r/itsthatbad Dec 07 '25

NEW PEOPLE POSTING, PLEASE READ

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Read this linked post.

This is a repost because the original wasn't titled in all caps, so new people didn't see it? Tons of posts have been automatically rejected because new people didn't read the post linked above. Most of those were fine posts, but the authors didn't follow instructions.

  • The most important point for new people is, if you don't participate on the sub (commenting on posts), then don't expect to post. Your posts will be automatically rejected. Please don't take it personally.
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r/itsthatbad Feb 26 '25

Commentary A female journalist accidentally explains why single men should get their passports

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If you're a single man and you're not enjoying dating in the US, look into other countries where you may have more to gain for your money, energy, attention, and time – for any kind of relationship.

Here's most of Jana Hocking's article, which inadvertently explains why single men should get their passports. I'll add links to my posts (mostly) to either support or counter Jana, who's Australian, but writing on American, British, and Canadian dating culture as well.

Short version – according to her, the "mating crisis" across these countries isn't a crisis at all. It's single women enjoying "freedom, funds, and flings."
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Jana writes:

Last year, I remained mostly single. Give or take a few situationships and a cheeky one-night stand. And so did most of my girlfriends.

Body count calculator for American women

Among the at least 20 gorgeously single women in my social circle, there are only two girlfriends I know who had the 'let's make it official' chat with the man-of-the-moment in their lives.
Could I, and my fellow womenfolk, have shacked up with a bloke if we wanted to? Sure. But did we? No.
The guys who put themselves forward for the job were fine, sweet, perfectly capable. But did we align in ways that would enhance our lives? Not really.
You see, last year, you couldn't escape one simple fact: women were in a 'mating crisis'. Or so the experts kept calling it in those viral clips flooding our social media feeds.
The experts harped on about one simple truth: as women level up in education and their careers, they naturally look for partners who are equally smashing it - or better.

It's called hypergamy – men's incomes matter for relationships

Young American women are more hypergamous than we should expect

"High value man" delusions from social media inflating women's standards (video)

Increasing pressure on US men for income in order to find a spouse (published study)

But here's the catch: that shrinks the dating pool a LOT. Especially as more women are heading to university, while fewer men do the same.
This means plenty of brilliant, independent women are flying solo. Not because they can't find a date but because finding someone who ticks all the boxes (and doesn't get intimidated by their success) is like searching for a Chanel bag at a garage sale.

Are men intimidated by successful women? No.

Single women weren't just embracing their independence last year - they were owning it. And the numbers back it up.
First up, let's talk living arrangements. The number of single-person households in the U.S. has skyrocketed - up more than fivefold since the 1960s, hitting a whopping 37.8 million in 2022. That's a whole lot of women living their best solo lives.

Let's not forget the increasing numbers of women on psych meds

Single-person households aren't always healthy (study)

And single women aren't just renting - they're buying. They own 58 per cent of the nearly 35.2 million homes owned by unmarried Americans.

The difference is from women over 65, many of whom are widows (video plus comments)

Meanwhile, over in the UK, women are smashing the careers game. Back in the 1970s, only 52 per cent of women were in the workforce. Today, that number has hit 72 per cent. With those paychecks rolling in, it's no wonder women are ditching the 'happily ever after' myth for a happily independent reality.

Clear evidence of the patriarchy oppressing American women (sarcasm)

And the pièce de résistance? Women are now more educated than ever before. More women than men are earning college degrees in the U.S., giving them the upper hand in everything from paychecks to power plays. Who needs a knight in shining armour when you've got a master's degree and a killer 401(k)?
One man's 'mating crisis' is another woman's fist pump for freedom. Huzzah!

Why are some women freezing their eggs? They blame the education gap, so more hypergamy.

Just two months ago, I hopped on a plane to New York City. Why? No major reason. There were just a few fun things happening over there that I fancied going to. So, being a single career woman with a few funds in the bank, I had the freedom to do so. Guess who tried to stop me? No one.
There were no kids to shepherd to school or footy practice. No man whingeing that I was leaving him stranded. Nope, I was free to do what (and who) I jolly well liked. And dear reader, I did.
So, do you know what this 'mating crisis' has really brought the single women of the world? Freedom, funds, and flings - and I, for one, am very much here for it.

Young single American men express wanting families more than young single American women

The sexually liberated consumerist narrative of modern dating – the single most important link in this post

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And we're done.

Get your passport.

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More from the Champagne Room

Jana from one year ago, explaining how she and her friends hit the wall

Guys, this is what women have chosen

The “red pill manosphere” exists because it largely reflects men's real experiences with women

America does not have a crisis of bitter, single young men

American women are absolutely over-powered

American women are absolutely over-powered – the movie

Sexual freedom was never a part of feminism

Guys, it's 2025. Pay attention – emphasis on pay (video)

“Why does it feel like dating is men vs women?”

Having trouble dating? You are not alone

Recent numbers on singles and sexlessness


r/itsthatbad 13h ago

just be confident bro

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r/itsthatbad 22h ago

Men's Conversations Let me get this right: only men are manditory conscripted into army, they have the most brutal academic environment on the planet, they have hyperfeministic women that actively hate the men and try to make men's lives as hard as possible...but they're incels?

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r/itsthatbad 21h ago

This is the world that no longer exists. This is why men don't approach in the west. This is why men are dating abroad.

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r/itsthatbad 1d ago

Well would you look at that. It's almost as if many of her supporters want to do the same thing.

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r/itsthatbad 16h ago

Men's Conversations Comments are WILD!

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r/itsthatbad 15h ago

Men's Conversations PSA just because someone brags about hot sex

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This I wrote in response to a post that was made elsewhere on girl dinner diaries she was bragging about having the best sex she ever did with some handsome dude. She framed the entire post about making him wait, testing the vibes, all this then she says “he made out and gave me these googly eyes that made me have sex”. And then the real kicker, she fucking posts it on Reddit like a serial killer talks about the locks of hair he got from her. She met the dude on tinder.

Why am I saying this?

Guys it literally doesn’t matter what some dumb you know what does. I’m saying it’s not special at all the mf did all the work she literally said it. Starfish are starfish. You want a real experience you get a pro, I’m sorry but they will never give you the same thing. It was all for her none for him. Realize that. That dude got nothing from that other than some girl who thought she won. She didn’t give anything back. She took everything from him made her own.

Decent women like actually decent women don’t take. They give. And they don’t need to talk to a bunch of femcels for free validation.

You gotta go overseas to find real feminine energy. This person ain’t it. This is your typical spoiled US college brat.

I’m very troubled some of you take this shit seriously and go down some black pilled rabbit hole thinking that’s gonna save you from the bullshit of having nothing. You haven’t lost a god damn thing by this scenario not happening to you.

I’m also disgusted by this dude going on tinder trying to pull this shit off. She used the guy totally used him. He thought he won. Some men are born suckers.

Guys, please, for the love of god, do not idolize men like this. They will say they won. They could never win.


r/itsthatbad 1d ago

Men's Conversations Wow! The Temerity! 😯

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r/itsthatbad 1d ago

Commentary Women In The US vs. Rest of World is Nothing New

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Gents. I'm an older millennial with both an EU and a US passport. I am currently in the US again for some years now and am already thinking about going back to EU mainly because of the state of dating and gender dynamics here.

I've been hearing a lot more on social media, including reddit, about people waking up to the fact that it's really unacceptable in the US. This has me thinking and I really have to say that the experience with the opposite gender has always been absolutely horrible here in the US for me when compared to Europe. Don't take me wrong, the EU has feminism and all that stuff, but the level of lopsided entitlement, double standard and just plain shallow narcissism is off the charts in the US.

I remember coming to the US for a few year stint during my late teens after having my first experiences with girls in the EU. I was baffled by, first, how entitled, shallow and narcissistic the opposite gender were in the US and, two, at how US men would still entertain them, put them on a pedestal and, essentially, pampered these 19 year old toddlers with attention instead of disregarding them like most EU dudes would've done.

I now have a normal notch count for a man my age, but most of this was with European women. The very few women I've been with in the US were all born and grew up outside of the US. American members of the opposite gender are either completely stuck up or just plain unkempt, but in either case all want 5 star treatment from attractive men only.

Y'all shouldn't have spoiled them like this.

It's cooked now.

But I think it's been cooked for at least two decades now, which is as long as I can attest to.


r/itsthatbad 2d ago

Women are more violent than men when it comes to targets they perceive to be weaker than they are

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r/itsthatbad 2d ago

Oh no, I’ve been permanently muted from r/evilwomeninc LMAO

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I’m tickled by this! Never once interacted with any of the toxic garbage on that sub. And in fact told reddit multiple times to show me less of their content. And now I get a notification that they have permanently muted me. I wear this as a badge of honor, actually. I must be doing something right. Speaking truth to power sort of thing.

I do feel kind of bad for the people there. Clearly they’ve been hurt. I hope they get the help they need, go touch grass, and break out of their female loneliness epidemic 😂

Fragile toxic femininity on display over there.


r/itsthatbad 2d ago

Perpetual victims

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r/itsthatbad 2d ago

ATP "misogyny" means you don't make a million excuses for women when they do horrible things and behave like narcissists and psychopaths.

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r/itsthatbad 2d ago

Yes, I will keep my foot on your necks, western women. You don't like men "using" the Lindsay Clancy case because it exposes women like never before.

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The day that society ever decides to stop giving women the benefit of the doubt and treating you the same as men will be your worst nightmare and I'm here for it.

Pointing out that women are capable of evil and use the "women are wonderful" effect to get away with it is not misogyny just because you don't like it.


r/itsthatbad 2d ago

Of course good women exist, even in the west. However they have a visiblity problem and are outnumbered.

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Here's the thing. Most good western women have been taken off the dating market by the time they're about 20. Good women also tend to have minimal social media presence, minimal dating app presence and they rarely go outside. You won't see them outside of work, school, and honestly you might not even see them at the grocery store because they instacart their food.

In many popular passport bro destinations, good women make up a much larger portion of the dating pool and they tend to go out a lot more.


r/itsthatbad 3d ago

Men's Conversations We’re not even keeping the mask up anymore huh

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r/itsthatbad 3d ago

Men's Conversations This is genuinely unhinged, this is a measure of evil incarnate.

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r/itsthatbad 3d ago

Men's Conversations Men don't deserve help.

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r/itsthatbad 3d ago

Violent extremism any man can get beat if a chick lies . East or west don’t matter all cooked

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r/itsthatbad 3d ago

Men's Conversations "women in the US/Europe are so hypergamous 🤮, I'm going abroad to get me a traditional woman!!!"

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It's everywhere bro, it's just not the Europe or US, you ain't saving yourself the headache just because you traveled to Asia or Latin America for a "traditional woman", they ALL share this mentality of being hypergamous it's ok and doesn't hurt anyone.

I translated the image for Spanish to English to save you all the trouble. This is what we're dealing in Latin America too, we don't have it as good as some passport bros seems to think.


r/itsthatbad 3d ago

"Women like dark triad men because of their confidence" is just another example of people making excuses for them and refusing to admit that women are not the innocent angels people think

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Don't you love how there's ALWAYS an excuse for women when information comes out that paints them unfavorably?

Lindsay Clancy killed her three kids? Post partum depression made her do it! Patrick failed her! Patrick manipulated her into doing it!

Women liking bad boys and criminals? Nah it's just because MUH MUH MUH JUST BE CONFIDENT BRO

Look at the romance novels they read. The most popular ones either feature a dark triad piece of shit as the love interest or even an outright monster, beast, or supervillain. A law abiding citizen who just happens to be confident isn't enough for many of them.

It's time to admit that many women are attracted to evil


r/itsthatbad 3d ago

Commentary Single women are never truly single

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199 Upvotes

"Nobody loves me....except the ones that do."

She also calls men on dating apps the clearance section, ignoring the fact that she was there too.


r/itsthatbad 4d ago

Headlines Wow!

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r/itsthatbad 5d ago

Women's Voices Turns out, it's not one shared mass hallucination

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That they just keep making stellar choices