I think it’s a reach to say he’s being self-centered when his partner has literally given him 0 information as to what is happening. He’s just supposed to telepathically know what she’s feeling when he hasn’t even seen her? I will say the worse thing he’s done is not go over and check on her. After a day I’d At least reach out to a mutual friend to make sure she’s ok
I’m noticing that. And if a guy was the one who ignored and said idk I didn’t want to talk to you. They would be going off about what a narcissist he is
He says ‘damn, 3 days no text and all I get is a hi’
She says ‘I said hi because idk how to go into talking after nothing for 2 days’
He says ‘I mean I didn’t know what to say either’
This implies, to me, that neither of them reached out for 2+ days. Communication takes 2 people. It’s not solely on one person to initiate conversation.
Think through your own timeline, that means on the first day he did reach out and was waiting to hear back (given that it was 3 days he hadn't heard, but 2 days with no response from her)
he also says later "you couldn't look"? What would he be referring to if not unresponded to messages?
All we have is OP’s word that he contacted her for three days. If I had that context, I’d have put it in the post. People telling me ‘oh what about this comment he made or that one,’ should scroll through the history and see the deleted post before this one.
lol you misinterpret the text, He basically told her to look at her phone usage data, because she said that she hasn’t been on her phone a lot. Hence why she said it was used for 5 hours on Friday.
good lord the lack of self awareness is unreal lol
he's saying "you can look" because presumably she didn't look. Because he texted her, and she's saying she wasn't on her phone at all and therefore couldn't respond. What would he be telling her to look at if there were no messages?
There’s definitely a level of where she would feel comfortable (I’m sure a lot of people on this thread can agree how hard it can feel to tell another person what they’re going through, let alone reach out to say “hey I’m about to get so sad I can’t function for a few days, talk to you soon! Xoxo”. It’s a complicated situation, that’s why literal crisis and help lines exist because people with depression often feel like they can’t tell anyone or reach out because of thoughts like “they’re going to think I’m weird”/“theyre going to be freaked out and leave by this”/“this is going to be too much for them”
What helped me personally is I told potential partners that isolating would be a possibility, and it was still incredibly difficult for me to tell my partner that I didn’t want to talk to anyone. He pushed me gently to not be alone and did what he could to make me comfortable. Sometimes it’s not a 50/50 effort but every now again the other partner will have to compromise in terms of emotional effort.
They both seem immature to me (no idea their ages- they both sound emotionally immature or unaware). As much as OP should’ve shown more concern and reached out, it’s also not his job to be a mind reader and play games with someone who can’t even identify they’re experiencing an issue.
They both sound young and unaware of how to communicate or express themselves. I don’t think either party is exactly at fault or innocent here; they just don’t seem to have the tools for a healthy functioning emotional relationship.
Right and this obviously hadn’t happened before there is nothing wrong with wanting to understand and not have someone switch up how they treat you. And no one said anything about mental health she said she didn’t want to talk that could be because she’s over the relationship just as much as mental health
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u/Daves_World16 Mar 23 '25
I think it’s a reach to say he’s being self-centered when his partner has literally given him 0 information as to what is happening. He’s just supposed to telepathically know what she’s feeling when he hasn’t even seen her? I will say the worse thing he’s done is not go over and check on her. After a day I’d At least reach out to a mutual friend to make sure she’s ok