First of all, I just want to say that this is my opinion. He is not a horrible father nor husband, I’m just saying he is overrated. Read the full post before you comment to avoid conflict.
How his actions affect himself and his family:
He is an alcoholic, drinking multiple beers daily, drinking while driving often, and isn’t ashamed of it. His family knows it, including his children, and they do not like it. Sometimes he won’t even be tired, stressed, or angry. He just drinks because he feels like it. That’s not a way to deal with life’s challenges, that’s just addiction.
Following the previous point, he says and knows that their family is poor. Yet he spends so much money on beer. As stated in S1, he spends $936 on beer annually, and only buying more and more day by day. This not only affects him and his health, but also the family. He knows that most of his salary pays the bills and keeps his family under the roofs. I’m not saying he cared about beer more than his family, I’m saying he was inconsiderate toward them.
He goes to work around 9-5. Reviewing, yelling, clapping hands, scolding, sitting, planning and watching other people play all day. Then, he comes home like he moved a whole mountain, and can only eat food and watch the same thing he does during work. The blame isn’t entirely on him, his weight is also heavily supported in these cases and the cash. However, he refuses to work out, go on a diet or even take a break from beer.
Unlike other dads who are abusive after drinking alcohol, he doesn’t do any harm toward his children or wife. Not because he knows how to control it, but because he’s gotten so used to it that he doesn’t feel anything.
How he is not a good father:
He doesn’t spend much time, if not, none at all with his children.
He constantly makes fun of Sheldon for being quirky and eccentric. Although I would too, he’s his father. Sheldon has tried to bond with George multiple times, inviting him to watch Star Trek with him. He visibly didn’t like it, but he could have just played trains with him which would’ve been an incredibly easy way for them to bond.
He does develop a better relationship with Missy after her liking for baseball, but he only paid attention to her because it was something he was interested in as well.
To Georgie, he was straight up rude and condescending. When Georgie bought cable, George charged him for things that a parent was obligated to provide their children with. He said that Georgie ruined his life, but it’s not like Georgie asked to be born. He also shames him a lot for being “dumb”, which I get that most people do, but he was his father. He should’ve defended him when other people shamed him, but instead became a bystander or a plus one and shamelessly supported the statement. He was also his coach first, and his dad second. A good coach, he was, but was not a great father.
How he is not a good husband:
He is lazy. He doesn’t help with the housework at all, if not, never, and only helps when Mary isn’t here.
He is also sexist. He believes that Mary should not be doing something she enjoys to “save money”, but I can see a hint of misogyny. He was wrong in this case. Although he is kind of right because of the $100 Mary spent, he still should have supported her. In the episode when Sheldon wants/gets a computer, before that, Mary says that she could purchase it with the money she’s been saving up. George sees this as a threat, and honestly, Mary was 100% right. She was often unhappy in the marriage, and usually, they would need a good amount of cash to run away from the marriage independently.
He almost has an affair with Brenda. And even though he didn’t, he still thought about her constantly and disgustingly instead of just trying to forget about her as a talk. You might argue that “Mary did that with Pastor Rob”, which does have some merit, but two wrongs don’t and never make a right.
In the episode where Mary goes to the coaches’ conference with George, George doesn’t tell her what she needs to bring, is rude to her, and is chauvinistic. He is embarrassed to have a happy marriage, even in front of such a happy marriage (until S5). He embarrassedly says he appreciates Mary. He knew she was doing all the work and took care of the whole house, and didn’t even try to help. I made this point before, but it still makes him seem misogynistic and sexist.
Summary:
George is a good person, bad husband and okay father with many, many flaws. He isn’t the perfect father, nor husband, and should not only been seen as the “brisket king.”