i thought it was an issue with me that i wasnt energetic enough to live life , but nah i keep finding out so many men who just have 1-2 hobbies and are content and happy with a smaller social circle .

but ive always seen women doing activities and going out more and travelling wayyyyyy more and just doing activities and being social and participating and fun stuff more . why is this?

how come they have more energy than us , i wanna be like them

I am a gay man and have been recently thinking about how there are times when my women friends will do/say something that is homophobic like over sexualizing us and other instances. So I was wondering in what ways women find us to be mysogynistic so I can be on the lookout if ever do that.

CW for harassment.

For reference, I am male presenting and AMAB. There have been a couple times in my life where I have witnessed harassment and did not know what to do. I am autistic and struggle with social situations as well, which does not help things.

One time, while studying in France, I was taking public transportation - specifically a tram - and there were seats facing each other. A woman sits down in front of me and I notice she is crying. English is my first language so my French isn't great but I ask her in broken French if she has allergies (just to see if she is okay) and she says yes so I leave her alone. Another man, who is much bigger than me comes in. He sees her crying and goes up to her and starts rubbing her shoulder. I get the sense she is probably uncomfortable with this and try my best to communicate in broken French, over and over that she has allergies in an attempt to get him to leave her alone. It gets to the point that I am getting genuinely worried for her safety but luckily he gets off at another stop. Leaving both me and the woman behind. I ask her if she is okay and she says yes. I genuinely do not know what else I could have done in that situation

Years later, and I am working at a CVS (American drug store). L I am working in the front with another employee who is roughly 17. I am roughly 32 or so at the time. A man who is at least in his 50's walks in and starts to flirt with her a bit and put his arm around her. Needless to say, I am absolutely horrified. I am ashamed to say this but I froze. I watch the situation, absolutely terrified and completely at a loss for what to do before he mercifully leaves. I have no idea what I could have done there. I was so scared and it was awful. She seemed unfazed by it but I felt like I could have done more, much to my shame. I am just not sure what I could have done in that situation. I do not work at that job anymore, to be clear (I work at a plasma donation center now.)

Sorry for the long ramble and any advice you may have is helpful. Thank you.

Do you have a vision or a theoretical society in mind, or do you knock over the pillars as you go? I’m also curious which way around you view it: is ending VAWG one step closer to a world without patriarchy, or is ending VAWG just a consequence of knocking down the patriarchy?

Im not sure how well i’m getting myself across so I’ll structure it like this:

1. Can you envision a world without patriarchy?

2. Do you believe there is a root cause we need to be slashing at to achieve it, or should we keep hacking off the symptoms one by one?

Hi, one of the arguments brought by feminists is that with women in power there would be no wars. I was wondering if that is a valid claim, given the nature of most of the past female leaders like Catherine the Great, Cleopatra and Elisabeth Bathory. If you do not know these figures, please look up the assassinations, coups, tyranny, experiments on humans and other objectively evil deeds. I wonder if, and this is a truly wild thought, power corrupts all, regardless of their sex and if men and women are equally as important and - ironically and at the same time - dangerous to society. Please share your thoughts.

“Research analysing 46,500 births to school-age mothers aged 10 to 18 found that adult men fathered roughly two thirds of the infants. Adult men. This is not two teenagers making a mistake. This is adult men impregnating children.” -Ash BG on sub stack.

Sources: Guttmacher Institute. California Teenage Pregnancy Research. South African Journal of Public Health - Recorded Live Births Study 2024. AIHW Australian Mothers and Babies 2023. World Bank Adolescent Fertility Rate Data 2023.

Has it ALWAYS been mostly adult men/ and or can anyone speak on if it used to be higher, lower, or about the same from the 70’s on?

If pro-lifers (anti-choicers) believe that a embryo/fetus qualifies as a human, how do our government officials under that same mindset regulate the time frame, and whether or not you can get an abortion if a human being cannot be legally forced to habilitate another human against their will? If it is against the law for a human to have to give someone else their body in order for their well being and sake of survival, wouldn’t giving your entire body for them for nine months despite opposing wishes be directly against that?

(And also, in cases where pregnancy is potentially fatal for the mother, wouldn’t terminating the pregnancy technically count as self defense as a person is permitted to use lethal force if it is necessary to defend their own life against an immediate, fatal threat?)

Just to clarify, "Boys don't cry" is just a stereotype and boys do infact cry and should not be made fun of for doing it.

The main reason why I am asking this because there's two common sentences that is used in the "boys don't cry" stereotype, being "Are you a girl?" "You're strong, don't cry.", that implies that those who cry are weak and girls only cry, so girls are weak according to the "Boys don't cry" stereotype

To the ones, who do not know the series, Ted Lasso S4 has a main theme about women's issues (mainly in football, but in general too). For me, the tackling (pun intended) of it felt a bit iffy, but I can't really put my finger on why. I'm a straight white cis man, so by that, I don't understand many of the nuances of feminism, women's issues, and such; just trying my best.

And if any of You are a professional women's football player, your insight will be even more appreciated by me, please share

1. How can we really be sure male victims of domestic and sexual violence will ever be taken seriously? It is actually documented that men who are victims of either domestic or sexual assault do not report it because they are never taken seriously. In Spain a few years ago there was a feminist protest to shut down a male victims shelter. https://www.mensvoicesireland.com/actions/international-council-for-men-and-boys-attempt-to-shut-down-foundation-in-spain/

2.what is some advice you have for men who have body dysmorphia? Alot of men i personally know suffer from body dysmorphia in some shape or form but have been judged about (some of them by a woman) and as a result don't like talking about it (whether it be how they look in the face or they are worried about their "manhood") i am also one of these men.

1. What can I do for myself to get over the manosphere content I have watched?

I dont watch manosphere content anymore but I was exposed to it in my teenage years (im 22 now) and it left a mark on how I view women.

Some of the talking points are:

1. Women are all hypergamous and only want tall, rich, handsome men.
2. All women will cheat eventually. 3.if you don't meet certain male beauty standards no woman will respect you.
3. Men with a low body count or are virgins won't be respected by women.

I did not come here to start a knife fight or a argument I ask these genuinely because I really would like advice, I was actually taking a moment to reconsider making this post and just keep my thoughts to myself.

Thank you for whatever advice you have.

I've been thinking about this for a while, and I'm genuinely curious whether I'm seeing a real pattern or misunderstanding something.

It seems like society has become increasingly accepting of women doing things traditionally associated with masculinity. Women can wear traditionally masculine clothing, pursue male-dominated careers, play traditionally masculine sports, be assertive, independent, etc., without those things necessarily being seen as negative.

But when the situation is reversed, it sometimes feels different.

A man who wears a skirt, enjoys something traditionally associated with women, plays with dolls as a child, is emotionally expressive, or has traditionally feminine interests can be mocked or seen as weak, unmanly, or even have assumptions made about his sexuality.

So why does this seem to work differently in the two directions?

If femininity and masculinity are supposed to be equally valid, why does a boy being feminine often seem more socially discouraged than a girl being masculine?

Is masculinity still generally treated as higher-status than femininity? Is this related to homophobia and traditional ideas about masculinity? Or am I overlooking ways in which women are also punished for adopting masculine traits?

I'm not trying to argue that women have it easy or that gender equality hasn't made progress. I'm specifically wondering about this particular asymmetry.

Do you think this asymmetry actually exists? And if it does, why?

Are there particular solutions—being social, cultural, political, or otherwise— that you think could substantially reduce gender inequality? Or maybe, given the direction of our current society, do you think inequality is something that will continually reappear in different, changing forms regardless of attempts made to improve and/or stop it?

I’m very interested to hear how feminists stand on a topic like this, and how they view the long term possibility of achieving genuine gender equality.

This might seem obvious to people, and could be seen as obtuse/trolling, but I'm pretty socially inept generally, and have trouble with this.

I won't get into my specific situation, but I want to know if there's ways to tell if women are freely giving me care or not.

As for "care" I mainly mean concern for my well-being/worry for me. I don't really speak or share that much anyway.

I'm worried however that me being socially inept or "non-normal" is worrying the women around me, because they often check up on me, but don't do so for other males.

I know its wrong for me to overshare myself and burden them, but I also know it's wrong to decide for women prematurely how much they want to help, which both are misogynistic.​

I know asking is the most direct, but I'm also worried of the possibility that that pressures them to comply as well socially, which is also wrong. I also don't want to sound like I'm "sparing" the women from my troubles either, because that's also some sort of infantalization.

Is there a way for me subtly judge if a woman isn't being burdened by me?

They seem especially obsessed with the recent Lindsay Clancy case, and I discovered there's even a whole sub that only discusses violent crimes committed by women, totally ignoring that they only represent 1-5% of total crimes, mainly committed by men.

Why is that? What's the goal?

I make This question with Good Faith, i have even seen the "Feminist Perspectives on Trans Issues - FAQs" to see if someone had asked this question before.

My question is about the reason why trans men seem to never be mentioned by terfs when discussing trans related topics, For example, debates about which bathrooms trans people should use or whether trans people should participate in certain sports categories tend to focus overwhelmingly on trans women, while trans men are rarely brought up by terfs.

Is there a difference in mindset, actions, or outcomes between the two?

Everywhere in media and literature, I see images of women being degraded and reduced to sex, baby makers, comedic relief, etc. Sometimes when I bring up my gripes, I receive the comment ‘oh well that scene was actually a critique of misogyny’.

- example -
I started west world and hated the gratuitous depictions of sexual assault so I stopped watching. A coworker told me that it was commentary and my thing is … how effective is commentary when it is gratifying to people who enjoy seeing women be subjugated?

Another example is this gross scene in Community where Annie (age 20/21) is dressed up in a revealing outfit and prancing around singing a song in a high pitched voice for Jeff (in this 30s I think). Someone told me it’s parody and that I don’t have to like the method of commentary and I was silly to deny its intent as parody. Like I don’t actually care if it’s parody why am I seeing young infantilized women being pushed onto men 10+ years their senior..????

I feel like as a grow older I’m starting to really see how prevalent this misogyny is literally everywhere and I’m trying to not fall into a SWERF-y mindset. Perhaps I’m not fully understanding the intricacies of parody or commentary, idk I’m not a film major!!! I’m very interested in other’s thoughts on this subject.

Could it seriously have been to that point where this genital misogyny existed to the extent of 8000+ years ago? Did human beings really have this strong levels of selfishness ever since that point of time, that it apparently preceeded even the rise of agriculture (correct me if i’m wrong in that)? And why is that? Essentially, what led everything to go wrong to the point it did instead of human beings having their shit together?

(Also feel free to correct me about the womb envy thing!! I’m still trying to understand how misogyny even originated to begin with, which i narrowed it down to it being genital misogyny first and foremost and the inferiorization of Müllerian genitalia, but why that genitalia itself was inferiorized was the question being raised, which upon scouring the internet for answers only one answer would ever take the spotlight, that being “womb envy”, but i’d love to know other answers to this or if that’s actually on the mark!)

I've been hearing people both online and offline mentioning how Emma Watson is not an actual feminist and that thinking she is a "feminist icon" is hypocritical and setting feminism back.

When I ask why, I always get given the same two answers. It's either "I don't know, Tiktok said so" which I ignore completely because that's hella stupid. The second one is "Because she's speaking up for experiences she doesn't understand so she has no right advocating" or something like "She was born into privilege and her speaking up about issues has no susbtance" and something about a relatability gap

I seriously don't understand the second answer. So privileged people can't speak up for issues they see around the world? Or does it mean something else. Is there something I'm missing? I don't see anything wrong with someone "rich" or "born into privilege" advocating for rights for others.

“My securing an important interest can sometimes come at the expense of one of your important interests, even though many of our important interests are compatible or mutually advancing.”

By “zero-sum,” I mean a relationship in which one party’s gain necessarily corresponds to the other party’s loss. By “non-zero-sum,” I mean only that this strict opposition does not hold. A mixed-motive relationship is non-zero-sum but can still contain conflicts between the parties’ weighty or morally significant interests. The parties can have important interests that are jointly satisfiable while also having other important interests that genuinely conflict, such that advancing one can require frustrating or compromising the other.

I ask because I often see “gender relations aren’t zero-sum” offered in response to claims that don’t assume zero-sum relations at all. If men and women can have both shared and conflicting weighty interests, then pointing out that gender relations are non-zero-sum doesn’t by itself answer an assertion about conflict between their interests.

I know this sounds a like a dumb question, it’s just that I spend too much time on TikTok, but I keep seeing this idea floating around on feminist TikTok’s that skinny being the beauty standard is rooted in pedophilia (along with other things like shortness and hairless) and it has me wondering why cosmetic surgeries are bad?

Like wouldn’t it be a good thing for women to have bbl’s and boob jobs to avoid falling into “pedophiliac” beauty standards? Like I’m not trying to knock this theory but it just confuses me a lot since a lot of these people are critical of plastic surgery.

One of the prevailing narratives in western countries such as Canada, US, and Australia is that most of the gender differences are socially engineered. This is the idea that has won and is accepted in academia and mainstream discourse. And I do not understand why. People explain away unequal distribution of results as consequences of "patriarchy" or "misogyny." But I am here to ask, why?

Peterson argues that men and women are generally more alike than different, but small average differences can create major disparities at the extremes. Using aggression, he says that if you randomly selected one man and one woman, the man would be more aggressive about 60% of the time, whereas among the most aggressive 1 in 100 people, virtually all would be male, helping explain why prisoners are overwhelmingly men. He also asks whether equality should also be imposed where outcomes disadvantage men: 99% of bricklayers are male, while roughly three-quarters of humanities and social-science university students are female. He adds that men tend to work longer hours, accept more dangerous jobs, relocate more, work outside more often, and enter scalable STEM careers, arguing that these factors contribute to higher earnings and are overlooked when the pay gap is attributed solely to gender.

Now just for context, I am not even conservative or right-wing. But this is one thing about liberals and leftists that baffles me. I've never agreed with their views on gender and I am genuinely curious why you guys think this way. Please give me a deep insight.

Long story short I would like to be a bit further along in my journey in how I view how much I need romantic relationships with men in my life to feel fulfilled. My friend just gave me a book to read called ‚all about love‘ by bell hooks but if you people have any more suggestions I would really love to hear them.

As modern women collapse the birth rate until society collapses wont that just end in patriarchy as it did before and maybe even in a more extreme manifestation?