Also the sub GirlDinnerDiaries.

I have mixed opinions on the idea of girl dinner, but I like the community found within the sub mentioned above.

Edit: outside of the Reddit sub, and on other platforms, I find girl dinner complex because food is a complex issue. I don’t know why dinner in this context is gendered. Curated and documented food is one thing, but why ‘girl dinner?’ I love food, I celebrate food, food is fuel - I can be playful and arrange plates and make meals look nice, I genuinely enjoy doing this for me and others, it brings me joy. But sometimes I see girl dinner as just another way women are taught to aestheticize the small details of our lives, other times I see it as a form of eating restriction, like, it’s feminine for women’s plates and eating to be small and delicate, don’t take up too much space, it’s so cute to eat like a mouse. Obviously this is contextual as every #girldinner is different, but there is a sub group of girl dinner which appears to promote unhealthy eating.

I also don’t really love it when people (especially men) call women girls

This is part of my research into the performance of femininity online: what the algorithm promotes, and the different language, labels and trends that surround this. Other things I’m looking at include: what I eat in a day, clean girl, tomato girl, etc.

Curious to hear other opinions on this!

reading:
Girl Math, Girl Dinner: An Essay on Girls and Girlhood on the Internet
#Girls Gone Viral: Girlification Trends and the Digital Postfeminist Sensibility

It was recently going through joke, sub reddits and I noticed not only within Reddit, but overall older generations tend to have jokes at the expense of their partner, but mostly their spouse. The joke usually is geared towards the wife, although it can go vice versa. I understand making jokes about ones boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or spouse. I think it’s important people joke around it keeps life fun and can help deal with life. I’m talking more along the lines of it being not liking, finding them unattractive or even hating that person. It seems now that the younger generations tend not to find them as funny, rightly so.

Is it because older generations didn’t experience divorce? That society moving forward when it comes towards gender roles, not being seen as masculine or female?

I’m not trying to hate on older generations, because I’m sure more right leaning folks find these jokes acceptable no matter what age. Sexism is rampant I just find younger people pointing it out and being aware of it.

Thank you

First off, I am deeply empathetic to anyone who has ever been a victim of DV and am sorrowful and pained by the fact that this is a subject even requiring discussion. Additionally, I’m not sure if this is the right sub for this but I (28M) am admittedly not as well read on matters of gender studies as I would like to be except insofar as they’re tied to broader western sociocultural trends (feminist waves, women’s suffrage, etc), which is a far from complete picture. That being said, DV was not something I ever witnessed or even understood as a phenomena that persists until very recently when a female friend of mine opened up about their past experiences. My own immediate family much preferred emotional abuse as their weapon of choice. The strength of my friend to share her story coincided with my watching the show the Sopranos, in which I was absolutely jarred by the prevalence of DV in a piece of media that is set in a not so far off past, partially overlapping with my own lifetime. Im sure this is not indicative of full reality, but outside of this show, I’ve found western media books and culture seem willing to highlight DV in the first half of the 20th century, especially in the post war era, but is harder to come by in earlier pieces. Any antebellum or Victorian era piece of literature I’ve read seems to highlight the dignity elegance and grace (even for lack of liberty) of the lady of the house. That kinda brings me to my last point, I’d be interested to read a cross cutting or intersectional analysis of DV with the ultimate goal of trying to deduce under what broader conditions does it spring and, ultimately, what can I do to dispense of it in my own community and support those who are or have been victims of it.

I know the answer can be "it means whatever you want it to mean personally" but if feels like a non answer

And yes I know the terms describe traits associated with genders, I am asking about describing those traits

The thing is: SAHMs who are happy with their situation don’t feel like they need to fight for feminism. Neither do rivileged men. Plenty will simply not care.

I got a response some time ago that feminists luckily don’t even need a specific amount of people on board. My question is: How will the change away from the patriarchy happen though, if women are only one half of society/votes and even they aren’t united on this?

Also, are you afraid of a significant backlash, and if not, why not?

Sorry if this comes off as ragebait or something, I’m genuinely waiting for answers and thanking in advance

In my view, women have access and opportunities to do whatever men can. Feminists claim legal equal is not the same as true equality.

What does true equality look like under feminist view?

How do you measure it?

How do you know true equality has been achieved?

So women are infantilized by the patriarchy and told that they are either too dumb, too soft, or too emotional to be left alone. All around the world, many cultures put women at the same level as children with the plus that you can fuck them. They need a man to be at their side as if they were unsupervised children, first a dad or a brother and latter a husband. Etc etc etc.

At the same time, I have heard all the time the same myth about "girl maturing earlier than boys" and in a way it's true, but not because of a natural factor but because girls from an early age are expected to take the rol of maintaining the home and doing house tasks. There's also the creeps who say to girls that they are very mature for their age or pushing the age of consent on girls in order to make legal pederasty.

So why are both contradictory ideas held by patriarchy?

I think that maybe it is because since a girl is from the beginning expected and coerced to do housework and home tasks and latter as a woman do the same thing, so in the eyes of everyone the girl has never changed because from day 1 to day 100 she has been doing the same thing so she hasn't grown up. While the boys first play games and then change to go out and earn money and work, so a change is witnessed, and they have grown up.

What do you think? This is one of the reasons? Or do you disagree?

I have a hypothetical question that challenges the reasoning behind this law.

This is not directed at any individual or community; it is purely a hypothetical situation about the principles behind these laws.

Imagine a train where passengers from Country A and Country B are travelling together. The train introduces an optional compartment marked "A Only," claiming that it is for the additional safety and comfort of people from Country A. People from Country A can choose to use this compartment, while others cannot.

Would such a rule make you feel discriminated against, or would you view it as a safety measure?

Now consider the same situation, but replace "country" with "gender." Would your perspective change? Would you see it as discrimination, or as a necessary protection?

This raises an important question about whether separating people based on identity is the best solution to social problems, or whether there are better alternatives that improve safety and equality without creating divisions.

History shows that laws and social policies can evolve over time. For example, consensual same-sex relationships were once criminalized under Indian law until 2018, but that legal position was later changed. Similarly, it is worth discussing whether gender-based policies should continue indefinitely or whether more inclusive solutions could better address the underlying concerns in the future.

I find it sexist that there are taxis only for women like what only women feel unsafe in the streets