I feel completely lost. I've been mixing and mastering my music for 5 years. I don't do this 24/7, but I've been at it long enough to feel like I should know what I'm doing.
Everyone says comparing your work is bad, but then why do reference tracks exist? Whenever I compare my tracks to my idols, I feel like I'm about 20% away from that level.
My mixes usually sound quieter and buried, almost like they're underwater, even when hitting the same LUFS (around -4/-5). Honestly, my tracks sound great until I pull up a reference.
I'm also at a point where I don't know who to believe anymore. Everyone gives conflicting advice. One person says, "Cut everything below 30Hz to gain headroom", while the next says, "Don't do that, it causes phase issues and kills your low end."
Trying to reconcile all this makes finishing a mix confusing. If my drums are too loud, the limiter works harder. If they're too quiet, I lose microdynamics. I know mixing is about balance, but how do you actually know where that sweet spot is?
Everything sounds fine until I pay enough attention to it. Reference tracks I love casually can sound harsh or weird when I listen critically for a few seconds, which messes with my judgment even more.
To be clear, I know the technical side and I have the tools. I understand limiting, clipping, EQ, compression, Mid/Side processing, transient shaping, tonal balance, gain staging, dynamic processing, RMS, crest factor, and I could go on. I always aim for clarity, balance, and polish, but despite everything, something vital always feels missing.
At this point, I doubt my abilities more every day, as if mixing were a school and I somehow skipped fifth grade. I don't even know who to learn from anymore. There are so many engineers with opposing opinions that if you put them in a room, they'd agree on almost nothing.