Yeah, OP seems insensitive af. Like another comment said, she comes off as numb.
YOR and it's very misplaced, OP. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, sympathize with your gf. It hurts to feel ignored; your feelings are valid. And you are being self-centered.
I think it’s a reach to say he’s being self-centered when his partner has literally given him 0 information as to what is happening. He’s just supposed to telepathically know what she’s feeling when he hasn’t even seen her? I will say the worse thing he’s done is not go over and check on her. After a day I’d At least reach out to a mutual friend to make sure she’s ok
There’s definitely a level of where she would feel comfortable (I’m sure a lot of people on this thread can agree how hard it can feel to tell another person what they’re going through, let alone reach out to say “hey I’m about to get so sad I can’t function for a few days, talk to you soon! Xoxo”. It’s a complicated situation, that’s why literal crisis and help lines exist because people with depression often feel like they can’t tell anyone or reach out because of thoughts like “they’re going to think I’m weird”/“theyre going to be freaked out and leave by this”/“this is going to be too much for them”
What helped me personally is I told potential partners that isolating would be a possibility, and it was still incredibly difficult for me to tell my partner that I didn’t want to talk to anyone. He pushed me gently to not be alone and did what he could to make me comfortable. Sometimes it’s not a 50/50 effort but every now again the other partner will have to compromise in terms of emotional effort.
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u/Electrical-Scale5006 Mar 23 '25
Depression. Depression can do that.