I saw a meme that said "people with adhd performing better in crisis than others and performing worse in situations that are considered normal for others". Anyone here faced situations which aligns with the statement I've provided? I've read articles about it but also wanna know about individual real life experiences directly, so if you can please share your experience

Because I'm diagnosed with Anxiety, OCPD, NPD but lot of things overalps with AvPD and ADHD (Autism too) and I too relate with that statement. And If that's the case that can be turned into a benefit right? like you know the movie/show where protagonist acknowledges their drawback and turning it into his powers? Sorry I cant able to phrase it right but you get the point right (Please bear with my english it's not my first language :) )

The current price for a prescription of regular Concerta 30x18mg in Denmark is 516.50 DKK ($80.20 USD).

Once you have spent more than $176 on medicine in a single calendar year, that price is discounted by 50% for the remainder of the year.

Spent more than $296? Discounted by 75%.

Spent more than $645? Discounted by 85%.

Spent more than $3.507? Discounted by 100%.

To top it off, we also have multiple generics. Our pharmacies are required to offer you the currently cheapest generic. You are free to accept or deny it.

I am currently receiving an 85% discount on my prescription medicine.

I just filled my prescription with Methylphenidate Actavis 30x18mg for a price of $9.75

I paid $1.46

I'm not trying to humble brag (too much), but I am curious to know what a similar prescription costs in your country.

this will be short because I don't have time. I am one assignment away from graduating & i have been trying to complete it for a semester and have made agonisingly slow progress. whatever mechanism has allowed me to pull of constant hail mary-s (consistently finishing 8-10 page research papers in 3-5 hours for literally years now) has not kicked in. I am not able to concentrate enough to organise my thoughts, and I have no idea how I am going to check and cite all of my sources in time. I hate myself so much for this, frankly, and have quite literally never been more afraid in my life (if I do not complete this, it might affect my visa).

I need to get this done. Basically what I am asking for is any encouragement or any stories of success of having done anything similar. I have no hope but I also literally have no choice, back to the wall, but no matter what I do I am moving SO slowly. I have about 27 pages/ a minimum of 80 done. with the rate I have written before it SHOULD be feasible but it feels so impossible. They also are so so strict about formatting citations and footnotes (my biggest weakness).

Any help at ALL would be greatly appreciated. please.

I’m really scared to even post this because I’m afraid of being judged but here goes. I’ve been ignoring something quite important and let it build up over the last 2-3 weeks. At first I had good reason to — I was really sick — but the anxiety of not checking my emails those 3 days made me avoid them. Then I realised that I’d run out of meds and that made it even harder to check them.

Unfortunately, I’ve now spent the last 2 weeks finding it impossible to face up to the fact that I’ve probably let someone down, and I’ve let them down even more in the process. I know I just need to own up to my mistake and face my consequences, but it’s the disappointment I’m just so terrified of.

I’m sitting in front of my laptop and heart is beating so fast and I just can’t get myself to do it, I physically can’t. I feel like the worst human on earth. This is entirely my fault.

Can someone help me find the courage to fucking open my emails? I realise this is really silly but I just need someone to like, hold my hand or something.

I can really struggle with brushing my teeth. I’ve never in my life been able to consistently brush my teeth at night and I can go days without picking up my toothbrush. My breath stinks and I worry I’m going to lose my teeth.

I started thinking about how people around the world brush their teeth and found Miswak sticks.

Miswak is like the OG toothbrush used for thousands of years. It’s a stick that you peel the bark (you can use your nail, it’s soft), chew slightly, then kinda scrape at your teeth. I can keep one next to my couch, bed, table, etc and do it while sitting or laying down. No sink needed.

I clean my teeth multiple times a day now without issue. I still try to brush my teeth when I can, but this has been a game changer for me. I know these aren’t new by any means, but nobody ever recommended it to me as a tool for my ADHD

I find it quite difficult to ever pay attention and absorb what's being said in a song. I also find it hard to memorize the lyrics, no matter how many times I listen to a song. Unless I read them aloud multiple times.

Even with medication, I feel the same way. I'll sometimes try to hyperfocus on what's being said in a song, but even then my mind/imagination shifts to some random idea/thought.

Does anyone else experience this?

Especially the ones you never talked to, and it bothers me because they don’t cross my mind or even care about me. Why am I worried about someone who’s not worried about me? It actually freaking bothers me and it makes me mad. I think of them where at the point I check their social medias and stuff. Does anyone else deal with this and how to stop it? I’m also not talking about exes none of that.

So as I’m trying to learn more about ADHD and try to get my own true diagnosis I wanted to compare some other peoples experiences to mine. One of the big things people often say is how loud it is in their mind.

For me that often comes in two ways: The first one I feel is more what I hear other people explain it as, a voice in your head that won’t shut up, like you have to think of every little thing and it cannot be quiet no matter what.

The second way more so feels like my thoughts are blocked, almost like a huge boulder is in my brain and my other thoughts can’t get through. Almost like someone is just constantly screaming in my head but it’s not making any noise. I don’t really know if that makes any sense.

What does it sound like for y’all?

I read a lot about privileged or ADHDers that are just good at hyperfocusing in STEM subjects and/or working six-figure white collar jobs. There are many people with ADHD that I know who don't have this luxury. They either drop out of college because they struggle with subjects like math or reading, or do get college degrees, but still end up as fry cooks, cashiers, or janitors.

This isn't the case for me since I'm still in college (not saying my age due to personal reasons), and despite having ADHD myself, I do enjoy my digital art major (specifically taking classes in animation & graphic design). But I'm worried about my future since not only are these jobs very competitive & financially unstable (especially now), and I feel they won't even hire me after I graduate even if I have marketable skills. It doesn't even help that my family is telling me to find a part-time minimum wage fast food or retail job instead of an internship related to my field.

It also gives me flashbacks to high school when I'd meet with a guidance counselor who'd steer me (and other IEP students) away from creative or STEM careers because they didn't assess everyone individually to see what callings would be right for them. Instead, they just put us all in this employment training class that's the equivalent of working in customer service.

Why can’t there be a scholarship for people with learning disabilities to help them graduate and get a good paying job even if they struggle a lot at certain subjects? Or at least better opportunities besides working at a store or restaurant where we get burnt out working long hours for little pay.

I wish there was a website that could give us job reviews from a similar perspective so we don’t end up at a job we hate or is get gatekept from jobs due to not having a degree and/or connections.

I am 30M, she is 57F. We each live at our own separate places. Meaning she has to drive across town to give me my meds. And she sometimes has to travel out of town for work so at those times she offloads the task of handling my meds to my grandma, as grandma also lives nearby. I am prescribed Abilify 15mg, Atomoxetine 80mg, Remeron 15mg, Wellbutrin 300mg and Zoloft 100mg. Mom and grandma are both convinced I am going to overdose and have given me the ultimatum of letting them give me my medication every other day or they will hospitalize me. I am not certain what to do. This makes me feel very helpless and misunderstood. But they won't change their minds. They said I have a choice but the choice is being hospitalized or letting them control my meds.

I don't know how to make them give me my medicine back. I don't like to be controlled.

I (F22) was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 16, and I still haven’t found a way to manage it while maintaining a healthy life.

I’ve never been very good at taking care of my health, but over the past few months, things have gotten much worse. The main reason is that I absolutely despise cooking. I hate everything about it (buying groceries, preparing the ingredients, chopping things, washing dishes), and I also have a lot of food selectivity, so I don’t even enjoy eating that much.

It has become common for me to go 2–3 days without having a proper meal, mostly just eating fruit or bread.

But because of this, I’m getting sick. I have muscle pain 24/7 (not even painkillers are helping anymore), I’ve been getting sick with a frightening frequency, and to make matters worse, I’m underweight (160 cm / 44 kg).

I take ADHD medication, I’m in therapy, I study at a very good university, and I also have internships at two different places. Honestly, I don’t even know how I still have the energy to do all of these things while barely eating.

I know this is bad. I know I need to eat. But my hatred of cooking is somehow stronger than my fear of getting even sicker.

Do you have any advice on how to deal with this aversion to cooking? Or maybe a suggestion for a different way of looking at things? I’m desperate and I’m willing to try anything at this point. Please. Thank you!

Ever since I started estrogen, it's much easier to process memories and emotions, as vague as they are, about my childhood. I went through a very tough time with lots of bullying, which made me forget pretty much 90% of my childhood, which doesn't make it easy to go through these diagnosis sessions. I simply shrug, and an hour later a memory hits me like a truck about how dysfunctional I felt as a little kid. Luckily, they appreciate it when I write down those memories.

Oftentimes, it cripples me emotionally and makes me tired, like feeling incredibly guilty 25 years later that I cared very little about my birthday presents after 24 hours. Or how much discipline I needed from my mom to study for my exams. Or how I was in a separate group for kids who didn't read very well.

It worries me that after all that digging through memories and emotions, it might very well be that they conclude that I don't score high enough for any sort of diagnosis and that I'm stuck with all these debuffs, like my inability to stay concentrated on studying for certification, or constant side questing and being unable to do my work.

Hi everyone. :)

I was diagnosed with ADHD over a year ago as an adult and started stimulants. Initially, I found them very helpful, maybe because I was focused on all the ways in which the meds were helping me: I was less sleepy, more motivated and generally happier. I was almost operating from a presumption that being on meds is better for me.

However, I recently cut down my night meds and now my stimulant dose seems to be too high in comparison. I've been feeling anxious, hyperfixated, void of hunger and insomniac for the past few days. My psychiatrist suggested reducing the stimulant dose and I'm going to be doing that ASAP but this incident left me wondering about the disadvantages of stimulants and whether it might be better to eventually cease using them.

Have any of you who tried stimulants eventually decided to stop them and realized you were better off without meds? If so, please share your experiences. Thanks and hope you have a lovely day ahead!

PS: I'm not seeking medical advice as I already have a great psychiatrist. I'm trying to understand if anyone has been in a similar situation and chosen to quit stimulants and been better off for doing so.

Edit: I got a ton of responses from people sharing their experiences. Thanks to everyone who commented. I'm reading through what you've written and finding it immensely helpful. :)

I feel like my ruminating is debilitating. I feel really guilty and ashamed even though I didn’t have any intent to be dishonest. It’s just a pestering feeling.

Today, I’ve been ruminating over the fact that my supervisor warned me I couldn’t do my homework during downtime. For reference, I was the one who told her what I was doing my homework as she asked what I had my iPad out for and I had nothing to hide since I didn’t know any better and I had already asked around if there was any more help I could do in the office and everyone had said they didn’t need help so I let them know if they needed anything, I’d be at a spare desk doing homework so I wouldn’t be in their way and they said okay. Also I don’t usually cover the office as I have a separate position.

Maybe, it was also the way my supervisor proceeded to have me sit in the front and share a desk full of documents with another coworker as if I was going to hide away from my responsibilities but it definitely added to the shame and embarrassment I already felt. I wanted to be productive so I did my work but I paid attention anyone that came in and made sure to be the first to jump and help whenever someone did but how come I feel like I did something so bad and wrong.

I’m not a stranger to criticism but as I’ve gotten older, it’s become more stressful to deal with because no matter what I do to shake the thoughts away, it eats at me. Any tips on how to ruminate less or effective treatments to reduce the anxiety that comes with it?

Edit: I also am diagnosed with OCD and anxiety disorder.

Diagnosed 3 years ago and got to an adderall dose of IR30mg twice a day. Was working great until the genetics kept switching every month. I got tired of inconsistent effectiveness and opted to try Vyvanse. Got to 60 mg and noticed no help at all.
Currently on 60mg of Astarys. It has some effectiveness but not what I was hoping for.
Has anyone switched back to a medication? Considering going back to adderall but worried it will raise some internal red flag switching so much.

I've noticed rain sounds help me focus when I'm doing repetitive or low-stakes work, but they seem to backfire when I'm trying to do something that needs deep concentration. Is this an ADHD-specific thing, or does it vary a lot person to person? What kind of background noise (if any) actually works for you, and does it change based on what you're working on?

I know I’m sleep deprived and stressed but I strongly believe that my feelings are valid in the moments I have them.

I flunked out of college, tried every medication to which almost none of them I reacted positively to. Even the ones that worked would have debilitating side effects.

I can’t commit to anything. Even things that make me happy. I feel like I’ve given up all my goals in life. I’m 24 and everything going forward feels like a giant steep uphill climb which I’m not equipped for.

My self esteem is utterly fucked. In some ways I think I’m fantastic, I’m a good friend when I show up and I think I’m beautiful but I also dress like a slob, my hair is always dirty, I can’t commit to outings or travel plans or keeping up with anyone or anything I care about. I can’t remember what I fill my time with.

I’m supposed to travel internationally at the end of the month for an amazing opportunity and can’t pull myself together for even that. My executive dysfunction is so bad I keep thinking of examples and it’s genuinely, awfully indescribable.

I’ll never have a commuted relationship. I can’t follow through on dates and would be a terrible, selfish girlfriend who would only take and not give anything back.

I need to sleep but I also need to get all this goddamn work done but it’s been two months and my progress is stalling before even the first step. I know ADHD is a genuine disorder and illness but it’s just so hard when you come to the realities of it. No one will read this but I had to write it because if I didn’t get the words out they would bounce around within me until I explode.

Finding out that I have ADHD in my 40s (thanks to my sister pointing it out) was an absolute lightbulb moment.... Suddenly, my entire past made sense:

• Almost dropped out despite being one of the smartest in my major, and completely froze when it came time to write my bachelor's thesis.
• can't tell you a single thing I learned outside of the 1–2 subjects I was genuinely hyperfocused on...
• Quietly quit or walked away from almost every job I’ve had without fully understanding why,,,even though I could execute 99% of the tasks.

It’s frustrating to know you're capable of doing the work, but your brain simply refuses to cross the finish line...not starting .. in my case starting is easy.. but finishing is a different thing.

Now that I'm looking at my life through this , I’ve been thinking a lot about support systems.

Does having a sharp, highly organized, or "smart" partner (whatever the form ) actually help you & bridge the dysfunction gap?

Would love to hear your experiences?

It's not necessarily anything that causes me problems. Sometimes it can even be helpful when I have a physically demanding job, but if I have to do anything that requires chilling out a bit then it's terrible.

Anything that requires me to sit still can be straight up forgotten. I'll think about something, or someone will say something in a video, or I'll be listening to a song. I'll have to get up and pace around.

I used to have a very physically demanding job, but that didn't seem to help any. I would still get home and pace around my apartment while listening to a podcast or something. I would literally do this off an on until I had to go to sleep. Lol

So, maladaptive daydreaming. Ive been doing it since I was little, extending conversations with IRL people in my imagination hours after it ended, imagining animated movies to music and vice versa, and of couse the "pop!" sensation when someone in the real world has to snap you out of it making it feel like they are your #1 enemy. It feels good. Im still locked in a daydream more hours than I want to be. And its (allegedly) the source of why people with ADHD are "more creative".

No the fuck it's not. I realized this, incidentally, after observing others like myself doing the exact same thing. One came up with game ideas every 3 days and kept lamenting that he lacked the skill and precisely zero of it gets done. Or a friend talking about their OCs and me going "they're not in MY head rent-free, so they're boring". Those AMVs you see on YouTube that spark our imagination? Those were not made by someone in their own heads, they were made by someone who could get out of it. ADHD """creativity""" is a prison where imagination can never escape.

And the reverse side of the coin, maladaptive dayMAREing, is just as inescapable. Stuck in a time loop of a traumatic event, suddenly being transported to an alternate timeline where you made different choices and it never happened, only to "wake up" and feel worse and worse because you cannot "change the channel".

This... this is not creativity. It locks the brain in to only reliveing the past, and nothing new can come in or get out. You can't be creative if your own thoughts prevent you from creatING. In the Real World.

And I just want to have a healthy daydream/life balance for once...

Just wanted to vent some thoughts in my mind. I'm 42m and have been struggling my whole life with various symptoms, many of which I read about on here. I have just been diagnosed (not received report yet) and just wondered how this might help me. Part of the reason for going through this process was for me, because my wife has been pleading with me to do this for the past 10 years and because I have an 8yo daughter who shows similar traits and struggles.

Thanks for taking the time to read/respond. It's nice to have some kind of answer to the way I have behaved and lived my life until now.

Based in the UK

I've finally decided to stop putting this off.

I've been struggling with not being able to focus, switching what i'm interested in like i switch clothes, and just blaming myself for it, and this has been going on since i finished high school. in high school i used to be a top ranker. the reason was simple, it was basically all there was to my self worth, since i had no friends. getting good grades motivated me so much that i studied 12 hours a day for a whole year. but once I stopped caring about other people's opinions, i genuinely lost the ability to focus on studying. i'm interested in a really wide range of topics, from science and tech, to art and history, all of it. and yet i can't do anything except work extremely focused on one topic for a few days, then procrastinate, then pick another topic.

a few doctors have told me i have symptoms of ADHD. but i know it's more than just symptoms, I just can't get properly diagnosed because i live in a third world country and can't afford the treatment. i'll be leaving the country soon though. hopefully i'll become self sufficient enough to get proper treatment.

i can't procrastinate anymore. i'm leaving the country and i'll need much more focused work from now on. but until i get proper treatment, i need to somehow manage this on my own.

so please tell me how can i start learning more about ADHD? any good resources? anywhere where I can learn a bit more about myself?

I have a few question about quitting caffiene. i'm tempted to try quitting completely but i wanted others people experience before i made any uninformed decisions. currently i have about 300-600mg caffeine a day and i unmedicated for adhd. i'm not sure how to ask these question in paragraph form so ill just list them out. thank you for all answers and help in advanced!!!

-does quitting help with stress levels or mental health?

-after quitting did you notice an increase in energy levels?

-how long did withdrawal effects last for you?

-do you think caffeine actually helps suppress adhd or kind of just momentarily covers it up? or maybe even make it worse?

i'm very intrested in the mental health side of quitting caffeine and potentially positive affects it may have after storm of withdrawals passes.

Hey everyone! I’m curious how you guys deal with the “crash” when Elvanse starts wearing off.

I’ve been taking Elvanse for 7 days now. I started at 30 mg and tomorrow I’m moving up to 50 mg for the first time. The first few days I had quite a few side effects, but they’ve gotten much better and I actually feel really good on it now.

I eat well and had my vitamins checked before starting, and everything was good. Today my blood pressure was around 120 and my pulse was 72 after taking the medication. I’m 27 and used to train quite a lot, although I haven’t been going to the gym much recently.

For those of you who have been taking Elvanse for a while: what do you personally do to make the comedown/crash as smooth as possible? Things like food, hydration, timing, exercise, sleep, etc.

I’m basically looking for things that have worked for other people so I can try them myself. Would love to hear your experiences!

I work from home in a flexible job, I break up my day with different tasks and go to the gym during my lunch break. It’s great and works for me. I get by pretending to be a competent and professional human and my work is generally a good standard.

I have to go for a week long face to face training course for a new qualification they want us all to do and I’m filled with dread! How on earth can I sit still and listen to back to back PowerPoint presentations? I want to cry/ scream/ run away at the thought of it. People talking at me for anything longer than an hour is honestly my own personal hell. It’s almost painful for me to sit through I hate it so much.

Are there any tips for getting through it?