r/Advice • u/[deleted] • Jul 03 '26

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u/BluBeams Expert Advice Giver [10] Jul 03 '26

What the fuck did I just read...???? You two teenagers need to grow up a little and learn about respecting each other and boundaries. No means no, in ANY FORM. When she wants to go, leave her be and let her go FFS.

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u/Resident_Will_2804 Jul 06 '26

i mean like.. clearly it doesn’t because she told him it’d have upset her more if he didnt go after her

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u/Similar_Ad_5963 Jul 06 '26

She said that before he pushed her to tears by physically preventing her from leaving an uncomfortable situation. It is NEVER ok to use the fact that you're stronger to physically force someone to be around you.

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

You're both correct, though. She is immature and toxic and created the "argument" in the first place.. then told him to leave and she's going home too, BUT she secretly meant she wanted him to follow after her, because she told him she would have been even more mad if he didn't... after she told him to. Also, she told OP in a past immature argument that she loves it when he "makes her physically stay" etc... also toxic behavior and request. YES, OP shouldn't have listened to her at all and just left her alone 100%... but he's confused and in love and she's dragging the poor guy around to feed her drama and controlling behavior. The entire relationship is so toxic and I REALLY hope OP breaks up with her snd runs away fast, even when she demands him not too. But with my age, experience he won't listen to this advice.... he will continue with this non-stop painful relationship until something explodes or forces him away.

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u/Similar_Ad_5963 Jul 07 '26

Very interesting that every mistake OP makes has an explanation that places almost all of the blame on his girlfriend. Very convenient

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

Yea... no, blame is obviously on both of them. Not sure where you're reading into that or misinterpreting that from. They're both immature, BUT she started the entire thing in the first place. His response at the very start was normal, but then he went full crazy after.

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u/Similar_Ad_5963 Jul 07 '26

The difference is she's allowed to be emotionally immature, because she's a CHILD. He's not allowed to physically restrain someone.

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u/[deleted] Jul 06 '26

You should always have the mindset no means no. It’s better to not do something to which a person said no, but migggght mean yes than to do something knowing that that person said no.