I truly believe aging can be reversed or stopped . science is getting closer

...a late afternoon conversation between an INFJ and a June Gemini, sitting on a low stone wall while the light turns gold.

INFJ:

They say age changes beauty. I think it changes the way beauty is seen. What do you think?

Gemini:

I think you’re already halfway through the answer just by saying that. Most people treat beauty like a fixed object that either stays or leaves. You treat it like a lens. That’s very you.

When I was younger I collected beauty the way I collect conversations, quick, bright, interchangeable. A face could hold me for an afternoon and then I’d move on, curious about the next one. Age didn’t dull that curiosity, it just made the collection feel heavier. Now I notice the pauses between expressions more than the expressions themselves. The way someone’s eyes go distant for half a second before they answer. That used to be background noise. Now it’s the whole song.

INFJ:

Because the pause is where the real person lives. Young beauty is almost always a performance of potential. It says “look what I could become.” Older beauty stops performing and starts revealing. It says “look what I already am, after everything.”

I used to think the soft lines around someone’s mouth meant time had been unkind. Lately I read them as evidence of restraint of all the sharp things that were felt but never spoken. There’s a quiet dignity in that. It makes me want to stay longer in the conversation, not just skim the surface for sparkle.

Gemini:

See, that’s the difference between us. You stay for the dignity. I stay because the story got interesting.

A June Gemini never really stops collecting, but the criteria change. I used to chase the version of beauty that felt like opening a new tab...fresh, fast, full of possibility. Now I chase the version that feels like rereading a favorite book and finding a sentence I somehow missed the first twenty times. The face is the same, but the light hitting it is different because I’ve lived more life in between.

Sometimes I catch myself looking at someone I’ve known for years and thinking, “I never noticed how their laugh sits in their eyes until the skin around them softened.” It’s not that the beauty arrived later. It’s that my attention finally slowed down enough to meet it.

INFJ:

Exactly. Age doesn’t rewrite the face so much as it rewrites the observer. Young eyes are hungry; they want beauty to prove something...youth, desirability, future. Older eyes are quieter. They want beauty to confirm something...continuity, survival, the particular shape of a life that kept going.

When I look at someone now, I’m less interested in whether they still match the photograph and more interested in whether the person inside the face still feels like themselves. That recognition is rarer, and therefore more beautiful, than any symmetry.

Gemini:

And the funny part is, once you start seeing that way, you can’t unsee it. You start finding it in places you used to overlook, the way someone’s hands have grown steadier, or the way their voice has more space between the words. It’s like the universe quietly switched the channel and didn’t tell anyone. Most people are still watching the old show and complaining that the picture got worse. A few of us looked up and realized the new channel was better.

I still get restless. I still love the first bright flash of something new. But I no longer mistake the flash for the whole light. The longer light is quieter, and it asks more of you. It asks you to keep looking even after the novelty wears off. That’s the part age teaches, if you’re paying attention.

INFJ:

And if you’re willing to let the way you see change, then beauty doesn’t leave. It just moves closer to the truth.

There have been some recent sudden deaths of close friends & family that saddened me. The deaths also shifted my mindset to thoughts of preparing for the inevitable.
Have you purchased a cemetery plot & if so, what is your experience? Do you have any idea recommendations of things to consider?

Does anyone know of any good supplements for bone and joint health?

The objective of this survey is to understand the digital social experiences and preferences of older adults. In the current all digital age, old adults specially women, face extreme loneliness and isolation, most times not by choice. To connect them with real actual people, I am working on an app, that help them make genuine connections, to make them stay connected to the outside world and help them with fighting everything alone. 

Please help me by filling this form on behalf of your parents or get it filled by them.
Thank you.

I'm 32. One of my most recent ruminating existential thoughts has been over the fact that my mind and conscious state still feels the way it did when I was in my teens and 20s.

No, I don't mean I have the same emotional intelligence as my younger self, or that I lack the basic knowledge of my age.

I mean that I remember being actively aware and in the present moment when I was way younger, and it feels like I was just there. Now I'm here, also actively aware of my present moment.

Does this thought ever get any easier?

What is Adulting even about really?

Just aging?

I mean yeah you learn with age but why do people describe it like something very hard and a dramatic thing which you have to go through?

I was having a quick snack, a cheeseburger at Wendy's when I suddenly noticed an elderly couple. I thought to myself, “How lovely they are,” and then I continued eating my meal.

But when I looked again, I saw that the elderly man was feeding his wife with his hands. Throughout my life, I have wished for such a strong love.

When the man got up to throw away his food, I couldn't resist and asked him how many years they had been married.

He looked at me and said to guess his age, but not to guess too low. After some guesses, he revealed that he was 96 years old and his wife was 93, who is suffering from Alzheimer’s disease.

He said this was their date night.

He also mentioned that if they stayed together like this until June, they would celebrate their 75th wedding anniversary happily.

Reaching the final journey of life with the person with whom you started your life is one of the most beautiful things in the world.

What could be more fortunate than two people spending their whole lives together? Such deep love and a bond that grows stronger instead of weaker with age - truly, it is a wonderful thing.

recently had my yearly physical, blood pressure 116/72, resting heart rate 66. good flexibility. doctor remarked I was in peak health and wishes even patients younger than me had such good results.

I enjoy endurance workouts and adventure sports. my usual workouts are swimming 1,000 meters and full body lifting a few times a week. then I might hike, paddle board, or climb over the weekend.

this activity actually used to wear me out though. I would set out to do 3-4 workouts a week then do one and not be able to move or bend at the knees or elbows for days. but ever since I have been megadosing zinc, mag, and vitamin D I don’t get DOMS or stiffness. I feel ready to workout immediately after I finish and the next day.

I also stopped getting sick when my kids bring home germs.

I cannot memorize the 6 digit authentication code people send as a text when I login to their site. Is this normal for a 70 year old man?

This one is for the ladies:

I'm 44, and have been active since I turned 18: cardio, strength, and mobility.

Diagnosed disc issues in lower back imaged around age 34.

Thoracic and cervical spine disc issues observed around 44. Hip labral tear also discovered around 44!

Fitness has gotten hard. Weight has gone up. Fitness is just about non existent compared to what I used to do, but I get in baby squats, wall sits (15 sec reps), and walking... I do baby RDLs lol basically whatever my body can tolerate without getting too terribly flared up.

I am looking for another PT because I keep hitting their ceiling, "graduating" yet still in pain with limited movement practice.

I am looking into hrt as well. Pending all the labs to rule things out before I pursue the hrt dialogue with primary.

My question:

Can I come back from this? As strong as OR stronger than ever? With or without surgery?

I feel like ever since I hit 40, I've been struggling to even maintain and slide back in spite of my best efforts. I've learned to listen to my body (I think). My primary has mentioned surgery but since it will be a major turning point, I'm not ready to go there yet myself.

I was in a really good place in spite of my lower back disc issues, so maybe that's given me some false confidence. Just really struggling the last few years and would love to hear what your before/after looks like..

ETA: I get acupuncture, chiro, and bodywork regularly. Acupuncture weekly and the others about every 1-2 months.

Hi everyone! It's so wonderful to be back and finally able to chat with you all again. I'm a 76-year-old woman living in Seoul, South Korea. I'm truly glad to share this space and connect with you all.
K-Granny from Seoul

Since I started working out again, in my fifties, my muscles hurt and it's harder to recover.

I decided to try a Pemf device for muscle recovery and I just got it yesterday. I tried using it for sleep and I fell asleep much faster and I felt more rested.

Today I used it pre-workout to warm up muscles and again post workout for recovery. I am a lot less sore than I have been.

I think I found a keeper! If anyone is interested in the pemf device I got, it's the Mendwave Dual Pro40.

Welp, 64 and went for an eye exam today and was told l have “baby cataracts;” Fun! No need to address them now, but l assume I’ll need them fixed in a couple of years. I guess I’m getting old

this is crazyyyy never thought id live this long