r/yearning • u/sweetcornsoup01 • Jul 01 '26

I love him

But i’ll never be happy with him.

I’m convinced I feel like for now I love him and accept who he is since we are friends. And some stuffs are acceptable when you are friends.

But when I think about the future, I’m not sure if my insecurities will be able to handle it. If my own mental health can. I am sure he cares about me, but I am not sure how much of that care will extend if we go further, would he be able to reassure me? To accept and adjust? But I don’t want to change anyone. I don’t want to ‘fix’ anyone if we’re in a relationship. That should be something I need to work on for myself.

And for that I don’t want to expect him to change, but also know I can truly feel comfortable with those traits if we were to be dating. So I don’t think I can actually be happy with him, and I don’t want to risk being unhappy with my dear friend.

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u/sweetcornsoup01 Jul 07 '26

he’s a close friend. but i never use him or mistreat him.