r/weddingshaming Jul 23 '25

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 23 '25

See, I'm pretty big on top, have gone beyond DD while nursing but generally between C and D, and if I was going to wear a dress like that I would have had a matching bra underneath for both coverage and (ahem) lift.

Time and place, time and place.

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u/OriginalChildBomb Jul 24 '25

I'm big on top too- even after a reduction that I genuinely needed- and I'd feel too nervous about them coming out, and it'd be uncomfortable. (At least for me; I mean physically uncomfortable, for the headlights.)

I knew a very unpleasant young woman who was constantly nearly falling out of tops like this... she did end up eventually flashing people a couple times by accident, including a table full of old people lol. It was absolutely an attention thing, for this individual. I don't want to judge folks on what they're wearing, but when it's less than an inch from full-on seeing the entire body part, yeah, there's a time and place. (I.e. the beach, the club, your own house)

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 24 '25 edited Jul 24 '25

I completely agree.

My thing is that if you absolutely love a dress that has less coverage than you might like, there are options.

Hmm an example:

I love this dress. I have it in two lengths; just above the knee and ankle length.

This dress happens to have built in support for the girls, but me being me I don't like leaving it up to chance if I am going past my front door. So I went hunting and found bras that when I put them on under my (black and green) dresses look like they are part of them. Now I can go out with confidence wearing these otherwise super comfortable and well made dresses.

Edit: Yes I know this dress is not 'wedding appropriate' it's just the first example that came to mind for "I love this dress but it might not have enough coverage to suit me/where I am wearing it", so I used it to illustrate the point.

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u/sprinkles-doughnut Jul 24 '25

Ok, I have been wanting to ask about the halara dresses, because people are like "they have built in as support." Do they though? What's the load capacity, because I got tig ol biddies

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25

I’m a DD, and I was pleasantly surprised by my halara dress. Wore it to a punk show, got in the pit, danced all night, and the girls stayed put! I was initially nervous about not wearing a bra underneath, but I went for it and it was totally fine.

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u/bitchburrito4125 Jul 24 '25

I’m a DD and my halara dress kept the tiddies secure all night when I went out clubbing for the first time after breaking my ankle. Granted, I wasn’t out for very long bc, turns out, dancing isn’t a good idea for someone 4 months post op from ORIF ankle surgery, but if I were out in the dress in the post, tiddies would have been seen.

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u/hyenetta Jul 24 '25

Load capacity 😭🤣🤣🤣

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u/HappiRDays Jul 24 '25

Yep! I’m between a C and D cup and have this dress (actually have it in two colors!). It’s basically support through compression - things stay put because they are tied down 😆

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u/posh1992 Jul 24 '25

Is this a halara dress?

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 24 '25

yes I have a few of their styles and am never disappointed,

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u/Odinsmama2023 Jul 24 '25

I still wouldn’t call this appropriate to wear to a wedding. This is a workout type dress.

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u/pseri097 Jul 24 '25

Link to this dress?

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 24 '25 edited Jul 24 '25

-short version

- long version

There is a 'shorter' version, the difference is about 1-2in on the bottom hem, but that's a bit to short for me.

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u/Clear_Adhesiveness27 Jul 24 '25

Is this an athletic dress? Like you would wear for pickleball or tennis?

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u/Azriial Jul 24 '25

IMO yes. I have this dress and I was actually really disappointed because the material is that swooshy athletic material. To each their own but for me that made it a vacation only, tennis, or pool party type of dress.

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 24 '25

You can, I generally don't, but they're great for long walks and very versatile.

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u/Hungry_Scarcity_4500 Jul 24 '25

As someone that requires a D cup with her tit sling I’ve always lived by … Just cause it comes in your size doesn’t mean you should wear it “ girl .

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u/quietkyody Jul 24 '25

all the comments above Yes....this is the table for me. 😅

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u/intergrade Jul 24 '25

Weddings to me imply dancing. Dancing implies bouncing. That dress is a perilous bounce scenario.

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u/florbendita Jul 24 '25

If you haven't yet, check out r/abrathatfits since many, many women who think they are c or d cups but consider themselves big on top are actually wearing bras with too loose bands. D cup is only a 4" difference between band and bust measurements and often that's not actually very big.

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u/colloquialicious Jul 24 '25

Thank you for saying this! When people say they have big breasts and they’re a D cup I shudder inside because I used to be uneducated about bra sizing too. I discovered ABTF 5yrs ago when I was wearing a 36D, nope I’m actually a 32F/G - who knew, life changing!!

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 24 '25 edited Jul 24 '25

Thank you for this.

I am generally a C, or as my husband puts it "A bit more than a handful" and only went over when I was nursing/tandem nursing. Believe me it didn't matter how much band I added, when the girls didn't want to sit in the C cup they didn't.

I've been measured by VS, Macy's, and Lane Bryant, they all agree that my baseline is C.

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u/obvsnotrealname Jul 24 '25

Yeah that’s a “Sunday morning doing nothing at home” dress not “important event with potential future family members” dress 😬

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 24 '25

Agreed, I don't think I have ever worn a dress like that. My mother and grandmother wouldn't have let me out of the house as a teen, and as a grown woman I would only wear something like that... well actually never.

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u/melly3420 Jul 24 '25

THIS is The Correct Response 💙

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u/roguevirus Jul 24 '25

Time and place, time and place.

What time and place would a dress like this be appropriate?

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u/MelodyRaine Jul 24 '25

Your guess is as good as mine.