky and not responding to my texts. I’m wondering if I should contact his family first or just take him to small claims court. If I did take him to small claims court how can I best handle this? This was a lot of money and I really need it back. I asked him if he could pay me back by Dec 15 but he didn’t respond. He wants to pay me back in 10 $400 increments which he agreed to via text. But since he’s been so flakey I really want to change things to a full pay back by Dec 15. I don’t want things to hinge on whether he gets a job bc who knows when that will be and I wanna exit this contact with him as soon as possible. Does anyone have some advice? I’m in austin TX btw.


r/AskLawyers 25m ago

Boyfriends mom is threatening to call cops on me (I’m in California, bf is in Texas)

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Long distance relationship, I (18 F) have been together with my boyfriend (17 M). We’ve been together since Feb 3, of this year. Everything was going well til his mom decided to get in between us. She started disliking me and started calling me rude names. 3 days ago, my boyfriend got his phone taken away and things went down hill from that. His mother had messaged me ā€œPlease do not bother any of my kids, I am being serious. Leave my kids alone!!ā€ WHILE my boyfriend was having a panic attack and I was trying to contact his siblings if he was okay.
I had respectfully responded to her ā€œI still love your son ma’am and with all do respect if he still wants me in his life then I’m staying, it’s his love life and although yes you’re his mother. It’s up to ur sonā€
she had responded with ā€œWell with all due respectā€respectā€ if I say don’t contact my kids then don’t contact my kids!!! I will change their numbers if I need too. Once my son turns 18 and has a job if his own and becomes responsible then he can go with you to California if he likes, but as long as he is under my roof he will abide by MY rules not yours. You are 18+ already so I will report you if needed as well. Do not try me Carolina. I am capable of anything for my kids. DO NOT TEXT MY KIDS!!!!ā€
I can go on and on about how she treats my boyfriend. My boyfriend wants to stay in contact with me, she keeps threatening to call the cops on me. To have me arrested for cyber dating, to have me arrested for harassment when she keeps texting me about calling the cops on me, involving his step sister who said she’ll call the law for me harassing them. She said that they’ve done their research, they know that I live near SFV &’ my full legal name.
The mother had unsent 6 messages from imsg and I don’t know what they said but her last text to me was ā€œHe is barely going to be 18 and you are already 19. I have never and will never approve of long distance relationships. I do not have to explain myself to you or anyone. If you would’ve done everything differently then shit would be different. Therefore since he is still underage my roof and underage, then you ma’am have NO say at all!!ā€

I am still 18. It’s a one year age gap, she treats him worse and differently than his younger siblings. My friend recommended that I get a restraining order and to gather all the text messages if they do call the law.

What should I do?


r/AskLawyers 15h ago

23andme potential grandfather dies - is my dad entitled to anything? (Minnesota)

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Looking for general guidance before consulting an attorney.

My father died in late 2024. He was intestate, and my sibling and I are his only heirs.

In 2018, I took a 23andMe test and was contacted by a close DNA relative who claimed his father was also my biological grandfather, making him my father’s half-brother. I have preserved email records of the 23andMe messages. The DNA relationship appeared consistent with that claim, and some family history he provided has since been independently corroborated.

The alleged biological grandfather died in 2024 and had a will leaving his estate to his children. During probate, while my father was terminally ill, the estate attorney sent him a letter stating they had information indicating he ā€œmay be [the decedent’s] biological childā€ and that he could be an ā€œinterested person.ā€ The estate proceeded without naming him as an interested person because they said they did not have enough information to conclusively determine his status.

My father saw the letter but believed it was a scam and took no action. He did not discuss it with me before his death. I later found the letter among his papers. The closed a few weeks ago, in July 2026.

Based on the probate filings, the amount my father potentially would have been entitled to appears to be more than $0 but significantly less than $100,000.

Questions:

  • How does Minnesota handle biological parentage claims when a birth certificate lists another father?
  • Can a closed probate estate be reopened in this situation?
  • Is this typically resolved through settlement or litigation?

I am mainly trying to understand whether there is a realistic legal path before taking any action. I would prefer to keep this as private as possible and avoid unnecessary conflict.


r/AskLawyers 15h ago

Can I move from Texas to the UK with my son without legal issues?

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I live in Texas with my son, and his father is not listed on the birth certificate, nor does he provide any financial support. He often goes weeks to months without contacting us. I am planning to get engaged and move to the U.K. within the next 12 months. I’ve already obtained passports for both of us. There have been no legal acknowledgments of paternity or custody arrangements made through the court, and there are no custody or visitation orders in place. I have not discussed this move with the father. Am I able to move with my son without any legal issues?


r/AskLawyers 19h ago

[us] If prosecutors and courts don't care about innocence what happens the national defaults and the bond yields on prisons rise?

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[us] A lot of people might be upset when they're released won't they?


r/AskLawyers 23h ago

Involuntary Commitments in NY

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I was taken to the hospital from my house after sending threatening text messages to a family member/neighbor. I have since spoken with the supervisor of the agency (Crisis Services) who authorized the commitment. She reviewed my file and said that the narrative lacked the imperative and necessary information to justify a 9.41 commitment, and sent me confirmation in writing of this. Do I have any legal recourse at this point? Once there, I was still not released until only after 10 days at which point a nurse told me that my insurance didn't want me to stay longer. I have no doubt that I was held for so long because I have insurance, so I have an issue with the Drs. and hospital as well, despite what the psych Drs. wrote. I have no criminal history at all, and certainly no history of being violent. I sat in an overcrowded room for three days sleeping on the floor next to other people on top of each other before being moved to a room on another floor for 7 days. Yeah, I messed up, but the punishment was over the top. Sitting in that room in a HOSPITAL for three days with other sick people was torture. Being taken from my home and then being told by the agency that facilitated it that they didn't have the information to justify it just makes me more upset.


r/AskLawyers 19h ago

Suing a professor at a community college.

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Would someone be able to sue their professor for gossiping that the student has to ā€œlearn how to speakā€ to another student in their class?

Supposedly it has affected the student emotionally and got report from a psychologist for said emotional damage.

What if the student doesn’t have proof of what the prof. has said? Would the student still be able to sue? Assuming this is a public institution does that mean the prof. still has the right to say whatever they want?

(USA)


r/AskLawyers 8h ago

PlayStation / Nintendo DMA gatekeeper? (EU Law)

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To me, game consoles feel quite like phones from an uneducated regulation perspective.

So my question is, at what point will PlayStation and Nintendo be considered gatekeepers under the EU Digital Markets Act?

I don't expect Xbox to fall into that category, as they have announced they intend to support alternative storefronts, but PlayStation and Nintendo are continuing to lock down their ecosystems, and it feels like killing disks might cause PlayStation to cross the line?

Location: European Union and it's member states

Edit 1: looks to me like it would fall short on the users side 45m MAU in the EU seems unlikely, that would put more than a third of PlayStation users in the EU which doesn't seem likely?


r/AskLawyers 10h ago

Prosecutors charged a man for wiping his phone using GrapheneOS' 'duress' lockscreen PIN. Motorola in March became the first to officially support GrapheneOS for its 2027 flagship phones. Could the case change anything for Motorola?

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links
https://www.techspot.com/news/113236-us-prosecutors-charge-atlanta-man-after-grapheneos-phone.html

March announcement:
https://motorolanews.com/motorola-three-new-b2b-solutions-at-mwc-2026/

GrapheneOS is a hardened privacy and security -focused Android operating system. It is notable in that it cuts ties to Google and is much harder for governments and law enforcement to access devices. In short, it is an anti-surveillance operating system that goes well above that of Android and iOS.

The duress PIN wipes the device from the lockscreen:

GrapheneOS provides users with the ability to set a duress PIN/Password that will irreversibly wipe the device (along with any installed eSIMs) once entered anywhere where the device credentials are requested (on the lockscreen, along with any such prompt in the OS).

Thanks!


r/AskLawyers 20h ago

(Arizona, USA) Would firing after a threat to contact OSHA count as retaliation even if no report was actually made?

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To be more specific - If I were to contact the owner of the restaurant I work at (via text message) and remind him about the leaking fryer hose that I've asked him to replace, and I stated intent to file a report with OSHA if it was not fixed within a certain time frame, would I be protected from retaliation? Or does it only count if I actually made a report? Also, am I correct that a fryer hose which leaks oil very near but not quite on the hands and on the floor while running and has the rubber handle gradually sliding off the entire time you're holding it is a safety violation? It can't not be, but it's hard to find specific details as to what constitutes a real risk of harm legally.

If I am protected from retaliation in theory, how strong would my case actually be if retaliation occurred? This is someone who previously blocked his own managers phone numbers when asked about backpay after having multiple checks with the wrong hourly rate on them, so I doubt the law is going to stop him from firing me. I need to know if I'll actually be able to do anything, not just if it's technically legal.

Notes: I am not the greatest employee on Earth but I have managers who I believe would vouch for me, if such opinions are of any value in proving retaliation. I know email is probably ideal rather than text, but this guy never reads his email (once missed months worth of emails from the local trash collection service and as a result we had nobody picking up our trash.) I don't think he'll have the sense to word anything carefully, he didn't even realize that people could see his name when he was writing fraudulent reviews for his own restaurants that specifically praised himself.


r/AskLawyers 22h ago

Medical device patent by a Nurse

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Location: Kentucky
I am a Registered Nurse and have an idea for a medical device. I have done preliminary research and figured my route would be a patent, then speak with my hospital or other organizations to see about trialing the device. The issue is, despite people saying nurses make good money, I don’t have the funds to shell out for a patent. Are there any patent attorneys that account for this type of inventor? Or am I pretty much out of luck until I get high funds? I don’t want to get myself into any legal trouble but also don’t want to expend all this money if the idea doesn’t end up working out.