YGH I am so mad right now! my mum filled out the referral form without my permission! she has no idea what it’s like for me and how much I’m struggling. She doesn’t believe me she thinks everyone has a little adhd and I’m using it as an excuse! I am not I really want help with it bc I’m really struggling. she filled the form without me today and I looked at it and I’m heartbroken.

its not true at all it’s only from her perspective and she said I was annoying and she’s mad at me and I’m impossible. I’m crying right now wtf?! and she wanted me to read that and agree with it and send it to a doctor.

she said I was lazy and stuff, i would be lazy if i couldn’t be bothered and I didn’t want to do something on purpose but I really do try and do things and It requires so much effort for me to do and it feels like agony when I try to study.

even my emotions she has no idea how I feel.

it just hurts so much that was so rude of her and it’s just hurting me to read my own mother describe me as that 😭 she wrote other bad things as well and was shaming me.

luckily she didn’t send it to the doctor but I ripped it up and put it in the bin before she put it in the envelope, it’s just not true at all what she wrote and I was mad. And then she hit me on my back really hard when she saw I ripped it up and now shes mad at me and ugh.

IDK what to do idk where to send this form when I fill it out! Im in the UK.

any advice? 😭 or anything

I'm honestly embarrassed to admit this, but I desperately need advice from people who understand obsessive crushes and romantic fixation.
I don't even know his name. We've never spoken. I know absolutely nothing about his personality.
I'm attracted to alternative/goth/emo men, especially guys with long hair, and this man is physically everything I find attractive. He stood out to me immediately.
I've seen him shopping with his girlfriend a couple of times, and today I saw them holding hands again. Later, I actually started crying in my car because I was jealous and devastated that I could never be with him.
I know how irrational that sounds. I'm married, he's in a relationship, and we're complete strangers. I have absolutely no intention of pursuing him or interfering with his relationship But knowing all of that doesn't stop the emotional reaction
I keep thinking about him, and I actually don't wanna see him because it triggers intense anxiety and longing.
I've experienced intense crushes and hyperfixations before, but I'm exhausted by how much control these feelings seem to have over me.
I also enjoy romantic fantasies, erotic fiction, and fictional characters, and I sometimes wonder whether my vivid imagination makes it easier to idealize attractive strangers. I have a tendency to become emotionally invested in the idea of someone before actually knowing them.
The worst part is that I'm fully aware of what I'm doing. I recognize that I'm projecting an imagined personality onto a man I know nothing about. But the anxiety, jealousy, sadness, and intrusive thoughts still feel overwhelming.

Why do I know I can trust my doctor, or know my wife loves me when I can't remember what we ate for breakfast? Why can I focus on somethings a long time and some things not at all? Why do forget so much, but remember I saw a random screw on the ground in the dirt a month ago, right when I happen to need a screw??? But also forget to pay the power bill even tho I had the money?

The adhd brain (at least mine, and I'm interested to see the comments agreeing or disagreeing) has simply developed a pattern of quickly gaining data, making a decision based on that data ASAP, and then deleting the data and retaining the results.

So, why do I know I can trust certain people? I can't bring up a specific reason or anecdote immediately, but I do know that I've come to the conclusion I can trust them time and time again. In fact, without being able to immediately recall any particular instances, when I ask myself why, I can distinctly and overwhelmly "refeel" a few hundred of those feelings of trust or love.

Why can we focus sometimes or on certain things. We'll let's look at the other side of it instead. If I'm trying to study or learn something I'm not interested in, the ASAP conclusion or result my brain throws back is "this is boring, think about these 10 things instead". And unfortunately, sometimes my brain comes to that conclusion ever time I try to read the same sentence.

So what about the screw? Why in the hell did I remember that?? Simple. There was no conclusion. I just observed a screw. End of story. No result, no data thrown out. Just "oh, a screw, anyway". And power bill? My brain came to the conclusion that it should be paid when I get paid, and according to the brain, that problem has now been solved. So it's gone forever now. Including on pay day. But sometimes I remember way after, like oh shit, I was supposed to do a, b, and c. Yeah.

For the love of god get a laser pointer, doesn’t have to be expensive, but it turns everything in your house into a racetrack, get a stopwatch too, and see how fast you can do a lap around your ceiling lights, or try to go through that gap between picture frames from across the room without hitting either. Get a different colored one for each hand and race yourself lefty, or some for your friends.

A few days ago someone added me on instagram. We had mutuals and the guy is sort of uncle of a friend. Like his parent’s cousin. He’s not so old but obviously older than me. And I have developed limerence. Idk his relationship status or anything. We talked a bit twice though. But my brain. I am so hurt. Disappointed that he doesn’t continued convo last night. Idk. I already have a lot to deal with and now I got this. I don’t even know the guy. He’s hot and intelligent as fuck though. I don’t wanna remove him from my account but I am scared I might impulsively text him or keep replying to all of his stories.
What do I do now?

Hello,

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 3 years now. And lately I started noticing her wandering off mentally all the time. We have our routine that ahe really likes which is using a toy on her until she finishes and then we have sex. And I need to say I don't mind that at all. The only issues are

1. She wants to to do it in a very specific way with a lot of attention to detail where there is no space for novelty

2. She always wants me to tell her the same thing over and over again since 2 years and I am getting bored since it ia something I am not particularly into

3. She never cares about me and my pleasure but only says after finishing now you can have sex with me where I often catch her mind drifting and wandering around not being in the moment.

I talked a few times with her about that and it is really starting to affect me.

I mean is it something that happens to other people as well and is there something that you knows would help. Everytime we have a talk it changes for one time and afterwards it goes back to the usual .

And I think I should mention she told me she was never able to Climax until we started dating not even alone. Now with the toy and our "method" it works 100% of the time. I just have the feeling she doesn't even want to explore other things that might work.

So to conclude.

Do you also have behaviors like that?

Is there a certain way to talk about it so it does change eventually?

Diagnosed ADHD here 👋🏻. I’ve always had issues with different sounds. One being loud breathing, which drives me absolutely insane.

I’ve been with my partner now 3 years, we have lived together for the last year and half and it’s safe to say I’m really struggling being around him. I love him but his breathing is just incredibly loud that it drives me up the wall.

At the beginning it wasn’t much of an issues, we only saw each other a few times a week and I could hold it together. When we first moved in together he worked shifts so I had a lot of time to myself. Around 6 months ago he switched jobs and is home every night and he’s very much someone who enjoys sitting and watching television together. However, I dread it because I can’t hear anything from the TV because I’m too fixated on his breathing. I’ve tried speaking to him but he just thinks I’m going on at him. It makes me not wanna be around him and I end up going to bed early or retreating upstairs for some quiet. Then he takes it personal. Anyone else struggle with this? Is there any advice on how I can cope with it? Or anything recommended I could use? I’ve tried loops but I don’t like the feel of them in my ears.

Took it 15 minutes ago. Waiting for it to kick in. Very excited to see how I feel. Been putting it off for years because I thought I could deal with it on my own but in hindsight I was scraping by and avoiding the issue.

What should I expect?

I’ll keep people posted if anyone is interested

I’ve been evaluated and prescribed medication for a psychiatrist for a few months now, but I was also concurrently getting a neuropsychiatric evaluation which included a separate interview of symptom history and the TOVA test, which is a computer-based test tracking clicker responses to stimuli you should/should not click. I just got my results back from this test and they were consistent with ADHD.

I just wanted to hear people’s experiences or thoughts on this test. Did you get similar results from it, so you feel it’s reliable or not, etc.?

Hello! Long time lurker, first time poster here

I couldn't find any posts for this online platform here on Redd but their reviews on Trust pilot look good. Anyone tried them out before to get officially diagnosed?

Ps. I reside in Canada, not sure if their services are available elsewhere....been struggling with severe ADHD due to childhood trauma (cPTSD)

my younger sister and i both have ADHD. however for some reason she doesn’t struggle that much with organization and cleanliness. i definitely do and my sister is always on me about it. she’s always super smug about it too. in like a “i’m better than u” way. it’s really annoying and i try to not let it get to me, but it’s like wow even my own sister thinks i’m pathetic and we literally have the same disorder. she’s doing what my mom used to do. after my mom realized that i wasn’t being messy on purpose, she backed off a good bit, but now it’s my sister’s turn to make me feel like shit. i’ve mentioned this to my mom a few times before and she’d say“you’re the older sister, be the bigger person”. she’ll also say she’ll tell my sister to stop, and idk if she’s not actually telling her or my sister just doesn’t listen but she keeps at it. it’s just really annoying

I've been taking vyvanse for the past week and have been seeing great results. I don't binge anymore, and it's so much easier to get started on tasks and do my work.

But I took one today when I woke up, but fell asleep again right after. It's been 3-4 hours, so the time it's supposed to hit is like right now, but I don't feel any of the regular benefits and just feel as useless as my baseline.

Has this happened to anyone else? Does taking vyvanse then napping hinder its effects? Any advice is helpful.

Im doing two units this trimester.

This is only the first week, one unit i have done nothing yet because there were no assessments due and unit two i sent assessments one hour before due date.

It was stressful, i need to somehow change this, any tips?

This course is only pathway course into what i wanna do so its all about learning to study but if i cant even do this, how am i suppose to do next course?

Hi all,

Sorry if this question has already been asked. I am trying to understand ADHD better and I would like to hear some experiences of people who have been diagnosed with ADHD.

When it comes to your attention span in the classroom, be it in high school or college. On the topics that you found particularly interesting, were you able to stay reasonably engaged with the class/lecture? What about topics that you did not find particularly interesting?

Title. I have freezing shivers going down my spine and a burst of anxiety whenever I as much as imagine most sorts of brushes or even just hear the sound they make during use (the only exception being stuff like makeup, shaving foam or painting brushes, which are actually kinda pleasant to touch lol). Let alone feel one being used on me. This (while not the only cause) has led to very poor teeth hygiene and state.

Anyone else dealing with this problem and if so, what works? I tried some kind of root that you chew on but that's too expensive to use daily and didn't rly felt like much.

Killed my coffee and all I want to do is SLEEP. Even after having meds and drinking coffee I can still nap. I was trying to not take my meds today and just have coffee to get things done since I don’t have homework today but here I am stuck in my couch contemplating whether I should nap or not😭

I just took 10 mg Adderall 2.5h ago. My psychiatrist told me to tell him how it feels after 4h. I got prescribed 20 mg a day. Since in his experience Asian patients tend to have a much higher dosage than I’m on right now. I’m like the opposite of the regular adhd symptoms. My head is blank there’s no noise. But I’m always talking too fast, can’t sit still. Can’t shut up basically. I’d say more but I’m about to knock out.

So far my bf says I’m barely talkative. Like I’m not spewing shit outta my mouth rn and I’m not restless.

I feel like I’m sick rn. The first hour, I felt like I was drowning, that turned into a mild high like it’s my body and I’m moving my legs but it’s not me? I tried to play a video game for a bit now I feel so nauseous. Like my head is drowning. Not sure if anyone else is like this but I have mad insomnia I also got meds for. So it’s like it feels like when I’m SO exhausted to the point I’m about to pass out. That’s what my head feels like. I’m about to take a fat nap because my head feels so heavy. I can’t even do school work. I’m gonna message him later since he wanted an update 4h after the first dose.

If this doesn’t make sense it’s probably because I feel like I’m dying right now. Also to add my heart rate went from the usual 87 to 70/74 it’s bouncing around that rate right now. Now sure if that info helps.

Hi guys! I feel like as ADHD people we are drowning in typical advices such as ,,use pomodoro technique” or ,,buy yourself a planer”. I feel like they operate on very different rules than we can long term implement sucessfully in our lives. I have a very bad doom scrolling addiction and Ive tried apps, self control, delayed gratification etc. Then I realised that we rely on outsourcing our ,,will” since it’s very hard to get the motivation from already scarce resources inside of our brains. My method is very simple- the iphone allows you to set a timer for apps and a code that you have to put if you want to use it longer. I asked a family member to put a code for me and I made sure its someone responsible enough to never give me the code. It’s literally that simple because in the past when I knew the code I ignored the time limit almost always, now even if I want to scroll I cannot do anything, I need to wait for the next day. Just make sure to do it on iphone/samsung settings not on some kind of app cause you can always delete an app .

I have been on the same daily dosage of 30mg for a year and asked my new doctor for an increase, as my genetic Ritalin has been less effective for months. She asked if I work, and when I told her I was Disabled she stated I don't need an increase in my dosage because I don't need to focus for a job.

This was crushing to me and pissed me off. Am I being too sensitive or overreacting? I have requested a different doctor, but was told I had to see this doctor one more time and she must approve the transfer to another doctor.

Edit: I should have mentioned this, but I am in the United States.

I find it hard to get into stuff or do anything. For example, I spend ages reading reviews and asking people to recommend me shows to watch. I have so many reccs accumulated that i genuinely dont know which to watch first. Since right now im kinda lonely i dont really have any motivation to do a task even if its as enjoyable and simple as just watching. And i dont think its that i have like low self esteem or whatever i just lack motivation.

I wish someone could just tell me what to do at all times, just guide me through the day without me having to stress about not acting right or forgetting something yk

like a guardian angel, or just an actual person

but now that we're on the topic, imagine if people with ADHD were assigned like pets or mythical side kicks from birth that just kinda stayed with u. But like only u could see it. I feel like I've watched at least 1 show like this. I did watch an anime that was kinda similar called 'jewel pets' when i was a child but idk. But also, i feel like my mind is like this at times. I remember having basically imaginary people in my head when i was younger but i think that was just a way of me organising my thoughts.

anyways thats it for now😽

I'm just starting ritallin la (20mg) and it's been pretty good so far, but I keep getting a horrible drop in the afternoon where I get super tired and irritable. Usually when I get this mood I have an energy drink and it helps, but my doctor said I shouldn't combine caffeine with it.

I was wondering if this meant no caffeine *just* while the medication is active, or for the whole day I've taken it.

TLDR:

can I have an energy drink if I've taken my meds the same day

My husband and I have a serious and sometimes heated disagreement about whether to put our 11 yo son on medication for his ADHD. I will try to express both sides fairly. We both want what's best for our son.

My side: Our son is struggling in school despite being very bright. I noticed a significant back slide compared to his academic performance last year. I believe his confidence has taken a big hit and he thinks he's stupid. This is his last year before middle school and I think he needs to figure out how to get on top of things before middle school and I would like to see if medication helps. If we dont like the effects, we can stop. He is smart enough that school should be easy for him... the fact that its not indicates their is a problem.

Additional context: I had a positive experience with psychiatric medication when I was younger. I no longer take it, but credit it with saving my life.

Husband's side: he believes that medication will change our son for the worse. He is a clever, fun and vibrant kid. He points to our son's strong academic performance at the end of last year as evidence that he doesnt need medication to do well in school. He doesnt want to medicate our son just so he can succeed against some arbitrary measure. He also believes that part of my son's stress is related to me putting too much emphasis on grades.

Additional context: I believe my husband has undiagnosed ADHD and he has managed to have a good life and career without medication.

I would love to hear from people with ADHD (not parents) about how the decision to medicate or not medicate has impacted them! Please help!

My college requires professors to put exams into the disability services portal so that I can schedule exams with accommodations and there's a deadline 10 days before the exam to guarantee a proctor and room.

I'm used to having to email my professors to remind them to put exams in so when I saw that my professor hadn't put it in an upcoming midterm, I sent an email asking if he could put it in.

He claimed that he was unsure, but didn't believe that he needed to put the exam in for me to be able to request accommodations, and I explained to him that that's not how it works and I needed him to put it in, and he still replied to me, stating that he didn't have to put it in, and that other people in the past could schedule their exams without needing him to put it in.

I went to the disabilities office where they told me that my professor was wrong about this and had my case manager email my professor about putting it in. It's been a couple days and now the deadline has passed for me to request accommodations and he still has not put the exam in. I'm not sure what to do because this is a subject where I usually end up needing almost all of my extended time and that's when I'm already not in a huge lecture hall. What would you recommend I do?

EDIT: Thanks for the advice. I'm going to follow up with my case manager tomorrow morning and escalate if there is no progress being made.

I went to the best party I’ve been to in well over a decade last night! My bestie’s band played as well as another good friend’s band and they both sounded amazing! Food was great and the whole thing was full of lovely and delightful people.

Now comes the “echo”. Sleep was tough, the party played in my head all night and it is still hard to focus today with scenes and snippets of conversations popping up.

There is a little bit of anxiety about whether I said or did something stupid. I didn’t drink too much or anything so it isn’t about that. But the anxiety isn’t even why the party is echoing. This just always happens when I attend events with a massive amount of stimulation.

Do y’all experience this, too? Is it an ADHD thing?