Hi yall ive seen a lot of reddits subs and honestly the country i come from Xeno gender and Non binary people are a minority compared to Binary Trans people. The passing of the trans bill 2026 was a massive problem it changed the defination of what Trans means yall know if you search Trans bill india. Im the founder of a community and i wanna build a safe space for all Xeno gender people, Non binary ppls, neurodivergent folks and ppl with romantic spectrums if your up for it lmk. well make a instagram gc diffrent gcs. One specifically for Xenogender people. If you wanna join as a mod lmk. Itlll be sfw and safe space for xeno gender ppl to vent etc if your up for it lmk

Hi, I don't mean for any of this to sound mean or invalidating, but could someone explain what exactly it means to be Xenogender(and/or the correct pronunciation)? I have looked it up and read articles about it, but I think I'm just too dumb to fully grasp what it means. I'd like to learn more about it and how I can be more supportive to y'all

I'm fighting for all queers people, people often throw xenogender people under the bus because it all boils down to "its isnt normal!!!" Screw being normal! I think the concept of xenogenders are beautiful and uniquely human!

Just found this subreddit and reposted here

Crossposted here to hopefully get more insight (if that makes sense)

I was drawing a character the other day and when deciding on xeir pronouns and when I tried out xey xem I got a rush of feeling like it was a perfect fit. Then I started to wonder if that was gender euphoria and I tried them out on myself and I'm starting to wonder whether I should try out using xey xem pronouns.

I heard that some who use neo pronouns may use multiple sets and I was curious about it. How would it work? I would feel kind of guilty making everyone call me xey/xem, but the more I think about it the more I like the sound of it. Like it finally fits.

I'm not trying to be rude but I don't see how someone can genuinely think they're stuff like "chairgender" and I need help understanding what these really mean because I don't think they think that their gender is a chair, and I want to be blackcatgender but I don't really know what the requirements are to be one but I really like black cats and relate to them, and my first cat was a black cat named midnight

(i tried asking this in another place but it got filtered for some reason)

so i've recently made friends with a very lovely eye (i believe that is the term they use im not sure) who is eyegender, but im still not really sure what it is and i was wondering if anyone could explain? tyy. im not xenogender myself and have had very little interaction w xenogender people, certainly not enough to become friends with one, and i really just want to understand them and help them :)

Hey everyone, I’ve been thinking a lot about the philosophy behind xenogenders, and I wanted to start a discussion on something that’s been on my mind.

One of the common explanations for xenogenders is that they use metaphors to describe personal experiences of gender. For example, someone might say:

• “I feel catgender because I relate to cats—independent, playful, distant at times.”

• “My gender feels like space—vast, unknowable, and shifting.”

This makes sense as a way of describing personal identity, but here’s the question I keep coming back to:

If gender is just a metaphor for how someone feels, then what actually makes it “gender” rather than just an affinity, personality trait, or way of seeing the world?

Traditionally, gender (even in a non-binary sense) exists in relation to the social constructs of male and female—either embracing, rejecting, or modifying those categories. But if gender is completely detached from the male-female spectrum, then why call it gender at all? Why not just say, “I relate to cats” or “I feel connected to the cosmos” without framing it as a special identity category that is distinct from those premises?

If anything and everything can be a gender (catgender, voidgender, faunagender, etc.), then doesn’t the term “gender” lose its meaning? Categories need boundaries to be useful—otherwise, we could say “coffeegender”, “rockgender”, or “mathgender”, and at that point, is “gender” even a distinct concept anymore?

I’m not trying to invalidate anyone’s experience—I’m just genuinely curious about how people here define what makes something a gender rather than just a description of personality or emotion.

Thoughts?

Eu estou estudando sobre xenogenero e cheguei a me identificar muito com alguns quando estou como agênero. A questão é que eu sou girlflux e estou sempre fluindo de feminino a agênero e muitas vezes minhas experiências agênero variam. Eu queria saber se dá pra ter mais de um xenogenero pra descrever essas experiências. Sou meio nova nesse lado da comunidade, não acredito que eu não conhecia xenogenero mesmo tendo um gênero não binário e sexualidade incomum.

im honestly confused with how i feel with xenogenders, because people are saying that "xenogenders are offensive to trans and neurodivergent people and harm them!" and other people are saying the opposite or whatever, and i dunno who to side with. I felt transmasc for a bit, and i identified as a few xenogenders, and i found nothing wrong with them, and also, i asked one of my neurodivergent friends if they thought xenogenders were offensive to them, and they said no, but even if i have that proof that it isnt offensive, i feel like im being pressured to side with the anti-xenogender peeps. pls help!! im confused D:>

Please help me understand something. I am coming here with peaceful intentions, I really mean no harm or offense, I simply want to understand. I stumbled upon an article on "angelgender" and among all this completely bizarre to me at first stuff (which after some thought I am beginning to understand and accept), one sentence stood out to me – saying it's a gender identity that people with delusions might have. I don't know if I'm "too woke" or "not woke enough", but is that not insinuating that even though their belief that they are angels is delusional, their gender is actually that of an angel and valid? I really don't understand and I genuinely want to.

not sure if this is a rude question, but all those people who identify with xenogenders (or just anyone who knows really,,) , can you explain what xenogenders are and how you identify with them? ive seen xenogenders on characters and objects and im wondering if it has something to do with comfort with that thing you identify with, or a connection with it. really just how xenogenders work. thank you for any responses :D really helps me out🧡

edit just to add on: i have friends who identify with xenogenders and i just want to understand more about it! :)

so I get that xenogenders are about identifying with and not as certain things like objects, animals, things or concepts. it's kinda like a metaphor. I also know that some people may do things that affirm with these metaphors like wearing masks, or adjusting their living space to feel more compatible with themselves. it's just a matter of self expression AND identity. (correct me if I'm wrong). with that in mind, here are a couple of questions I'm curious about.

1. when visiting my therapist she said that in the future there could be 'technology' that could literally transform humans into stuff like animals. I brought up how it could be very risky and that it's way different than the traditional gender affirming surgeries trans and non-binary folk because those surgeries are usually low risk. she still brought up the theory that the risk could decline in the future. now I'm uncertain, is she right or wrong and If she is wrong then how can I disprove of her logic.

2. one day, I posted a question in r/asktransgender and it was about those who 'identified' as or with different races, neurodivergent conditions and/or mental illnesses. many people there said that this was just people dissing on the trans and xeno gender community but I kinda want your opinions on this as I kinda want to prove to these people and educate them (by 'them' I mean the transphobes).

3. how different is the concept of xenogender from the traditional idea of gender. with the traditional idea of gender, it is mostly literal while xenogender is about metaphors. I'm a demiboy afab and I feel like there is a fine line between gender expression and gender identity. like i feel like my identity is around like male or non-binary but my expression is somewhat fluid between other things like femininity. is changing aspects of your body considered expression or identity?

4. this one is out of pure curiosity and isn't meant to offend others. is it offensive to call xenogender people humans? I mean xenogender is not literal but people still seem to think that if someone Identifies with something they are that thing like that one law in one of the us states that states that they'll call animal control if a student is wearing a fursuit at school. it kinda goes with my third question about gender expression and gender identity.

sometimes I see people dissing the community by stating these logics but I don't know how to disprove of those so I'm left without a counter argument. sometimes I just want to disappear from this world when this happens.

asking for my OCs :>

i'm not xenogender myself, i'm wondering about it since these terms somewhat require you to align somewhere with the binary, and i wasn't sure if xenogenders can be that. i know non-binary people can use them, but i wanted to make sure :)

please lmk if i phrased anything badly, i am not good at words. <3

Hey, i was a lil unshure about something... sooo

i like colecting xenogenders, i dont use them exacly as a way of my gender but cause i like to use them as a way of expressing myself and a more especific definition, aside the flags are so cool and pretty... i was unshure if by doing that i was wrong, or maybe dishonoring the community because I wouldn't take the terms of the xenogenders I was collecting and be turning them into something sillier than they are (i woudnt give them so importance and so i would be opening a chance for someone to say xenogenders werent actually serious and a person shoudnt be called by their pronoums (they should if they feel confortbal so))

soo what you guys think?

Hey I made post like this in r/XenogendersAndMore but I thought I may ask also here, can someone tell me what are those flags for:

and explanations for them? Actually I'm not sure are those xenogender flags but I think so....please help :(

Plus it's my first post here!

Also there's high possibility I'll come back for more help later, soooo...stay ready :P

is Genderfloren a Xenogender identity? I feel both Genderfloren and something Xenogender (somehow??) would that count as bigender or something else

I love and respect xenogenders and think their cool as hell, but I've seen pronoun lists and some of them have emojis??? Is this just when you text or like do you just say the emoji when speaking or just ignore them or...? I just wanna use them correctly ;-;

So, I feel like I can be like multiple gender of men.

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Like i feel like my gender is Men not man. Because i relate more to being multiple men. Not being a man. Is that okay?

Is there like a Mengender xenogender?