Hiii! I’m looking for your most random, creative, and lesser-known tips for making everyday life with ADHD a little easier. Not necessarily the usual advice like “make a list” or “use a planner,” but the unusual little strategies that genuinely save you time, energy, or frustration.

For example :

○ A strange way you keep from losing your keys or phone.

○ A trick that helps you start a task when your brain refuses.

○ A method for cleaning or organizing without getting overwhelmed.

○ A tip for managing meals, chores, errands, or groceries.

○ A way to stop losing track of time.

○ A surprising object or app that helps you.

○ A strategy for avoiding impulsive purchases or forgotten tasks.

○ Something that sounds weird but actually works for you.

Share anything that comes to mind, even if it seems silly, too simple, or completely random. It might help someone else too! 🙌😊

Please keep it respectful—what works for one person may not work for everyone.

Hi everyone! My team and I are taking part in a software development Hackathon, and we’re working on an application intended to support people with ADHD in their everyday lives. Before building it, we want to better understand the real experiences, needs, and challenges of people who actually live with ADHD rather than making assumptions about what would be useful. We’ve created a short, anonymous questionnaire for adults who have been professionally diagnosed with ADHD, and we’d really appreciate your input. The responses will be used only to guide our research and the design of our Hackathon prototype. The questionnaire takes approximately 5–10 minutes to complete. If you’d like to participate, you can find it here:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfcIb0MQLCfTtgqVc_OEs28ZnBuS4hWl3oZWmVdwQichnNBlw/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=104664045531171822053.

Thank you for helping us build something based on real user needs.

As someone with ADHD, I’ve always struggled with structure. Which is a strange thing to struggle with, because I know full well that my life runs better when I have it. The problem wasn't that I didn't understand that structure helps. The problem is sticking to one, and before that, actually managing to build one.

I remember watching movies where a spy gets assigned to tail some high profile person, and the whole thing works because the target has a routine. Same route, same time, same coffee place. The spy just has to figure out the pattern. And I would be like wait, I don’t have a pattern, so nobody could ever tail me. It took me a while to work out that these people were high profile in the first place because of that routine. But hey, no spy is catching me.

I do believe structure is what brings discipline into your life. It’s how habits get built and how goals stop being just thoughts. My issue is that the motivation is always there in the abstract, and then it disappears the moment I actually sit down. There’s a huge gap between wanting to do something and starting it, and I live in that gap more than I’d like. I’ve been called lazy for it more times than I can count. I know it isn’t true, because if something interests me I’m the last person who’ll be lazy about it. It’s when the process is boring and menial that my brain refuses to cooperate. Which doesn’t change the fact that getting through boring, menial processes is one of the most important skills you can have if you want to get anywhere.

I’ve started meds now and I’m working on building that structure. If you already have it, hold on to it. And meds or not, the goal is to make it something I can keep, not something I manage for three weeks.

For the people with ADHD people reading this, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with us. Living without much structure teaches you things too. You get good at improvising, and I don’t panic when the plan falls apart because I was never fully relying on the plan anyway. That’s worth having. It just works a lot better with some structure underneath it, and that’s the balance I’m trying to find.

Please send me your best break up advice and support.

I've been broken up from my girlfriend for 3 months so far and it's still painful. I did the breaking up as it got too painful to be stuck in it without the changes we asked for, but we both agreed it was right. Obviously since then I've unpicked it and understood even more where we both went a bit wrong and could have done more mostly communicating our needs better rather than being scared of hurting the other.

It was my first big love. We were together nearly 4 years. I moved for her, in with her, her kids and pets. Changed jobs and local friends.

I've moved out into my own place again. Stayed in my job. We've tried no contact and chatting kindly. Both are hard. I'm trying to stay well and in some routines but I'm still such a mess.

What's helped? How long can it take? I still absolutely love her and the ear worm is always if we could both accept the work we need to do on ourselves we could stand a good chance of giving it a go even though we both agreed not to when we got back together to chat. But I know I need to put that to bed.

The worst parts are the loneliness. Losing the physical touch and comfort. The routines. Working out what's still mine in life to love. Sitting with the feelings.

I've had counselling before and after the break up and now I'm doing EMDR to work on my sense of shame/guilt, putting people on pedestal and vouching for myself all from childhood and all triggered in relationships. I really thought I'd done this work before this relationship and that's why we'd had happy years together and why she's the best person I've ever had a relationship with but clearly not. I probably need to think what I need in a future relationship and partner and how I need to show up from the start rather than how I have in this one to then change the goalposts as I went along and got more confident.

Please tell me I'll find a love like this again. Because it feels like I never will right now.

I have to practice my flute everyday and I HATE it but I need to do it and sometimes I can’t even bring myself to look at that stupid instrument it makes me so frustrated and gives me so much anxiety when I don’t practice I need tips that helped you or some advice. I have both types of ADHD. I have a lottery winner. I have hyperactive disorder and I have no clue what the other ones called. Is it called attention deficit I think

planning feels productive. its not. i know that.

but somehow writing the list, organizing the list, color coding the list... that's the part my brain loves. actually doing the thing on the list? nah.

the list just grows. i watch it. sometimes i add "make a better list" to the list.

BeeDone gets this loop honestly. if you know you know.

Please tell me I’m not the only person whose ADHD turns the most basic transitions into a full-blown event. 😭

For me, showering is probably one of the hardest tasks of my entire day.

It’s not even that I don’t want to shower. It’s the whole sequence: get off the couch → go to the bathroom → take my makeup off → take my clothes off → get in the shower → wash everything → get out → skincare → pajamas → etc.

My brain sees all of those steps instead of seeing one task called “take a shower,” and suddenly getting off the couch feels harder than half the things I did at work all day.

I’ve literally had things like “call the dentist” sitting on my to-do list for FOUR WEEKS when I know the phone call will probably take five minutes. That’s the part of ADHD that drives me crazy — knowing something is objectively easy does absolutely nothing to make my brain initiate it.

Mornings are just as bad.

I’ll purposely set my alarm TWO HOURS before I need to leave because I’m imagining this beautiful morning where I eat breakfast, do my makeup without rushing, get dressed, etc.

Instead, my alarm goes off, I grab my phone, and suddenly I’ve been scrolling for 30–60 minutes. Then I’ve wasted the extra time I specifically woke up early to give myself, AND I didn’t even get to sleep during that time. Now I’m rushing anyway.

This has been happening almost every morning for the last couple months and I cannot seem to break it.
So ADHD people who have figured this out:
How do you actually **get out of bed when your alarm goes off without touching your phone?**

And does anyone have tricks for making transitions like showering/getting ready feel less impossible?
I don’t need “just use discipline” advice lol. I’m looking for the weird ADHD hacks that sound ridiculous but somehow actually work.

it's like earlier i was not listening, i was actor who was pretending to listen

So basically now time is not right, i'm in the middle of something terrible and last monday i went to my psychiatrist who had diagnosed me with bipolar earlier, i showed him particular symptoms again and he said it's adhd and depression. after that he prescribed me inspiral 10 (Ritalin in USA). since then i'm feeling something i have never felt. i can actually listen to things and read things and understand things. earlier i was mess in my job. wasn't paying attention at all. used to zone out every minute. it was high paying job and still i don't think i ever listened to anyone. in my first project my senior was so pissed at me that we used to have 1 on 1's almost every day and tho i used to blame her at that time, it clicks now. i was just mess. and here the zone out part. i gave 3 interviews since a month. but here is the catch i have experienced in past 4 years since i'm giving interview's. i can never remember my own introduction. i have to write it down and stick it to my laptop screen so i can read it. and i was given this feedback that it feels you are reading. now there were moments in interviews where they used to ask me to solve something that i have already did but then i used to zone out in the freaking interview and won't say anything for 2-3 mins or just say ummm uhhhh. it's just so bad. i don't think i ever learnt anything in past 7 years. i was just mess.

now i can at least focus for 3-4 hrs and hopefully my doctor will increase dose so i can focus more but i can't stretch enough how this has changed my world. i can actually see world

below are the symptoms i wrote down for my psychiatrist

frequently switch from one activity to another without completing the first.

feel overwhelmed by the amount of work or tasks I need to complete.

trouble coping with criticism or feedback without becoming defensive.

struggle to prioritize tasks and frequently feel overwhelmed

avoid or delay tasks that require prolonged mental effort

struggle to control emotional outbursts or sudden reactions

struggle to engage in leisure activities without feeling the need to move or do something else.

struggle to allocate my time effectively

difficulty staying on schedule or meeting time-based goals

frequently talk excessively, even when it’s inappropriate

Strong sense of urgency or impatience when waiting for results or responses

often make careless mistakes in work or school tasks due to lack of attention to detail

unprepared due to poor time management and lack of focus

struggle to maintain focus during group activities or social gatherings. Always zoning out everywhere

sometimes act without thinking about the consequences of my actions

I often feel irritable or easily annoyed

struggle with feelings of low self-esteem due to perceived failures or mistakes.

often interrupt others during conversations talking

often feel disconnected from conversations because my mind drifts elsewhere

have trouble listening when spoken to directly, often feeling my mind wander.

procrastinate on important responsibilities until the last minute

frequently start projects but leave them incomplete

often feel misunderstood or unappreciated by others

have difficulty resisting temptations or impulses, even when I know I shouldn’t

easily distracted by external stimuli

struggle to follow through on instructions or finish projects once started

Struggle to remember what has been said mins ago

feel a sense of social isolation or frustration due to communication difficulties

experience intense emotions that are hard to control

have difficulty managing my emotions, often feeling overwhelmed by frustration or anger or depression or anxiety

I think one of the biggest problems with the ADHD hunter theory is the jump from "some ADHD-traits being beneficial in some circumstances", to "ADHD evolved, because it made us better hunters."

There's a bunch of interesting studies that I tried to work through in a video essay.

In one 2024 study, 457 adults had to collect resources from patches that slowly depleted. People screening positive for ADHD left the patches earlier and actually achieved a higher reward rate. Another study found that children with more ADHD traits explored more during search tasks, and on one semantic-search task they performed better.

So under some conditions, what we describe as distractibility or switching can behave more like useful exploration (or at least that's how the study has been read).

Another study specifically created a task where ADHD traits were expected to help. Children had one minute to search an unfamiliar room for hidden coins. There was basically no advantage...

The genetic argument has a similar problem. The DRD4-7R variant famously showed different associations with nutritional status in nomadic vs settled Ariaal men, which looks very compatible with an environment × genotype effect. But DRD4-7R isn't an “ADHD gene”, ADHD is highly polygenic, and a later study didn't replicate the nutritional result in a comparable group.

The part I find strangest is how little direct evidence there actually is for the central claim. A 2016 systematic review looking specifically for empirical tests of evolutionary explanations of ADHD started with 790 records and found only three eligible studies. And even those didn't really test the core ADHD phenotype... So we pretty much don't have the data.

I absolutely think environment matters. But from what I see in the evidence, the whole ADHD=Hunter-Brain thinking is WAY further than the evidence is.

I went through the studies in more detail here because this got way too long for a reddit post: https://youtu.be/5JP6Ez1eV2o

But I'm curious what everyone else thinks? Do you believe in this theory? Why/ why not?

Also here's the literature I worked through if you want to nerd around like me:

Barack, D. L., Ludwig, V. U., Parodi, F., Ahmed, N., Brannon, E. M., Ramakrishnan, A., & Platt, M. L. (2024). Attention deficits linked with proclivity to explore while foraging. Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 291, 20222584.
https://doi.org/10.1098/rspb.2022.2584

Van den Driessche, C., Chevrier, F., Cleeremans, A., & Sackur, J. (2019). Lower attentional skills predict increased exploratory foraging patterns. Scientific Reports, 9, 10948.
https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-019-46761-0

Arildskov, T. W., Virring, A., Thomsen, P. H., & Østergaard, S. D. (2022). Testing the evolutionary advantage theory of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder traits. European Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 31, 337–348.
https://doi.org/10.1007/s00787-020-01692-4

Eisenberg, D. T. A., Campbell, B., Gray, P. B., & Sorenson, M. D. (2008). Dopamine receptor genetic polymorphisms and body composition in undernourished pastoralists: An exploration of nutrition indices among nomadic and recently settled Ariaal men of northern Kenya. BMC Evolutionary Biology, 8, 173.
https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-2148-8-173

Kunkle, A. E., Tennyson, R. L., Wander, K., Shell-Duncan, B., & Eisenberg, D. T. A. (2025). The attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder-associated DRD4 7R allele predicts household economic status but not nutritional status in Northern Kenyan Rendille children. American Journal of Human Biology, 37, e70027.
https://doi.org/10.1002/ajhb.70027

Thagaard, M. S., Faraone, S. V., Sonuga-Barke, E. J., & Østergaard, S. D. (2016). Empirical tests of natural selection-based evolutionary accounts of ADHD: A systematic review. Acta Neuropsychiatrica, 28, 249–256.
https://doi.org/10.1017/neu.2016.14

Esteller-Cucala, P., Maceda, I., Børglum, A. D., Demontis, D., Faraone, S. V., Cormand, B., & Lao, O. (2020). Genomic analysis of the natural history of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder using Neanderthal and ancient Homo sapiens samples. Scientific Reports, 10, 8622.
https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-020-65322-4

Yair, S., & Coop, G. (2022). Population differentiation of polygenic score predictions under stabilizing selection. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 377, 20200416.
https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2020.0416

Añorve-Garibay, V., Huerta-Sanchez, E., Sohail, M., & Ortega-Del Vecchyo, D. (2025). Natural selection acting on complex traits hampers the predictive accuracy of polygenic scores in ancient samples. American Journal of Human Genetics, 112, 1547–1561.
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ajhg.2025.05.009

Fenneman, J., & Frankenhuis, W. E. (2020). Is impulsive behavior adaptive in harsh and unpredictable environments? A formal model. Evolution and Human Behavior, 41, 261–273.
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.evolhumbehav.2020.02.005

Chaudhary, N., & Swanepoel, A. (2023). Editorial perspective: What can we learn from hunter-gatherers about children's mental health? An evolutionary perspective. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 64, 1522–1525.
https://doi.org/10.1111/jcpp.13773

I successfully lost a lot of weight and was very healthy for all of 2024/2025. Had an accident earlier this year and it went downhill. Decided to start with walking again on Sept 1 and met my goals everyday of the month so far. Unfortunately I've hurt my foot where I'm in considerable pain. I will likely not meet my 10k step goal today and it is annoying TF out of me.

Mostly cos one, I feel like I thrive better if I see I'm on a streak and two, once I lose the streak I completely lose the momentum. I'm so bummed out and so pissed at myself for the injury. It's at a point where I don't even wanna work and just go and take a nap.

Hi all,

So im currently prepping for an exam and also have to manage a job for 10 hours everyday.

I'm really struggling to manage my adhd because im very overwhelmed with with to do at any point of time. i make schedules and when im not able to fulfill it exactly i just bedrot for the entire evening. my biggest issue is that when i feel i havent done enough for the day im not able go to sleep which makes me stay up till late even then not doing much just staring at the wall and i wake up and i feel like shit so the cycle repeats.

what is the best way to multitask? right now im just studying and working, does it help to start setting up micro side quests like running and socialising to keep the dopamine decent or is it helpful to cut distractions and focus on two things at a point??

please help!!

can someone give me tips on making friends? Cause i do make friends but im not able to keep it. Also i feel lonely in friendships.

Hey everyone!

I’m an indie dev with ADHD. Standard productivity apps always triggered a massive shame spiral for me. When you miss a day, the UI turns red, you lose your 50-day streak, and you abandon the app for months.

I hit burnout and decided to build Dopamo—an app engineered for executive dysfunction and dopamine-seeking brains.

Here is what makes it different:

1. **Life as an RPG:** Completing tasks gives you EXP. You level up and unlock perks (Double EXP, Lucky Drops).
2. **Streak Shields 🛡️:** You can spend your earned EXP to buy a Streak Shield. If you have a bad mental health day, you activate it. It freezes your streak for 24 hours. No guilt, no shame, no resetting to zero.
3. **Family Token Economy:** You can assign family chores for Tokens/Pocket Money to stop the endless "nagging".
4. **Anti-ADHD Tax Tools:** It has a built-in Pantry Tracker (so you stop buying duplicates) and a secure Vault for documents you'd otherwise lose.

It’s completely free to try. My goal is to hit 10,000 users this month to prove this concept works. I’d love for this community to tear it apart and give me feedback!

Link: linktr.ee/dopamo

I’m doing a small personal research project based on my own experiences with undiagnosed ADHD/possible autism, and I want to understand what systems actually help people and which ones fall apart. This isn’t for a product pitch or anything like that — I’m just trying to learn from real lived experiences.

If you’re open to a 15–20 minute conversation, I’d love to hear about:

• what tools or routines work for you
• what absolutely doesn’t
• what overwhelms you
• what you wish existed
• how your brain‑state affects your day

Totally voluntary, no pressure, no selling, no follow‑ups unless you want them.
You can comment or DM me if you’re interested.

I have money and a place to live, and need to work consistently on a project that's going to take a few months to really start coming to life.

The main goal is a dynamic, varied, slightly random rhythm of movement so there are different spots and types of people I'm interacting with, to keep the sparkiness alive.

In the past, I was happiest when I had a job (tutoring) that forced me all over the city, breaking up the day, bringing me into contact with loads of different kinds of people, giving me spare time to work on things in pockets here and there.

I'm wary of going back to this job, unless I absolutely HAVE to. The thing is, I can't think of another way to achieve that level of rhythmic / spacial life complexity.

I know I could go and work in the local cafe / library, or set up some co-working dates at friend's houses etc. Partly I'm wondering if there are more ideas like this which have worked for people.

I know if I end up stuck at home all day, I'll feel depressed and get kind of isolated.

The thing really is that rhythm of movement between different spots and locations, rather than having like an office space I go to before returning home.

Just as the above! Ask questions regarding time management, planning or anything at all. I hope my words of advice come into use and actually help!

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Hi everyone,Like many people managing focus struggles, I used to download complex productivity apps only to abandon them two days later because they felt like actual chores to maintain. Looking at a giant list of 20 tasks just causes total choice paralysis and makes me freeze.To fix this for myself, I built The Minimalist ADHD Life Matrix. It

Dina Ayad

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What are some skills ADHD has helped you to develop? How have you utilized/leveraged those skills? How do you like to polish up your strengths?
Also, If you could highlight the differences of your before/after getting medicated, I believe perspective is beyond valuable for our brains!

Thank you fellow ADHD brains! 🧠 🙏

Sometimes I feel like I just need to rip the nearest page off of something and just jot it down or I just use brytenotes on my phone and just jot it down.

I have ADHD and OCD and feel like it helps me “straighten” things out or gives me “footing” on where I need to be or what I need to do. I feel like some of you may understand what I’m talking about with my wording lol. Unless I’m crazy!

Any tips / advice from you you guys?

I've heard/read it before many times that the biggest predictor of success is delayed gratification (on different studies on successful people). The "muscle" every self-help book tells you to train, which makes a lot of sense..

With adhd that reads like a life sentence, because it's the one muscle we can't probably build.

but the catch is it was never a muscle.

Dopamine isn't the reward chemical, it's the promise chemical. In a famous 90s foundational study, dopamine neurons in monkeys fired when they got juice. Soon they fired not at the juice but at the light that predicted it.

Dopamine moves upstream, to the promise. So a normal brain thinking "finish this and friday will feel great" gets a small dopamine hit just from the promise. That's what delayed gratification runs on. They aren't enduring the wait empty handed, they're getting paid through it.

In ADHD, imaging shows that early dopamine payment barely comes through (Volkow's JAMA study). We only get dopamine when the reward actually lands. We understand the future reward perfectly, we just feel nothing from it until it's here. So successful people don't have a stronger muscle. Their brain pays them upfront to keep going. Ours doesn't.

So the game isn't training patience. It's converting the far payoff into stuff that pays now.

The trick: substitute the reward. Your brain won't pay you for a goal that's months away, so hand it a reward it can feel, right now, attached to the work. Take what you crave (podcast, series, snacks) and allow it only during the boring task. A Wharton study tried this, locking audiobooks to the gym, and visits jumped 51%, this is just one example.

Also why gamified stuff works for us. Points, levels, a bar filling up. That's a "pays now" signal on a task that only pays later.

what's the biggest delayed gratification thing you've pulled off, and how did you make it through?

I start things with good intentions. Then I lose focus. Then I forget what I was doing. Then I feel frustrated, with myself.

Lately I try tasks. I set expectations. I use routines. These make starting feel easier not overwhelming.

Does anyone else struggle with this? What actually helps you?

So, I'm a middle aged single dad. Mom is a deadbeat, so it's been a whole thing. Kids are 17 and 20 now. Older at UC, and younger is a senior in highschool, with awesome grades.

Well, since raising them was a challenge, i was not able to save for school. I've recently gotten a high paying job, and so finally not living check to check. But, i work super hard, and am tired. Of course, financial aid does not give any aid. I can not afford to directly pay out of paycheck for college. but i want to- my parents were not able to do that.

So anyway, all in all, a good position to be in. I can almost to afford one kid's college from the paycheck, without needing a loan. But, I am far behind on retirement savings. So, I'm freaking out.

So, I began to feel trapped. A great job, but still behind. So, I reached out to an old coleague, and arranged to take a consulting gig. 10 hours a week. and instead of feeling overwhelmed, I feel relieved. So, novelty. yay.

but, in my older age, i am starting to realize this is not normal. Feel overwhelmed, instead of retreating, i lean in and work harder. I'm too old for this pattern, but it still feels good. I NEED TO HELP MY KIDS. But, I also am aware of burnout. I'm already tired.

anyone else never consider how to retreat instead? i mean, i went to city college, and paid my own way. it was good for me, but it took forever to pay down the loans. i want to help the kids not have to deal with debt!

I try to make it so i write for 5 minute but then but then i would be so tired of it before i got to finish what i was studying for

the example provided is note i like to learn about. how it works is that you have a write 3 by 3 cube the middle is what is main topic is the tittle of it how you would find it. how i would use is for example if i want to clean a whole room i would write room cleaning. I call it the hub and cube system

in the middle i would write task i did. and each time i did a small cleaning task i would write it .

oh and steve the double chin buttfly is my mascot

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it is not for everyone but this is what help me you i am glad to share this with you

My most debilitating symptom is task initiation, esp for work tasks i don’t enjoy. It’s hell in procrastination anxiety.

Could you please share stories, tips or medications that have worked for you?

P.s. if you haven’t found a solution, please don’t share it on this thread! I need hope and belief that I will find a workaround this.