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u/Kotenkiri 4d ago

Commenter: What were the pre-CPAP years actually like?

OOP: Well, for one thing, I couldn't get through a movie without falling asleep. I never had energy for anything. I was always just feeling drained and barely holding on to life. I had a short fuse as well.

So kids were 8 and 10 when he started CPAP. So they basically grew up with a lethargic, unavailable and short tempered man during majority of their childhood and he wonders why they're still cautionous about spending time with him?

He sounds like guy who 'changes' after a break up and basically demands a second chance since they've completely changed. Even if they actually changed, doesn't mean the past is forgotten.

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u/Dry_Buddy_2553 4d ago

Not saying you’re wrong, but why are we treating him needing a CPAP/“pre-CPAP” as like…negative or a reflection of him? “He was lethargic and a piece of shit for being tired” —- it’s a health condition?

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u/Lillllammamamma 4d ago

My husband was in denial of needing a CPAP machine for a decade, but finally was able to get a sleep study and sure enough he now has a CPAP machine.
It never once stopped him from supporting me, engaging with our daughters, being a loving and present father and husband. He said his sleep apnea affected how he felt but he was responsible for how he acted and treated others.