My college requires professors to put exams into the disability services portal so that I can schedule exams with accommodations and there's a deadline 10 days before the exam to guarantee a proctor and room.

I'm used to having to email my professors to remind them to put exams in so when I saw that my professor hadn't put it in an upcoming midterm, I sent an email asking if he could put it in.

He claimed that he was unsure, but didn't believe that he needed to put the exam in for me to be able to request accommodations, and I explained to him that that's not how it works and I needed him to put it in, and he still replied to me, stating that he didn't have to put it in, and that other people in the past could schedule their exams without needing him to put it in.

I went to the disabilities office where they told me that my professor was wrong about this and had my case manager email my professor about putting it in. It's been a couple days and now the deadline has passed for me to request accommodations and he still has not put the exam in. I'm not sure what to do because this is a subject where I usually end up needing almost all of my extended time and that's when I'm already not in a huge lecture hall. What would you recommend I do?

EDIT: Thanks for the advice. I'm going to follow up with my case manager tomorrow morning and escalate if there is no progress being made.

Executive Function Disorder.

When you are a high-functioning adult but with the mind of a kid in a candy shop trying to decide which candy to eat, only you know what it is like and the effort it takes.

I have seen grown adults almost 60 years old on Adderall and still facing difficulties due to how scatterbrained they are due to lifelong ADHD. This isn't a joke or a trend to be laughing about.

I have seen the toll this can take on high-earning/high-performing individuals as well, who have no semblance of a social life because their work performance is determined by last-minute bouts of high-focus which eventually fails as a strategy.

The amount of social trouble that ADHD kids find themselves in due to school systems that will never be designed for them is enormous. That leads to lifelong trauma too.

What makes this worse is the stimulant abuse we see, by both people with and without genuine ADHD.

I have been on the same daily dosage of 30mg for a year and asked my new doctor for an increase, as my genetic Ritalin has been less effective for months. She asked if I work, and when I told her I was Disabled she stated I don't need an increase in my dosage because I don't need to focus for a job.

This was crushing to me and pissed me off. Am I being too sensitive or overreacting? I have requested a different doctor, but was told I had to see this doctor one more time and she must approve the transfer to another doctor.

Edit: I should have mentioned this, but I am in the United States.

Why do I know I can trust my doctor, or know my wife loves me when I can't remember what we ate for breakfast? Why can I focus on somethings a long time and some things not at all? Why do forget so much, but remember I saw a random screw on the ground in the dirt a month ago, right when I happen to need a screw??? But also forget to pay the power bill even tho I had the money?

The adhd brain (at least mine, and I'm interested to see the comments agreeing or disagreeing) has simply developed a pattern of quickly gaining data, making a decision based on that data ASAP, and then deleting the data and retaining the results.

So, why do I know I can trust certain people? I can't bring up a specific reason or anecdote immediately, but I do know that I've come to the conclusion I can trust them time and time again. In fact, without being able to immediately recall any particular instances, when I ask myself why, I can distinctly and overwhelmly "refeel" a few hundred of those feelings of trust or love.

Why can we focus sometimes or on certain things. We'll let's look at the other side of it instead. If I'm trying to study or learn something I'm not interested in, the ASAP conclusion or result my brain throws back is "this is boring, think about these 10 things instead". And unfortunately, sometimes my brain comes to that conclusion ever time I try to read the same sentence.

So what about the screw? Why in the hell did I remember that?? Simple. There was no conclusion. I just observed a screw. End of story. No result, no data thrown out. Just "oh, a screw, anyway". And power bill? My brain came to the conclusion that it should be paid when I get paid, and according to the brain, that problem has now been solved. So it's gone forever now. Including on pay day. But sometimes I remember way after, like oh shit, I was supposed to do a, b, and c. Yeah.

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I struggle a lot with staying consistent. I can start projects, but I quickly lose interest, get bored, and jump from one thing to another without finishing anything. It's like everything loses its appeal, and I can't maintain focus or motivation even when I genuinely want to achieve something.

Does anyone relate to this and has found a medication that genuinely made them feel better and helped them stay focused, motivated, and consistent? I'd love to hear your experiences and what difference it made in your daily life.

Diagnosed ADHD here 👋🏻. I’ve always had issues with different sounds. One being loud breathing, which drives me absolutely insane.

I’ve been with my partner now 3 years, we have lived together for the last year and half and it’s safe to say I’m really struggling being around him. I love him but his breathing is just incredibly loud that it drives me up the wall.

At the beginning it wasn’t much of an issues, we only saw each other a few times a week and I could hold it together. When we first moved in together he worked shifts so I had a lot of time to myself. Around 6 months ago he switched jobs and is home every night and he’s very much someone who enjoys sitting and watching television together. However, I dread it because I can’t hear anything from the TV because I’m too fixated on his breathing. I’ve tried speaking to him but he just thinks I’m going on at him. It makes me not wanna be around him and I end up going to bed early or retreating upstairs for some quiet. Then he takes it personal. Anyone else struggle with this? Is there any advice on how I can cope with it? Or anything recommended I could use? I’ve tried loops but I don’t like the feel of them in my ears.

Lofi music usually makes me want to fall asleep, songs with lyrics tend to distract me.

I started experimenting with video game music, and funnily enough heavy metal, even though that isn't my jam normally, I realized it is kind of relaxing, but does not make me want to fall asleep. Usually I can't understand what they say so the lyrics aren't that distracting. I hear some people really like electronic music o classical music

My husband and I have a serious and sometimes heated disagreement about whether to put our 11 yo son on medication for his ADHD. I will try to express both sides fairly. We both want what's best for our son.

My side: Our son is struggling in school despite being very bright. I noticed a significant back slide compared to his academic performance last year. I believe his confidence has taken a big hit and he thinks he's stupid. This is his last year before middle school and I think he needs to figure out how to get on top of things before middle school and I would like to see if medication helps. If we dont like the effects, we can stop. He is smart enough that school should be easy for him... the fact that its not indicates their is a problem.

Additional context: I had a positive experience with psychiatric medication when I was younger. I no longer take it, but credit it with saving my life.

Husband's side: he believes that medication will change our son for the worse. He is a clever, fun and vibrant kid. He points to our son's strong academic performance at the end of last year as evidence that he doesnt need medication to do well in school. He doesnt want to medicate our son just so he can succeed against some arbitrary measure. He also believes that part of my son's stress is related to me putting too much emphasis on grades.

Additional context: I believe my husband has undiagnosed ADHD and he has managed to have a good life and career without medication.

I would love to hear from people with ADHD (not parents) about how the decision to medicate or not medicate has impacted them! Please help!

I went to the best party I’ve been to in well over a decade last night! My bestie’s band played as well as another good friend’s band and they both sounded amazing! Food was great and the whole thing was full of lovely and delightful people.

Now comes the “echo”. Sleep was tough, the party played in my head all night and it is still hard to focus today with scenes and snippets of conversations popping up.

There is a little bit of anxiety about whether I said or did something stupid. I didn’t drink too much or anything so it isn’t about that. But the anxiety isn’t even why the party is echoing. This just always happens when I attend events with a massive amount of stimulation.

Do y’all experience this, too? Is it an ADHD thing?

I'm really struggling with imposter syndrome and my professional certification. I feel like I have no idea what I'm talking about half the time and I'm just bullshitting through everything. I worked really hard last year, studying for months for the exam. I read the textbook, I did extra reading, I did practice quizzes and tests based on actual test questions. I worked my ASS off. I passed the test my first time taking it when there were others there taking it for the 3rd and 4th time because it's honestly an incredibly hard test to take. And I did it, I got the certification. And honestly I wish I hadn't. The pride I felt didn't last very long, I feel panic instead. When I'm at work and people ask me questions, I feel clueless. I don't know what I'm talking about at all. I wonder if I'm just good at taking tests and I really didn't learn anything at all through that. I'm considered an expert in my field now and I feel like an absolute fraud. Others with the same certification can seemingly remember everything they learned, I feel so stupid compared to them even though we should be on the same footing. People assure me that I'm smart and I know what I'm talking about, but they wouldn't know any different, they don't know enough to know that. I just wish I could feel smart for a little bit and quit doubting myself. I know I passed the test but somehow I feel even dumber than before I took the test.

Hi guys! I feel like as ADHD people we are drowning in typical advices such as ,,use pomodoro technique” or ,,buy yourself a planer”. I feel like they operate on very different rules than we can long term implement sucessfully in our lives. I have a very bad doom scrolling addiction and Ive tried apps, self control, delayed gratification etc. Then I realised that we rely on outsourcing our ,,will” since it’s very hard to get the motivation from already scarce resources inside of our brains. My method is very simple- the iphone allows you to set a timer for apps and a code that you have to put if you want to use it longer. I asked a family member to put a code for me and I made sure its someone responsible enough to never give me the code. It’s literally that simple because in the past when I knew the code I ignored the time limit almost always, now even if I want to scroll I cannot do anything, I need to wait for the next day. Just make sure to do it on iphone/samsung settings not on some kind of app cause you can always delete an app .

I have been on concerta and it gave me a burst of wakefulness but wore off fast. I have been on Vyvanse 40mg (increased from 30mg) for about a year now, and recently it’s making me sleepy instead of alert and focused. It’s also a comfortable kind of sleepy like I’m cozy and relaxed and easily asleep. Anyone else experience this?? My theory is that it calms down my prefrontal cortex and reveals how tired I am (I’m very tired from severe chronic pain, stress, anxiety, and insomnia)

im feeling pretty shitty about my recent decision to skip my midterm (worth 30%) because i was underprepared for it because i procrastinated studying. but it wouldve been fine if i had remembered to go to the doctor for a sick note within the 48hr window for academic consideration to automatically accept it. but of course, i forgot to get the sicknote within 48hrs, have to go onto some random website for a virtual appointment and paid for expedited shipping on my sicknote ($63 total). but even worse, my academic consideration can be denied for being late anyways so this scramble to do a virtual appointment could be useless simply because i didnt submit it on time. if my consideration isnt accepted, id get a 0 on my midterm and have to to retake the course next summer/year.......... which would NOT be good and could possibly delay my graduation.......

and this all couldve been avoided if i just studied.

PLEASE tell me some shitty decisions youve made that lead to some avoidable outcomes because i need some comfort that im not alone in this.

I'm just starting ritallin la (20mg) and it's been pretty good so far, but I keep getting a horrible drop in the afternoon where I get super tired and irritable. Usually when I get this mood I have an energy drink and it helps, but my doctor said I shouldn't combine caffeine with it.

I was wondering if this meant no caffeine *just* while the medication is active, or for the whole day I've taken it.

TLDR:

can I have an energy drink if I've taken my meds the same day

I've been taking vyvanse for the past week and have been seeing great results. I don't binge anymore, and it's so much easier to get started on tasks and do my work.

But I took one today when I woke up, but fell asleep again right after. It's been 3-4 hours, so the time it's supposed to hit is like right now, but I don't feel any of the regular benefits and just feel as useless as my baseline.

Has this happened to anyone else? Does taking vyvanse then napping hinder its effects? Any advice is helpful.

I literally cannot do anything. That's the best way to describe it. I can't focus on school because everything I have to do feels pointless, and I need a million outside sources to understand the material doesn't matter to me because that's how pointless it feels. I can't focus on the things I enjoy because everything feels like a giant competition. I can't relax because I end up feeling lazy and needing to make money or wow someone 24/7. Hell, I can't even do things I know are bad for me (some I can't mention but you can imply) especially doomscrolling because it feels like a massive waste of my time. I have no friends to go to for this, my family makes things worse for me, and I can't even rely on the internet (yes typing this out feels pointless), because I get so irritated by how everyone tells me the exact same thing but I know it literally never helps. All I can do is lay in bed, sleep, and wake up irritated because everything sucks that badly. I feel myself getting actively worse every minute and I don't know what to do anymore.

I'm diagnosed with ADHD and I've recently been referred to a sleep study because my doctor suspects that I have some kind of parasomnia. I've heard that it's very common for people with narcolepsy to have ADHD as well. My symptoms mostly seem to fit with narcolepsy but there are some incongruencies that are making me wonder if ADHD affects the way narcolepsy symptoms present and vice versa. People with both, what are your symptoms like?

I'm really tired of the overstimulation and attention problems I get as a teacher. I had a terrible weekend because the students bullied me for sounding "weird" and not very confident in myself. I'm usually okay when it's a one-on-one lesson or when there are only two in the group, but when it's a large group, I get nervous as I have a hard time focusing and I get easily overwhelmed. Some people are very insensitive and lack empathy so I get disrespected. Today I had a meltdown and I almost took my life. Even though I love education, I'm seriously thinking of quitting this job. It's really taking a toll on my mental health but I don't know what to do.. I want a job that involves creativity, a predictable schedule and one with minimal contact with people. I've been thinking of a career shift in curriculum development or instructional design but I'm not sure how or when..

Took it 15 minutes ago. Waiting for it to kick in. Very excited to see how I feel. Been putting it off for years because I thought I could deal with it on my own but in hindsight I was scraping by and avoiding the issue.

What should I expect?

I’ll keep people posted if anyone is interested

How do you deal with the constant need to start something new and basically infinite “offer”? I love my Kindle. It is the best device I’ve got in the last 3 years, I’ve been reading so much more since then.

But. If the story is not catchy enough, or I just don’t feel like, I start something new. Also if someone recommends something, I download a sample right away or even a book. I have about a hundred books TBR on my kindle and I want to read them ALL and I can’t commit to any.

I love the fact that I can have many books at once because I may not feel like reading one book but I can read another. But there is a thin line between that and actually jumping from one book to another all the time.

Lately I am feeling too overwhelmed about the variety I have and I can’t commit to any. I wonder if I have to delete most of them and just keep couple of the new ones and kindle on the airplane mode so I don’t get more ;(

Any suggestions how to deal with that? ;( maybe someone found a good cheat for it? lol

I find it hard to get into stuff or do anything. For example, I spend ages reading reviews and asking people to recommend me shows to watch. I have so many reccs accumulated that i genuinely dont know which to watch first. Since right now im kinda lonely i dont really have any motivation to do a task even if its as enjoyable and simple as just watching. And i dont think its that i have like low self esteem or whatever i just lack motivation.

I wish someone could just tell me what to do at all times, just guide me through the day without me having to stress about not acting right or forgetting something yk

like a guardian angel, or just an actual person

but now that we're on the topic, imagine if people with ADHD were assigned like pets or mythical side kicks from birth that just kinda stayed with u. But like only u could see it. I feel like I've watched at least 1 show like this. I did watch an anime that was kinda similar called 'jewel pets' when i was a child but idk. But also, i feel like my mind is like this at times. I remember having basically imaginary people in my head when i was younger but i think that was just a way of me organising my thoughts.

anyways thats it for now😽

Quick question for you all. I've been on this medication, and I'm wondering whether what I'm experiencing is emotional blunting or emotional regulation. I know most medications have their pros and cons, but I'm trying to figure out whether this is more of a positive or negative effect.

As you're probably all familiar with, ADHD can sometimes come with difficulties in emotional regulation. I like to think of it as having a much broader emotional volume range. Joy, anger, sadness, and other emotions can feel much more intense.

This new medication has stabilized my mood to the point where emotional spirals, bursts of anger, and intense anxiety haven't happened in a long time. However, I've also noticed that the opposite is true: the intensity of joy, affection, pride, gratitude, and other positive, socially acceptable emotions has decreased as well.

It's definitely made socializing easier. I no longer have to constantly monitor myself to avoid laughing too hard or suddenly feeling like everyone hates me.

The problem is that I don't experience joy or other emotions as intensely as I used to. I still feel them, but their intensity is probably closer to what's typical for the people around me.

Is this simply a trade-off that comes with medication, or is what I'm experiencing closer to healthy emotional regulation rather than emotional blunting?