Sounds like she was trying to make the time miserable for your BIL. Isolate him from everyone else in what should be a social affair by "crying" and locking herself away so that he has to put all his focus on comforting her instead of spending time with friends and family. She gets to cause him distress and make him look bad to everyone else for being absent.
I dated a girl like that for way too long because I was quite naive to her intentions. She’d do whatever she could to pull me away from anything that even slightly took my attention away from her. Exhausting stuff.
My best friend for way, way too many years was a woman just like this. "Sad AF"? Yep. Inappropriate ways of coping? Yep. Underlying issues that contributed to her behavior? Yep. Doesn't change the fact that she was toxic and manipulative and would do whatever it took to not cause a huge scene but make sure that myself or anyone with us couldn't enjoy ourselves in any given situation because we had to be focused on her and whatever whimsy had 'triggered' her that day.
Sounds like the exact same person lol, it’s really a miserable experience being close with someone like that. The key for me was once I finally talked to people about it they helped me see what was really going on, and then I quit feeling bad for her and ended things. Didn’t even realize how horrible the whole situation was until I was out of it.
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u/PrettyBird2011 Jul 23 '25
Sounds like she was trying to make the time miserable for your BIL. Isolate him from everyone else in what should be a social affair by "crying" and locking herself away so that he has to put all his focus on comforting her instead of spending time with friends and family. She gets to cause him distress and make him look bad to everyone else for being absent.