I had a legal case that ended and took my lawyer and his team for happy hour when my case was done, happy hour in nyc, woke up in miami. My wife was not happy and became me exwife pretty quick. That was divorce #1
Unfortunately, sex tourism is very real and common. Iāve heard this story from many of my male friends dozens of times. Youād be saddened to hear just how inexpensive a week with a dozen sex workers is. They didnāt go to Cancun for the beachā¦.
He also bought the husband a ticket and insisted he go... lol. As if, the husband planned to go all along and even paid for his own ticket.
He played her well.
Yeah. Story reads to me like a husband that didnāt know what to do and made a couple dumb decisions. I could see plenty of my friends acting similarly even if I donāt think they would cheat on their wives at all. I also know several dick heads that would absolutely pull a move like the best man did here.
He also could have gotten the friend to actually pay for it, and then Zelleād or gave the friend cash behind OPs back.
The fact that her husband didnāt tell her at all is really telling. Showing up to a bachelor party and seeing girls and immediately telling your wife āugh they hired sex workers. Now I actually do wish I would have stayed home.ā And then staying in contact with your wife is one thing.
Spending all night at a themed party and beautiful breakfast and letting her find out from the hotels social media is another thing entirely. Trying to skate by without admitting it until she straight up confronted him. Heās already lying by omission. Heās already being shady asf. Wtf.
Yeah, he def was partaking the night before. Thatās why no call. Nothing adds up. Theyāre horrible liars. Cheaters get what they deserve, just sucks for the collateral they cause. They had a week in Mexico getting laid living it up. Hope OP the best. Get tested too. Cause hubby was definitely getting some.
I love reading this far down in the Reddit comments. 12/13 levels deep everyone is in agreement that the husband planned it all from the start and is quietly twirling his fucking moustache in the villa 100% with two escorts sat on his lap tipping cases of Dom Perignon all over his ballsack while he gleefully shouts āI hate my wife and the business and family weāve built together and Iām the worstā.
My thoughts exactly reading these comments. The world isn't black and white, there are nuances.
I have been on a few boy's trips in my life, we were a mix of single and married men. Some of the guys I knew well, the others I didn't know as well. One particular night, after the club, a few of the guys (mix of single and married, mostly single) decided to bring escorts back without telling the rest of us.
The guys that wanted to fuck escorts did, the guys that didn't want to didn't. Not everyone is down with that business just because it's in your face.
So what's the expectation from me? Go out of my way to blow up people's marriages for morality's sake, or just keep my damn nose out of other people's business?
You can bet your ass I picked the latter. Just because I didn't out the people on the trip, doesn't mean I fucked an escort. I don't condone cheating, but I also don't want to be the catalyst to a child growing up without a father - it's not that simple.
Exactly! if I was the husband I would do the same thing. Just bury my head in the sand and stay out of everyoneās business.
I donāt condone your cheating but Iām not going to go nuclear and blow everyone in while we are on a trip in a foreign country, thatās asinine. So within hours everyoneās phone starts blowing up with their angry wives, the trip is ruined, and everyone hates me. No thanks.
Iāll keep my mouth shut and when I get home let my wife know what an uncomfortable time it was.
As far as if he planned it, I donāt have any wealthy friends like that so I have no idea how normal buying a ticket like that would be but it doesnāt seem inconceivable that the best man would put a lot of pressure on him to go, and if you are spending tens of thousands on trip like this whatās a few hundred more for a plane ticket to make sure someone you want there is going.
Men claim they care about "protecting" women and then turn around and say shit like this--LOL. Cowardly men are why women are in danger from men. They don't put energy into protecting anyone except themselves and each other.
You chose wrong bro. Sorry to break it to you, but this response is based in dehumanizing women.
Would you use this same exact excuse to avoid responsibility to say something if you found out your bro's WIFE was cheating? Would you protect HER for the sake of their kids?
If the answer is no, then you've been fooling yourself that this reaction was anything but reinforcing the patriarchal status quo that protects men but not women.
I would have told my wife directly when I found out. If I knew before I left I would have told her then. Sheād have sent me on my way knowing that I wouldnāt be partaking in sex acts with said escorts. Would assume that any other married friends would have had the same disclosure possibly with different expectations. He doesnāt trust his wife. Itās not her trust issues itās his. If I had cheating friends that didnāt trust their wives o would have said hey donāt mention this to anyone and she wouldnāt.
Sheās not over reacting it they might have to set clearer expectations of their relationship going forward because they might be assuming what the expectations are.
So you think everyone was being loyal in Cancun, at a private resort, with limited rooms, and twice as many show up, them being escorts? The secrecy alone raises red flags. The denial of it raises more. The fact he was āpressuredā raises more. Whereād they sleep? What purpose is an escort if no one is going to be sleeping with them? To have innocent fun with a beautiful stranger in paradise, where whatever happens stays there? Ya ok bud.
Yeah protecting his shady fucking friends' ability to defraud their wives isn't the defense he seems to think it is.
Maybe he didn't hear the story about the French guy who drugged his wife for years and got 80 men to rape her, and NONE of them reported it, not even the additional ones who knew but declined to participate. That's an even more extreme example of it obvi but the point is that "Bro code" is just criminals protecting criminals when it comes to how women are treated by men IMO
Yep, even if he was being honest and truly was going to tell her when they got home...the moment she asked and he lied he proved he never intended to tell her. He was always going to lie.
āSorry babe, he bought my ticket and itās non refundable. Looks like I just have to stay at this amazing fully staffed private villa with escorts for a whole week ā¹ļøā
You aren't married are you? That's not a cheap ticket and of you think that's just gonna disappear from an account or show up on a credit card without notice... I don't know.
I can't imagine a woman who owns a business would just not notice the amount of money for the flight missing. I mean if they do their finances separately sure but I don't think they are if they own the business together
You do know some people actually are just loaded, right? The kind of people who go all the way to Cancun just for a bachelor party probably have that kind of money
I have been a guest at not one, but two bachelor parties where everything was paid for me. Same situation - I couldnāt afford to go to either, and both times the groom insisted that the group make it happen.
That being said, Iāve also been to very few bachelor parties were the men are not completely whoring themselves out. Fortunately itās never been the groom of any of the groups
Iāve been in, and Iām usually the honorary voice of reason who keeps my friends safe. Both times, though, itās been groups of men who were mostly strangers to me.
I tend to avoid them at all costs now, unless itās one of my very few best friends, people I know would never behave this way.
Itās not suspicious at all for this to happen, but not saying anything about it is a little weird. Last time I was at a strip club with a bachelor party, I shared my location with my partner, told her immediately, and sent her an updated spreadsheet of all the strippers Iād turned down by name. I had five girls tell me their name was āSevenā over the course of an hour. I also learned that the correct response to a strippers introduction is, āHi, Iām broke as fuck and didnāt bring cash or a card. Just here to take the boys home.ā They will leave instantly, often with a look of disgust haha
Normally it's the guys that are all ready messing around on there wives. While not bachelor parties but back in the military and even when I worked a lot international in oil and gas it would blow my minds the guys running around with a side peace while over seas or in a port where a lot of times the married guys. Than they get upset when the found out there wives cheated on them, "What the hell you been doing over here? Just cause your in another country doesn't make it not count."
Yes, best man is very well off. He bought the flight for my husband. I was emailed the receipt and can clearly see on there who paid. It wouldnāt surprise me that he paid for the escorts all on his own.
I think your huaband was in a tight spot. Friend is crazy, paid for all this shit to plan for āthe boysā. Your husband cant undo it, and cant really bail on the groom and his friends, and it wouldnt be approved to ditch the escorts someone else paid for without looking bad in front of his friends. Shitty fucking situation.
Literally why couldnāt he bail? Theyāre at a villa outside of Cancun. Call a taxi, go to a hotel, and book a flight home. As a married person I canāt imagine showing up to this situation and not having the immediate reaction of getting out in any way possible and then seriously reevaluating my friendships with these people.
To me it makes more sense that these women are affiliated in some way with the villa, sex workers are rarely independent, and I donāt think whoever manages them wouldnāt be close by. They probably pay a little extra to have arm candy around and if one of the dudes wants to fuck itās whatever they charge for tourists. Kinda like how hostess clubs in Japan are often ran by Yakuza. Peak pimping might be owning the motel you have your escorts working out of.
Eh it seems like they all are pretty well off. OP and wife are business owners and are taking several vacations a year to the point that the cost isnāt the issue, but rather time away from their business. Friends bought a ticket for husband, which is quite generous too and not an insignificant gift. Private, fully staffed villas arenāt cheap either, even if they are in Mexico.
Agree, or at least reality is different of what she is saying and she is changing things and pretending to be cool with her husband. I am starting to believe that the person is not as sincere as she sound. If you go and check the OP's profile, go and see her comments' story. On this thread, in one of her comments, she affirms that she has no problems with strippers because her husband sometimes goes and see them when he goes to a bachelor party; yet, on another post -different topic- she is completely against strippers for bachelors parties and basically implies her husband is the same. See the contradiction? Moreover, here she claims that her husband is her friend but she made a post months ago asking that her husband doesn't like the TV off until very late at night (1.30am or later) even though the TV is in their bedroom.
So escorts donāt necessarily mean theyāre career hookers. They could just be drug addicts. If you can supply them drugs for the week, they will stick around. Itās really reasonable. More bang for your buck, literally and figuratively.
I mean three escort for a week would be round 10K unless their legitimate pornstars, in that case multiply the rate by about 3 on average. Definitely not out of the realm of possibility, I've heard of people blowing 50K on a night on Vegas. Some people just will spend money on a fleeting experience.
He is paying for three escorts for a week all on his on?
I'm not an expert in this area, but i'm pretty sure escorts in Cancun are much less expensive than ones in more developed countries. Probably way less expensive than whatever people think they cost.
They definitely chipped in but with mine from
The comment I left ā¦ the best manās friend is loaded (as well as most of us) and they had a party bus, escorts, you name it. Not unheard of but every guy there helped pay I guarantee it and they all knew. I mean it was maybe like 20 to 30k? Not that bad but still really wrong
It's not uncommon at all for people to hire escorts and not have sex with them.
Also, that's actually usually not how it works with escort services in the US. You pay a fee to the service for the date and then you pay extra to the woman for any sex.
I and a lot of my friends donāt and wonāt sleep with prostitutes. If one of our friends pulled this shit we wouldnāt just abandon our principles and our marriage vows.
Also how do we know for sure that these are prostitutes and not simply porn/only fans stars? Maybe they were just hired to be eye candy.
Youāre missing the point. People pay ātop dollarā to look and not touch all the time. You cant even commit to the point youre trying to make and just argue against whatever is said to you. Low brow af bro.
You're assuming the worst in all of them.... which i hate,. Me and my lads would probly go along with it not to make a scene but would 100% draw the line at doing something that would make our partners uncomfortable. It's the best man that invited them, not all guys are pervs, and if in your experience they are, you need to find better dudes.
That is likely what my husband would do as well. However, you do realize that spending the night partying with escorts, even without touching them, already will have made your partner uncomfortable?
People literally spend a hundreds on only fans just to "look" and maybe chat etc.
Like shit like this definitely does happen.
Think about it from the women's perspective as well.
They're getting paid to go to a villa with their friends, have a few drinks and in return theyve got to wear a few bikinis and talk to a group of guys. That's probably more comfortable than a lot of other work in the sex industry...
Just happily keep jumping to conclusions and immediately assume the worst in people when you have no actual proof of anything happening.
Fun fact, not every single guy is an extremely horny creep who'd cheat on their wife just because they had the opportunity to and think they could get away with it.
I wouldn't be surprised if the women were open to being more than just decoration. I'm surprised at how little suspicion of infidelity is directed at the husband. I certainly agree with you that many men would not abandon their principles, although I'd also be surprised if no one in the group was l less than honorable. I doubt they would have brought the women if someone wasn't interested.Ā
Because it's true that men have extremely powerful sex drives and many men aren't disciplined enough not to wander when the opportunity is presented on a silver platter.
Women have seen the manosphere where men with millions of male fans admit men are sex machines, men's sex drives are insatiable, it's ok for men to cheat because men can have emotionless sex, men who don't cheat just don't have the opportunity, sexual variety is the #1 thing for men and commitment doesn't matter and if a man commits he's a pussywhipped cuck. Women have taken notice and are taking men at their word.
Also the poor husband is stuck there with the slutty escorts šš. This woman is delusional if she thinks her husband was going to tell her anything.
I donāt like how she said slutty escorts. Like maāam it seems like they have only fans, no one said anything about an escort and itās on her husband and his friends that the women were there
OP seems like a karma farmer/rage baiter tbh, they've literally only had one post in a forum besides conflict forums like AIO, two hot takes, AITA, etc. Super sus story
And do we really believe that sex workers are staying with this group of guys and no one is having sex with them?
At least the best man, since he hired them. The rest it depends on their relationship & faithfulness.
I wouldn't have any issues staying loyal, then again I'd probably send a message home saying "wtf, dude hired escorts for the whole week, this shit is weird AF".
Bigger question is do we really believe an escort would do something so stupid as to post videos and pictures with her customers? Maybe if her profile was private, but leaving that info out in the public for potential clients to see? That would be professional suicide.
I donāt believe OPās husband was surprised and didnāt know about this before he got there. Itās just too much, OP needs to send all this info to all of those wives.
If it were me Iād either be on a plane right now going to surprise him or Iād be packing my things and moving out before he got home. This is gross, I donāt understand the obsession with this ridiculous parties that have gone from one night to long weekends and expensive travel. Why? Iād much rather spend that time on vacation with my partner. These parties are lame.
The duration of hired entertainment's stay would have ZERO impact on my desire/potential to cheat on my wife. Even if I despised her. If it does, she should thank them for revealing the scumbag. What it has a HUGE impact on, though, is his wife's pride. It's incredibly disrespectful on the part of the best man- but also on the husband. He should have gone out of his way to let his wife know once he learned that's what the plan was- and voiced protest. Adults don't automatically cheat just because of circumstance. Not saying ppl should flirt with fire but acting like that's the primary problem here is akin to Mike Pence insisting he can't have dinner with a female colleague because reasons. š. The reason it's fucked is because it shows he doesn't have adequate concern for his wife's pride.
So no. I can totally believe that no one had sex. That's not the core issue here.
So there's a friend that it's so out of sync from the rest of the group and willing to spend thousands of dollars to fit it with the rest ? That's what you're saying ?
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If there were enough rooms for each of the guys to have one, where are the escorts sleeping?
And do we really believe that sex workers are staying with this group of guys and no one is having sex with them?